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 No.1715[Reply][Last 50 Posts]

(The old thread was unstickied because it got bogged down with dead links and is difficult to navigate.)

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Old thread (bumplocked): >>3
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 No.5501

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https://discord.gg/BDDCRR8
Chats every day with a small group of around ~20 people total with a squad of daily active users. Always chatting about current events, anime, games, and we also occasionally group up for rabb.it/cytube or use voice chat for vidya. Also women are whores.

A Legacy Of Based Posting You Won't Want To Miss



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 No.172[Reply]

Seeing as absolutely everyone misread the /hikki/ rules sticky and used it to draw apocalyptic conclusions about the death of all that was good about /n/, here's a less flippant sticky with less room for ambiguity, in the form of a Q&A. We've also made some concessions based on your feedback in thread >>13, which was moved to /sugg/ for being meta.

What is allowed on this board? What is its purpose?
On this board you can discuss and request or give advice regarding NEETism, Hikikomoriism, anxieties and social or mental issues arising from these conditions of living, and things closely related to these topics. If you're content with being a NEET at this stage in your life, that's ok, and you won't get in trouble for saying so. The board's primary focus is self-help and advice regarding these issues, and particularly help in escaping the NEET lifestyle, but this focus is not exclusive. Despite rumors, threads looking for help with suicidal feelings or drug addition are also allowed.

What is not allowed on this board?
* Encouraging others to become NEET.
* Attacking or discouraging others for being NEET.
* Giving or requesting advice on how to enter the NEET lifestyle.
* Encouraging or showcasing drug usage.
* Announcing your planned suicide. Call a hotline or something just don't do it here or it becomes my legal responsibility.
* Helping others to plan or commit suicide.
* Topics not related to the purpose of the board. Such topics will be moved.
* Intentionally breaking these rules or the global rules will still result in a warning or ban.
* Rule 6 is enforced more liberally on /hikki/. Users may be banned from /hikki/ for inflammatory remarks in cases which might not result in a ban on other boards.
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 No.5493[Reply]

Happy Valentine's Day, Uboa-chan!
I'm a long-time lurker, first time poster,. I've told my sob-story a couple times on other -chans, only to get the usual “kys” response, so I decided to post here and see if any intellectuals feel like replying (or if anyone replies at all…)
At the age of 6, I was molested by my brother, and was quickly (forcefully) introduced to the world of sex from a very young age, only to be rejected by every girl I've ever been stupid enough to have feelings for. From my first grade crush, to all my cute coworkers, I'm almost 25, in the prime of my life, and am forced to watch happy, fruitful, loving relationships blossoming all around me, while all I get is my right hand and an internet connection.
To say that I used to get bullied in school would be an understatement. Elementary and Middle school were pretty miserable, but during my first year of high school, I made a friend (or so I thought). After about 3 or 4 months, a rumor spread around the school that I was gay, and this friend of mine tried to hook me up with a guy. I felt really bad turning the guy down, but this friend of mine, (and all his friends) got so pissed at me, that I was reported, and the teachers and administrators gave the students permission to bully me from then on. My parents didn't believe any of it and didn't do anything about it.
As for Elementary School, I'm like 85% sure there was a child trafficking ring going on behind my back. Every year was an event called the “School Sleepover” where kids would come to spend the night at the school to “play games and watch movies together”. They also apparently “Didn't have a sleepover every year” because it's a “potentially dangerous event” and that they “Needed approval from the school district”. However, I know for sure that each of my 4 siblings got to go at least twice and a friend of mine (who later became a pot-smoking, acid-dropping chad) got to go multiple times, and In 4th grade, he even got to 3rd base it with a girl who had a crush on me in a game of Truth or Dare. All this after my teacher threatened to expel me for asking when the sleepover would be. After the fact, when 10y/o Chad asked me why I didn't go, I said nobody told me, and when I asked what happened at the sleepover, he tuned bright red and said “I promised not to tell, and if I did tell, you would get extremely mad, and the whole school would get in a lot of trouble with the police.”
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 No.5503

Alright, from what I've read here, you are a shitty person and don't deserve sympathy. Enjoy being miserable.

 No.5504

>>5503
That's pretty harsh anon, being so ronery ;_; isn't exactly uncommon

 No.5505

I hate Valentines day with a passion. It is a day created exclusively because the social value of being sexually active had fallen to a point that people had to create an entire day ensuring that anyone and everyone would see and acknowledge that yes, that person is having sex, and because of it, they are better than you.

