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/rec/ - Ex-NEET / Recovery

Board for recovering NEETs and Ex-NEETs who are trying to reintegrate.
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 No.1[Reply]

Since it's sometimes difficult to have a conversation about trying to exit the NEET lifestyle in /hikki/ without it getting derailed, I have created this new board for such conversations.

If you are trying to go back to school or get a job, or if you've exited NEETdom a while ago but are still having problems, this is now the place to talk about it.


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 No.668[Reply]


Why does everyone want a job and social life in the city you live? Is your home not a trap for the greater world or a greater prison??
I enjoy aspects of the city but as someone who has had many jobs, relationships, and social groups, successfully and then bored of them, or sabotaged for some sense of freedom that I time and time again find blocked in…. I want to be free of the very world I logically hide from in the only domain of autonomy available to me…

Are YOU seeking respite from a world you know is hostile to you, or are you just learning what it is to live?? I know many here are reentering the world rather than just starting but I am curious about this….


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 No.554[Reply]

Hello lovely people, I just wanted to make this thread to remind you that it's all going to be OK.

Can you share some positive improvements that have happened in your life recently? Personally I am working on getting more professional help for my issues and it's working out well. I'd love to hear some positivity of you people.
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 No.649

>>648
My friend who I met going back is in the thick of it at 33. Another thing you probably don't want to think about is that we'll have much shorter lives than normies.

 No.657

>>649
>we'll have much shorter lives than normies
says who

 No.664

>>657
Statistics.

 No.665

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well, i shower, for one. 2024 was the year i showered the most in my entire life. we don't have a hot-tub anymore, though, which saddens me. maybe a hot-spring would fill the jacuzzi-shaped void.
i used to be severely underweight and anorexic. my 'feminine' features are returning, and my face is no longer gaunt. i can stand up to fry an egg without fainting. i can dress down without freezing to death in late spring/summer.
and i'm about to start going to therapy again. i don't know if i'll get much out of it. best that could come out of that is something that'd lessen my lethargy, or another reason to get up in the morning.
we've significantly downsized on pets. now, we only have four. there's a black cat we've had since childhood who walks into my room and nuzzles me. very soft and warm.

i now have obligations outside of the internet, too; however, i still struggle to socialize. i speak too slow, and too quiet, and nobody notices me when i'm talking to them. my interests are too obscure and/or technical to discuss with others without them getting bored, and my speech is monotone. despite this, people still put up with me. i don't know how.
i struggle to socialize with my parents, too. not as much as strangers, but there's nonetheless a frequency difference. i have a girlfriend, but ever since we moved it's been long-distance. she's the most i've ever clicked with someone – we're both on a different frequency than everyone around us, barring each other – she's still a full-on NEET, though, so i can't just mooch off of her (she also skipped high school completely).

i like to read. i think 2024-2025 have been the years i've read the most. i'm also horribly inattentive in my reading, and will typically alternate between ~5 books at once, but that's all good, i think..? i also want to invest in an e-reader for all my legitimately obtained PDFs.
and i'm brushing up on various programming languages (rust in particular is very fun). i think i'll work a temp job at a local antique shop, then try to find a more long-term job. my primary ikigai is that i want to further the field of meteorology. it's grandiose, but it keeps me alive.
where we grew up, it was very hot and wet (however landlocked it was). we got lots of T-storms, and, since we lived right at the western edge of dixie alley, even a few tornadoes. now that we've moved up north, it's all cold and dry – we just don't get events like december 10thPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

 No.667

>>665
i shower too much. always afraid of being too moist or smelly or sticky. i can't wait until i can be a brain in a vat.



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 No.650[Reply]

Hey everybody, I hope you all had happy holidays. Remembered this board while playing through .flow again. I've never been a NEET but I sorta became one during my first semester of college and I think prolonged NEETdom may be in my future if nothing changes.

I'm a 20 year old compsci major at a good university. I did my first year at community college and transferred to the university this year. I'm on winter break right now, and I go back to school tomorrow.

I know that there's a lot for me to be grateful for but I'm still unhappy and have been ever since leaving high school, and honestly before then too. It feels like despite having loving parents and despite never having any real traumas I'm still such a weak and ungrateful person. Reading the struggles on this board and /neet/ kind of make me realize how lucky I am in terms of finances and health. But realizing that doesn't really provoke any sort of true gratefulness or relief in me.

In fact, I've been thinking that if God gives his toughest battles to his strongest soldiers then I must have such a weak and ugly soul to have the abundances I do and still hate my life this much, and that because of the weakness and ugliness of my soul I'm eventually destined for hell. I don't know if any christanons can relate. I think about God a lot, read the Bible, and consider myself Christian but not saved yet.

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 No.658

>Not everything you do has to be in the pursue of money.

100%

 No.659

>>656
What's this angel cat art from anon? Unique style I haven't seen before, would make a good game.

 No.660

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>>659
the low-res textures being contrasted with the high-fidelity uv maps is really cool. i've been wanting to get into modelling for a while. what do you guys think of my birba?

 No.661

>>660
I'd say you're already pretty into modelling! You're birba looks great.

