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(The old thread was unstickied because it got bogged down with dead links and is difficult to navigate.)

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 No.5144

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I do a daily bible study 7 days a week and a nightly bible study m-f.
Night M-F: 7:30PM CST-US
Day: 1PM CST-US
https://twitch.tv/a7runaway
Tonights Schedule ATM(more to be added):
Lords Prayer
Luke 4
Shine On Sweet Jesus - The Flaming Lips
Satan's Temptation of Christ Explained: A Verse-by-Verse Study of Luke 4:1-13 - True Riches Academy
Luke 5
Him - Lily Allen
Frustrations of a Worldly Christian - Joel Stevens
Luke 6
Luke 7
Lords Prayer



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Seeing as absolutely everyone misread the /hikki/ rules sticky and used it to draw apocalyptic conclusions about the death of all that was good about /n/, here's a less flippant sticky with less room for ambiguity, in the form of a Q&A. We've also made some concessions based on your feedback in thread >>13, which was moved to /sugg/ for being meta.

What is allowed on this board? What is its purpose?
On this board you can discuss and request or give advice regarding NEETism, Hikikomoriism, anxieties and social or mental issues arising from these conditions of living, and things closely related to these topics. If you're content with being a NEET at this stage in your life, that's ok, and you won't get in trouble for saying so. The board's primary focus is self-help and advice regarding these issues, and particularly help in escaping the NEET lifestyle, but this focus is not exclusive. Despite rumors, threads looking for help with suicidal feelings or drug addition are also allowed.

What is not allowed on this board?
* Encouraging others to become NEET.
* Attacking or discouraging others for being NEET.
* Giving or requesting advice on how to enter the NEET lifestyle.
* Encouraging or showcasing drug usage.
* Announcing your planned suicide. Call a hotline or something just don't do it here or it becomes my legal responsibility.
* Helping others to plan or commit suicide.
* Topics not related to the purpose of the board. Such topics will be moved.
* Intentionally breaking these rules or the global rules will still result in a warning or ban.
* Rule 6 is enforced more liberally on /hikki/. Users may be banned from /hikki/ for inflammatory remarks in cases which might not result in a ban on other boards.
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 No.4650[Reply]

hey guise
what's the longest period you've been without a bath?
I haven't showered in 5 days, my record is 2 weeks
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 No.5248

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I didn't bathed for 2+ weeks recently. There is no hot water for a long period in my country and also I often fall in really nasty state of mind when I don't even care about anything and don't feel anything and I just don't have any energy to bother on anything at all. I don't care how I look or feel, sometimes I even think the dirtier I get the better my physical appearance fits me. Is this something to be worried about? Cause I feel like that too often (almost always to be fair).

I always was like that. Everything was even worse when I was a kid cause I remember not bathing for so long that I started getting inflammations and horrible itch.

 No.5253

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I've gone months without showering before. My longest record is probably 4 months. All those NSFW stories about wanting to smell a stinky NEET's underwear, take in her body odor and sniff her genitals are strange to me, because no, you don't. After a certain point, things don't smell like marshmallows or strawberries with a hint of sweat. Things get rancid and musty, with only a little bit of sweetness, almost like onions. Humans are animals, and animals, when given enough time, do not have pleasant smells.
When you never leave your room and suffer from depression, it's not hard for this to happen. There's no one to shame you into taking care of yourself. Also, my heater broke, and getting it fixed would take too much energy. Going over yourself in freezing cold water isn't fun.
Nowadays, I try to shower daily. I don't always have enough energy to shower for 30+ minutes, so I like to take shorter showers as the days go on and my motivation drops, with maybe a long shower if I feel particularly dirty. I don't really go out, so I rarely get dirty enough to need long showers or go beyond basic up-keep, anyway. Using a shower gel I really like the smell of has helped immensely. Also, running a wet, soapy loofah over my skin makes it easier to get used to the cold water than just pointing the shower head at myself.
I've never had rashes on my body or anything from not showering, so I guess I'm lucky. If I didn't sweat or smell at all, I would probably never shower.

