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(The old thread was unstickied because it got bogged down with dead links and is difficult to navigate.)

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Shh, we know daddy is paying for your wi-fi.

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Seeing as absolutely everyone misread the /hikki/ rules sticky and used it to draw apocalyptic conclusions about the death of all that was good about /n/, here's a less flippant sticky with less room for ambiguity, in the form of a Q&A. We've also made some concessions based on your feedback in thread >>13, which was moved to /sugg/ for being meta.

What is allowed on this board? What is its purpose?
On this board you can discuss and request or give advice regarding NEETism, Hikikomoriism, anxieties and social or mental issues arising from these conditions of living, and things closely related to these topics. If you're content with being a NEET at this stage in your life, that's ok, and you won't get in trouble for saying so. The board's primary focus is self-help and advice regarding these issues, and particularly help in escaping the NEET lifestyle, but this focus is not exclusive. Despite rumors, threads looking for help with suicidal feelings or drug addition are also allowed.

What is not allowed on this board?
* Encouraging others to become NEET.
* Attacking or discouraging others for being NEET.
* Giving or requesting advice on how to enter the NEET lifestyle.
* Encouraging or showcasing drug usage.
* Announcing your planned suicide. Call a hotline or something just don't do it here or it becomes my legal responsibility.
* Helping others to plan or commit suicide.
* Topics not related to the purpose of the board. Such topics will be moved.
* Intentionally breaking these rules or the global rules will still result in a warning or ban.
* Rule 6 is enforced more liberally on /hikki/. Users may be banned from /hikki/ for inflammatory remarks in cases which might not result in a ban on other boards.
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Almost 30, severe social anxiety, hikki/NEET for over 10 years, no college or high school (I was homeschooled), no skills, no real job experience. So sheltered and isolated I can't relate to anyone on even the most basic level.

At this point, I'm thinking a lot about suicide, but I don't want to give up before I've at least made a real try of it.

I desperately need money. That's the main thing that needs to be addressed before I can think of anything else. It's not just for me. It's my family. I live with my grandparents, who have supported me my entire life, and they're in really poor health (my grandfather is currently in the hospital). We're pretty much getting by on their social security benefits and food stamps. I've gotten where I at least leave the house to go to the store and run errands for my grandparents, but other than that, my situation is more or less the same as it has been for the past decade or so. If they're were anything I could do online, that would be ideal, but depending on what it is, I'd even be willing to get a real world job, although there are some caveats there. I can't do any cashier type stuff due to my social anxiety and poor people skills. I still don't know how I'm going to explain to any prospective employer that I'm 30 years old and have pretty much never worked a real job in my life. It would be great if there were some organization that helped shut-ins enter the workforce, but I doubt anything like that exists. If I could just find some way to make even minimum wage, it would be life changing. The most important thing is that it would buy me time, and this is what I need more than anything.

Do you guys have any ideas?
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Why the hell is a normie sadist like you even posting here? Everything you've said is myopic "just man up" tier bullshit. Go to hell.

>Is your, "severe social anxiety", diagnosed, or are you just coming up with excuses?

Did you miss the part where I said I hadn't left the house for over a decade? Yes, I'm faking it. I'm a suicidal friendless almost 30 year old virgin who spent over 1/3rd of my life as a shut-in just because. You're right, when I was in school, I would hold my bladder in from the beginning of the school day to the end, not because I was terrified to even raise my hand to ask to use the restroom, but so that I could later in life shamefully tell anonymous strangers on the internet that I have a mental disorder I hadn't even heard of yet.

>As for any program that help people like you, have you at least bothered to look it up on google?

Have you? If you have, post a link. If you haven't, what makes you think there a ton of easy-to-find programs all across the country that help recovering shut-ins find employment?

>Also, you're insistence on staying in your comfort zone despite supposedly being so desperate is off-putting.

The idea that I'm not "stepping outside of my comfort zone" if I don't do literally everything you say is ridiculous and shows what a poor understanding you have of mental illness in general and social anxiety in particular. I told you that I was willing to get an IRL job and that I currently more or less run all of my grandparents' errands despite over a decade of leaving the house only to take out the trash. How is that not stepping outside my comfort zone?

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Ex-NEET programmer here.

I became a programmer after my parents financed my way through college and university. If you live in the USA, you can probably get Pell Grants for community college if you complete the FAFSA.

