/hikki/ - NEET / Advice

>>8684
>I would still want to go for midnight walks/bikerides but maybe that would make me a traitor to the based kino hikki movement.
Think about it this way: If living to an ideal "based, hikki lifestyle" is making you miserable, is it really worth pursuing? Do you really care about what imagined hikki posters think of you going on hikes or walking outside? Sometimes you got brush that idealized hikki shit aside, your own personal happiness is much more important. Live for you and what makes you happy, not what imagined anons may think you'll never actually meet. Don't be selfish though, give adequate care to the real people around you who care, but ultimately live for yourself because yourself is going to be the only one who sticks with you for life.

I also think you are catastrophizing a bit too much with the rest of your post and need to learn some postive self-affirmations. I'm sure you aren't as ugly as you think. And if you are? Who cares, what matters to most people, besides shallow cis women, is personality and how much you mesh with theirs. People tend to overrate looks in discussion but in reality, most people are looking for someone who understands them

>>8544
Well, you can try writing about the media you are usually consuming. Anything but being idle to help your head feeling productive with a nice hobby I guess.

are you the neet life magazine guy?

>>8549
nah, just a guy who used to post here. decided to revive my old blog from years ago as just something to do.

>>8550
oh ok, good that guy was annoying.

bump

>>4161
7 months lol, fuck off

>>7951
Hope you get kicked off ssi you lazy degen(HIKINEET SITE (USER WAS BANNED FOR THIS POST))

>>7951
I like you anon, you seem wise. Newfag here, but was there ever a time before this board became overrun by holier-than-thou types and nahtzees? When it was just people who had become neet one way or another and were trying to get along?

if you say that i think you've just wasted your time judging boards through your bias when you could actually study psychiatry, psychology and sociology.

now, don't get me wrong. i agree that it is unhealthy and undeniably selfish to make others pay for your self destruction.

but mental disorders are EXACTLY that. having an undesired condition - often because you were raised by the wrong environmen - that makes you do bad things to yourself and others even if you don't want to.

it's like you're telling someone with pneumonia to breathe well just because YOU are perfectly healthy. of course, pneumonia is treatable and curable, hikkikomori is as well. but both take time, money, energy. it is not gonna happen instantly, no matter how much you yell at the sick to get better already. you're just verbally abusing them for something they literally can't do. in other words, you're being petty and irrational.

>>8688
well said

>>8662
waow!!! this your puter? i would love to have a dedicated setup, unfortunately i live out of a shithole house with my parents taking care of an arboretum for a weird pacifist christian group. They're very nice, but they have a weird anarchist way of deciding what happens with the premises, so very little has happened and now im stuck in Australian heat with no aircon and a room that used to be a porch. So getting a nice setup going is the least of my worries.

>>8662
Are you wapanese? rare to see a westerner sleeping on the floor like that, usually there's at least a floor mattress.

>>8666
Well apparently it's good for your back.

>>8663
>waow!!! this your puter?
no.
>>8666
im a hapa satan.
>>8668
very cool.

>>8314
Not saying it is but that sounds like anhedonia. I feel this from time to time, not just with boring activities but with stuff I enjoy too like videogames. Everything feels like a chore.

>>8561
Together with you or together with each other?

>>8313
What’s the image in your post from uboanon?

I used to think that I was unwell for being a loner that did not want to integrate into a larger society. Everyone else is thinking about capital, marriage and retirement, don't they? What kind of man does not strive for wealth and children? I will tell you what kind of man: the same kind that can see the illusions of this world for what they are.

Why do you people live for? Do you live for the sake of living, or do you seek something beyond our rotten world? Because those who live in order to live will perish, while those who want to reach for the stars will reach them! Everyone will see the suffering of the Earth at some point in their journey, and when they do they will either accept the world and seek its comfort or rebel against the world because it is wicked. You can see how all wars are unjust, all states are illegitimate and all rulers are robbers. Then why do you wish to live for the king and his kingdom when you can live for your own salvation? Leave the master alone to rule over his slaves, and seek comfort elsewhere.

They will call me mad for rejecting the world, but they cannot see that they are mad themselves. We are all broken by the world around us, nobody is left unscarred. Some will realize this, others will not. We live to be understood by our peers, but they can never understand us. There are no words that can fully convey what bothers the soul, and no one can peer into our minds to see our thoughts naked. That is why you are condemned to live and die on this Earth alone.

What am I going to do now? What are you going to do? I don't know, but we must seek our salvation independently. No two lives can be the same, as such no solutions can be either.

(also sorry for the schizopost lolo)

>>8591
Looks like that Sims game made for a younger audience, MySims I think it was called. Played the shit out of it back in the day

>>8575
I do haved some similar experiencies like that years ago. As someone with Asperger Syndrome, I just fall to the conclusion that being mute 99,9% of the time is my best option to not bother others or bother me, and just enjoying doing my things. May not be the most healthy thing, but whatever.

