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 No.1715[Reply]

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If any of you remember a place called the clubhouse, the asylum, or the parlor, the one year anniversary is tomorrow so please come back to us old friends and have fun.

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Seeing as absolutely everyone misread the /hikki/ rules sticky and used it to draw apocalyptic conclusions about the death of all that was good about /n/, here's a less flippant sticky with less room for ambiguity, in the form of a Q&A. We've also made some concessions based on your feedback in thread >>13, which was moved to /sugg/ for being meta.

What is allowed on this board? What is its purpose?
On this board you can discuss and request or give advice regarding NEETism, Hikikomoriism, anxieties and social or mental issues arising from these conditions of living, and things closely related to these topics. If you're content with being a NEET at this stage in your life, that's ok, and you won't get in trouble for saying so. The board's primary focus is self-help and advice regarding these issues, and particularly help in escaping the NEET lifestyle, but this focus is not exclusive. Despite rumors, threads looking for help with suicidal feelings or drug addition are also allowed.

What is not allowed on this board?
* Encouraging others to become NEET.
* Attacking or discouraging others for being NEET.
* Giving or requesting advice on how to enter the NEET lifestyle.
* Encouraging or showcasing drug usage.
* Announcing your planned suicide. Call a hotline or something just don't do it here or it becomes my legal responsibility.
* Helping others to plan or commit suicide.
* Topics not related to the purpose of the board. Such topics will be moved.
* Intentionally breaking these rules or the global rules will still result in a warning or ban.
* Rule 6 is enforced more liberally on /hikki/. Users may be banned from /hikki/ for inflammatory remarks in cases which might not result in a ban on other boards.
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 No.3736[Reply]

So I've been a hikki NEET since May 2015 or so, but that's gonna change in about 3 weeks.


I know 2 years isn't that much compared to most of you guys, but I'm scared. My already mediocre social skills have probably taken a hit since then, so I don't know how will I react around people etc.

These 2 years have been fun in the end, even though I've hardly done anything relevant at all. But now's time to be a member of society again and I'm not sure I can handle it.

I'll be studying software engineering if anyone's interested.

Has anyone here gone through something similar?
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 No.3861

yes I did a technical vocational high school while learning a trade. This allows me to enter technical colleges but not universities. For universities I would have to go to a special school for another year.

 No.3862

>>3861
Why didn't you just go to a regular high school? Seems like a poor decision on your parents part.

 No.3863

>>3862
That's not helpful. Like, at all.

 No.3865

>>3861
And what's stopping that?

 No.3867

>>3865
It would mean that I would be away from my learned profession for another 1+4 years. Nobody will employ you again after beeing away so many years. I had my chance and I fucked it up



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 No.2758[Reply][Last 50 Posts]

I used to post here before but stopped after living a normal lifestyle, for a while atleast. I got fired and I've been jobless for like months now. My previous motivation to work on my personal projects and illustrations have all since diminished. I feel only apathy when playing games or watching stuff like I used to enjoy. Nowadays I just constantly press f5 on various image boards to pass time and listen to songs I've heard countless of times before already. Then I remembered this place and feel like I should share this here.

Please feel free to share your current situation here so we can feel alone togehter or some gay shit.
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 No.3853

>>3846
>being a naturally social person in an environment like this is extremely hard
>i really want to join a frat
You must have had some kind of mental break-down. Anyway, this is what I like to call toxic extroversion. When somebody who is incapable of functioning without the continuous validation and attention of others is deprived of those necessities due to poor social skills it mutilates and twists that persons personality until they become a deranged, hollow shell of themselves. Being a shadow of yourself must really suck. Introvert master race #1.

 No.3854

>>3853
>thinking with only one brain
introverts are plebs

 No.3855

>>3854
Better than being an ant.

 No.3858

Looking good so far. When I last left this place two years ago, I was working at the assembly line for minimum wage. During that time, I quit and after a while landed a nice and surprisingly well-paid job. I never thought I could get such a job as a college dropout. No complaints here. My social skills are shot, but talking to coworkers gives me opportunities to practice.

For the first time ever I have a job that I don't dislike. That's great. Now I think that I could do more with my free time, because I usually spend it in the most passive/unproductive way imaginable: watching videos on YouTube, lurking on image boards, playing video games, etc. all day long. It's a very difficult problem for me to solve right now, with unclear goals and methods.

 No.3864

>>3858
What kind of job did you find that actually pays decently?



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 No.3788[Reply]

>Been a hikikomori for 11 years
>Been trying to recover for about 2 years now
>Failing
>I feel like i want to die

I fucking hate my life can anyone relate??.
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 No.3831

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>>3829
>First of all anon, you have shit parents. Whatever affection you have for them is totally undeserved


Okay true but but maybe i'm not a sociopath.


