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News Post: I am Retiring.

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 No.9392

Do things just get better? I feel like my entire life has been some kind of transitionary period. I've always just been waiting for the next thing to happen, the next house, the next open room, the next apartment, the next space. I genuinely feel like I have no concept of setting down and feeling secure. I also just feel like I'm at the complete whims of my family, they tell me what I have to do, they expect me to do this, go to college, get a good job, they expect me to get married and have kids for them. I haven't even felt happy first. I just want to live for myself, if I can't be on my own, I don't want to even live at all.

I've felt so dejected from drawing at all. I've just kinda ran away from my friends online, I can't seem to do anything.

Please tell me that some of you guys feel the same way, because I have no idea what to do.

 No.9393

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not really, but things do get easier to deal with so kinda.

 No.9394

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It's the opposite for me, in a weird way. My family has absolutely zero expectations. I'm not getting anything done because there's no pressure for me to do so. I can't care about getting a driver's license, can't care about getting married or settling down. I don't wanna do things purely for myself either because I have very few internal needs. I'm afraid to want anything anymore as it will just end in bitter disappointment.

What's the endgame?

 No.9411

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>>9394
What's the endgame? Learning languages, reading textbooks and driver's handbooks, accumulating all of the knowledge you can get your hands on while never actually putting it to any use or going to college/applying for a job, because the only way you can stave off self-loathing is by putting up a front of self-improvement.

 No.9412

>>9411
>accumulating all of the knowledge you can get your hands on while never actually putting it to any use
That's completely dependent on what you want to learn. Yes, if you devote your life to learning one of those new-age hobby languages that no one actually speaks and accumulating knowledge about obscure videogames no one actually plays then there's a very low chance that you'll ever get to use that knowledge in any practical way. That being said, even the people who are like this still manage to be fulfilled by these hobbies because they enjoy them. And I guess that's fundamentally what things like this fundamentally come down to; you need some kind of reward. If you're learning a new language, you should want to use it, if you want to exercise you should want to use your healthy body in some way, if you're learning a skill you should want to apply it. I'm saying "want" instead of "do" because believe it or not, once you know a language, have a grasp on a practical skill, or have an established exercise routine, the doing just comes naturally to you. Eating the carrot is easy, chasing it is infinitely harder.
>or going to college/applying for a job, because the only way you can stave off self-loathing is by putting up a front of self-improvement.
Jobs are a spook, I would know because I'm employed. You just need something that gets you enough cash to live comfortably and buy things you want once in a while. You should also spend as little time working as you can, unless you enjoy your job or use it as a way to lose weight. That's about all they're good for.
College is a mixed bag. I hated it so much I'd rather work in a loud, dusty warehouse where it gets to 40°C in the summer and -15°C in the winter, but that's just because I let my parents choose a college for me instead of just picking what I wanted. I'm sure you can figure out the right school for you once you find something you're good at and/or enjoy doing. Colleges are also great for making friends, at least compared to jobs, so there's that.
>putting up a front of self-improvement
This part especially made me a bit hot under the collar and made me reply even though I'm a terminal lurker who only posted here once before. There's no such thing as a "front" when it comes to self improvement, that's retarded and you know better than that even if you(and admittedly, sometimes me aswell) feel this way. If you're doing it, it's helping. You can only put up a front of self improvement if you're lying about doing it. If you write every day, your handwriting will improve and your hand will become more dexterous. If you start exercising every day, you'll become stronger and you'll have more stamina. If you decide to learn a language or do math problems every day, your brain will become sharper. As long as you stick to it and do it as often as you can without burning out, you will become a better person. It just works, but you'll need to actually do it first.

 No.9413

>>9412
You're right, especially on that last point. I was just feeling like garbage last night. There's something about doing all this work without even having a job that has started to bother me. It didn't used to before, but hey. I stopped feeling like it's appropriate for me to just live one day at a time anymore. I often think about how I'm definitely going to be homeless in the future if I keep this up, but right now my life is too comfortable for me to make any massive changes in it. I know, tale as old as time. Honestly, I think what I really need is to make friends again. Years ago I ghosted everyone I knew online and I've never been able to recover the communication skills I'd built up, as poor as they were.
>That's completely dependent on what you want to learn.
Yeah, I've been learning Spanish and Japanese. I don't disagree with you, but even if I see a bunch of Spanish on the internet, it feels so worthless knowing how many native speakers there are in the US. Whoopity doo, the white guy can… understand Spanish. I like the language and that's it. That used to be enough for me. Again, a problem that would probably be solved if I found friends to use it with.
>You just need something that gets you enough cash to live comfortably and buy things you want once in a while.
As someone who has never worked before, I likely have an unrealistic understanding of it, but I can't imagine I'd be able to get a job that'd allow me to live comfortably. If I got a job now, my life would actually become less comfortable. Which makes it clear how retarded it is for me to be whining about anything at all.
>College
Lately I've been feeling like I just want to get a BA, make some friends, and then get out. As if that'd somehow be the ticket to fixing my life.

