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 No.4894

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reposting from sushichan since I figured uboachan would probably be interested as well. hopefully you guys are okay with this

A friend of mine runs a daily movie streaming site that is really cool and I thought you guys would be interested
http://comfytheatre.co.uk/

Right now we're gearing up for our annual big E3 stream so I figured I might as well post that link as well
http://comfytheatre.co.uk/streams/e3/

as well as our E3 discord we're using temporarily
https://discordapp.com/invite/4pJRGNT



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 No.172[Reply]

Seeing as absolutely everyone misread the /hikki/ rules sticky and used it to draw apocalyptic conclusions about the death of all that was good about /n/, here's a less flippant sticky with less room for ambiguity, in the form of a Q&A. We've also made some concessions based on your feedback in thread >>13, which was moved to /sugg/ for being meta.

What is allowed on this board? What is its purpose?
On this board you can discuss and request or give advice regarding NEETism, Hikikomoriism, anxieties and social or mental issues arising from these conditions of living, and things closely related to these topics. If you're content with being a NEET at this stage in your life, that's ok, and you won't get in trouble for saying so. The board's primary focus is self-help and advice regarding these issues, and particularly help in escaping the NEET lifestyle, but this focus is not exclusive. Despite rumors, threads looking for help with suicidal feelings or drug addition are also allowed.

What is not allowed on this board?
* Encouraging others to become NEET.
* Attacking or discouraging others for being NEET.
* Giving or requesting advice on how to enter the NEET lifestyle.
* Encouraging or showcasing drug usage.
* Announcing your planned suicide. Call a hotline or something just don't do it here or it becomes my legal responsibility.
* Helping others to plan or commit suicide.
* Topics not related to the purpose of the board. Such topics will be moved.
* Intentionally breaking these rules or the global rules will still result in a warning or ban.
* Rule 6 is enforced more liberally on /hikki/. Users may be banned from /hikki/ for inflammatory remarks in cases which might not result in a ban on other boards.
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 No.4922[Reply]

Sup everyone. I'm a longtime on and off lurker and recovering hikki/NEET that's nearing thirty. Looking for advice or insights on my current situation, or just shared experiences…

I've started working recently and I don't know what to do to improve my current situation. It's a menial job at a restaurant and busy days can be pretty tough, I don't want to keep doing this forever, but I don't have much in the way of qualifications. Nor am I a very able person, I've been a NEET for more than 50% of my life and lacking in a lot of common life skills, partially due to Aspergers Syndrome and possible mild narcolepsy.

I was thinking of going to university but my track record regarding my educational career had been so poor I'm afraid to do so, also I feel I might be too old, and the thing I want to study hardly guarantees a successful career. At least I'm lucky to live in a country where education doesn't cost an arm and a leg, I can afford it without going into debt.

All I do these days is work, eat, sleep, play vidya and study a little Japanese. My shitty work schedule means I can hardly go out to meet my friends. I'm sorry for being incoherent, if you read my gibberish thank you. tldr; my life sucks mildly: what do?? Especially to people that managed to crawl out of their hell holes to improve their lives. How did you do it?

 No.4923

Looks like you already have an option opened up for you. Go learn nip and take those nip exams to qualify you or something. You can probably net a good job with that. I wouldn't bother going to a university if I'm nearing 30 and all I have is a shitty restaurant job.

 No.4924

>>4922
If you're going to learn nip, keep going with it. Maybe allocate more time doing it? The more practice you get, the better. You don't even have to confine yourself to practicing it only at home. Other than that, why is your academic record so poor? Do you have any idea?

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>>4923
I don't know how much use Niponese skills are in the job market honestly… Although I've been thinking of scanlating porno doujin and manga for awhile to make some cash on the side. I also did porn art commissions for awhile but I don't feel confident enough to continue.
>>4924
It's mostly because of disability and depression that I fucked up in academics and life so badly.

All things said I tend to either spend all of my free time gaming OR learning Japanese so it's mostly a matter of just… Not touching any videogames.

 No.4926

>>4925
Try using the nip skills as your foot in the door, not exactly your endgame.
I know a few anons who've gotten their license in their home countries and got their Masters degree in Japan and they are living pretty comfortably now.