There is no easy answer. If there was, I would take advantage of it.

Also: you need to have social skills. I thought I would never learn any until I learned them. These social skills are required for any job ever. The usual way to get money is from other people, or have a business or investment that makes money for you. If you do not have an asset that generates you revenue, you have to be able to talk to people.


>Did you miss the part where I said I hadn't left the house for over a decade? Yes, I'm faking it.
Did I say that you're faking your social anxiety? No I didn't. Unless a doctor has diagnosed you with something, I'm not going to believe that you have a serious condition. Far too many people like to put labels on them self like, "severe social anxiety", and act like that's the same thing as something that is both debilitating and unable to be remedied.
>I told you that I was willing to get an IRL job and that I currently more or less run all of my grandparents' errands despite over a decade of leaving the house only to take out the trash. How is that not stepping outside my comfort zone?
Small potatoes. You not willing to get a cashier job is what I was referring to.
>You're obviously not a hikki, so you're in no position to say what this board is or isn't for.
It's very understanding of you to be presumptions about other people. I haven't assumed anything about you, yet to assume that i'm obviously a,"normie".
>This is seriously on the level with inspirational instagram bullshit. WHY THE FUCK ARE YOU HERE?! You obviously have no understanding or sympathy for hikkis/NEETs, so why don't you go back to any of the countless other places on the internet populated by and made for people like yourself?
Understanding can only go so far. It's not up to you to say what type of advice people can and can't give you.
>Have you?
Programs don't exist for people who don't have diagnosed issues. The US doesn't have a big enough shut-in problem for that. A lot of services are region or city specific too. I don't know where you live, so I don't know where to look. There's the OVR in Pennsylvania, maybe there's something like that where you live? You also might also be able to get away with faking alcoholism or something like that.


look at this condescending turd of a shit sandwich lol


>turd of a shit sandwich
Great response.
Wow, you must be a tooooootal normie.

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I used to post here before but stopped after living a normal lifestyle, for a while atleast. I got fired and I've been jobless for like months now. My previous motivation to work on my personal projects and illustrations have all since diminished. I feel only apathy when playing games or watching stuff like I used to enjoy. Nowadays I just constantly press f5 on various image boards to pass time and listen to songs I've heard countless of times before already. Then I remembered this place and feel like I should share this here.

Please feel free to share your current situation here so we can feel alone togehter or some gay shit.
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>Not to mention on boards like that MGQ is old hat now
How could it be old hat? You do know that toro toro is making a new sequel/spin-off trilogy called monster girl quest paradox, right?


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>MGQ spinoff
I did kinda forget about that. I should be keeping up with that. I just assumed it wasn't a big deal since /monster/ usually stickys any major release like they did with the Monster Musume anime.

Grape-kun was a penguin who was abandoned by his mate in a zoo, and he grew attached to a character from an anime, I think it was called Kemono Friends. They put the penguin girl cutout in there and Grape-kun would spend as much time as he could near it, even after the other characters were taken down Grape-kun got to keep her. So a lot of people said he had a waifu that wouldn't hurt him. The whole story is a weird mix of cute and sad.


>Grape-kun was a penguin who was abandoned by his mate in a zoo
I thought his mate had died?


I'm learning right now the downfalls of turning academia into an extended adolescence. It's too easy to coast along for 8 years and come out not knowing what you want to do with your life. I have to find a job soon now but this shirt is intimidating. My medical and mental problems aren't helping.

The Japanese are far from immune to the effects of globalism. The country has consistently chosen to remain protectionist and adverse to immigration. We are now starting to see the cracks in that strategy. The government is drowning in debt. The pool of taxpaying adults continues to shrink as the number of retirees grows, adding further burden to the country's infrastructure while simultaneously reducing the capacity to keep things running.

Before I die I want to travel to Japan to see as much of it as possible before things start rapidly declining or collapsing. No doubt the resulting military government won't tolerate soaplands or H dojinshi.


Part 1 is already fully translated, so you should get on that. I recommend the illias route.

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How old are you?

ADMIN NOTE: This discussion is OK again since the change to Rule #1.
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In hindsight I'm ashamed of my aggressive shitposting.
I personally don't like dealing with the semantics of labels in situations like this because it drives people away from the actual context of the original statement. I just try to take someone saying they are a "semi-hikki" as someone trying to relate their feelings to another persons experience. To me this brings up the question, do people here want to be related to?
I spent over 90% of my year alone in my room so far and even I have difficulty calling myself a hikki but no difficulty calling myself a semi-hikki.