 No.5506

>>5505
Yep. You're totally right, anon. Spread the news.

 No.5507

>>5505
It's not that deep.



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 No.190[Reply]

post itt if you are sickly as well as NEET

i got CFS/ME/SEID/whatever docs wanna call it, but basically im too tired to leave the house or even bed most of the time, and its not depression or anything mental

also get mad headaches, nausea, and dizziness from just standing up

also relevant is itt NO BULLYING ALLOWED!!
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 No.5090

>>4719
Welp I overdid it this summer because of my excitement at getting better so now i'm back to how I was 6 months ago. At least I know I can improve now though, just have to pace myself with is what the doctor has been trying to drill into me this whole time. I get very excited doing anything new so it's fucking hard though.

 No.5488

>>5090
improving again, weightlifting and going outside sometimes, and i'm going to go on another trip to visit my grandparents in 2 weeks that should be chill

living with my parents again sucks though get me OUT

 No.5498

woah, other people are like this?! I'm always ill it sucks i do everything to have a good immune system (except exercise) but i'm just always falling apart, rotting inside and imploding. I feel better knowing i'm not alone

 No.5499

>>5498
Yeah feels like you're cursed or something, maybe that's a childish way to put it but that's how it is. People calling you lazy is inevitable and awful though.

 No.5500

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Rest is important



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 No.3276[Reply]

Life story time
>Be 7 years ago
>18
>Have pretty OK life in front of me
>Suddenly start losing all motivation and sleeping more and more
>Be NEET for 3 years
>Finally get a part time job (cashier, though boss had me doing everything in the store)
>Start going to doctor thinking I was depressed
>2 years, 8 months of therapy, 25 different medications, $26,000 (after insurance) in doctor bills later
>At this point sleeping 16 hours a day and working the rest
>Occasionally dozing off during work and even while driving
>Doctor finally gives me CFS/ME diagnosis
>Tells me there's no treatment
>Gives me prescriptions for Adderall, Vyvanse, Concerta, Ritalin & Desoxyn
>They work great for a couple days before losing all effectiveness (even at max dose), takes over a month for tolerance to get back down
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 No.3362

>>3360
Oh shit, dude. Your parents are really going to kick you out for a medical condition? Look, buddy, find a relative or something. Don't you have any cousins or grandparents whose house you could stay at? Any friends who would be willing to take you in? Contact everybody you know. If worst comes to worse and you have to live in the mountains, do as much research as possible on how to not die out there. In the woods, a shelter does not mean house, it means place to sleep. There's my bit of advice when it comes to that. Man, that's really shitty. Don't drink still water, boil it first using rocks and a fire. I don't know how useful, it would be, but maybe this guy's videos can help?
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCAL3JXZSzSm8AlZyD3nQdBA
There's annotations that can be enabled for more in-depth instructions. Ask if they'll give you at least a bit of money. Maybe you could use it to buy books on this stuff. Check back here often to see what other people have to say. There's still a chance that your parents will pussy out and let you stay.

 No.3363

Wow, you're fucked.

 No.3365

>>3360
Where are you located anon? I may be able to give you more specific advice depending on where you are located

 No.5489

https://uboachan.net/hikki/res/190.html#5488

is me, i have cfs/me, i'm on federal disability (in the USA)

you have to apply and get rejected then appeal then get a hearing, and hopefully have the word of a reputable doctor like i had from the guy at Stanford Hospital's CFS department, also have a disability doctor who knows what CFS is

its hard anon, no cure sucks, im improving but most aren't

 No.5492

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Afraid to know if it's really CFS have the same symptom of it but also nerve pain, which has led to a diagnosis of fibromyalgia instead. Honestly doctors are the worst, but being trained to ignore exactly what patients know is wrong is in their nature, it only takes one good doctor to set you on knowing the difference. Life gets too overwhelming but you can make the best of it in your own way.


Also have stomach and gastrointestinal issues, waiting to get a colonoscopy and more blood tests. Though have had a stomach infection for six months.

It'd be nice to talk to someone to understands this kind of existence



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 No.254[Reply][Last 50 Posts]

How old are you?

ADMIN NOTE: This discussion is OK again since the change to Rule #1.
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 No.5472

>>529
I wonder if this poster is legal now…

 No.5475

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>>522
Wow, i think i spottet my post. Almost 4 years have passed and I don't feel like 17 anymore, more like 14 now.