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 No.3788[Reply]

>Been a hikikomori for 11 years
>Been trying to recover for about 2 years now
>Failing
>I feel like i want to die

I fucking hate my life can anyone relate??.
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 No.3833

>>3832

Was there a thread like this on here before??.

 No.3834

>>3826
Maybe you do, maybe you don't. Sometimes it's more comfortable taking the easy route even though the easy route makes you feel like shit. Your half-hearted attempts at change would indicate this.
I understand the feeling, making changes when you've been living like this for 11 years isn't easy, and that's precisely why you need a big change to get the ball rolling. Anxiety attacks or whatever is just something you will have to accept at first, but it'll get better with time.

 No.3835

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>>3828
Whether you believe what I'm saying is up to you, but here's my take on it, which I'm sharing because I can relate to you on the bullying and weird kinks/fetishes/double life bit.

As already said, a functioning adult worth their salt at worst are just going to rib you a little. As long as you can take the banter and understand that most adults aren't going to bully you to the point of feeling excluded then you'll be fine in most workplaces and just everyday life like shopping for food or going to the movies. That's the reason why I pointed out that the adult world is nothing like school. Because it isn't. I have an annoying stutter at times and only the shittiest people actually mock me for it. I tend to be awkward as well and people don't bully me for that either.

Most people will put in the work to be respectful, understanding, and tolerant. All you have to do is put in the work to be the same of them.

As far as weird fetishes, attractions, etc, why is it anyone's business but yours? I fap to futas, monster girls, and girls sticking their fingers/tongue in foreskin and yet, this never has to come up in normal conversations. I don't just talk about my obsession with sex toys for that matter either. And knowing how people are, I just assume people have weird kinks and hobbies too. Maybe my manager at work is really into scat play but if he does, he does a good job at hiding it.

Only people I see who get rejected are those who too proudly discuss their more TMI parts of themselves to anyone. I work with such a person, she just told me about how she loves gay guys making out and how she's an asexual, and how she loves the NSFW nature of the Undertale fandom, and once announced that she had to shove a tampon up her snatch.

I don't know, I know you said that you don't like being a pedophile, but just don't make your kinks/sexual attractions into your identity? Just don't be that guy in pic related.

 No.4916

>>3788
8 years. Can confirm the feels. I wish I had an answer. At least you aren't alone. I'm in the same sinking boat.



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 No.4755[Reply]

Ever consider taking a vow of silence?

Like I get so tired of people calling me stupid or retarded… or just giving me *that* look. It would be so much easier to just shut up forever.
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 No.4758

It's nice to think about, but not very practical unless you are a true hikki.

 No.4759

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I don't have a vow of silence as such, I do however avoid any 'idle' conversation, i.e. smalltalk, the kind of talk that nobody benefits from and only serves to disturb your train of thought. Which, I suppose, is effectively a vow of silence most days.

 No.4915

>>4755
Check out "selective mutes" fascinating subject. It's usually brought on by emotional trauma. It can be done. I managed to go about 5 months without so much as a hello to a cashier to get groceries. It's not much different than it is now. I have a boyfriend that lives with me. Stoner, dead end job loser dude, but it's company, I suppose. I never talk though unless spoken to directly. He's just here for a free ride. I'm not an idiot. When he does have a friend over I don't talk to them either. They are his friends and not mine. Took me a bit to figure it out but no one wants to talk to me, whether I speak back or not. Unless my mom calls usually once or twice a week. I don't speak to anyone still. I honestly should start counting the words I use in a month. It's less than 500, I am most certain. I know a woman's place is to be seen and not heard. It's not ideal but it can be done, anon.

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>>4915
>I know a woman's place is to be seen and not heard.

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>>4915
You sound like an abuse victim. Daddy issues?



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 No.2906[Reply]

I'm not too sure this goes on this board but it feels like it'd fit here more than Off-topic.

Anyway, does anyone here have an imaginary friend? Any kind, I think even tulpa sort of count. If so I'd love to hear stories even if it's childhood imaginary friends. More so I'm interested in how many NEETs and Hikkikomori have them and how it affects your day to day life.
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 No.2999

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We've gotten some level of acceptance and understanding from our close friends and family.
I find that this sort of thing less often causes trouble for ourselves and more often causes other people to bring us trouble.
But, as Lord Pain From the Grim Adventures of Billy & Mandy said "some life choices demand sacrifice Billy, someday you'll learn that"

 No.3003

I've always had imaginary friends. I had adventures with them as a kid, they comforted me when i cried. On days when i feel like it would tear my body apart to leave the bed, they helped me leave my room.