>dont be an Elliot



What does that have to do with anything??.


>There is no such thing as a perfect society because people are imperfect. Whatever grievances you have with society shouldn't get in the way of you being a well-adjusted person. Living a normalfag lifestyle does not make you a schmuck, it makes you functional. If you can't accept society, then live in the woods


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 No.3833

>>3832

Was there a thread like this on here before??.

 No.3834

>>3826
Maybe you do, maybe you don't. Sometimes it's more comfortable taking the easy route even though the easy route makes you feel like shit. Your half-hearted attempts at change would indicate this.
I understand the feeling, making changes when you've been living like this for 11 years isn't easy, and that's precisely why you need a big change to get the ball rolling. Anxiety attacks or whatever is just something you will have to accept at first, but it'll get better with time.

 No.3835

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>>3828
Whether you believe what I'm saying is up to you, but here's my take on it, which I'm sharing because I can relate to you on the bullying and weird kinks/fetishes/double life bit.

As already said, a functioning adult worth their salt at worst are just going to rib you a little. As long as you can take the banter and understand that most adults aren't going to bully you to the point of feeling excluded then you'll be fine in most workplaces and just everyday life like shopping for food or going to the movies. That's the reason why I pointed out that the adult world is nothing like school. Because it isn't. I have an annoying stutter at times and only the shittiest people actually mock me for it. I tend to be awkward as well and people don't bully me for that either.

Most people will put in the work to be respectful, understanding, and tolerant. All you have to do is put in the work to be the same of them.

As far as weird fetishes, attractions, etc, why is it anyone's business but yours? I fap to futas, monster girls, and girls sticking their fingers/tongue in foreskin and yet, this never has to come up in normal conversations. I don't just talk about my obsession with sex toys for that matter either. And knowing how people are, I just assume people have weird kinks and hobbies too. Maybe my manager at work is really into scat play but if he does, he does a good job at hiding it.

Only people I see who get rejected are those who too proudly discuss their more TMI parts of themselves to anyone. I work with such a person, she just told me about how she loves gay guys making out and how she's an asexual, and how she loves the NSFW nature of the Undertale fandom, and once announced that she had to shove a tampon up her snatch.

I don't know, I know you said that you don't like being a pedophile, but just don't make your kinks/sexual attractions into your identity? Just don't be that guy in pic related.



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 No.3744[Reply]

How do you think male and female neets are perceived differently by society? This can apply to normies' perception, employers perception, authority figure's(government) perception, parent perception, and the perception of the opposite sex to the neet. Also, why do you think these differences exist? What is the basis for any of it? I feel like this discussion was a long time coming and I'm really interested in do seeing what people have to say about it.
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 No.3805

>>3804
Where did you pretend to be the opposite gender? Please share pics.

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 No.3810

>>3809
I guess you're full of shit then.

 No.3811

>>3810
and you're just looking to start a fight

 No.3813

>>3811
You can't expect anybody to believe you without pics. What are trying to do? Contribute? Well, you're not.(USER WAS WARNED FOR THIS POST)



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 No.3778[Reply]

Why are people proud of being neet? Why do they boast about being neet?

I've been neet for 7 years and have never been proud of it or thought it was worth telling others about.
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 No.3798

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>>3779
>Because japanese otaku media keeps on glorifying NEET image.


Not really being a NEET or Hikikomori in Japan means you are the lowest of the low to society also anime like Welcome To The NHK encourage NEETS and hikkis to come out and make something of themselves.

 No.3799

>>3798
Only anime in recent times I actually remember that even came close to glorifying NEETs and hikkis was No Game No Life. Yea, Japanese culture is pretty big on conformity and image, and even anime that big otaku enjoy seem to paint NEETs and general outcasts in a pretty negative light. There was that whole chunnibyou fad too, where the bulk of the jokes where, "LOL, this person is an aspie dumbass!!"

And maybe since we don't really have a perspective from a native Japanese NEET, at best we just have the opinion of weeaboo NEETs who decided to worship a culture that would shun them for being different. American culture for whatever reason seems to eat up stories about outcasts and weirdos being the underdog and succeeding. Not saying Japan doesn't have those too, however.

 No.3802

>>37
>chunnibyou
I watched the first season of that and kind of liked it, but the ending pissed me off so much. Didn't even bother with the second season after reading reviews of it.

 No.3803

>>3802
Yes, the ending to that anime's first season was really laughable. I mean, really? You could just make it a good light hearted comedy about "that girl" but no, you just had to give her some retarded backstory.

And you'd think once she got over her issues she'd at least go back to being a normal girl without the autistic shit which would have been okay but NOPE, gotta keep that status quo, yo.

