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(The old thread was unstickied because it got bogged down with dead links and is difficult to navigate.)

New Rule: One post per service please! Duplicate ads may be deleted. This especially includes discord links. To make a permanent discord link, click on instant invite, go to advanced settings, and change the expire time to never.

Do you have a neat web community or chat group you'd like to invite people to? Maybe want to drop your messaging handle and strike up some conversations? Do it here.

Chat/community/personal ads are no longer allowed on the rest of the board.

Important Note: This doesn't mean that you can't talk about communities or chat groups. You could, for example, have a thread where you ask people about web communities they visit. You just can't open your thread with an advertisement.


Old thread (bumplocked): >>3
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I have site that has an anonymous chat. I originally created the chat in the hopes of attracting normal people to my site to chat so that I can make some money from the ads that I will place there.

But I am unable to make myself advertise my site to the normal masses. So now the site sits empty with a couple visitors coming and going. I would appreciate it a lot if you come say hello.


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Seeing as absolutely everyone misread the /hikki/ rules sticky and used it to draw apocalyptic conclusions about the death of all that was good about /n/, here's a less flippant sticky with less room for ambiguity, in the form of a Q&A. We've also made some concessions based on your feedback in thread >>13, which was moved to /sugg/ for being meta.

What is allowed on this board? What is its purpose?
On this board you can discuss and request or give advice regarding NEETism, Hikikomoriism, anxieties and social or mental issues arising from these conditions of living, and things closely related to these topics. If you're content with being a NEET at this stage in your life, that's ok, and you won't get in trouble for saying so. The board's primary focus is self-help and advice regarding these issues, and particularly help in escaping the NEET lifestyle, but this focus is not exclusive. Despite rumors, threads looking for help with suicidal feelings or drug addition are also allowed.

What is not allowed on this board?
* Encouraging others to become NEET.
* Attacking or discouraging others for being NEET.
* Giving or requesting advice on how to enter the NEET lifestyle.
* Encouraging or showcasing drug usage.
* Announcing your planned suicide. Call a hotline or something just don't do it here or it becomes my legal responsibility.
* Helping others to plan or commit suicide.
* Topics not related to the purpose of the board. Such topics will be moved.
* Intentionally breaking these rules or the global rules will still result in a warning or ban.
* Rule 6 is enforced more liberally on /hikki/. Users may be banned from /hikki/ for inflammatory remarks in cases which might not result in a ban on other boards.
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I'm not too sure this goes on this board but it feels like it'd fit here more than Off-topic.

Anyway, does anyone here have an imaginary friend? Any kind, I think even tulpa sort of count. If so I'd love to hear stories even if it's childhood imaginary friends. More so I'm interested in how many NEETs and Hikkikomori have them and how it affects your day to day life.
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Pretty sure most people here work and/or study.


One time I cried myself to sleep after I converted to Rastafarianism.


Really hope that's a joke…


I'm sorry, I thought we were sharing. It was a beautiful event.

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I used to post here before but stopped after living a normal lifestyle, for a while atleast. I got fired and I've been jobless for like months now. My previous motivation to work on my personal projects and illustrations have all since diminished. I feel only apathy when playing games or watching stuff like I used to enjoy. Nowadays I just constantly press f5 on various image boards to pass time and listen to songs I've heard countless of times before already. Then I remembered this place and feel like I should share this here.

Please feel free to share your current situation here so we can feel alone togehter or some gay shit.
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I'm from a broken home and family became so important for me I developed an incest fetish.


Congrats and good luck.
>family became so important for me I developed an incest fetish.
Oh. That explains a lot.


I laughed a little unless you didn't mean that as a joke or mocking me. But as the other Anon said, kinda explains the fetish.


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Unfortunately it's not a joke but it should be. It all kind of happened as an accident, actually. I randomly called a friend my brother and then got a crush on him and the rest was history. I don't find the guy romantically attractive at all anymore either but it sure did make me have a huge fetish and want an older brother figure to be romantically involved with real bad.