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A bit of an update:

Thanks all for the kind words and advice. I cringed pretty hard rereading my epic self pity rant here lol. Thanks uboa for the advice and taking the time to read my slop lol.

I've realized recently how much of a fair weather fan I am when it comes to my own life. When I'm in the dumps I can't seem to get out (see the parent post), but when I'm happy I might as well be floating. I can't imagine thinking any of the stuff I did 4 weeks ago right now.

The spring semester has been going really well. I'm making new friends, exercising a lot, doing my HW and reading a ton, and praying/reading the bible every day. I also joined that self-defense club and it's been unexpectedly fun so far. Please send me ur positive energy /rec/anons, I really want to keep up what I've got going.

There's this cute girl who's friends with a new friend of mine. She's in the same class as us, but I haven't talked to her much even though we sit in the same area and have a mutual friend. I get pretty obsessive about the people I like and they start to take up like 10% of my waking thoughts, and the same thing is happening with this girl, but unlike the other times I think I might have Jesus encouraging me for this one, because something kind of crazy happened tonight.

I was at the dining hall sitting outside and for some reason I thought to myself "If that girl is in the dining hall when I go inside to put my dishes away I'm going to go talk to her one-on-one."

Sure enough when I went back inside she was there. No joke. I did like 5 circles around the hall before I steeled myself to talk to her. I literally mentally said to myself: "Come on dude, Trust Jesus, this is a gift, just do it, just go talk to her." and was finally able to drag myself over to her. We had a normal conversation about a shared class and she gave me her number and I almost had a nervous breakdown leaving the dining hall afterwards lol. It's been really long since I've had a real crush and I'm still kind of freaking out over it.

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 No.662[Reply]

happy new year /rec/, ive been a depressed neet for almost a year and its finally caught up with me. not only am i out of savings but my dad lost his job so now i have to cut my bed rotting time short and "lock in". im looking for advice on how to do interviews and pretty much how to conduct myself like a human being. tips on how to get over phone anxiety would be greatly appriciated as well considering im likely working as a receptionist

 No.663

im so sorry about your situation. I dont know how to advise you about your depression and actual situation, but I can advise you about your phone usage. An app that really helped me to get trough my phone addiction is "Digital Detox" Its available on google play. Basically all it does it blocks your phone for a determined hour of time, so you can try to focus in other things. The app offers you some emergency buttons while blocked in case of an emergency (like calling someone or something) If you want to give up and unlock the phone before the determined amount of time, you will have to pay two dollars, or even more if you change the amount in the settings. Hope this helps, wish you the best.



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Ex-NEET/Hiki general thread, how long has it been since you got out of it? What are you working on right now? Do you feel like going back to that life sometimes?

I got a job and started going outside 6 years ago, after 2 years of being isolated completely, sometimes I feel tempted of just staying at home playing videogames all day, or to stay in bed doing absolutely nothing, I am still depressed, recently something bad happened, and I felt the need of going back to those habits, close my social media and be a full time anon again.

An important part of my recovery was the people around me, and volunteering at hospitals and hostels for the bed, working still feels kind of weird though.

Now I work as a programmer and web designer, not the best job for someone like me, but it's what I learned to do.

It's hard, but like an anon told me here, if I got out of that mentality once, I can do it again, and so can you.
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 No.616

>>22
If u can do uni you dont need SSI. Your just lazy

 No.618

>>604
about 30% through learning calculus. Predictably, trigonometry is tripping me up, so I need to spend more time studying the identities. I haven't studied for a minute because we've been moving. We moved somewhere a bit nicer, I've been on a couple walks, I need to try to make them daily. I will do one today. I'm also cooking more and baking for my family which feels really good to contribute / make people happy.

On a side note, I'm really reluctant to continue to study because I've been really consumed by self hate for a while, and I see working/being a provider as a way to kind of, redeem or create self worth. I really feel like this is the end of the line. I am a bad person in a lot of ways and I've made a lot of mistakes and I'm in one of those periods where I seem to make a mistake every day. If I can't make up for it by succeeding at this (and continuing to succeed at it, forever, until I die) then I really feel like I'm net-negative on those around me. In some ways living like this is more comfortable. Right now, I'm a terrible failure, but I have the potential to be something else. If I fail, then all I am is a terrible failure, worse than before. I know I have to push forward because time will make that decision for me, so I have to at least try, but it's so hard to risk, I guess, the last possible shred of self worth and hope.

>>605
I think of this comment when I am struggling, thank you. It helps.

 No.623

hi uboachan, I am just here to announce i will be renouncing shitposting for at least one month do stave off insanity for a little bit longer

 No.653

Cutted my wrist for the first time a few hours ago, now I just want to die more

 No.654

My contract is ending soon and I'm having trouble finding new work for once it ends. It's making me incredibly scared I'll fall back into being a NEET/hikki. I know its probably irrational but does anyone else get that fear?



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 No.642[Reply]

>you're the only one here
it's 2024 already

 No.643

no you're not

 No.644

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Boo.

