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From now on, the >>>/rec/ board should generally be used for conversations about recovery from NEETism. This is not a hard rule but you are likely to have a better experience.

Seeing as absolutely everyone misread the /hikki/ rules sticky and used it to draw apocalyptic conclusions about the death of all that was good about /n/, here's a less flippant sticky with less room for ambiguity, in the form of a Q&A. We've also made some concessions based on your feedback in thread >>13, which was moved to /sugg/ for being meta.

What is allowed on this board? What is its purpose?
On this board you can discuss and request or give advice regarding NEETism, Hikikomoriism, anxieties and social or mental issues arising from these conditions of living, and things closely related to these topics. If you're content with being a NEET at this stage in your life, that's ok, and you won't get in trouble for saying so. The board's primary focus is self-help and advice regarding these issues. Despite rumors, threads looking for help with suicidal feelings or drug addition are also allowed.

What is not allowed on this board?
* Encouraging others to become NEET.
* Attacking or discouraging others for being NEET.
* Giving or requesting advice on how to enter the NEET lifestyle.
* Encouraging or showcasing drug usage.
* Announcing your planned suicide. Call a hotline or something just don't do it here or it becomes my legal responsibility.
* Helping others to plan or commit suicide.
* Topics not related to the purpose of the board. Such topics will be moved.
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I'm sure many of you know this feel:

>Realize you need to go somewhere with your life or everything will end horribly when you least expect it to

>Attempt to get something done

>If not 5 minutes later, you are eventually hit by a varying intense level of depression while attempting to do whatever task you decided, as if by facing your life, you can no longer not face how you are feeling.

>end up going back to the computer to distract yourself from the pain after only getting 1 thing done if you are lucky.

For any former NEETs here, how the fuck did you get past this? I feel the more I force myself to endure the depression the more depressed I get and the harder it is to get shit done, as fucking pretentious edgelordriffic as that unintentionally sounds.
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>unemployment elitism


I know what you mean. For a long time I've been in a state where I allowed others to make decisions for me because I wouldn't take action. But this one time things got really bad and I almost lost my life. I'm not gonna go into the details, but basically by putting my trust in others I nearly died in a really stupid way. It wasn't just their fault but mine as well for not being proactive.


>unemployment elitism
effin right


That's retarded, being able to fit in society is a matter of your own perspective.


not to say i am a former NEET but i have recovered/relapsed several times, sometimes with years of non-NEETism inbetween the severe relapses (first NEET experience @ 12yo, didn't leave my house more than 6 times that year, and only by force/coercion)

anyway i have never "gotten past" this but finally getting diagnosed with autism and ADHD at the age of 29 sure helped a fucking lot in terms of explaining things (besides the crippling depression, part of which but not all can be attributed to going undiagnosed)

Not going to pretend like things get better and stay better consistently - they absolutely don't- but with the right therapist (HAHAHA GOOD LUCK) and the right meds (again GL finding those) things can improve.

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I wanna know if anyone here has completely given up on finding a partner. I feel like maybe accepting the forever alone lifestyle could bring some comfort and maybe happiness into my life. Maybe im too weird and fucked up, and giving up hope is the right thing to do. Thoughts?
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I had a couple of girls confess their love to me, but I just don't feel like I'm able to have a partner.
Dating just seems very exhausting.


It is.


I think it shouldn't be, it's just that most people are really boring. No reason to waste time on people that aren't fun to be with.
Also, is that my waifu wearing a Gentoo shirt?


The fact that I'm yet to experience love is really eating me up now. I don't know how much longer I can go on living like this. Entire days are being lost to these feelings.


>Man, physical contact (and I don't mean sex) with someone you love with passion must feel heavenly.

>The fact that I'm yet to experience love

Just because I watched it recently, Darling in the Franxx does a pretty good job at illustrating the difference between physical contact with someone where there is no chemistry, versus with someone where there is. Not going to lie, it's a phenomenal and soul-fulfilling thing. When you're trying to force yourself to get physical with someone you don't care for, though? It feels like your soul is screaming at you, and its lungs don't run out of breath, so no matter how bad you might feel not having felt the former, take solace that at least you're not trying to force yourself into the latter, like I had tried after many years. It just makes things even worse. I wish I'd been a wizard at this point, rather than having had the rug pulled out from underneath me by the woman I loved before…

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>basically didn't leave my home during middle-school because bullying, depressed

>2~3 year of highschool were the best, actually made some friends and hang out with them

>got into college, was so motivated and happy

>my high school friends stop talking to me

>some only talk to me when they want something and when I try to talk to them they ignore me, so I don't know if they are my friends anymore

>start becoming lonely and depressed

>doesn't even have friends on the internet

>doing well in college but at the expense of my sanity

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Very very similar situation to you anon in almost every way, except for doing well in college. I'm just trying to devote the frustration to art as much as I can because I find that the short moments where I'm fully immersed in making things is where I'm happiest.


Same here.
>No friends
>no bf
>a part of my family left the country years ago and the only person I can talk to is one of them.