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The reason why you do that is because your head has been fucked by the internet. The internet plunged it's genitals straight through your skull and into your brain. It's the same reason why a lot of people on the internet substitute sad for, "feels". Emotional immaturity and stunted development. Maybe you're just too insecure to call yourself a full-blown hikkimori. Not wanting to dip every person on the planet in acid and craving some kind of socializing does not mean that you aren't a hikki. If you really aren't one, then stop being such a weeb and call yourself what you are, a shut-in. Be honest with yourself and stop being so lukewarm.


>he internet plunged it's genitals straight through your skull and into your brain
This is a real problem for many issues in my life I'm sure, I've seen it in others.

I guess I don't want to call myself a hikki because I wish I had way more of a life than I do.


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>The internet plunged it's genitals straight through your skull and into your brain.

Be right back, Anon, I'm going to draw some shitty rule 34 of the Internet itself violently skullfucking aspie chan memesters. Get your lube ready, you're gonna need it!!

Yea, the Internet has fucked up a lot of people. Or rather, the combination of digital isolation and fucked up people with a greater reach did.



I used to come here when the big Jay was having problems with funposting back in '13. Been feelin it lately.

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What are your MBTI types, /hikki/ ?

I recommend taking a few different tests and understanding what each letter means. I'm also guessing that most people here are INxx

Some people discredit MBTI, but I think if you treat it a a rough guideline, it can offer some good insights to yourself and others.

INTP wasted-potential masterrace reporting in
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I took some of these tests about 10 years ago, and I used to be INTJ, but I guess I've changed. I got ISTJ now. It's not a huge change, I guess, but it really goes to show that it's possible to change yourself. Personally, I think it's a good change. I still loathe parties and shit, but I can at least function normally without spaghetti all over the place.
That S really made all the difference, I think.


>Are you INTJ?
I flip-flop from INTJ to INTP depending on what test I take. Sometime I even get ISTJ or INFP depending on my mood. I think that I think like an INTJ in that I like things to be organized and that's the way I like things to be done by other people and would like for myself to do, but i'm far too lazy to actually go through with with being organized and maintaining that or any other rigid schedule. I wish I could be more structured and am always getting angry at myself for not following through with plans and procrastinating. It's like there's many facets to my personality. Sometimes i'm judgmental and opinionated and other times I try to be as open minded and optimistic as possible. The only really consistent traits seem to be I and T. That's my main problem with these tests. A lot of the questions also ask about what you actually do, not what you actually want to do.


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Laziness can be caused by many factors unrelated to MBTI type. A lot of people say things like, "my room is always clean, so I must be a J!" But perceivers are perfectly able to be organized, sensors can think abstractly, intuitives can be good at sports, and introverts can have many friends (in fact, ISFJ is the most common type). For this reason you should type yourself by functions, not just descriptions or tests.


Ya, but I fall in the middle or pretty close to it on a lot of things. I like to look at things in the here and now and to understand things based on facts, but I also like to theorize about stuff and think about the future a lot. I just can't decide if i'm sensing or intuitive. I like to plan out projects and stick to a schedule, but I always procrastinate the work I do and have trouble working for a long amount of time. P or J? I'm just not that consistent. I shift based on my mood. How could I like planning stuff out so much while having a hard time keeping up with my workload?
Neither just, "comes naturally to me".


I definitely think you're INTJ.

>theorize about stuff and think about the future a lot

>understand things based on facts
>I like to plan out projects and stick to a schedule
>hates fake people
>I like to look at things in the here and now
>I always procrastinate the work I do and have trouble working for a long amount of time
This is because Se is the inferior function, which means you have trouble consistently using your willpower.

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So I've been a hikki NEET since May 2015 or so, but that's gonna change in about 3 weeks.

I know 2 years isn't that much compared to most of you guys, but I'm scared. My already mediocre social skills have probably taken a hit since then, so I don't know how will I react around people etc.

These 2 years have been fun in the end, even though I've hardly done anything relevant at all. But now's time to be a member of society again and I'm not sure I can handle it.

I'll be studying software engineering if anyone's interested.

