/hikki/ - NEET / Advice

Trans Mega Thread!

So, let's try something here.

Frequently a trans-related topic comes up in a thread here in /hikki/, and the thread will quickly get derailed by malicious comments or by the diversion in topic just taking over. There is clearly a lot of interest in discussing trans topics, as well as a lot of unwelcome interest in shutting them down. But they do tend to take over threads either way. So, while we figure out how to handle this from a moderation standpoint, I am going to make a trans discussion mega thread here to contain such conversations. This might end up being permanent. If you find that a thread makes you want to discuss a trans-related topic, make a post here instead.

Rules 6 and 7 are strictly enforced in this thread, and violations will result in longer bans. However, uncomfortable questions are also allowed within reason.

Also if a trans topic starts to derail a thread from now on we may delete those posts.

Also Sei is trans. So I might make some posts in here as well.

Update 11/04/2024: When the conversation in the trans thread veers into whether transness is even a thing that exists, that will be considered an attempt at derailment. This thread isn't for you. It is specifically a containment thread for people who want to talk about transness from the starting assumption that the topic itself and the kind of identity it discusses is valid. Please keep that in mind.

From now on, the >>>/rec/ board should generally be used for conversations about recovery from NEETism. This is not a hard rule but you are likely to have a better experience.

Seeing as absolutely everyone misread the /hikki/ rules sticky and used it to draw apocalyptic conclusions about the death of all that was good about /n/, here's a less flippant sticky with less room for ambiguity, in the form of a Q&A. We've also made some concessions based on your feedback in thread >>13, which was moved to /sugg/ for being meta.

What is allowed on this board? What is its purpose?
On this board you can discuss and request or give advice regarding NEETism, Hikikomoriism, anxieties and social or mental issues arising from these conditions of living, and things closely related to these topics. If you're content with being a NEET at this stage in your life, that's ok, and you won't get in trouble for saying so. The board's primary focus is self-help and advice regarding these issues. Despite rumors, threads looking for help with suicidal feelings or drug addition are also allowed.

What is not allowed on this board?
* Encouraging others to become NEET.
* Attacking or discouraging others for being NEET.
* Giving or requesting advice on how to enter the NEET lifestyle.
* Encouraging or showcasing drug usage.
* Announcing your planned suicide.
* Helping others to plan or commit suicide.
* Topics not related to the purpose of the board. Such topics will be moved.
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I wanna know if anyone here has completely given up on finding a partner. I feel like maybe accepting the forever alone lifestyle could bring some comfort and maybe happiness into my life. Maybe im too weird and fucked up, and giving up hope is the right thing to do. Thoughts?

What's even the point anymore? I've basically given up. I've lost so many opportunities; some of them my fault, a lot of them pure circumstance. But how much more do I have left to give?

People are unfriendly. All of those that share my interests are either autistics or just plain rude. I got called "terminally online" for asking for some normfag's discord handle (a site that I hate).

There's nothing to do around the city. Everything costs money. The streets are grimy and filled with the homeless. Housing costs keep going up. Nobody cares. The footpaths are choked with hideous invasive flowering weeds. The concrete is cracked and dirty. The infrastructure is accessible only to cars.

Why bother? There's not much point in leaving the house. But it's not much better inside than out. I try using mainstream socials, but everybody there is either unable to take criticism unless it goes with the flow of the community's zeitgeist, or is an American retard. And decent sites move too slowly to keep me occupied.

Why try? I'm enrolled for a once-a-week college course, starting this following week. But I don't see why I should care. I'll either do something stupid and get myself kicked out, or somebody else will.

I remember getting really sad a few years ago about the realisation that everything is ephemeral. Everything will eventually decay into entropy. I try to think about it every so often, but it's hardly motivating. What difference does it make if I try or not? Nobody will ever remember me either way.

It rained for a few days a little while ago.

I miss the petrichor.

What causes people to become neets? Is it social anxiety, depression or something else i watched the anime welcome to the nhk and it got me interested into neets i myself am not one but i would like to learn i mean no disrespect i feel bad for neets i just wanna know for morbid curiosity

Ever consider taking a vow of silence?

Like I get so tired of people calling me stupid or retarded… or just giving me *that* look. It would be so much easier to just shut up forever.

does anyone have any advice on not talking? like, on how to just not speak? i know everyone dislikes when i talk, and joker persona 5 is pretty cool, so is there a simple way i can just not talk without people thinking there's something wrong? also, i'm looking for advice on how to avoid audibly reacting to things. i'm such a fucking autist that i basically have to comment on something interesting that i see, even if i'm just talking to myself.

thoughts?

(yes i know phone filename but im too lazy to get out of bed and go to my computer)

just threw away the truckload of gabapentin and eszopiclone (never done either, ive never even touched GABA drugs before) i bought into a dumpster… i impulse bought it after a fit of sleeplessness and after having a horrible day today i debated with myself for hours whether to just ruin my life with it but i ended up tossing it all. im silent crying to myself in the mcdonalds parking lot right now. hows your night been going anons

hi uboachan

this is a thought i have often, do you consider yourself human?? i dont think i consider myself human in the traditional dictionary meaning of the word HUMAN

i dont know if its the lack of proper communication with others or just the loneliness of being "locked down" voluntarily (if that even makes sense)

do locking yourself up for i dont know, more than a year makes you less human? and if it does, would that be a good thing? maybe this is a stupid question but im curious, do you feel a sense of false superiority to others??


is feeling superior after long periods of time alone and the lack of personal in depth communication with others bad or good for you??

I'm living a nightmare scenario that's often proposed to neet/hiki "what would you do if your caregiver gets sick?" well, this is what has happened to me and i don't know how much time i have left, but i refuse to work, my aunt i could stay with her for a while. Not sure if my stepdad will still take care of me, he said he would, but you never know.
For the time being, I'm trying to enjoy myself in any way i can until things get worse, sucks because i have no other family. fuck it.