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Ex-NEET Recovery Board Seisatsu ## Owner 02/27/20 (Thu) 15:41:13 No.1[Reply]

Since it's sometimes difficult to have a conversation about trying to exit the NEET lifestyle in /hikki/ without it getting derailed, I have created this new board for such conversations.

If you are trying to go back to school or get a job, or if you've exited NEETdom a while ago but are still having problems, this is now the place to talk about it.

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Anonymous 02/05/20 (Wed) 02:06:45 No.2 [Reply]

so I got promoted at my job and now I'm a phone salesman. today I got the calls' script and I was told to listen to my coworkers so I can pick up their conversation lines. that's no problem, but the thing is, I got scared, and it showed. I became very quiet through the work day and sat all hunched over
dealing with people is not my strong suit, but I've been asking for an opportunity to harden up to the things I fear or don't like, and now it came, sadly I'm just out of the loop
all I can do right now is pray for strength and courage. any advice?

Anonymous 03/01/20 (Sun) 15:17:51 No.14

>>2
I used to work at a call center for 3 years it was hell get out ASAP.

Anonymous 03/01/20 (Sun) 16:09:00 No.15

>>14
What did you not like about it?

Anonymous 03/01/20 (Sun) 20:40:10 No.16

I slowly got accustomed to making calls and now I have a good job performance
but…
disliking my job makes me feel very guilty
all my coworkers and employers are friendly. my work is not very complex. the workload is part-time, and I have an almost decent pay
but talking to people, having to go outside of my house and commuting for hour and a half FUCKING SUCKS
IT SUCKS
why can't appreciate this opportunity? I've been a neet since I became of legal age. I never had any sort of income besides from my parents' allowance. I'm learning to socialize and work with others… I don't understand
>>14
pls elaborate. I do want to work in other fields, and plan to switch careers, tho
like I said, sales is just not my pond

Anonymous 03/02/20 (Mon) 06:17:21 No.19

Play online games with voice chat. Shit talk with strangers until you're more comfortable with it. Even play VR chat and do the same. Expose yourself to enough verbal communication and it will become less stressful.

Anonymous 03/29/20 (Sun) 18:38:06 No.56

>>2
Have some faith in yourself; if that fails, tell yourself to snap out of it, without making yourself feel worse.

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Anonymous 02/27/20 (Thu) 16:40:50 No.6 [Reply]

Ex-NEET/Hiki general thread, how long has it been since you got out of it? What are you working on right now? Do you feel like going back to that life sometimes?

I got a job and started going outside 6 years ago, after 2 years of being isolated completely, sometimes I feel tempted of just staying at home playing videogames all day, or to stay in bed doing absolutely nothing, I am still depressed, recently something bad happened, and I felt the need of going back to those habits, close my social media and be a full time anon again.

An important part of my recovery was the people around me, and volunteering at hospitals and hostels for the bed, working still feels kind of weird though.

Now I work as a programmer and web designer, not the best job for someone like me, but it's what I learned to do.

It's hard, but like an anon told me here, if I got out of that mentality once, I can do it again, and so can you.

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Anonymous 03/11/20 (Wed) 02:47:41 No.28

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>>26
I guess you're the biggest joke here since you actually waste your time doing the same thing the people you despise do while being condescending about it.

If you don't like the board, don't post.

Anonymous 03/11/20 (Wed) 14:22:45 No.29

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Well let's try to be polite to one another, despite the bumps this is a good thread, and I feel like I needed this board.

It's interesting to see a group of people who lived isolated come to different conclusions and to open up, I never talked about these specific things to anyone.

Another thing that happened to me when I started working is that I moved my hiki habits and depression to the workplace, I was a very shitty worker, procrascinated a lot, needing the money made me snap out of it, or rather, force myself to.

I don't know if this was unhealthy or not, but soon enough, I stopped feeling like it was forced, and started working normally.

Anonymous 03/12/20 (Thu) 00:48:46 No.33

>>28
I don't like anywhere online currently but it's not like I'm about to get a life out in normalfaggotland.

Anonymous 03/29/20 (Sun) 16:34:27 No.54

>>50
>positive

Not while I'm around on your dead site you faggots. If you could get a job you'd have one. Advice is for shit. Opportunities are what would get someone non-hiki.

Anonymous 03/30/20 (Mon) 14:04:50 No.57

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>>54
>>33
You don't like us, we get it, now can you chill?

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Aimed too high and wasted 8 months Anonymous 03/11/20 (Wed) 02:05:28 No.27 [Reply]

Since I graduated from University in June I've been planning on going back to do a Master's or a PhD. For what it's worth, I graduated with (I think) the highest grade of my year from a pretty bad university, but I also did a community-related EC and was the recipient of a research scholarship in my second year.
I spent a few months putting together the best applications I could, but made the mistake of aiming too high and only applying for a few difficult to get in to universities. So far I've heard back from 2 of the places I applied, both were rejections, and I'm not feeling too confident about the other 3.
Right now I'm panicking, because it's become abundantly clear that I've wasted the last 8 months and several hundred dollars doing basically nothing. I told myself I'd get an article written but I've been completely unable to get anything done because of all the uncertainty.
In a last-ditch effort, I'm putting together a PhD application to send to places that are still accepting applicants and might be able to supervise it. But, again, I'm not too hopeful about this.
I really do not know what to do if this doesn't pan out. I can't find any jobs that I'm not either over or under qualified for.
Someone suggested I become an assistant language teacher, but I am not comfortable at all with living alone somewhere where I don't speak the language after being a recluse for over a year.

