/hikki/ - NEET / Advice

>>6365
Not them, but I don't know where to look. I used to post my drawings on tumblr while it was alive, and surprisingly made some decent connections. It sounds silly, but I can't remember how. Time went on, and all those connections are gone now anyway. These days I only have a modest twitter, since I don't like having social media in the first place. Some neat artists follow me, but I have 0 idea how to initiate. I don't like the idea of just DM'ing and saying "Hi, what's up". Maybe we don't even have good chemistry. I don't like the idea of finding people on discord either. It's got a lot of people that aren't my type. All I can find online are either embarrassing meme lgbt weebs, or hans get ze flammenwerfer guys. Anyone exempt who did seem alright, we're really silent, and communication died pretty quick. I hate being the one that has to keep prodding for conversation.

I don't know where I fit in, I don't know where to look. A while back I was even desperate enough to try tossing my hat in /soc/. Besides some people back from highschool, uboachan is the closest I've felt to fitting in before.

>>6369
Same. Only that I don't have people irl.

>>6369
That's pretty much how I feel. In a way, the internet is even worse than real life. I can think of things I could do in real life. Going to the right places would probably work, and allow coincidences to happen. On the internet, I have to be active, but how and where? Even if I go to a place full of people, the fact that it's online doesn't make me suddenly like interacting with groups of people. It's terrible.

Finding similar interests seems to be the key. Discord is weird in that you can join a server for pretty much any anime or gacha game from the last 6 years, and instantly join an autistic 24/7 conversation about say, shipgirls, since that's the channel's only topic. But those people rarely become your friends. The best luck I've had with making friends is finding people with the same sexual preferences and fetishes. It's kind of sad. The men I connect with the most are the ones where we can share pictures and circlejerk together. Outside of them, I'm always the one to initiate. I used to be a coomer who regularly fapped twice/day. I've since cut it down to once every other day, but it seems it hasn't changed me mentally beyond regaining self-control. I can actually spend entire days focusing on my real hobbies without a sexual thought, but they're all solitary. Like I said before, similar interests help but it's not healthy if those interests just make you and your friends enable eachother endlessly. Pic related - I've formed some deep friendships around this fetish.

>>6376
Of course, common interests are a necessity. But I wonder why sexual interests would work better. Seems very strange to me to form connections through that, with people that I'm not even sexually interest in. Not sure if I could do it myself.

What did you experience for you not to be comfortable in your room anymore, anon?

>>6339
>not being comfy in a room because been in a psychiatric hospital
What is it about this that made you uncomfy I am the same and for me it was having people come forcibly remove me and place me with schizos to "help" me.

>i was a neet at a certain point and i was put in a psychiatric hospital because of it
Sounds like your family fucking sucks, dude.

>>6095
That's retarded, being able to fit in society is a matter of your own perspective.

not to say i am a former NEET but i have recovered/relapsed several times, sometimes with years of non-NEETism inbetween the severe relapses (first NEET experience @ 12yo, didn't leave my house more than 6 times that year, and only by force/coercion)

anyway i have never "gotten past" this but finally getting diagnosed with autism and ADHD at the age of 29 sure helped a fucking lot in terms of explaining things (besides the crippling depression, part of which but not all can be attributed to going undiagnosed)

Not going to pretend like things get better and stay better consistently - they absolutely don't- but with the right therapist (HAHAHA GOOD LUCK) and the right meds (again GL finding those) things can improve.

I cannot even watch anime naymore I do not even know how I spend my time I just exist and hate existing and rely on drugs if I have any please do not reach this stage it is horrible.
What is the point of improving if there is nothing to improve for??

>>6357
Society disagrees.

We all need to do "something" with our lives, but you need to define that yourself or you're going to end up like most people on this board.

>>788
Please call them. The best you can do is the best you can do. The best you can do changes when you make a mistake. If you don't call them, you won't learn how to do better.

>But if I could be NEET forever I would, because less people can hurt me if I stay away from them.
I used to be a NEET for a while for this very reason.

Now it's been a few years.

Now I think, "less people can love me if I stay away from them."

It takes a toll on one's mind and body not to do anything for an extended amount of time.
Long story short, I had an incident one time when I went outside. A life changing, broken bones sort of incident. And it made me fucking paranoid to go outside again. I just want to stay inside constantly, but fuck, I also want to enjoy life. I don't want to be a miserable douchebag with no aspirations, I want to enjoy myself.
However, I'm literally scared of everything. So back to feeling shit and being a NEET I go.

>>659
I feel this to be true.
I've been NEET for 7 years now and I feel blessed for having time work on hobbies, learning things and a whole lot of procrastination without really having to worry about the future.