She doesn't really read my messages so I'm stuck like this until I off myself or recieve a miracle. The latter is not going to happen.
My only chance for a 'social life' was ruined by this shitty attempt to destroy the economy.

So what do I do?

I can't bear this crap anymore, I just want to rest.


Can't you follow that part of the family who left the country? You would be reunited with that person and could have a fresh start.


Sorry to ask, but I'm curious (feel free to ignore the question if you don't want to reply). How are you trying to get friends on the internet? What problems did you face when trying to bond with people?
Perhaps if you explain your situations people can give you some insightful advice.

I've had problems talking with people and making friends IRL but I always had an easier time talking with people online (and made my first friends on the internet). Most of the time it seems to me like people who don't "fit in with others" usually look in the wrong places, but it's not limited to that.

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I've been thinking about this for quite a long time. I'm a hikki and NEET, don't have an education and am disabled. What are some ways I could I get by when/if things go sour, or if I want to leave this lifestyle? I am probably too far gone already, but hopefully one of these can work for you. This topic gets discussed a lot in NEET/hikki communities, but I'm mentioning a lot stuff I don't see listed elsewhere. Don't believe anyone who tells you "bro you have to go out and work a job, sorry, that's life." Fuck that noise! Some of these are fully sustainable, some are risky, just for short-term cash, or a small amount of passive income. Some of these are kind of out there and and may not work well in practice.

(You'll want to read the first reply to this thread for a continuation, the body was way too long.)

>Pornographic artist/developer

Porn artists and porn game developers can make serious money through both commissions and Patreon. The more depraved/niche you're willing to do (gay, furry, scat etc.), the better the pay is. Porn games can also make a lot more money than just doing porn art.

>Boosting people, competitive vidya

I've done this when I was a GM Overwatch player, but I don't play that game anymore. With enough skill and time put in, you could sustain yourself completely with this. Hard part is getting a reputation at the beginning, you need to be patient. Should be smooth sailing from there, as long as major changes to the game don't fuck you up.

>Game cheat developer

Subscription private cheats. You can read and learn a lot about cheat development on forums like UnknownCheats. It's really not that hard; if you know C or C++, you're ready to get started. Cheat development is fun, too. Alternatively, use your undetected private cheat for boosting people more reliably.

>The Amazon affiliate program

This is a little complicated to explain here. It involves creating websites and SEO. You'll want to read this, it actually has some good information, explained better than I ever could: https://old.reddit.com/r/Entrepreneur/comments/5mzpz6/in_2016_i_made_31615415_via_the_amazon_affiliate/
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>cant draw
>havent written a line of code since college (very basic stuff)
>terrified of human interaction
>only good at games where boosting isnt a thing
>not good enough at those games to actually win money
where does motivation come from and how do i get some


>T-shirt designs

I made my first sale on Redbubble today. Got $2.89 US



They banned me for posting a pepe shirt which is retarded because the whole site is filled with halfchan memes.


Try NoFap and/or a dopamine detox.
Pepe is banned because he triggers Jews.


This. If you can handle a trip to the clinic every so often, there are people who will pay you for your bodily fluids. You can live like a female, except through blood/plasma/sperm donations. You can also get into clinical trials if they're worth the risk. My brother made $1300 in a week doing one of these, and only ran a 101.1F fever.

>Create and sell random stock sound effects
This also works for music. I know a guy who knows a guy who makes 6 figures off of royalties from beats he makes in his basement.

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Any hikkis here figure out a way to make money without leaving your room and going outside??.
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and what were your results?

I'd not get my hopes up if you haven't gotten them yet, because I saw your reply and immediately signed up for myself an hour ago and just saw the results, I got rejected

I also signed up and got rejected by maxbounty

and if anyone was wondering I signed up with an upwork and freelancer account and never got any jobs, all these online money making schemes are either heavily oversaturated to the point to where they reject everybody, don't work, don't actually make you any money ($0.00000001 every hour or some shit), and or are scams and fakes


Rev accepted my application. 4 dollars for an hour of work, but at least I don't have to send a .pdf resume like you have to for translating.

My Spanish is merde anyways.



>>4495 here. My application was accepted and I tried it for a while, but honestly the quality of the audio files was so poor that transcribing most of them is not worth the money, or is literally impossible. All of the worst quality audio files get kicked down to the noobs, so it's a baptism by fire to reach the higher ranks where you get first pick of audio files.

If I kept at it, I think I could make up to $10 an hour, but it takes a lot more energy than something like Door Dash, which I used to do while my car was working. Easily made $10 an hour there, but had to pay for my own gas, which ate up 1/3 of my revenue. If I were more desperate I would probably keep working with Rev.


fuggin spoogs mang


Crypto does wonder to me. Anyone here who also bought GRT at 13 cents and patiently waiting for the price to reach $1.50?

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i was a neet at a certain point and i was put in a psychiatric hospital because of it, it didnt help at all and made my condition and my comfortableness with being in my room bad, what im saying is i cant be comfortable while in my room beause of my experinces.


