/hikki/ - NEET / Advice

Trans Mega Thread!

So, let's try something here.

Frequently a trans-related topic comes up in a thread here in /hikki/, and the thread will quickly get derailed by malicious comments or by the diversion in topic just taking over. There is clearly a lot of interest in discussing trans topics, as well as a lot of unwelcome interest in shutting them down. But they do tend to take over threads either way. So, while we figure out how to handle this from a moderation standpoint, I am going to make a trans discussion mega thread here to contain such conversations. This might end up being permanent. If you find that a thread makes you want to discuss a trans-related topic, make a post here instead.

Rules 6 and 7 are strictly enforced in this thread, and violations will result in longer bans. However, uncomfortable questions are also allowed within reason.

Also if a trans topic starts to derail a thread from now on we may delete those posts.

Also Sei is trans. So I might make some posts in here as well.

Update 11/04/2024: When the conversation in the trans thread veers into whether transness is even a thing that exists, that will be considered an attempt at derailment. This thread isn't for you. It is specifically a containment thread for people who want to talk about transness from the starting assumption that the topic itself and the kind of identity it discusses is valid. Please keep that in mind.

From now on, the >>>/rec/ board should generally be used for conversations about recovery from NEETism. This is not a hard rule but you are likely to have a better experience.

Seeing as absolutely everyone misread the /hikki/ rules sticky and used it to draw apocalyptic conclusions about the death of all that was good about /n/, here's a less flippant sticky with less room for ambiguity, in the form of a Q&A. We've also made some concessions based on your feedback in thread >>13, which was moved to /sugg/ for being meta.

What is allowed on this board? What is its purpose?
On this board you can discuss and request or give advice regarding NEETism, Hikikomoriism, anxieties and social or mental issues arising from these conditions of living, and things closely related to these topics. If you're content with being a NEET at this stage in your life, that's ok, and you won't get in trouble for saying so. The board's primary focus is self-help and advice regarding these issues. Despite rumors, threads looking for help with suicidal feelings or drug addition are also allowed.

What is not allowed on this board?
* Encouraging others to become NEET.
* Attacking or discouraging others for being NEET.
* Giving or requesting advice on how to enter the NEET lifestyle.
* Encouraging or showcasing drug usage.
* Announcing your planned suicide.
* Helping others to plan or commit suicide.
* Topics not related to the purpose of the board. Such topics will be moved.
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Do things just get better? I feel like my entire life has been some kind of transitionary period. I've always just been waiting for the next thing to happen, the next house, the next open room, the next apartment, the next space. I genuinely feel like I have no concept of setting down and feeling secure. I also just feel like I'm at the complete whims of my family, they tell me what I have to do, they expect me to do this, go to college, get a good job, they expect me to get married and have kids for them. I haven't even felt happy first. I just want to live for myself, if I can't be on my own, I don't want to even live at all.

I've felt so dejected from drawing at all. I've just kinda ran away from my friends online, I can't seem to do anything.

Please tell me that some of you guys feel the same way, because I have no idea what to do.

I was thinking of getting a new start in life and actually being happy so im thinking of moving to russia i have some money saved up should i do it?

does anyone have any advice on not talking? like, on how to just not speak? i know everyone dislikes when i talk, and joker persona 5 is pretty cool, so is there a simple way i can just not talk without people thinking there's something wrong? also, i'm looking for advice on how to avoid audibly reacting to things. i'm such a fucking autist that i basically have to comment on something interesting that i see, even if i'm just talking to myself.

thoughts?

(yes i know phone filename but im too lazy to get out of bed and go to my computer)

Does anyone else feel like they've been NEETbrained for essentially all of their life? Even in elementary school, I could never see myself going to college, because I hated school too much (I have ADHD and autism), and when I was in middle school, my plan was to mooch off my family until they die (my family consisted of two people who could have taken care of me), then either:

1. Mooch off friends (I didn't want to do that because even I am capable of basic guilt, but seeing as my family brought me into this world and fucked me up, I felt like I was owed them taking care of me).I have no friends now. I don't leave the house unless to help my mom with groceries, which is a shame because today was actually the perfect weather to relax in it :( but I don't really have lawn chairs etc.
2. Go to jail/prison for the rest of my life. Considering the type of people who end up there, how guards treat you, and what actions would even have to lead me there, no.
3. Go to a mental hospital for the rest of my life. I have been in them before. After the adjustment period, they're actually really nice. I remember being in one of those blue gowns and looking at myself in the mirror and feeling like that was the only place for me.

So yeah. I don't relate to the common NEET's life that went something like:
>be me
>exists
>naturally develop career-based dreams
>go to college for them (outside of NEETs who dropped out of high school, but a lot seemed to go to college)
>fail college or graduate (I'm surprised (and impressed) by the amount of NEETs who went to college, even if they never graduated)
>somehow failed in the workforce, probably due to social awkwardness and not being able to social network or have coworkers like them, idk

My life was more like being overwhelmed with the idea of growing up since I was 11-12 and never being able to cope with the growing accountability, responsibility, and independence, which led me to become suicidal so I never really SERIOUSLY planned for the future. I mean I did plan for the mooching/jail/mental hospital thing, but I genuinely just expected (and hoped) to be dead before 18. Now that I'm out of school, I am not actively suicidal, but… empty? Like I want something that doesn't exist. Purpose, Post too long. Click here to view the full text.

what do you do when you are depressed?

OP cries under the bed

This chan is unfortunately dead and lonely. Is there another altchan somewhere (preferably for hikkis/NEETs or at least has a decent culture for them) that is active?

I feel like I can't leave home by myself. I would not assume that I am a hikikomori neither any type of neet, since I went outside mostly 2-3 times a month. I feel embarassed and damned myself so many times. I feel like I want, but also can't. When I notice I've woke up at a rainy day, I would feel glad because I'm allowed to skip going outside, and that the world itself seems to have compassion with me, as if the only mutual feeling I can have with everyone else is sadness, laments etc etc.

I realized my postponer nature keeps my tracks off.

It looks like they eventually will discover something darker, yet darker, about me that even I don't know what is that could even repel an loved one from me. I struggle with this kind of problems every since now and then, I guess 4 years.

I also have a pretty strange relationship with my parents, and even at most conversations with my friends. I feel like none of them true knows me, as according to myself, I tend to cover myself from everything because I will lost my high ground of being a true neutral person. I wonder how would come of they seeing me as someone academically or professionaly.

Thanks for reading. I guess my truly wish is to be alone. My real wish is to explore an new world and new people without anyone who ever met me before. But I know this is dangerous, and I will only apply it on my works, if it does even helps at all. I fear what will become of me, so I must finish the things that'll put my true self sign to the world. As my physical self, let's see how things will follow. Should I care less about the others? How should I behave in front of strangers? Who am I? Don't know if anyone has these answers. Actually I won't ever feel satiated with any words, but advices and opinions, or any good comments are always welcome.

I want to go out alone. I want to treat my dog, people and things better, and I want, become a wonderful person, as the world is full of them. You should also. Do something. Let's all appreciate other's efforts to exist.

My closest people only spill more water in boiling oil confirming that this more likely to be true. I don't want to hear about me being lonely forever nor being a failure. It gets worse.
>got only irl friend that holds me from committing
>only reason to get out from bed is to hangout with him
>he will leave to study in europe and live with his partner
>i stopped attending university
>parents upset and mad and on edge to throw me out (they payed for my education)
>my depression progresses to its limit
>unemployed (no one answered on my application forms)
>no finances to get professional help
>doom