 No.5485

>>5475
Absolutely based child-mind poster.

 No.5486

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19
dodged /neet/ by volunteering weekly, but stopped going so here I am. Spent so much time doing nothing when I could be doing so much, want to get a job so I can get more of a grip on my life. At the very least I'll have money.
>>671
Must have been around 2010, so 10 or 11.

 No.5491

>>254
19, 20 in September.

>>671
10, but I never played it until I was 12.



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 No.2906[Reply]

I'm not too sure this goes on this board but it feels like it'd fit here more than Off-topic.

Anyway, does anyone here have an imaginary friend? Any kind, I think even tulpa sort of count. If so I'd love to hear stories even if it's childhood imaginary friends. More so I'm interested in how many NEETs and Hikkikomori have them and how it affects your day to day life.
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 No.5481

Everything is Maya, Illusion. On an absolute sense, everything is unreal. Reality is a relative phenomena. A person is "real" relative to another existing person. An imaginary friend is "unreal" relative to an existing person. Real/Unreal for everyday usage is an expression of the nature of the relationship between two entities or objects. However, ultimately everything is unreal, illusion.

It is OK to enjoy the illusion. The illusion is not a mistake, it is Parabrahman's expression of Joy, the Divine Game, Lila.

Dance as you wish, anons

 No.5482

>>5481
While on a grander scale this may be true, an imaginary friend is a different sort of illusion than a flesh and blood one. Those differences are what people value.

 No.5483

I have imagenary foe. He always say to me rude things and laughing on anything i do.

 No.5484

>>5483
just sounds like low self esteem

 No.5487

I spend a lot of time daydreaming, or making up scenarios and that involves characters invented by me, though they're mostly NPCs in terms of personality and not consistent at all.



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 No.5245[Reply]

being alone for so long has stunted my ability to talk so much that i can barely construct full sentences in my head, let alone hold a conversation with anyone
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 No.5454

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>>5447
>Normal people suffer when they near someone who suffer.
No, they only superficially care in order to keep up the facade. I doubt they genuinely care about a stranger whom they don't already have an affinity to.

 No.5455

>>5454
Wrong, false. While people can and do bullshit, a lot of the times, they'll actually feel bad in the moment but wont take meaningful action or still give a shit five minutes later.

 No.5456

>>5447
You have a point but I wouldn't say that "suffer" is the right word. Most of the time I do get overwhelmed around people who are in a bad situation, but the decision to care or not is something else. I tend to keep distance especially if I can't help.

 No.5457

>>5453
I respect hikkies as i am hikki too. And i assume problem desribed here is not a simple one like "my girl dont apriciate my football skill"

Profesional help. Do you have emough money for that?

>>5454
The way you look on it depends.

It is a question like "my wife is simulating in the bed what i should feel about it?". Normal person dont give a fuck is it simulation or not. Feel-ish bu normally-egoistic person would thank "wife" because she put an effort to please that person.
But only a depressive one would feels tricked and cheated.

>>5456
Depression is a internal suffering. Watch Sapolsky.

 No.5479

>>5455
> they give a shit five minutes later
They are also aware of this, hence they avoid people, who make them feel bad. Who wouldn't?



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 No.4545[Reply]

Anybody else here who used to frequent hikkichan?
It's closed now and I feel like I lost my home.
This is the only other place where I can maybe belong..
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 No.5329

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>>5326
that's what hikkis think. when hikkis look down the abyss thinking they've experienced real misery the children in africa look back up at them from below.
leveraging loser dick size isn't a really healthy thing to do
>>5287 is right, a job is a superficial distinction, I could be flipping burgers any time now but I would still be in the same cultural boiling pot
on the other hand, pick an average person working at a fab and give them the pink slip. boom, they're fired. they're a NEET now because they're currently unemployed and they're not looking (let's just say they're getting things straight for the month) for a job
does that mean they're not a normalfag anymmore? even though they very likely still remain a normal ordinary responsible person and hold interests compatible with (the already loose) definition of normalfags

some people say ubuu is filled with normalfags, but you have to realize most people here are in their late 20s - mid 30s now, people got a job and moved on. we just don't glorify (not glorifying =/= hating) feels or NEETdom like some other boards
i miss /n/

 No.5360

Interestingly enough, the creator of the site has been found leaving a comment on this retrospective on the website. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aG8DplmUzAA&t=1s

 No.5414

>>5326
do not think sadness is a competition, very bad idea

 No.5415

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>>5414
That's what I've been thinking… Furthermore, your 'level of sadness' don't really depend on how high your level of life is, how well you're being treated by other people, your social status etc. I mean miserable hikikkomori nobody cares about can be 100 times happier than rich daughter of some politician or something. I think it all depends on your personal view of life and other extremely subjective things.