 No.9422

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>>9413
> I was just feeling like garbage last night. There's something about doing all this work without even having a job that has started to bother me.
I know that feeling all too well. ;_; I often feel like that when it comes to self-improvement, _especially_ with anything that required me to use my brain. I'd like to start learning German again or maybe some Baltic language for the memes, but the thought of having to use my brain for something that doesn't give me immediate dopamine reward just puts me in a daze.
> I often think about how I'm definitely going to be homeless in the future if I keep this up, but right now my life is too comfortable for me to make any massive changes in it. I know, tale as old as time. Honestly, I think what I really need is to make friends again.
Definitely. There's no greater motivator to improve oneself than other people. Whether it's support or scorn, the people around you can change you into a completely different person in a very short amount of time. I would recommend finding a buddy you could "compete" with to see who can improve themselves the most within a certain amount of time. Set goals, compare results, support each other, etc.. The people who tell you that you should just do it for yourself are either egoists or liars; it's infinitely easier to work for the sake of someone else than it is for yourself.
>Years ago I ghosted everyone I knew online and I've never been able to recover the communication skills I'd built up, as poor as they were.
Me too anon, me too (;x;). Ever since I had my six month depressive episode I've just not felt the same. It feels like a part of me was permanently extinguished, like I've had the creative juice squeezed out of me. But I think we can both recover from it if we earnestly try to.
>it feels so worthless knowing how many native speakers there are in the US. I like the language and that's it. That used to be enough for me.
Is there any chance you could afford to visit Spain or one of it's former colonies anytime soon? That might be a great motivator, even if the flights are unreasonably expensive.
>As someone who has never worked before, I likely have an unrealistic understanding of it, but I can't imagine I'd be able to get a job that'd allow me to live comfortably. If I got a job now, my life would actually become less comfortable. Which makes it clear how retarded it is for me to be whining about anything at all.
No, you're right. Getting a job would definitely make your life less comfortable. But the thing is, you need to start working if you want to have a comfortable job in the future. For now, if I were you I would start by looking at job listings every day, applying for anything interesting, and maybe getting a part-time job to do on the weekends. It doesn't have to be anything fancy, just something to let you save cash for when you need it.
>Lately I've been feeling like I just want to get a BA, make some friends, and then get out. As if that'd somehow be the ticket to fixing my life.
I'm not sure about the ticket part but if you can get a degree for cheap you should do it. As long as you can pay off the loan in a reasonable amount of time, there are no downsides.

 No.9426

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I wanna say thanks, these replies helped me think. I think self-actualization is my number one need. I love to draw, friends are so easy to make and relate to when I do. So, I want to be the best artist I can. It kinda fills out the whole pyramid of needs stuff in my life. Something like that gives you purpose to go on y'know?

School and work is no issue for me, it's the problem of actually continuing to go on, day after day… for what reason? Just to do it again and again. I understand how people do it, how people live. They have purpose and friends. If I think I'm deserving of having those things, I understand that I have to work for it. Some people have it easier than others, but when people see my art, and like what I do. I instantly feel like a person again.

After ghosting my friends and not posting anything for months, I moved to Newgrounds. Man, it's so nice to see people like the stuff you make again. It doesn't feel like I lost anything.

Thank you for your experiences, when I see other artists who are more successful than me, I kinda just, get upset and lose faith in myself. Even though I go in and out of believing myself, trying to improve my art and who I am. My art skills never fade when I get sad, they never go away when I'm not "feeling it". I wanna be an artist, I wanna be loved…

Aww man, I love you guys…!! Anyways, you should check out this artist called NokoJuice! Seeing their art again on Danbooru, I remember how good of a friend they are. They never stopped supporting me and wishing me the best. I feel confident again.



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