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 No.5733[Reply]

i've never really been accustomed to normal conversation, and i suppose that's why what happened today happened. i was talking to one of my few friends and she sent me a website saying that it was her least favorite site. it was this page where AI makes images of people who don't actually exist, and i asked why didn't she like it, and she began to rant about how i always ask such questions, meaningless inquiries that add nothing to conversation, and i just felt like shit… she told me to stop acting like i didn't understand anything because she "knows i do." i didn't understand why she would hate that website, that's why i asked her. now we're at odds. it'll resolve soon, i'm sure, but i just feel like i did something wrong. i've always done this, and people always seem to get weary, even though i'm asking genuine questions. i feel like i'm trying to be kept down, but i don't want to be.

i just wanted to ask a question.
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 No.5806

>>5804
First you start throwing this "incel" crap for a post that has nothing to do with sexuality/romantic relationships, then in the end, you come to pretty much the same conclusion as the aforementioned post…

 No.5808

>>5806
you are deeply disturbed w

 No.5809

>>5808

Could be. To me, the story goes as follows:

-OP has a conversation with their "friend"

-Said friend brings up a ceratin (otherwise tame and non-controversial) website, expressing her dislike for it

-OP has a different opinion, so asks her to elaborate

-"Friend" gets triggered and insults OP

Unless you are white knighting because the "friend" in quesstion happens to be female, or you have been succesfully gaslighted for years, it should be clear that for this "friend", OP was never a real friend. They were merely a utility of reassurance and emotional comfort to her. OP made the unthinkable mistake of having (and expressing) a different opinion, so they had to be taught a lesson.

If you think that this was all OP's fault, and it is perfectly fine to throw a fit and insult a supposed friend over an AI, then I don't know what to say.

 No.5813


 No.5910

OP here. all has been resolved. thanks for all of your input, some of it did help. me and her are on good terms now.



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 No.5777[Reply]

Dear /hikki/

I wouldn't call myself a NEET since I have a job and go to college, but a lot of my friends from school don't really talk to me anymore, and I live in a small southern town where I don't really fit in. The only thing that really keeps me from feeling empty is a close long distance friend I've had for about 3 years now. She's gone to bed for tonight, so while browsing the web I came across this forum.

I looked at this board and I almost cried… I say almost because it's hard for me to cry anymore. A board of people, lonesome and in pain like she is, and at times like I am.

I know my words may be meaningless Hallmark nonsense you've heard a million times, but please keep trying. Keep trying to make friends. Keep trying to find your meaning in this otherwise meaningless existence, and find freedom in knowing it's meaning is for you to decide. Maybe I have no business posting here but my heart is telling me to reach out. Each and every one of you has potential to be something. I know it's hard, but try to find joy in every little victory. If you ask a girl out and get rejected, acknowledge your bravery. If you go for an interview and fail, correct what you did wrong and double down on what you know you did right. I'm just rambling now, and maybe I have no business commenting on your troubles, but it pains me to see lost souls with nowhere to turn, because I know how it feels. Please, if just one person hears me out, please try to have hope again. If anyone here needs someone to text to I've created a Discord account. Contact me at ApolloSanshiro #1110 on Discord.

Going to bed now. I'll check as soon as I can to see if anyone here has sent a friend request.

Best wishes to everyone,
ApolloSanshiro

DISCLAIMER: I'm not a qualified professional and I'm NOT substitute for a Suicide hotline or psychiatric professional. Please don't announce a planned suicide to me as I can't afford any legal liability.
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 No.5795

I didn't go in with the mindset of a "leader", so I'm sorry if I came off that way. I mainly used a name because that's the name I chose to use for my Discord account, so using the default "anonymous" seemed kind of pointless this time. I just thought that if I made an earnest attempt to reach out, someone might give me a chance to be there for them, since that's what I wanted during a very troubled and lonely time in my life. I realize now that I acted too hastily in a community and culture I don't fully understand yet, I'm happy I made the attempt anyway, and I have no intention of giving up, but I'll be sure to think my actions through more from now on. Thanks again for you support and advice.

