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Seeing as absolutely everyone misread the /hikki/ rules sticky and used it to draw apocalyptic conclusions about the death of all that was good about /n/, here's a less flippant sticky with less room for ambiguity, in the form of a Q&A. We've also made some concessions based on your feedback in thread >>13, which was moved to /sugg/ for being meta.

What is allowed on this board? What is its purpose?
On this board you can discuss and request or give advice regarding NEETism, Hikikomoriism, anxieties and social or mental issues arising from these conditions of living, and things closely related to these topics. If you're content with being a NEET at this stage in your life, that's ok, and you won't get in trouble for saying so. The board's primary focus is self-help and advice regarding these issues, and particularly help in escaping the NEET lifestyle, but this focus is not exclusive. Despite rumors, threads looking for help with suicidal feelings or drug addition are also allowed.

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During multiple periods, I've been both NEET and Hikki on and off. At this moment I'm officially in training, but I don't have anything to do for weeks on end.

My question is, how do you guys deal with this? When I'm doing well I can fill my time with self study goals and even make art but for the past few days I can't even get out of bed. I feel crushed by my own incompetence in life. What helps you get through the day?


Coffee. What I like to do is tell myself that after doing some kind of thing like staying in bed for twenty more seconds I have to get out of it no matter what. After that I just go out and take walk if I have nothing else to do. It's all about forcing yourself for your own good and pretending like you don't have any say in the matter. Kind of like puppeteering your own body.


Not op but I hate that stuff. But I wanna know since you are a Coffee drinker do you not feel "normal" if you don't have it? And what do you do in the evenings when you don't drink it or do you?


I'm not a regular coffee drinker, but I drink a lot of heavily steeped green/black tea and coffee occasionally when I really need to stay awake.

Some days I need that afternoon cup of tea or I feel lethargic.

If I haven't had enough sleep the night before a lot of times tea or coffee isn't enough to keep me awake or focused.


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OP here, sorry for not replying sooner!!! Unfortunately I live in a country where coffee culture is not so ubiquitous, we have coffeehops but those are places to get weed lol

I'll be moving to another city soon so I hope I can find a nice cafe nearby to drink some coffee and draw in peace!

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I used to post here before but stopped after living a normal lifestyle, for a while atleast. I got fired and I've been jobless for like months now. My previous motivation to work on my personal projects and illustrations have all since diminished. I feel only apathy when playing games or watching stuff like I used to enjoy. Nowadays I just constantly press f5 on various image boards to pass time and listen to songs I've heard countless of times before already. Then I remembered this place and feel like I should share this here.

Please feel free to share your current situation here so we can feel alone togehter or some gay shit.
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I'm going full psycho and it feels good tbh fam


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I'm slowly getting more productive with stuff in my life but I'm also pretty sure I'm going crazy at the same time.


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I'd rather be crazy but creative rather than unmotivated and not doing anything.


(literally this)


I started doing qigong in the mornings and evenings, and doing a simple excercise routine after breakfast. The excercise is little more than stretching, but it takes about an hour and it leaves me quite tired (which is good).
But this whole week I've been slacking, I used to do it daily but this week I only did it one day. I felt physically weak and I started spending my whole day at shitty imageboards. I yet have to retake my routines.
On the other hand, today I made a little Ba Gua circle in my yard with some bricks I had laying around, which makes me happy. Let's see how this works out.

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So with 2017 coming up, I wanted to know if you had any New Years resolutions, and how you plan to achieve them. Maybe we could post in this thread to give support or maybe even start a discord or whatever so we can help each other out.

My main goals are;
>Stop sitting in front of a computer so much
At first, I thought that just getting away from imageboards would be enough, but once you take away that, then you have things like YouTube which in a way is even worse than television since you can carry it with you everywhere you go or you can play video games for a long time. I had avoid imageboards for like two years but I was on YouTube for that whole time so what's really the difference?

>Start driving and be more social

I get rides to work and I would rather be able to drive myself, plus there are things I'd love to do but I need to drive there. I'm going to get more practice ASAP.

>Quit my job by getting enough income to allow me do my own thing

I don't mean become a NEET, I just hate having a boss. Luckily, making more than I make at my current job would be easy since 1000 bucks a month is chump change depending on what you do.

So, how about you guys?
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Wow that sounds really great, too bad my sisters a huge bitch. When ever trying to make a commitment to something I find it useful to somehow involve physical pain as a motivation. It really seals the deal. Intentionally burning your finger to force the memory of your commitment into your head might be helpful because every time you consider falling back into old habits you remember how you the pain you inflicted upon yourself as a sign of your dedication.


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I don't think I want to hurt myself, but I get where you're coming from.

What's it like to have sisters? I've only had brothers and a rather tomboyish mom. Plus other family members.