 No.645

I'm an ex-NEET but I use the other board because there's more to talk about



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 No.634[Reply]

and if I do there's nightmares, and i try blocking them out..but it's also making it hard to find work. I have lost interest in a lot of things in life lately too.

Never went to college; always wanted to go for animation or illustration.
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>>636
Made in Abyss is one of my favorite series, I'm glad to hear you enjoyed it. Best of luck with everything dog.

 No.638

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Made in Abyss is one of my favorite series, I'm glad to hear you enjoyed it. Best of luck with everything dog.

> It was one of the most tragically gorgeous things I've ever seen…even when I get deeply depressed I know it could always be worse…I think it's just recovering from the past few years; not to get too personal on here but I was hospitalized and immobile for a good part of last year and early this year and living in an abandoned house with a few friends..we all made it on to another place and everyone I know from that time is doing relatively okay. The world at large is just a lot of suffering…daily I see my friends and strangers going through it as Im sure you've experienced yourself. We can't give up, can we? or we SHOULDN'T i'll say…

 No.639

>>634
>>638
interesting thread and pardon my autism but can you please be mindful of the way you use arrows for any anon passing by's sake? and you're doing it backwards too
>arrows like this >>>
are normally just for quoting other people, this thread's been hard to follow the conversation in because you're switching the perspectives like crazy
also you don't have to include your email in the email field, just letting you know as well. good luck in your travels and lack of!

 No.640

yeah i dont care about grammar im sorry its bugging you but if its confusing you idk, scroll elsewhere? im talking about how i nearly died and was hospitalized my spelling / punctuation / perspective is fragmented have a nice day

 No.641

>>638
I'm interested in hearing more about your stay in the abandoned building. I have been close to entering that kind of life to escape a bad family. Any survival tips would be good. Also you should read / watch the anime of shoujo shuumatsu ryokou if you haven't.

>>640
Almost everyone here has a tragic story. Anon was politely trying to help you intergrate into board culture. If there's some reason you can't format things properly that's fine, but don't be rude about it.



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 No.625[Reply]

i am an ex-hikki. i am still unemployed but i am looking for a job. i have recovered immensely after years of reclusion. now i finally go out often, socialize, i even go to parties.
but in this whole time i still very rarely was able to leave the house by myself. i always need someone of trust with me. i don't even go to the supermarket. i don't go to the bakery in front of my house if i'm alone.

but despite getting better, i'm falling back into hikkikomori lately. now i refuse to go out even if there's someone with me. even if i use uber. even though i have means of self defense. i won't even stand on the gate. i can't. i don't leave the house and barely leave my room. psychosis is coming back.

how do i actually recover? i feel like i was just forcing myself and pretending to be better and that has backfired now. this has started ten years ago, and i'm young. ten years is a considerable portion of my lifetime

 No.626

Its difficult, but you can get used to going to the super duper mart and bakery by yourself. You just have to push yourself and have some sanity maintainance tactics. Its like taking a bath, you test the waters first and slowly get used to it through gradual exposure. Actually, going to the super duper mart is pretty easy because those places are faceless and transitory. The hard part is when you get a job or go to college and end up meeting people who know you on a day to day basis and trying not to mess that up, falling back into being a hiki or becoming paranoid schizo.

 No.627

thank youu… i feel better with that. i think you're right. i should definitely find something to regulate my emotions… i'm scared of freaking out when i find a job, too. i need to stay focused on the reason i HAVE to work… thanks!

 No.633

the social anxiety melts away when you're sleep deprived/intoxicated



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 No.628[Reply]

I got a job working at McDonald's about 2 months ago, it was the first place to accept me. Majority of the people I work with are highschoolers and the few that aren't seem to have their own clique/ingroup at work, it also doesn't help that I'm autistic. I'm pretty sure my roster manager hates me, I barely work any hours and I don't get paid that much. I'd like to be able to afford to move and save up for some luxuries that I don't have (PC namely) but I get paid breadcrumbs. Why is everything so hard? I just escaped being a neet fulltime to be a neet mostly fulltime and get reminded how autistic and lonely I am at work.

 No.629

>>628
just go on autismbux lol, neet out again. see if your parents will pay you to do jobs around the house for them. or maybe do onlyfans lol. if you're lonely at work anyhoo you're much better off neeting out. if you want some sense of companionship play some ttrpgs or tcgs. or use autismbux to hire some supportfags to hang out with you.

one day chris kempczinski will be in a gas chamber.

 No.630

>>629
Is it so easy to "just" get some?

 No.631

>>630
in oceania regions it is, the government is basically handing out retard diplomas. might be harder in america but if so i still think you should find a different job. as a kid i remember my sister working at mcdonalds and it seemed fucking awful. i genuinely do think you need a hobby and a job is really the only way into that. pokemon cards are expensive

 No.632

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Save up for your move & whatever education or certs you want to do as a career, otherwise you'll just get stuck in this Mcdonalds-esque situation over n over again and never have money or real experience. Now that u left ur n33tshit you need to figure out what you want to do, this is what u should be figuring out Right Now

obv dont quit your job unless you have another lined up. Also stop calling yourself autistic and you might stop acting autistic. Idc if you got diagnosed



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