I'm pretty stoic and quiet. I'd rather not say anything than risk offending people or rubbing them up the wrong way.

>>8568
Sounds like a good memory. I would have liked to grow up in the rose coloured echo of it I'm imagining.

I never go a day without speaking a word, but I say absolutely as little as I can. A few one word answers and ritual nothings, and I hate even that. The solitude I'm given is already far more than I deserve though.

For some reason, people really don't like you if your quiet. It didn't feel so bad in the past but these days people seem to really hate you if your quiet and lonesome. They think you are bad person or a pervert. It seems to really disgust them.

My professor in college once told us about his time in rural China. He used to sit alone and eat because he was the only Westerner and his Chinese wasn't that good. When people saw this they'd go out of their way to sit with him because they felt bad. They'd try and talk in English even if they didn't understand it. In Western society, if a person is sat by themselves they usually get stigmatized. Makes you wonder what old world values we''ve lost.

I don't really like talking, but there's this thing that "people don't know what i want to communicate if i don't speak it"
I just like being in the vibe, yk. I don't like being questioned of what am i doing when it is clear as fuck what i'm doing
Even in VC's is the same thing, but most of the times i can go non-verbal and friends would go 'OK :)' and keep going
>>8598 You're so right and reading it it justs… hurts.

>>8342
discords full of faggy zoomers with broccoli haircuts and spongebob profile pictures telling you to kill yourself

>>8342
Today I tried to join a discord community about a common hobby. 400 members. Half of the server emotes were photos of the moderators and long-time members. Left in absolute disgust

>>8515
Discord demography

>>8488
Gehhh, I dislike so much negativity but I can't help but agree. Public discords r such a cesspit but there's no real good way to browse and see a shit ton of discords. The only thing I really know is disboards and not once have I had anything fulfilling from that.

The only good servers I've ever been on are random private ones that have some link placed somewhere, and then from those getting invited to an ultra priv one. It's weird to think how far my experience of discord is to the median one, especially when I think of my early days on it and how normie the servers I was stuck in were

Same unfunny trends, same circlejerking, same 10 people only ever speaking, same fucking conversations. Nothing new, nothing special

this happens to me all the time. I get randomly obsessed with people I don't even know and stalk them through the internet, never interacting with them

>>8364
autists do you thinkan retard is a slur

>>8363
This is actually pretty good advice. I've been trying to get myself out there more by going to shows that my fave bands are playing in, and I recently went to a convention for the first time, but it's really scary putting myself out there.

I often drink at those events and try to spark conversation with a stranger, but I find myself eventually clamming up and walking away, telling myself I'm being annoying or weird when there's any pauses and the like. I don't know.

I'll definitely look at online communities relating to my interests, I somehow didn't really think of that

>>8343
I've honestly felt that way myself many times, and I've realized that we all simply have a select niche that we would fit you. I'm sorry your friends don't make the effort to include you, but in my eyes, you shouldn't beat yourself up over it or try to change yourself to fit in with them.

Instead, I feel its more important to accept the person you are, flaws and all, and be confident in that person. Be confident in your interests and hobbies or mannerisms, no matter how "weird" or "niche" you might imagine them to be, and look for like minded people.

Interact with communities of your favorite games or animes, go to conventions and compliment someone's costume and spark up a convo about the series their dressed up as, compliment someone's cool t shirt you recognize, etc. Every little effort counts and builds to a greater whole.

You got this, even if it doesn't seem that way. You'll find the people you want and deserve.

I don’t feel comfortable around other humans. I used to have that feeling of being left out, that fear, and so I’d do my best to impress people and I would end up coming off as weird and arrogant. So then I retreated from people. I guess it’s easier to run away from the fear than fight it and overcome it. I went through a 5 year period of shutting myself off from others. It’s been so long I don’t even think I’m capable of making friends. Like whatever hardware is in the brain for socializing has all rusted away now and it’s hopeless.

Now I like being the background character. It does upset me when I think about it, but I don’t think there’s any other way anymore. I wish I could be professionally successful but I don’t feel a need to be connected to other humans anymore.

>>8343
God I feel you OP. I like to think that despite it all, I've done well enough for myself irl wise with masking that even if I drop out of shit, I have irl friends who seem to like me, have had relationships etc, but I cannot shake this feeling of not belonging. I still will feel like an alien, and the loneliness of having achieved a friend group and still feeling like an outcast is unbearable.
Esp on the topic of having one friend that you really connect with but not finding it easy to just hang out with them. I hate feeling like such a jealous piece of shit when I see him hang out with others and not choose me constantly. He's a very friendly and popular person so I just remind myself to have faith in our friendship, but often times I hate having to hang out with him and then others who I don't really find any fulfillment in interacting with.
At some fundamental level there's always a disconnect, and I hate when the seemingly one beam of light is constantly stolen. I really don't want him to hate me though, I hate thoughts like these