 No.5272

>>5183

>I don't like soap, when I apply it to my skin it feels like my skin is a croissant and it's falling off

>dead skin cells

i know what you mean. if you're not a shower maniac (that's what i call normfags who pretend they're close to self-intoxication if they don't shower AT LEAST once/24h), the buildup of dead skin cells is very much tangible, to the point that if you're starting to get, say, "somewhat unhealthy" dirty (I would say 1 month, in winter, without ever going out –it's much worse depending on the sweating and/or exposure to outside particles– and changing clothes once/w, you can clean yourself up with the "dry shower" technique, with a slightly abrasive towel/brush, or even by rubbing your palms against your skin.
btw, if at that point you have an exceptional social opportunity that you dont want/cant miss, the only way to return to a near-zero dead skin level, is to abundantly use soap in the shower, let it do its thing for 5 minutes, rince vigourously, get out, use a large towel to rub your skin, it will remove almost all dead cells, and then go back and take a normal 10 min shower to wash it all away. And voila ! good as new !

never heard the saying that 80% of all dust in your house is coming from your own body ?

 No.5273

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Usually when I don't take a bath or shower for a few days, I would sadly end up smelling like stinky cabbage or something.

 No.5274

>>5273

I noticed that the smell, apart from intimate areas where it only worsens with time, starts to wear off after a period ranging from 3 to 5 days. I think that's why people who need to maintain social acceptance shower everyday or every other day, because they never get past this short period.



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 No.4755[Reply]

Ever consider taking a vow of silence?

Like I get so tired of people calling me stupid or retarded… or just giving me *that* look. It would be so much easier to just shut up forever.
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 No.5236

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>>5234
>it's my college degree
Bad decision Anon. Also, learning how to fake emotions isn't that hard. If psychopaths can do it, so can you.

 No.5237

>>5236
I don't think anybody here is a psychopath.

 No.5239

>>5236
>>5237
NEETs/hikkis tend to have issues like anxiety and depression, right? Aren't psychopaths people who lack empathy or feelings? I think that, in order to be a NEET/hikki, you have to feel emotions too intensely. Social anxiety is caused by thinking about other people's judgments too much. If someone was a psychopath (or maybe I am getting words confused here), they wouldn't care at all what other people think. In fact, that kind of insanity could lead to extremely high confidence.

 No.5241

>>5237
>>5239
He's implying that if a psycho can feign emotions they do not possess, "so can you", not that anybody here is a psychopath.

 No.5271

I want to send my love to all of you anons, and I feel you, as someone who's been bullied in an inescapable setting, and considered this. I recommend writing in a journal, talking to yourself, or if you can, finding one person that you can talk to about random things. Expressing yourself regularly will give you a sense of being a stable, logical, single human being, and other people's behavior doesn't mean that there's something wrong with you. Our minds are beautiful and we were all meant.



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 No.5265[Reply]

I do nothing, my routine doesn't change. Waste all of my days sleeping. I'm too paralyzed to try new things due to a combo of apathy and general disinterest. I try to force myself but it never seems to stick. This lifestyle is miserable, I'm long passed the comfortable NEET life phase but I don't have the strength to change. I hope I won:t always be a loser and someday gather the willpower to make myself happy.

 No.5266

What time do you go to bed and what do you do when you're not sleeping?

 No.5267

Just wondering, how long have you been a NEET?

 No.5268

>>5265
are you diagnosed with any mental illness?

 No.5269

start small and throw wrenches in your routine and keep at it for as long as you can



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 No.5262[Reply]

In the past I have been diagnosed with general anxiety disorder and more specifically social anxiety disorder.
It was so bad I couldn't even look people in the eye and I would start shaking whenever I feel like I am looked at, I would run out of classrooms at university because of anxiety attacks.
I can't remember what I was on back at the time.

I have now started a new course ( which basically guranatees a job ) and it's back. It's more under control because I am more mature and have learned to breathe, try to calm myself and distract myself but it still doesn't let me function as a human being. ( + )

I am too poor to afford therapy but my cousin works as a nurse. I have access to: paroxetine, citalopram, sertraline, venlafaxine, regabalin, tradozone and alprazolam.

( + ) I'm currently anticipating social situations and taking 0.50 of xanax ahead with like half or 3 quarters of an hour but this will not last me long because I'm developing resilience to the drug ( I used to take 0.25 ).

I exercise using the bodyweight fitness app whenever I can. I do not drink coffee, alcohol or energy drinks. I used to drink tea but at some point I realised black tea unsettles me and I kind of stopped.

My concerns are anhedonia and gaining weight because this happened last time.
I plan on informing myself for a few weeks first and I am seeking help.
If you can and want please share this post to communities which you think might me knowledgeable.
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 No.5264

Moved from /ot/



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 No.5207[Reply]

I don't think I can endure it any longer. Life is just too much of a drag for me.