I do intend to return to 4Chan like boards from time to time, as I've enjoyed my time here so far. Any advice for how I should conduct myself? I've only occasionally posted on 4Chan from time to time and done a little lurking.

 No.5898

>>5795

> I do intend to return to 4Chan like boards from time to time, as I've enjoyed my time here so far. Any advice for how I should conduct myself? I've only occasionally posted on 4Chan from time to time and done a little lurking.


Lurk more and understand that boards like this are pretty far removed from 4chan too. The culture here is different than the culture there.

 No.5902

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>Outsiders see us as a 4chan like board

 No.5903

>Keep trying to find your meaning in this otherwise meaningless existence, and find freedom in knowing it's meaning is for you to decide.

My existence is quite meaningful, thank you very much, I just wish I could forever stay inside my room with no one bothering me. Glad you have that one friend, but that doesn't mean everyone else also should have friends. I LOVE SOLITUDE. Just being alone, doing housework alone, watching movies and playing games alone, with no one around me - all of this is AWESOME. "Lonely" does not mean "in pain", remember that.

 No.5905

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Have you got anyone on discord yet OP? You seem to have fallen victim to /hikki/'s dumbass old-gaurd, but I hope you made at least a couple of friends.



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 No.5887[Reply]

this is it bois sick of the trauma sick of thinking everyone hates me sick of having no point in my life. wake up every morning looking at where im at now and feeling nothing but anger and disgust. just need a nice discussion before i quit this shit and ascend

 No.5888

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IMO becoming an hero isn't the best response to this. If you're prepared to leave your life behind, you might as well use that opportunity to go on an adventure, like leave all your possessions and run away somewhere to explore a country or jungle or something. If things get too bad or you get arrested you can always kys then, but at least you will have finished on a high note, having fun instead of being depressed and barely existing at all. I remember there was a guy on wizchan who moved to japan to be a hobo for a year.

 No.5896

>>5888

Seconding this. But know that the cops won't just let you kys and a bullet or bridge is way easier than bashing your own head against the cell toilet. And if you fail they'll restrain you in solitary which is worse than death. Don't get arrested, or if you do have an exit plan prior to the actual arrest.

 No.5904

…is he gone?



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 No.4545[Reply]

Anybody else here who used to frequent hikkichan?
It's closed now and I feel like I lost my home.
This is the only other place where I can maybe belong..
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 No.5414

>>5326
do not think sadness is a competition, very bad idea

 No.5415

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>>5414
That's what I've been thinking… Furthermore, your 'level of sadness' don't really depend on how high your level of life is, how well you're being treated by other people, your social status etc. I mean miserable hikikkomori nobody cares about can be 100 times happier than rich daughter of some politician or something. I think it all depends on your personal view of life and other extremely subjective things.

With that said, how come person who works be less miserable than hikki? Can this person have social anxiety and depression too? Yes, of course he can, and he's forced to act like a productive member of society everyday. Isn't that sad? That's why sadness isn't a competition.

Everyone's sad in their own way and nobody can have a mental capacity to truly understand what other person feel and why is it that way. I think we should treat each other's sadness equally.

 No.5474

I lurked hikkichan for a long time and posted a couple times. I found this site looking for a replacement. I lurked wizchan too but couldn't post because I've had a girlfriend before.

>>4570 sums it up pretty well


Looking at this thread it seems like this board isn't really for hikki / neet users, just for discussion about hikki's from the outside in, so it's not really comparable to hikkichan.

the problem with the 8chan board is that hikki had a separate board for whiners / depression pity parties, and separate boards for interesting topics to discuss. putting them all on the same board is a recipe for disaster because the conversations get choked out by people just there for attention / trolling / screen shotting for reddit / whining / 'advice' / etc.

I may start a new discord-but-with-forced-anonymous chat for hermits / reclusive people instead since it seems there is still no where quite right to go and it's probably time to ditch most of what chan culture has become.