I've since grown kinda distant from the whole thing. I'm with someone who I can openly express the fetish to and also has it but I rarely do anything like that anymore.


I was raised by a single mother and I much preferred how things were before she married my now-stepdad. It's less about a "broken" family and more about how a child is raised. Just slamming a nuclear family together doesn't magically create excellent parents.

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Hey anons, I'm conducting a survey on NEET/Hikki/Freeters, I was hoping some of you might be willing to try it. (pic unrelated, art by Tadanori Yokoo)



OP here again, sorry, wrong picture, this one is by Hashiguchi Goyo


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Ally's are just someone who supports NEETs/Hikkis


At least be so kind to update us on the project here if you're making advances or present your results.


Hey Anon, thanks for helping out, so far I'm doing research on the support groups and the need for support among isolated people. Early stages right now, but judging from interviews and the survey results online communities aren't ideal support networks but for those who only have online support they're incredibly important. Whatcha think?

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Curious: Would you describe yourself as more of a NEET, Hikikomori, or a very reclusive Freeter?
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Didn't read the LN but the anime leaves off on a pretty optimistic note. Kind of sucks that the LN ends so depressingly.


Most of that stuff only happened in the novel. The show ends on a hopeful note.


I'm a NEET. Spring 2016 I had been working as a server at an Italian Restaurant. I was a horrible server and hated doing it. You have to remember too much on the fly and that is not my forte. I once told some Hindu's that what they wanted to order didn't contain beef… only to find out after they had eaten half of it that it did. Another time a lady looked over the whole menu and told me she wanted cheese lasagna. I go back to the kitchen and find out we don't serve cheese lasagna (now I thought it was weird when she ordered that because I had never seen it or had anyone order it before, but why would you look over the whole menu and then ask for something not on it?). It also stressed me out way to much, and I decided that I couldn't work somewhere that I constantly dread going to. I quit in February.

I lived the neat life for about 6-7 months and in October I finally got a job (after much stress and dragging my feet) at a Dollar store. Shitty, hated it. Then March of this year me and a friend get the great idea to drop everything and go to New Orleans to busk. I just stop going into work with no explanation.

Busking is making us no money, we are competing with full brass bands on the street corner and all he has is an acoustic guitar. I try to offer tarot readings and some simple energy work, but I have stiff competition as well. We give up on that and it turns into an extended vacation where we both blow through all of our savings. Now I'm back in my hometown with my parents with no want to get a job. I haven't even been back a week, and I don't know if it's just paranoia, but I can already feel the tension in my household since I'm jobless. I want to work with energy and the occult for a living. I understand it, I'm good at it, but i need to practice and study more. I don't think people really are taking me too seriously with this, or they don't believe it will work out for me. This is what I want though, I don't know how I will make it work but I just need time and I wish people understood that.

Ive done that with job applications before. Or hidden them. Fall 2015 i enrolled in community college. I did so bad I didn't even look at the grades after the first semester, I just assumed I failed all the classes. I had also assumed that since I failed all of the classes I wouldn't be eligible for the classes I scheduled for the Post too long. Click here to view the full text.


To me you seem like the kind of guy who likes to work on their own time and can't handle stress or responsibility very well. Let me be totally honest with you, knowledge of the occult is not a marketable skill. Literally nobody actually needs it. It's lower than knowing how to do magician tricks. You should be a writer. If you don't think you can write, learn how to because trust me, the occult can not give you a real job. If you were a writer though, you could indulge in whatever flights of fancy you want. If I could, I would be time-traveling secret agent, but that's not a real thing just like how wizards or demon summoners or whatever the fuck aren't real. Deal with reality, don't reject it.


>I once told some Hindu's that what they wanted to order didn't contain beef… only to find out after they had eaten half of it that it did. Another time a lady looked over the whole menu and told me she wanted cheese lasagna. I go back to the kitchen and find out we don't serve cheese lasagna
Everyone makes mistakes like that, some are just more reluctant to admit it than others.

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What are your MBTI types, /hikki/ ?