I stopped going to a therapist almost a year ago because he moved into another office, so the reservations were cleared. There are no other therapists in my town and going somewhere else is just too expensive. I've been trying to call him for several months, but he hasn't responded to me once. Maybe he doesn't want to interact with me anymore since I'm so broken.

My social skills are progressively getting worse. It's so severe that I'm even anxious when I talk to a friend on Discord. Most of the time even the simplest messages contain grammar errors, are unfinished, and sometimes even completely unrelated to previous ones.
As for the real life conversations, they share most of the same problems but it's accompanied by stuttering and similar speech impediments.

I have a crush on a Twitter mutual (yeah, I'm that sad) and I fucking regret it. She's an artist and I really look up to her, so I started to practice my drawing skills for a while so I can get noticed by her, but no one ever even noticed them (the way I draw is shit anyway, so I believe didn't have any chances lol). I replied to like 2 of her tweets with my shitty jokes that she for some reason really liked, or maybe she just pretended so I can feel noticed/respected/whatever. I wanna talk to her but I don't know how. Even a simple thought like DMing her saying "hi" makes my heart beat like a nuclear bomb.

I was never diagnosed with it, nor do I want to self diagnose myself, but there's a high chance that I'm on the Autism spectrum. I have a plenty of similar symptoms to Asperger's and PDD-NOS. The thought of that makes me extremely depressed all the time and I don't wanna exist anymore.

I haven't been suicidal for about 9 months, but the wish to end myself has returned about 2-3 days ago. I'm only 18 and I don't see any glimmers of hope in the distance anymore. Every single day since I graduated highschool exactly 5 months ago I've been doing nothing but laying in bed and playing some shit idle game without any sort of changes in daily routine. I don't even know what I should do anymore.

(sorry for the terrible composition and grammar, i havent written anything serious in a long time)
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 No.5228

>>5227
>I'll try to message her when/if I gather enough courage.
>I might take the tests some time in the (near) future.

Considering the lack of motivation that you've described, I feel like this is going to be never. Try to maybe set a concrete date, else you're going to procrastinate this to hell and back. I don't know about your country, but the queues here are unbearably long as well. I know it first took me two weeks after talking to the doctor to get tested, a week more for the results, and now I have to wait for two more months for a "more detailed examination." God knows when I'll get to the treatment part.

>I apologize if I'm talking too much about autism.


On /hikki/? Lol.

 No.5232

> I'll try to message her when/if I gather enough courage.
you are doing it wrong
you need to do this asap or you will forever delay it and say "it is just not the right timing". One day she will dissappear and you will hate yourself forever for not trying. So next time you both are online just do it.
Even if she does not like you, it is worth to get out of your comfort zone and be bold once every now and then.

 No.5244

>>5232
Yeah, I'd go with that. I used to have things I delayed until forever, and they disappeared quickly like snap of the fingers. Drink something for courage if you have to.

 No.5258

OP here again. It's too late for me to message her. She posted an update on Twitter today saying something about her new boyfriend. I can't help but feel extremely guilty since you've told me to message her as soon as possible.

Well, I can't do anything about it so I'll give up. I need to stay away from everyone so I don't get hurt anymore.

 No.5261

>>5258
please be safe op



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 No.5245[Reply]

being alone for so long has stunted my ability to talk so much that i can barely construct full sentences in my head, let alone hold a conversation with anyone
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 No.5249

>>5245
I recently heard of someone solving this problem for themselves by installing VRChat and talking to people on there.

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 No.5257

When being alone I have always held conversations with myself, explaining stuff and pretending I wouldn't get it. It's a great way to learn complex topics, except socializing.

 No.5259

>>5257
I do this but instead I explain stuff I like to someone else who isn't there. Stuff like mechanics, and everyday life know-hows that I lived by.

 No.5260

>>5257
i do this too, but i don't really end up learning anything afterwards…



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 No.2290[Reply]

What would happen if any of us honestly joined any branch of the military? Assuming we would simply pass any sanity tests (just pretend you cheat past it) and basic physical tests, what would happen?

I'm curious.
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 No.4882

I went to Join the French foreign Legion once. It was quite enlightening as one realizes how much they actually value their own time and hobbies.