 No.5899

>>5474

> I lurked hikkichan for a long time and posted a couple times. I found this site looking for a replacement. I lurked wizchan too but couldn't post because I've had a girlfriend before.


A lot of people of wiz aren't wizards, they're just folks looking for that sort of community who haven't had luck with women among other things. There are wizards too, but not everyone. Just don't mention you've dated before and you'll be fine.

 No.5921

>>5899
>>5899
>Just don't mention you've dated before and you'll be fine.
Kill yourself.



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 No.254[Reply][Last 50 Posts]

How old are you?

ADMIN NOTE: This discussion is OK again since the change to Rule #1.
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 No.5761

>>258
Also 26. Not a NEET, so I guess I ended up in the wrong board.

 No.5762

34, on and off between NEETdom and self-employment. Just recently went employee, though I'm not sure if my job counts as wageslaving.

 No.5776

I'm 21, turning 22 in December

 No.5778

26, I turn 27 next year.

 No.5895

22, cryptocurrency save me from this hell



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 No.5866[Reply]

today was my birthday, all i expected was a "happy birthday" and a hug from the ppl i like (mostly a girl i think is kinda cute), but i've hardly recived it.
please anons, give me happy birthdays and virtual hugs so i can fell a bit better this day
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 No.5873

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Happy Birthday! May things start looking up in your life.

 No.5874

Happy birthday, Anon!

 No.5875

>>5866
happy day, anon

 No.5889

Op here, just wanna say I love each and every one of u

 No.5890

>>5866
happy belated birthday, anon

>>5889
we love you too



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 No.5834[Reply]

What are some personal goals a hikki can have? What are some tangible goals one can have?

 No.5845

Mastery of an art? Take the artform or medium you're most interested in and strive to match the skill of the artists who's work you enjoy, and when you have, strive to improve upon it. Make it a goal to become one of the creators that have entertained you throughout hikkidom so you can pick up the torch and use your skills to entertain the next generation of hikki

 No.5863

>>5834
I don't know attempt to do something productive around the house, change your diet, and lessen the depression that has a hold on you little by little one day at a time?

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>>5834
there are none



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 No.5766[Reply]

What do you even do outside if you don't go to school, have friends to go out with or a job? What's the point of leaving your home?
What are fun things to do?
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 No.5769

>>5768

If you live in a somewhat manageable city, try going out at late night/really early in the morning, or in weather that ordinary city dwellers would consider "bad". That way, you might not encounter many people.

But if you live in an overdeveloped, tourist-infested shithole concrete jungle like I do right now, then it won't work, and I wish I would know what to do.

 No.5805

I go on night walks every now and again, its nice to just feel and smell the chilly night air and get away from my desk for a little while. I enjoy going out and driving at night too, hardly any cars on the road and shopping is less of a hassle too.

 No.5818

I really miss when my town was safe enough to do night walks in. It was one of the healthiest things I did during my earlier years of being a NEET. It's been unsafe for going on 8-9 years now.

 No.5822

I did these walks to nowhere once every month. I got to enter different areas of the city and consequently entered different states of mind/being… I have come to believe that even each neighborhood has its own 'life force' to it, based on the people that live there, architecture… everything that has to do with that locality. In a big and varied city like mine at least. I've lived in other places where this wasn't felt as strongly. Of course, this could have just been my wild NEET imagination spurred on by some kind of mania felt due to perceived freedom from the confines of my room… or finally breathing fresh air.. either way, one of the best things I did with my time then! Other than that, yeah, it's very hard to participate in hobbies outside of your home… I wasn't able to do it and still have trouble today despite holding down a job.

 No.5826

I basically just surf the internet for online business opportunities. I can't really do anything about my situation since I'm just recovering from mental illness at the moment(the one that makes you go crazy - been not crazy for awhile though).

I also misspend my neetbux on food at the beginning of the month.