Though when my depression was pulling me into neetdom, i thought they were why i couldnt do anything so i mentally put them all on a ship and raized it. It hurt a lot and i can see now that it was actually me throwing away my internal support system like how i had isolated myself from my actual friends during this time.

I've brought a few back as characters for one of the many things i think about writing. And one of the new faces helps me with getting out of bed. And I've gone back to drawing comics of myself talking with them, which helps emotionally. To me now, imaginary friend is an OC ive done a good job building

Oh, and sometimes when i get the heebies at night, i imagine all my usual nightmares surrounding the house to fight whatever's out there. Better the devil you know, i guess.

 No.3070

>>2906
Even as a kid I was too uncreative to make an imaginary friend. When I was a teenager, I tried it for the fuck of it at one point, but honestly having an imaginary friend is more painful than not having anyone to talk to. I also would prefer not to look for spiritual guides either because I'd rather look to science and people who've gone through what I have than a bunch of vague stuff about spirituality.

>>2947
>Now I talk to various spirit guides of mine which could probably be argued as just being imaginary friends. I ask them for advice or for reassurance for various things on the daily. They give some good advice too.

How do they give you good advice? Do they give you advice that's been in the back of your mind? Or do they butter you up and tell you that everything is okay? Either way like the other anon said this sounds very unhealthy.

 No.4918

>>2975
You took a wrong turn in Albuquerque, anon. neets don't work. Neets can't focus to study. You have no idea wtf you are talking about.

 No.4919

>>4918
So, according to you, most people in this site do not work or study, right?



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 No.2290[Reply]

What would happen if any of us honestly joined any branch of the military? Assuming we would simply pass any sanity tests (just pretend you cheat past it) and basic physical tests, what would happen?

I'm curious.
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 No.4836

>>4834
Wander?

 No.4882

I went to Join the French foreign Legion once. It was quite enlightening as one realizes how much they actually value their own time and hobbies.

 No.4895

>>2290
I enlisted in the Marines a few years back. My personality did one helluva shift. I've become some sort of cross between an introvert and extrovert. But being in the A-type personality environment can be really stressful. It took me about a year to adjust I suppose.

 No.4913

>military
haha, they recruited me and I flunked at the recruitment test
>sorry anon, we have nothing to offer to you
I am literally too much of a piece of biological waste to even become cannon fodder

 No.4914

>>4913
>canon fodder
Soldiers aren't just canon fodder. They're trained, can be very effective individually, and have potential for upward mobility.



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 No.254[Reply][Last 50 Posts]

How old are you?

ADMIN NOTE: This discussion is OK again since the change to Rule #1.
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 No.4900

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26 turning 27 this year. Jumped from work to work but I can't find that right spot where I feel like I should continue working. I spend my bux on shitty mobages. Surprised me since I've hated mobages with passion before.

I miss being a NEET but I don't wanna be poor.

 No.4903

>>4900
>spending money on mobages
Holy shit, stop. You can play actually good games right now without spending a dime.

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>>4897
Thanks, mate. Its been about 1.5 months now for me. I have no idea if I'll be able to reach your record. Especially cuz I know two of my fave colleagues will be leaving sooner or later.

>>4900
I'm lucky the mobages I wanna play aren't available in Euroland, otherwise Id be in the same boat. Now I just spend it on Manga, doujin and clothes mostly lol

 No.4911

>>4903
But I don't really care about PC or console games anymore aside from a solid few titles. I got used to being left out of the gaming scene since all I had was a potato PC and no consoles outside of a psp back when I didn't have any money.

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>>4911
>gaming scene
Fuck the gaming scene. Download an emulator and play some castlevania or megaman or rocket knight or something more obscure, or a visual novel. There's literally thousands of great titles from multiple decades. Stop wasting your money on bottom of the barrel, money-sucking shit.



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 No.2809[Reply]

Any long-term / no experience NEETs want to share their stories? Or just your existence.