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>>3803
The thing that pissed me off the most was the old man's speech at the end as the mcs rode a bike into the distance about how acting autistic isn't so bad or some shit. The same guy gave a speech at the beginning of the show about how important it is to abandon middle school obsessions and move one so you can be a complete person. The whole show was building up to how obsessing over a delusion like that is unhealthy and people just do it to fill a void in their hearts. I was getting psyched to see the characters gradually facing reality more and more and progressing forward. It was a little like NHK. I was getting pumped up from the seeing the illusion be shattered. That ending speech was the show spitting in my face.
>https://youtu.be/TS16paeUYOM?t=103
>Watching this for the first time
>"Indeed, we carry eighth-grader syndrome throughout all of our lives
>…wut
>Read what season two is about…
>contemplates stabbing self in stomach



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 No.3792[Reply]

Hello Neet, I am or was Neet. I have always had a social anxiety since school and I still hate going out, but have learned to overcome that and can actually socialize enough to get around and can even enjoy meeting new people. I love the Neet lifestyle, even if I don't intend to totally isolate myself from friends or family. To me the Neet lifestyle is being able to live my life without social obligations and needing to work all my time away while then just doing drugs and shit inbetween shifts because I am either too tired to do anything or just have a few free hours a day. This leave me, just as it does many other, with just the weekends to do anything, to be myself and to relax and unwind. In fact I am not as productive as I wish I was on my days off because I need to rest from working all week. So even when I am not working, my full time job interferes with my personal life.
So now what I want to know is how anyone here gets by financially without depending on family or others. My family will not support me and mooching off friends can only go so far before they get sick of your shit. I can stand working part time, but not full. In fact I hate part time too, but at-least I get some of my time back, but that still means I need to make more per hour to make up for working less. Either that or I need to make income aside from that job.
I really don't make much as it is at my job. Just over minimum wage. So I can make the same wage doing practically anything, with more benefits depending on where I go. If I worked part time then I would make half my current income and would only need to supplement it a few hundred dollars a month to have the same revenue that I currently have.
Now ideas I have had start with
A. working extra hard while I save some money. This isn't a long term thing as I hate working. I could get a job as a call center rep part time and work weekends. I just want to save some money for a camper van and for a certificate program in my states marijuana industry. I would preferably use it to work for myself, but with the mega corporations already opening up I can't imagine that would be to doable. Aside from consulting work for home ops.
B. Sell on ebay. I am looking at some products that I can get in bulk to sell as supplies and materials for various projects. IDK how well they truly sell and will check the recently sold on ebay before committing. Aside from that I would resell things that I know can be flipped like popuPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

 No.3793

>crypto
I would rather say daytrading. WIth mining you will earn nothing but daytrading is the thing to do if you live in a jurisdiction with no capital gains tax. The volatility is giantic and you basically just have to bad news, then buy, then wait until it goes up and sell on the peaks. If you did this from January until now, you would have made shittons of cash.

Mining will not give you much profit in most cases. You would basically need cheap electricity (China) or free cooling (Greenland) for your server farms.

 No.3794

Interesting. I have thought of trading, but am clueless on it. I just read through here https://www.thebalance.com/day-trading-4074032. I think it is a viable option, but I know I will need to take my time understanding the market and testing strategies. And it would appear that forex is the cheapest market to get started on. Definitely going to look more into this.

 No.3795

>internet surveys while you're NEETing

1) botnet
2) GNU/Linux
3) Autism
4) Don't mix your love and your work. If you start letting that encroach on your NEETing, kiss your enjoyment of it goodbye, as it will always be in the back of your head. Though I work full time, I put in my hours, and I drop it like a fucking rock - at home I don't think about work until my alarm is getting me up the next day, and that makes my time at home much more enjoyable. Just my two pence.

 No.3800

To make any money with cryptocurrency you'd need to basically set up an entire server farm, and even then good luck maintaining more income over electricity costs. The only quick riches from that were those who dived into bitcoin really early on.

If you're in the US, do recall that pot is still illegal at the federal level. Risky business, that.



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 No.3641[Reply]

Feeling suicidal right now. I have what my doctor calls major clinical depression and I also have some drug addiction. I've been living the neet life this year because I dropped out of school to be on medication. I feel like I'm only going to college in the first place so people don't yell at me.
I don't think I've posted here in years. I'm a wreck right now because one of my friends who has used this site from time to time died of drug overdose recently.
None of my friends seem to like me anymore and everyone I've cared about seems to hate me now. I have no motivation. I feel dead inside. All I want is to not be alone but I can't seem to alleviate that.
I've just been sitting here listening to sad piano music crying for an hour or so. I don't know what to do.
I'm a giant waste of potential no one cares about and I'm only getting older from here.
I can't function without antidepressants anymore. Nonstop suicidal thoughts all day everyday. I got back on them this week because I was going crazy again. I live in constant fear that I'm just going to snap one day. When I'm off my meds I have impulses to kill myself and my brain tells me exactly how to do it. It bothers me that I could end my life in less than a minute at all times.
I really don't know what to do.
I'm probaby never going to kill myself I'm just stuck in a constant state of my mind telling me to.
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 No.3774

>>3769
>spending five minutes to try to give advice to somebody who wont stop bitching
>sabotaging themselves
I'm not significantly emotionally affected by online threads. I'm capable of being emotional about something trivial in the short term, without it affecting my actual life in any way what so ever. That's part of being a well-adjusted human being.