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 No.5583[Reply]

Anyone here has an absolute lack of motivation to do anything? Usually I find it hard to relate to other people because they mention having a hobby, having "only one friend" or even a girlfriend. Well, I have neither of those.

I have a really hard time to start doing things because of this lack of motivation, but when I finally find something I like, I usually get bored or tired of doing it in like… 2 days or so. With friends, I also have this social anxiety, I can't look at other people's eyes and can't even start a conversation. And the worst part is that whenever I feel like we're finally becoming friends or having a good relationship, I have no idea why but I start feeling uncomfortable around them at the point that I start avoiding them…

So, after a few years being a hikki, I finally got slightly motivated to find a way to move to Japan. I studied a bit and got a scholarship to study in a Japanese university. Well… It's been more than a year already, and after the first month here I stopped going to classes, made no friends and have no motivation to do anything at all again. I basically buy enough food for a few weeks, store everything inside the fridge (which is just next to my bed) and don't go out of the bed until I start feeling really hungry.

Have you ever been in a similar situation? How do you usually find motivation to start doing something new?
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 No.5718

>>5717
Can I ask what brought you back here?

 No.5719

>>5718
Nostalgia

btw i met my first ubuufag irl this year, that was a good time actually

 No.5728

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>>5583
>Anyone here has an absolute lack of motivation to do anything?
Entirely. I've been isolating my self for practically my whole life so no motivation is probably a result of that or something. Also like you said, even if I did find something I want to do or enjoy doing, I'd stop at most 3 days later so I barely get anything done. The only thing that gets me out of my bed is so I can go on my pc and browse image boards. It's absolutely horrible and completely inhibits me from doing anything in the future because I can't even think of what I'd even like to do.

>With friends, I also have this social anxiety, I can't look at other people's eyes and can't even start a conversation

I also have this issue. I never start conversations with anyone so friendships completely rely on the other person to approach me, which rarely happens. Even if someone did, I'm too boring of a person for them to want to be around me because I add and do nothing and barely know how to communicate properly anyways.

>I have no idea why but I start feeling uncomfortable around them at the point that I start avoiding them…

I've never related to something as much as this before. I did this all throughout grade school and still do it know, even with my parents. But I can never understand why I do this. Maybe it's because I never really wanted to be friends with most people irl in the first place but I also didn't have the guts to say no to them and then look weird. I'm not exactly sure but do you feel a similar way?

>How do you usually find motivation to start doing something new?

I don't. If I do it's just a sudden impulse then it's gone in a couple hours.

 No.5799

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>Have you ever been in a similar situation?
I'm in the same boat, actually. Almost all of my motivation seems to have gone when I was bullied out of high school. I would have on and off bursts of self-motivation, but they don't stick around for more than 6 months.
I don't have motivation to find anyone or do anything as a proper hobby because I don't find a point in any of those things. If I have everything I need to be alive, I'm okay.
>How do you usually find motivation to start doing something new?
If I wanted to have anything that even resembled self-motivation nowadays, I'd have to daydream impossible situations and delude myself into thinking any of it is within my reach.

 No.5823

I can't will motivation. Sometimes I might get a short spurt after a breaking point, but it never lasts that long. The only thing that worked consistently was when I had real plans for the future that I truly believed in. As for how they come to be, I have no idea. All of mine were based on violent desperation meeting opportunity and jumping on it like I would die if I didn't (coming from a place of burning desire for change rather than force). From there motivation is a natural byproduct for me.

Unfortunately I've hit a wall myself in the last year. Struggling to find something to believe in again, wasting away on the internet again, etc.



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 No.5785[Reply]

I know this is a bit of a touchy subject here, as some feel that if you interact online you're not a hikki, but for those of you that have had stints of total hikkidom and isolation, how was it?
Is it true the isolation makes you crazy? Do you regret it? Would you do it again if you could?

 No.5786

Went full hikki for about a year. Didn't go insane but I admit - even for someone like me who is pretty much a self sufficient entity, absolutely zero interaction did get a bit dull in the long run.



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