Anonymous 03/11/20 (Wed) 14:28:48 No.30

I also bit more than I could chew at some point, this makes me wonder if it's really that common, I didn't lose as much time but I did lose a lot of money, is there no one supposed to teach us about these things?

I don't know you, but in my case, a good piece of parental advice would've saved me a lot of trouble.

Anonymous 03/11/20 (Wed) 17:28:36 No.31

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> I can't find any jobs that I'm not either over or under qualified for.
In that case I would aim for a position, where I was overqualified, but still had the opportunity to learn or get promoted to a better position.

I've studied computer science and all I do now is making corporate websites and interfaces for database maintenance.

Boredom won't kill you.

Anonymous 03/11/20 (Wed) 18:40:24 No.32

>>30
My parents ended up talking me out of two opportunities that I wanted to apply for because they thought the location would be dangerous, so I think in the future I probably shouldn't listen to them.

>>31
It seems like the vast majority of jobs here are either dead-end minimum wage jobs, or ones that require a different degree (engineering or healthcare).

>Boredom won't kill you.
I wish I was joking, because it's absolutely pathetic (and you're more than free to call me a retard), but I did a 5 day data-entry position for "work experience" a few years ago. I hated it and by the second day tried to get into a traffic accidents so I wouldn't have to do it anymore. I would like to stay far, far away from any job like that.

Update Anonymous 03/23/20 (Mon) 19:28:13 No.44

It's looking like I've been rejected by everywhere and to be completely honest I really don't know what to do.
I've missed the deadlines for PhD funding and it looks like most of them want a Master's degree anyway.
While I could still apply for master's degrees, my understanding is that they're generally (in my field) quite useless. The reason I applied for where I did was because they offer a doctorate with a stipend and typically only accept people that did their Master's there. That and they're good names to have on a CV.
At the moment my parents are encouraging me to apply for Master's degrees that, in all likelihood, won't benefit me and don't justify the cost. I just feel a bit overwhelmed, really.
Despite saying that I'm thinking about getting a job and writing articles in my free time so I'll have a better application for next year (and applying for more places, and generally being better off financially) it seems like they don't want me to do that, and I don't really know why.
This whole corona thing hasn't really helped much with the job hunt, so that's probably going to set me back a few months.
On the upside I have an article that's about ready for publication now, and I suppose I could ask my (former) supervisor if she has any advice when I send it off for review.
Thanks for reading my blog.

Anonymous 03/27/20 (Fri) 05:38:10 No.49

>>44
Reading this I really sympathise with you. I was actually in a Masters program for Mathematics, and I am *so* glad that I went against the advice of my professors and parents and anyone else other than the 2 friends my age I have, and I dropped out of the program. As it happens, the program itself was in a very fluid state and I wasn't getting good research opportunities or even the choice of what to do my thesis on.
Anyways, to make a long story short I decided to get into a community college Network Security program, which might seem like going back down a couple of levels, and it is I guess, but since there are actual tangible certificates you can aim for, it seems more realistic as well to actually land a job afterwards.
I honestly couldn't figure out what job I could do with a Masters in Maths other than maybe Actuarial, and I didn't want to do that (and it doesn't require the Masters Degree anyways)… no one could tell me! So anyways TL;DR certifications and trade schools are actually often better if you want to actually get a job.
As a bonus the teachers and students I have met are mostly nice people as well.

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Anonymous 03/19/20 (Thu) 02:21:53 No.34 [Reply]

just when I was turning my life around a global pandemic hits
how are you living through the covid madness, bros? I still gotta commute to work lmao

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Anonymous 03/24/20 (Tue) 07:49:55 No.45

>>34
Yeah, covid sucks. I got a volunteering role in a food place last year and really loved it but things (well, my mind) went downhill since November, emotionally slowly sinking over the winter then nosediving into suicidal behavior over Jan/Feb for no reason. I don't know what's wrong with me. Couldn't go outdoors to my volunteering role so I let them know and they're a very relaxed place so they'd let me come back any time… but the virus hit us all and that business had shaky chances if they were to be forced closed for a month.

And now my country has now shutdown all restaurants *indefinitely* so I think I have to kiss my place there goodbye. We're not as strict about it as Italy but I think we should be, but that means I can't visit a real therapist (or have one come to me) like I'm willing to pay for. I don't want to kill myself as badly right now as I did at the end of February but the coming six months trapped indoors will erode my sanity. Not even sure if I can feel positive emotions anymore to restore my mental reserves. The loneliness aches.

S 03/24/20 (Tue) 20:55:30 No.46

feeling the same. just know that there are ppl like u and me all over the globe - I know that doesn't help but u never know what kind of ppl u will meet in the future. we will die anyways so why not take a look at what will happen if u live another day

Anonymous 03/25/20 (Wed) 14:13:25 No.47

>>46
Thank you, do your best anon, cheers!

Anonymous 03/27/20 (Fri) 05:19:43 No.48

>>46
Just came here to see if anyone like me was around and it seems I'm not alone.
If anyone wants to chat about random stuff then I'll try and stay here a while.
Honestly I've been pretty much a NEET myself for the past few years although I have had random attempts at community college/technical school and volunteered overseas etc. … I was kicked out of my last technical school and then I was currently taking classes again at a different one but everything is postponed and moved online because of the virus and it's really tough for me to learn that way as I get too distracted… it's just one of those things. Just trying to get back into watching anime now I guess. I only know shows from 2014 or so and it's crazy to see all the new stuff.

Anonymous 03/28/20 (Sat) 15:59:05 No.53

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I can't work but I am taking this opportunity to do some exercises at home. I won't let this shitty virus mess with me anymore.

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