Has anyone here gone through something similar?
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That's not helpful. Like, at all.


And what's stopping that?


It would mean that I would be away from my learned profession for another 1+4 years. Nobody will employ you again after beeing away so many years. I had my chance and I fucked it up


>Nobody will employ you again after beeing away so many years.
This is false.


My life is about to change the same way as well, not really looking forward to it but I am not trying to hate it

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Are there other people here with DPD (Dependent personality disorder)? I'm searching for an other person that has the same problem as me. So we can "depend" on each other and become friends! I'm also autistic and can talk basically all day. I wish the other person could also do that. My timezone is UTC+2.00 (Europe). I'm very sad every day. If you don't know what it is, just look at the picture. If I don't find anyone here I'll repost this on other IBs. My interests are programming, mathematics, animes and mangas.
>Feeling uncomfortable or helpless when alone, because of exaggerated fears of inability to care for oneself.
>Preoccupation with fears of being abandoned by a person with whom one has a close relationship, and of being left to care for oneself.
>Merges with and immersed into another; is engulfed, enshrouded, absorbed, incorporated, willingly giving up own identity; becomes one with or an extension of another.
The last point is very important, that means you should be able to talk to me all day. This describes me very well. I hope that I can find somebody. My email is LambdaCube@protonmail.com


I am dependent but not emotionally.
The thing with me is that I have no idea how to do grow up shit like government paper works or tax reports. I rely on my parents for many things even at age 26

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I feel like I want to become full and proud neet after I finish school this year
I don't want to work or study or anything
how can I earn money easily as a gurl
any sites to sell voice to dubs or something? I can sing pretty ok I guess
or record lewd voices for money or something
any other way?
I would draw too but first I must efford fucking graphic tablet shieeet
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This works, I have seen it working.


Not gonna lie, I really wanted to create a site where I host lewd audios and have a system where the creators can be donated to whether that means PayPal or just an email account and people sending creators gift cards or just donate to me for keeping the site running but the only issue is that if you are making lewd audios why the fuck would you really need me or any one else for a platform? Especially when anyone who wants the audios can get them for free. I would basically be a record label or whatever.

It's an idea I'm still playing around with because fuck do I need something to bring in more money.


Pretty sure the Japs already put out that kind of stuff and people there pay for it. I wouldn't bet my lifesavings on it working just as well in the west though.


Yea, there's that too. It would be a very niche thing in the Western world, I'm sure even if I'm just a guy who makes a platform and there are people willing to just work on a donation basis and maybe I make cash from merch based on my brand, it'd make me some money.

But I would have to compete with all those porn sites plus even targeting women heavily means little, women consume a lot of porn too though places like Pornhub.


When I quit my depressing ambulance job over a year ago I got into stock market. Made some monies there but wasn't enough to go full-neet.
Recently switched to cryptocurrency trading and this has brought in much more money.
I'd depleted alot of my funds in the meantime so I'll have to go back to at least part-time work, but if I can bolster my bank account enough then I should be able to at least tread water financially with online trading. In order to be GUD at it I'll have to spend 8-10 hours daily doing chart research and making trades, so it's like a regular job, but on my terms, plus I won't have to leave the house. (But on my terms, without boss, so it's better than some crappy tele-commuting job or something).
I'd suggest getting books and looking up articles, and doing research on Technical Analysis and trading in general. HOWEVER this is very risky and if you screw up then you can lose money just as easily as you can make it, and drive yourself ever-deep into THE PAUPER'S ABYSS!!
Be careful if you decide to do this.
I didn't really mean this as advice, since it's risky and all, but just wanted to share this since it's what I did and I've had varying degrees of success with it over time..
It is very stressful though, so one should be wary if prone to getting depressed…

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Does anyone here struggle with any eating disorders?

I have been extremely thin for most of my life, mostly because I regularly skip meals and don't work out.

Being very thin has hurt my self confidence. Also, the only physical activities I like to do are walking and biking, I think this might also make me thin.

Also, this thread can be about general physical help too.
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ok im here!!!!!!! lets go how we do this are you ready to become a racecar


I have no clue how but I've been a racecar since I born so it should be ok.


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yes OP i have an eating disorder. I cant help myself but shove my fingers deep into my big lipped mouth and keep suckling on them


I am both anorexic and addicted to trash food lol


The definition of skinny fat.

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