Well, when it comes to all siblings age difference is very important. A sibling the same age as you is probably somebody who you will be very close to, kind of like a friend. A sibling much older than you(like what my mother had with her older sister) will kind of be like an extra parent. They'll look after you. The third category is the worst one and the one my sister feel into which is older, but only by a few years. In that scenario both siblings are immature and neither can relate to another creating a disconnected and antagonistic relationship. When it comes to sisters they'll usually bring a bunch of their female friends over and they probably wont like you if you're a younger boy. They'll see you as a pest, a nuisance. Sisters will usually have little to no respect for your masculinity. They might force makeup on you to see how it looks on them self if you're really young. They're inconsiderate, demeaning and hypocritical. They'll demand the utmost respect when it comes to their personal belongings and room and general privacy, but offer zero of the same. For pretty much my whole life I wanted a sibling who cared about and supported me, but no such luck. This describes most relationships, but my sister is a bitch in general making it even worse. She still is. She was practically born that way. Being forced to live with somebody who you couldn't see eye to eye with because of both an age and gender gap is like having a knife stuck in you that can't be removed and hurts like hell, but doesn't kill.


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With my little brother who I game with now, I was kinda a fatherly kind of brother to him and to some degree, I still am but now that he is 16, about to turn 17, I've seen him become more and more of a friend. He's whiny and shit but he can be counted on, plus I've learned to be more of a brother than try to fill in his lack of father.

Like fuck, he's the only one who I really let loose with. We will just sit down and shit on each other verbally, laughing our asses off. Other times, I just walk up to him and say some stupid shit, and we just have a good time just being retards. I've never had an older brother really being the oldest of three myself.

But I kinda understand a little bit, I have an aunt that isn't that much older than me, and she's a massive cunt too. But I'm learning how to not hate her and become someone like her.


I have both sisters and brothers and I don't see any difference. I don't think gender makes that much difference except in cases where the involved people make gender an important trait to how they relate to each other. Differences and similarities are in the eyes of the beholder, so their value in a matter is correlated to the importance it is given to them. Something like they only exist if the person makes them exist.
My siblings don't see any difference either. We all agree that having sisters (or brothers) is as much different as the intrinsic basic differences that consequently exist when interacting with different individuals. Everyone is different and that’s it, nothing special.

Age gap, now that does make a difference on bonds siblings build, but is something quite more complex to just be comprehended in a generalized view said in >>2781

What I have observed and heard, not only between us (me and my siblings) but also from other people and their siblings, that really makes a difference, is the particularities of the traits of each individual, their perception, and their environment. This gives to each person their own context. Gender and age are just two of the variables that may influence those three, but by how much they can influence (and why) it depends from once again their traits, perception, and environment.
Don’t know if that was understandable. People have told me that I talk in a confusing way. I can always give examples.

What you describe as your view of how it is to have a sister sounds so otherworldly to me, like that kind of things you only see in movies. Still, it reminds me of the very sour relationship one of my female friends has with her older sister in which they can even see each other, or the initial relationship me and my older brother had, during the phase when he was a kid and didn’t want any younger siblings.

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What would happen if any of us honestly joined any branch of the military? Assuming we would simply pass any sanity tests (just pretend you cheat past it) and basic physical tests, what would happen?

I'm curious.
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It's weird, i often gone into these sites and *chans thinking almost everyone is from the US or the UK.

I often lurk the internet and scoop up every nook and cranny to find related media.
I somehow ended up finding Yume Nikki and after looking up .flow on the internet for hours i found this place.


and your point being? do you want a medal? you're a newfag, at least learn some manner instead of bragging about it


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He was replying to a question other anon made him, no need to be so salty. Chances are you aren't even an oldfag either.


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i'm not a newfag (i frequented this site for 2 years), and i was replying to a post that had nothing to do with that.

it's just the first time im namefagging, that's all, even then i just mostly lurk.

i see no way im bragging and how im breaking manners by saying my view on assumed nationality when browsing chans.



Vou entrar no serviço militar obrigatório, anão, HUE.

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Does anybody find to be able to do a decent schedule?
I want to learn japanese, finish SE Lain, learn how to draw, and even learn some game dev.

However…i just resort to playing games.(singleplayer games, mostly open world)
And thinking about it, it's not even that MUCH fun that i would play games instead of learning stuff, it's just a sort of instinct.

I'm actually finding learning Japanese really fun, but due to that issue i pointed above, i haven't memorized a single kana except for the あいうえお which is sad because i really find the culture interesting and the writing system is quite unique.