 No.4895

>>2290
I enlisted in the Marines a few years back. My personality did one helluva shift. I've become some sort of cross between an introvert and extrovert. But being in the A-type personality environment can be really stressful. It took me about a year to adjust I suppose.

 No.4913

>military
haha, they recruited me and I flunked at the recruitment test
>sorry anon, we have nothing to offer to you
I am literally too much of a piece of biological waste to even become cannon fodder

 No.4914

>>4913
>canon fodder
Soldiers aren't just canon fodder. They're trained, can be very effective individually, and have potential for upward mobility.

 No.5256

>>4882

the legion interests me also but the process of signing up seems tough - are you really fit and did you have a solid reason to join?



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 No.5103[Reply]

Greetings, Uboachan! Long-time lurker here. Anyway, as today is my birthday, and I don't have anybody to spend it with anymore (see below), I decided to pour my heart out to you all, and listen to your stories and opinions.

So, this is for the ones who weren't always NEET/hikikomori. This is for the ones who had the chance to make it big, and for a while did really well, but then, everything went downhill. How did you manage screw up your life?

As for me: first of all, I dedicated wasted 5 years of my life on studying something that I grown to loathe as time has passed (pic related). This is my last year, the finals are near, I would only have to give it one last push and I would be clear, but I just honestly cannot be bothered. Actually more than that, I'm disgusted every single morning I park my car in front of that school, and just thinking of what I have to face on each day makes my stomach turn. And I keep on asking myself: what am I doing here? And why do I keep doing it?

However, the most painful thing: the girl I was dating for a long time cut me off a few days ago. In the beginning, everything was perfect. We made our intentions clear to each other. I liked her. She liked me. She never had a real boyfriend before, she had no dating experience, yet she felt happy and comfortable with me. We had a wonderful summer together, and we had plans. To make it even more painful, on our last date, she was the one who promised (and insisted) that we will definitely do something on my birthday, as normally I don't celebrate it. She was really determined to make me happy.

Then, since there could be no life for me without drama, out of a sudden she had to cut contact with me. According to her final message, "she doesn't want to ruin my life and my career". Without me even saying or doing anything. And when I say cut contact, I mean completely severing all means of communication with me.

Sure, you'd say: go find another one! But the thing is, I don't "just want a girl". I never had problems with socializing, being around girls, starting relationships and stuff. If I just needed a girl in my life, I could find one. But after many relationships (both long and short), I don't want just another one. I wanted her, and only her.

And here I am. Without anything or anybody to live for. Without any motivation. And due to my age, no chance to start studying something new. There's no way out of this. There's no fuPost too long. Click here to view the full text.
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 No.5203

>>5202
Who specifically do you think could have done those things to them?

 No.5204

>>5103
family and friends can be abusive in many different ways, one way is gaslighting, which is trying to convince someone that they're crazy or have problems, which can mess with someone's self esteem and confidence and sense of self

learned helplessness is when you're convinced that you're stuck in your situation and there's nothing you can do about it, which can happen as a result of bullying, abuse, maladaptive learning, etc.

people don't exist in complete isolation, they are a product of their environment and relationships/interactions with people

 No.5210

>>5202
Forgive me I didn't understand you before, you might as well be right.

 No.5254

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I was already born damaged. Mood disorder, depression, severe anxiety, and not really bright. It took me years after going through multiple traumas to fix myself. I learned to mimic others behaviors in social settings so I wouldn't look like a freak having flashbacks and panic attacks in public.
When I hit junior year in high school, I had a crush on a teacher. He knew, and took advantage of it by slowly grooming me daily. Treats, private lessons, random spurts of affection and heavy petting.
When I graduated, he got fired. I had no real plans besides maybe getting into the art field. He promised me a future, that he'd propose and we'd grow old together. I fell for it. I relied on him heavily for a year. Having purpose felt good, having support felt good. They were things I haven't had or felt in a very, very, very long time if even at all.
Then he got worse. He did a lot of fucked up things, blamed it on me and left. He came back after a week or so for some ego stroking, got a new job and ghostsd me for good.
In a way, I guess I'm kind of blaming him for everything but it's really my fault. I shouldn't have fallen for fake love and I should have known better than to trust others after my first trauma. I don't have any purpose anymore and I've been sitting around idly doing nothing.
Even if I wanted to I can't do anything.

 No.5255

It's bad enough when your own life starts to fall apart, but then somehow there's always some sort of genius to take advantage of it. I guess humans are nothing but predators after all. So much for good doctor Peterson's views.



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