With that said, how come person who works be less miserable than hikki? Can this person have social anxiety and depression too? Yes, of course he can, and he's forced to act like a productive member of society everyday. Isn't that sad? That's why sadness isn't a competition.

Everyone's sad in their own way and nobody can have a mental capacity to truly understand what other person feel and why is it that way. I think we should treat each other's sadness equally.

 No.5474

I lurked hikkichan for a long time and posted a couple times. I found this site looking for a replacement. I lurked wizchan too but couldn't post because I've had a girlfriend before.

>>4570 sums it up pretty well


Looking at this thread it seems like this board isn't really for hikki / neet users, just for discussion about hikki's from the outside in, so it's not really comparable to hikkichan.

the problem with the 8chan board is that hikki had a separate board for whiners / depression pity parties, and separate boards for interesting topics to discuss. putting them all on the same board is a recipe for disaster because the conversations get choked out by people just there for attention / trolling / screen shotting for reddit / whining / 'advice' / etc.

I may start a new discord-but-with-forced-anonymous chat for hermits / reclusive people instead since it seems there is still no where quite right to go and it's probably time to ditch most of what chan culture has become.



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 No.5331[Reply]

When I have to interact with people, quite often, they will find a way to misinterpret my anxiety. There are many misinterpretations, but they all seem to revolve around the other person involved. They think I must only be anxious because of them, not realizing that people with social anxiety are pretty much always anxious around people, except perhaps around their family members or a small group of friends. But around people they don't know, they will be anxious.

I have been accused of racism for being anxious around non-white people at my college's cafeteria, despite the fact that I get social anxiety around white people too. One time, a female counselor implied that I must be anxious around women, not understanding that I am anxious around men too. People have said thinks like "anon is bad at talking to girls" or "or anon gay?" but I am just bad at talking to people in general. Saying I'm "bad at talking to girls" implies that I'm good at talking to guys, which is not true.

The female counselor I saw sent me to a male counselor in the same counseling office place and I was anxious around him too. He seemed to take it personally and thought it was about him as an individual. Very unprofessional across the board. He also asked me about drugs and alcohol and I told him about my drinking, and so he thought I must be anxious because of drinking too often (it's the opposite: I drink too much to cope with anxiety, not the other way around).

Another time, someone invited me to volunteer at a homeless shelter. I was sleep-deprived and also still had social anxiety, because I always have it, and being in a situation where I had to serve people food and talk to them made it especially bad. The person who invited me implied that I was afraid of homeless people, even though they've seen how I act around other people.

A final example was how I was invited by my friend to spend Thanksgiving with him and his family. They are extremely loud and outgoing and it was a little intimidating with all the questions and being put on the spot a few times. My friend thought I really enjoyed checking my phone, when in reality I was only doing it to avoid making eye contact or to cope with my extreme anxiety.

I don't get the impression that very many people truly understand what I'm going through, and these accusations make it even worse.

Have people ever misinterpreted your mental health issues? If so, what happened?
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 No.5437

vrchat helped me with my social anxiety

 No.5468

>Have people ever misinterpreted your mental health issues?
All the time. My family likes to pretend that mental disorders that aren't overtly crippling don't exist. They barely consider autism a disorder if you're more functioning than the furthest people on the spectrum. It's always "Why are you even sad? There's nothing to be sad about" or "Stop being so shy!" when it comes to my manic depression and crippling anxiety.

The only one who doesn't do that is my dad, who treats it like some sort of sick competition. Whenever someone tries to talk about mental health and mentions something they have, 99.9% of the time you'll immediately hear "I HAVE THAT, TOO!!". You know he treats it like a competition because it's never to sympathize, only to direct everyone's attention toward him.

 No.5469

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>>5468
Your dad might be a narcissist. Those are typical symptoms. Maybe look into that, and don't overlook covert narcissism. I've noticed how much extra attention narcissism seems to get in self-help circles.

 No.5473

>>5469
Sounds about right, he demonstrates most of if not all the symptoms with constant gaslighting thrown into the mix for flavor.



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