I recommend taking a few different tests and understanding what each letter means. I'm also guessing that most people here are INxx

Some people discredit MBTI, but I think if you treat it a a rough guideline, it can offer some good insights to yourself and others.

INTP wasted-potential masterrace reporting in
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INFP-T here. Ive always sorta been that way, back in some of my teenage years i would register a bit different, but I always come back to this.

My biggest issue is to find the motivation and self-esteem to do anything. Any time I start to do something I get frustrated by it not turning out perfectly and begin to think that I'm a piece of shit for not being able to do something nicely and that I should just die (lol)

And if anyone is still curious im also part of the moo-crew (taurus).


My life is great, fag.


I'm an extremely unlikely infj. Everyone assumes I'm intX.
Also, Aquarius.


I got isfj


Very similar to me.

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When did dealing with your emotions become so difficult? It seemed like I always dealt with my emotions fine but all of a sudden im smoking a bowl and bullshitting here to run away from real life problems.


I doubt the shift actually came out of the blue. Something bad must have happened to you.

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If you have add or are impulsive and you feel that is holding you back from starting to look for a job, take medication. (I took Concerta personally)

Improve yourself. YOUR GOAL AS A NEET IS TO MAKE YOUR BODY AS HEALTHY LOOKING AS POSSIBLE. The point is that self betterment improves confidence and lessens your social anxiety lessens. Trust what I say.

Keep your skin clean by exfoliating (I use baking soda and water) and then moisturize everyday TWICE.

If you are overweight, eat less (no high calorie foods). Exercise focusing on high repetitions and drink a lot of water to fill your stomach.

If you are underweight and a girl, you are in the clear, it's a good thing. (As long as it isn't anorexia or something, I personally don't have much help for that)

If you are underweight and a guy, like myself, drink whole milk (half a gallon a day, or a full gallon if you are serious about gaining weight) for a couple months on top of your existing diet. And 2-3 full meals a day. I personally recommend getting a big bag of white rice and stock up on chicken breasts. Do pushups and squats everyday and get into lifting.

I focuse here on nutrition because that is that core of your mental health and physical health. It will makes you think better and look healthier. Combine this with exercise and your social anxiety problems will fade away as you notice improvements. Soon you will put your struggles behind you and be laughing as your confidence starts a positive feedback loop.

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Pretty sure this information is readily available. Mental health is usually something that needs to be dealt with before physical health.


Somehow, the more I try to eat healthy, the worse I end up eating. I think I have an actual addiction to unhealthy food, I can't stop eating it.

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Any long-term / no experience NEETs want to share their stories? Or just your existence.


>never had a job
>barely got through school
>haven't left the house in 5 months, haven't left the house for an actual reason in over 2 years
>haven't had a social life in 5 years
>No traumatic past
>no medical issues / disabilities
>not rich / privileged enough to justify or explain it
>not poor / struggling enough to be without internet, food, warmth, privacy

I'm in a really weird and shitty place at the moment. I'm constantly guilty, suicidal, apathetic, angry, scared, lonely, antisocial, bored, tired, and in a state of malaise.

I'm physically and mentally able. I can work, I can think, I can deal with people. Yet I'm a parasite.
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It's not so much that a job is good, it's more that a job gives you a wage to work with so you can maintain whatever lifestyle you want. If you know what you are doing and understand what you want to do with your spare time, a part time job at a retail place is more than enough.

Like, for example, if you can deal with like two, three, even four roommates, whether family or just like minded folk and get a cheap home that was foreclosed or even just get a cheap rental house. When I was a kid, my family had rented a house that was like five hundred bucks a month and it was in a good part of town too. If my folks had kicked me out to "be a grown up" I would just find some other people around my age and find a similar house or even just work towards buying a foreclosed/cheap house. Then I could work like 20-25 hours a week and make decent money for myself for vidya or manga as well as food, pick up my hours for things like trips or even go full time if I decide to have kids, though depending on the company I keep, maybe it would be best to not have kids brought around in that environment. But you get the idea.


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Perhaps put your life in God's hands, he has a plan for you.


Yeah, like dying alone.


I don't actually see any advice in that post

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