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What did you experience for you not to be comfortable in your room anymore, anon?

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Is anyone else sad when their posts get no replies? I don't mean here but on bigger sites. I'm kinda lonely.
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I don't know if this exactly counts, but I'll always keep check of what I said to see if anyone got back to me, and then when they do I get embarrassed and take a really long time to actually look at it, let alone reply


Definitely. I have friends on Twitter, for example, with hundreds of followers and tons of friends. Some of them gained them in just a few months. I've had 2 accounts and both times it took more than a year and using it every day, posting several times a day, constant interaction, to just get past 100. I was part of a group of meme accounts even where they got tons of attention and still I was the smallest.
I just wanna be acknowledged


>All the time. This is why I tend to stick with smaller communities
It's either post on a big chan and get no replies, or post on an small imageboard and get a reply in three months


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I made a thread with a similar topic 3 years ago on the 4 and got this reply


> It's either post on a big chan and get no replies, or post on an small imageboard and get a reply in three months
Well you just got your reply within a day, even though it provides nothing of value.

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how do u make friends while a hikki? im not a hikki by choice, its by force since my illness' make it hard to go outside and im really lonely these days - 🥩
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Was in this>>6266 discord and yea it said it was uboachan soooo. No idea but I'm not going to stay around with people like that there.


Are you serious? Fucking autistous.



There's no user with a name like that in the #hikki channel logs anywhere around the date >>6284 posted. Someone probably changed their name to that for a little while as a joke. Come check out the Discord.


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Just come to the Discord guys, come into my lair…Join us hikki's…It was part of the joke…


real hikkis dont use discord, they live in solitude, sleeping in mountains made up of filthy pizza boxes and anime dvds

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Hello everybody, I just find this forum. It's been almost a year since I became a NEET. I tried for a few months to go to college but it did not work. I wonder what people like me think about the future. Do you think we can go on like this forever? Well, I have no ambition, and I think things will never change. Do you wanna change?
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Please call them. The best you can do is the best you can do. The best you can do changes when you make a mistake. If you don't call them, you won't learn how to do better.

>But if I could be NEET forever I would, because less people can hurt me if I stay away from them.

I used to be a NEET for a while for this very reason.

Now it's been a few years.

Now I think, "less people can love me if I stay away from them."


It takes a toll on one's mind and body not to do anything for an extended amount of time.
Long story short, I had an incident one time when I went outside. A life changing, broken bones sort of incident. And it made me fucking paranoid to go outside again. I just want to stay inside constantly, but fuck, I also want to enjoy life. I don't want to be a miserable douchebag with no aspirations, I want to enjoy myself.
However, I'm literally scared of everything. So back to feeling shit and being a NEET I go.


I feel this to be true.
I've been NEET for 7 years now and I feel blessed for having time work on hobbies, learning things and a whole lot of procrastination without really having to worry about the future.

When I was still being push to become something and work on some kind of schedule it made me insanely unhappy each time and I basically never got along with more people at those places either.
If being a NEET isn't destroying you mentally somehow I'd say you should savor it as long as you can, because for most people it will only be a phase in life.


I've been a NEET since 2011, following a suicide attempt partially due to university at the time. I've done nothing ever since, I've made a few attempts at getting back into uni but they've all failed so far. I'm thinking of getting a certificate III in something or maybe even a diploma if I'm capable.

I've wanted to change for a long but my only real motivator for that died a few years back and I've kind of just been floating ever since. I've tried talking to friend and family about it but they don't seem to understand, take me seriously, I struggle effectively opening up or all three of those. I do like the idea of helping people, especially teenagers and new adults figure things out and to avoid them ending up like me, a decade after graduating high school and having achieved nothing. My social anxiety and other mental issues will be a big problem with doing that though, since I barely know how to talk to people properly besides my grandparents and friend or saying basic shit to cashiers while getting served. While I guess I could have fucked up worse, could have gotten on drugs harder than weed, had a bunch of kids I couldn't look after or get an STD or something on par with those, I still feel like a major fuck up for the past decade of absolutely nothing. It's to the point that I have dreams about getting a similar job to my cashier job I had in high school and going over how I fucked that job up, but as an adult this time.

The decade of NEETdom has kept me back, like time while physically continuing feels like it should have stopped at one point. One way I look at it is from console generations. I graduated high school in 2010, the peak of the 360 and PS4, not those consoles are gone, the Wii store is gone, the servers for games I heard were coming out soon are closing and it feels like I just blinked, the consoles that replaced those consoles will be gone soon to.
The three main things I've considered studying to help get me a job is:
Cert III in Health Services Assistance - basically become a hospital orderly
Diploma of Nursing - become an enrolled nurse
Bachelor of Accounting - become an accountant
The bachelor degree will take at least three years to complete though, while the other two are between 12-18 months. This was a mess of a post. My bad. In short, I'm not happy and I'm trying to fix that.


what are you doing step-rifle

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