I find all of these activities really fun and engaging but i just resort to playing games to pass the time.
If it matters, i feel really drowsy and sleepy throughout most days and nights even if i do a normal 8h-10h sleep. (i mostly just sleep 4 to 6 hours, waking up at 4 to 7 AM)

I think it's more of a self-control issue, but can somebody help me with this issue?
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Discipline, it can be hard to get used to doing something every day, but once you get through the first couple of weeks you'll keep at it no problem. Just push through it, I know it can be hard to get and stay motivated


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I symphatize with your post anon, i feel the same really, you even gave me the idea to rewatch SE:Lain, (watched it 5 years ago).

If it helps, try going on and off activities.
Sort of like:
Learn japanese (25 min)
Rest (10 min)
and rinse and repeat

Learning Japanese feels really weird because i am forced to learn the alphabet/kana first before i can move on with Genki and learn actual things and it feels like im going nowhere, but it's fun.

I think im gonna have trouble memorizing the entire alphabet though, i tried looking for tips but found nothing that catches my eyes.

I'm finding it harder and harder to balance self-study with academic studies, though, and it's hard keeping my brain active for that thing, it can only take SO much information until it needs a rest.


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>Learning Japanese feels really weird because i am forced to learn the alphabet/kana first before i can move on with Genki and learn actual things and it feels like im going nowhere, but it's fun.
>I think im gonna have trouble memorizing the entire alphabet though, i tried looking for tips but found nothing that catches my eyes.

I didn't even finalize learning kana before I jumped into grammar and kanji, just do it. The only way for memorizing something is to force your brain to use it. Don't get me wrong, learning kana IS very important, but it's not the main thing, so focusing only on it is kinda like a waste of time.



I used an app to help memorizing the alphabets. The one I use the most would force me to read and learn words even before I knew the whole alphabet. The fact that it feels as if I'm just playing a game made it even more fun to learn. Memorized the whole hiragana in a week. Before using the app I had been stuck in the same 10 characters for months.
Can't promise doing the same will help you, but if you're having such a hard time as much as I was, maybe it can quicken the process a bit.


Never managed to have any sort of routine. Whenever I tried, I would just fuck it up.

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What would your life look like if you lived exactly the way you wanted to? This question is based on something that I recently thought of and I'm interested in seeing people's responses.
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That sort of close community is hard to enter if you're a total outsider though. Some people have the convenience of already having family in a village( making them already accepted) who they got to visit them as kids. Not me.


The thing that I crave the most is a sunny place, a good partner, and stability.

It would be cool if I could collaborate with my partner on creative projects, even if I had something menial to do during the day.

I guess it's kind of "white-picket-fence" but I'm a simple man.


being happy neets with primadona


I would live as a childless houswife with my boyfriend in a position with enough disposable income to freely travel atleast once every other year if we so choose and in a city(i've been enamored with the bustling activity, abilty to have tons of stuff in walking distance and overall urban beauty of well designed cities ever since i used to semi-regularly get taken to visit family in Toronto as a kid) with mostly moderate-cool weather, an actual chance of snow in the winter, and well generally i want a sense of safety and security i've realized in recent years that i've craved all my life. oh and i'd have a proper female body instead of this trashbag i'v been cursed with.

I'd generally spend most of my time pursuing/practicing my hobbies, taking care of the house, and cooking meals.


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I guess I might add my own story here as well.

I'd like to marry a professional man with a career in medicine, law, or technology. I'd be receiving consistent work opportunities as a freelancer or self-employed individual. I'd live somewhere (probably doesn't exist) that's close to home, far away enough from noisy neighbors, and close enough to people to have things going on.

No kids.

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Curious: Would you describe yourself as more of a NEET, Hikikomori, or a very reclusive Freeter?
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I'd describe myself as a butterfly that's currently in its cocoon, having lived like a caterpillar beforehand. Also a NEET.


I don't leave the house.
Not that I mind it either way, I just have no reason. No place for me out there.


Student, but mostly in online classes and independent studies


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I couldn't even tell you the last time I went outside. it's been months by now and before that even longer. Sometimes I got for a walk around my suburban neighborhood but that's barely anything. I stopped though. I don't want to be a NEET or a Hikki but I'm in a shitty position with no one to help me.

NEET is the only iffy kinda statement. I draw for money occasionally but its like $20 once or twice so I don't think it can count as a job.


Formerly a hikikomori, I'm more or less a Freeter with anxiety issues now.

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C-Can you teach me how to be normal?
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It seems pretty overrated. Let your freak flag fly.


>Be a piece of shit
I mean, most people are pieces of shit regardless of how normal they are.


Play undertale


Five dollars says that OP is pretty normal but has some weird hobby or fetish and is scared to have anyone else know about.

Do you have more girls with slappable asses?


Normal is overrated. Just do what everybody around you does so people will think you're normal. Monkey see, monkey do.

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