>23

>never had a job
>barely got through school
>haven't left the house in 5 months, haven't left the house for an actual reason in over 2 years
>haven't had a social life in 5 years
>No traumatic past
>no medical issues / disabilities
>not rich / privileged enough to justify or explain it
>not poor / struggling enough to be without internet, food, warmth, privacy

I'm in a really weird and shitty place at the moment. I'm constantly guilty, suicidal, apathetic, angry, scared, lonely, antisocial, bored, tired, and in a state of malaise.

I'm physically and mentally able. I can work, I can think, I can deal with people. Yet I'm a parasite.
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 No.4905

>>4901
the last time I quit was partly over a relationship as dumb as that sounds. I never had much of a plan for my future, but she was a glimmer of hope that things would be ok as long as I was with her. then it ended and the bottom fell out

 No.4906

>35
>Been to psychiatrists from kindergarten to 20ish
>Each psychiatrist had a different idea
>Overbearing mother and weak father
>Nothing particularly traumatic
>Had a couple really short jobs
>Got on country's version of SSI pretending to be schizophrenic because it's a clearcut diagnosis
>Haven't had a social life since I got the net 13ish years ago.
>Ditto for leaving the apartment for anything besides groceries

Frankly I've never been particularly ashamed of being a sponge. I look at 'normal' people and see lives far more pathetic than mine. They sleep for 8 hours, work for 8 hours, spend maybe 4 hours dealing with necessities, and are left with 4 hours of their own if even that. I obviously don't have much money but my time is my own, I can mostly do what I want when I want. What I want just happens to be being a shut-in.

 No.4907

>>4906
Be thankful. Without those, "pathetic normal people", you'd either be dead or starving. Seriously, pretending to have a mental illness because you can't be bothered to lift you own weight is a bit scummy. Pretty sure it's illegal too.

 No.4909

>>4907

I guess you didn't quite get what I meant. I am FAR from a functional person(As I said, I haven't left my home for anything but groceries in THIRTEEN YEARS.) and there has been something wrong with me since childhood but every psychiatrist had a different vague idea (usually schizo-something) and SOMETHING had to be put on the form by the psychiatrist when applying so I chose 'schizophrenia' because that's an obvious and clearcut form of crazy.
As for "pathetic normal people" I didn't say I hated them. Their live normal lives just seem pretty sad and definitely not something can be lorded over the people here.
On a final note no I wouldn't be dead or starving I'd be homeless or institutionalized, both of which would cost taxpayers more. Or are you advocating suicide?

 No.4910

>>4909
Yeah, I misunderstood what you meant. Sorry about that. While a normal routine for people can seem relatively depressing, it's as close to as good as it gets as currently possible for the average person. Things were shittier before and they are going to better compared to now in the future. I don't think there's anything sad about that.



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 No.4753[Reply]

My girlfriend is a NEET.

She has had a few jobs in the past, but she has always had to leave due to mental health problems. She has been struggling with mental health problems ever since her teenage years. Specifically, she has BPD and depression. I can relate with many of her feelings and experiences, because I also struggle with depression. One thing I should mention is that we have only talked online; I will be meeting her in person for the first time very soon. I seek other opinions and perspectives.

If you are in a situation similar to her, how would you want someone to support you?

If you have been in a similar situation, how did it go?
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 No.4860

>>4857
>In the, "old b", they would have been made fun of for being such ragefag tryhards.

The term incel didn't exist back then 4chan was created by a weeaboo and it originally was a site for anime fans social outcast and fans of Japanese culture normalfags started coming in once Moot added more normal-like boards and when 4chan started getting mainstream attention.

>Please ban, sei.


This is a image board not Tumblr.

 No.4865

>>4858
Please try to keep discussion about moderation out of non-/sugg/ threads. Also be careful about not getting provoked into breaking rule 6 yourself. This whole thread is toeing the line.

 No.4879

>>4854
>(USER WAS BANNED FROM HIKKI FOR THIS POST)

SJWs showing off their true colors.

 No.4880

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>>4879
>6-Destructively attack or provoke other users.
How in the dick is banning someone for multiple continuous agressions a social justice matter? No really. I'm honestly willing to know.

 No.4881

>>4879
>goes into containment board
>complains it's a containment board
0/10 newfag isn't even trying. Please stop.



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