 No.3775

>>3774
You don't care because you don't suffer from major clinical depression. This thread became a science experiment for me to analyze where I'm overthinking things due to depression. I achieved this by posting in this thread when I would suffer from a depressive episode and attempted to analyze the posts I made.

This thread doesn't reflect the person who I am at this moment very well and finding a way to explain that was a bit out of my grasp until now.

This thread is also statistical evidence for reminding me of why I hate talking on the internet for more than one sentence exchanging at a time.

 No.3776

>>3775
A scientific experiment usually has a control. Any who, using people for an experiment unwittingly is a bit unethical, no? You weren't coming into this actually wanting advice, so you basically just wasted a bunch of people's time. Something cannot, "become a scientific experiment". That's what it was the whole time. Maybe you would be less depressed if you stopped insisting on hating people so much? What does that have to do with depression?

 No.3777

>>3776
I posted here sad and than in the very next post I made I made it clear I realized what had happened to me and that I was going to reflect on my behavior. My only regret is not being clear headed on what I was doing until now. If you feel like your volunteered time is wasted it seems like more your issue. I feel like if read properly there is a lot to learn about depression, the human psyche and existence, brought to the front of our minds for discussion.

After thinking things out I don't think people hate me and I don't really hate anyone else. I feel like we are suffering from a cosmic chain of karma where one person is poorly reacting to another person poorly reacting to something else over and over. I seek the truth a lot of the time in order to see things like this.
I don't hate people, I just get overwhelmed a lot. I'm pushing my thoughts in places like this imageboard post in order to uncover the truth about how I really feel and use what I learn from exploring to better myself. A long time ago is that if you don't put any attempt into nurturing your emotions it is going to slowly hurt you as a human being.
Anyway, I have a therapist and they are actively working with me to realize where depression has damaged my thinking patterns and self image. I feel embarrassed to be putting the worst possible version of myself in plain view to be quite frank. If you feel angered as an anonymous blip of energy by this thread I don't know what else to tell you.

 No.3786

>>3777
op here
man i'm a dick
I realize now my spirit has been very hostile to people lately. I just don't know how to work up the courage to turn that part of me off anymore. I'm really afraid of being taken advantage of again.



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 No.3750[Reply]

Why is life so hellish when you're not socially adjusted enough for the standards of others?
I'm constantly mistreated and looked down upon for even making the slightest signs of nervousness. It sucks.
Makes me want to halt all potential progress of becoming more in tone with society and revert back to my NEET lifestyle.
Because it's shelter from the hideous personalities the general population tends to have towards someone who comes off as distinct in whichever terms. I'm getting tremendously sick of it..only been a few months since I've stopped being a shut-in. But surrounding myself with this type of hostile environment every single day encourages me that this attempt to adjust is ultimately not worth it. I don't know what to do anymore.
The world is truly a cruel place. I'm not cut out for it.
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 No.3754

>>3753
you say say you don't see how it matters but then go on to say that they should get a psychologist/therapist? what gives? anyway OP I was bullied a lot in school thought I traveled a bit, ended up in 16 different schools, got bullied at boarding school 24/7 practically, abused mentally and psychically, this was four years ago now? I ended up spending like 10 months off school bed ridden :D either way you gotta see someone about this, like I would really recommend it from someone who has been in a similar situation
>>3753

 No.3760

>>3750
just wanted to say that I like this pic

 No.3761

>>3760
Sex! God! Sex!

 No.3784

>>3753
Goddamn Anon, stop talking.
>>3754
Well if you seek professional help i.e. psychology then I'd rather not. It never worked out. I've realized it's a waste of both money and time. Expensive as it is as well. I'm okay by myself. Just need to find an alternative when it comes to interacting with my outside surroundings. I get frightened very easily by the slightest disturbances presented to me. Overwhelmed not to mention. I wish I could shut myself off but that's not possible. I don't know how to open a pathway to trusting those around me. Shit's fucked up.

 No.3785

>Why is life so hellish when you're not socially adjusted enough for the standards of others?
Life is hellish regardless of how you are, unless you're rich and independent.



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