When I was still being push to become something and work on some kind of schedule it made me insanely unhappy each time and I basically never got along with more people at those places either.
If being a NEET isn't destroying you mentally somehow I'd say you should savor it as long as you can, because for most people it will only be a phase in life.

I've been a NEET since 2011, following a suicide attempt partially due to university at the time. I've done nothing ever since, I've made a few attempts at getting back into uni but they've all failed so far. I'm thinking of getting a certificate III in something or maybe even a diploma if I'm capable.

I've wanted to change for a long but my only real motivator for that died a few years back and I've kind of just been floating ever since. I've tried talking to friend and family about it but they don't seem to understand, take me seriously, I struggle effectively opening up or all three of those. I do like the idea of helping people, especially teenagers and new adults figure things out and to avoid them ending up like me, a decade after graduating high school and having achieved nothing. My social anxiety and other mental issues will be a big problem with doing that though, since I barely know how to talk to people properly besides my grandparents and friend or saying basic shit to cashiers while getting served. While I guess I could have fucked up worse, could have gotten on drugs harder than weed, had a bunch of kids I couldn't look after or get an STD or something on par with those, I still feel like a major fuck up for the past decade of absolutely nothing. It's to the point that I have dreams about getting a similar job to my cashier job I had in high school and going over how I fucked that job up, but as an adult this time.

The decade of NEETdom has kept me back, like time while physically continuing feels like it should have stopped at one point. One way I look at it is from console generations. I graduated high school in 2010, the peak of the 360 and PS4, not those consoles are gone, the Wii store is gone, the servers for games I heard were coming out soon are closing and it feels like I just blinked, the consoles that replaced those consoles will be gone soon to.
The three main things I've considered studying to help get me a job is:
Cert III in Health Services Assistance - basically become a hospital orderly
Diploma of Nursing - become an enrolled nurse
Bachelor of Accounting - become an accountant
The bachelor degree will take at least three years to complete though, while the other two are between 12-18 months. This was a mess of a post. My bad. In short, I'm not happy and I'm trying to fix that.

what are you doing step-rifle

>>4509
Atleast you had a girlfriends and have active friends to cry to.

>>5062
I agree, especially with last point. My brain always focusses on the negatives and accepting happiness and become alien for it.

>>5791
I still shower, brush and maintain my daily hygiene. Sometimes it makes me temporarily but no significant changes in the long run. I guess I do these activities to convince myself that I am actively doing something productive

>>5800
I see. Does it help? Also, do you do meditation of any kind?

>>5876
Some people have a gene that allows them to function on less sleep. Do you feel drowsy and/or less productive during the day?

>>6272
I did drop out and I regret it heavily. I got my GED at 17 and got into community college no problem (before that went tits up in its own unique way.) High school has a tremendous amount of hierarchical social bullshit. Yet, not everyone there is like that and I regret not having the opportunity to meet those people and have friends. Plus, it's overwhelmingly lonely and depressing to be in my current situation now where all the young people are feeding themselves to the leviathan instead of building community. At least in high school I would have been around people my age.

I commend you for desiring focus. I too want this, just with other mutually complimenting people. I'm no monk.

Wise words, anon.

>>6274
What groups, anon?

>>6275
I'd prefer not to say. Not just for myself but also because I still respect my ex, despite how I'm still depressed over the breakup. A friend of hers tried to stand up for me on her behalf but that old group I was with still kept to their lies despite her efforts.

>>6233
I think this post is more properly suited for /rec/

>>6233
Try a part time work meanwhile you search someting more stable

>>6260
I agree. I think what's important is to keep you from drowning in your own mind and stop moving forward. Any from of foothold or ledge to grab on would be good. Or not. So far like all I ever do is curl in to a ball and wait for things to go away. This "just grab a crap job and figure it out from there" is my go to self-reassurance when ever I remember that I'm actually old enough to be executed for serious crimes and shits while not having a slither of any practical skills to funtcion as an adult and haven't once attempting to redeem myself. I haven't made any steps, I don't really know if it works or not. This entire reply makes no sense and probably is the summary of my entire literature skills but you have come so far to drown now. Trying to keep your head above water, you got this, I hope.

Well, if you're able to keep your grades up with lots of effort, then it is just a matter of getting past the judgements of others. I've personally delt with a lot of imagining that people are criticizing me silently, and I have come to the conclusion that it's bullshit and people don't work like that. Even if you do get looks it doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things so long as you're working to get where you want to be. People won't care if they thought someone in their class was stupid once they get home.
Studying can be difficult if you've gone a long time without exercising your brain, but it's just something you need to build up. Learning something logic related like math would probably help. Don't fall into thinking you can't because you're stupid, the brain is built on effort.
As far as work goes, so what if you're the squeaky wheel? What are they gonna do, fire you? If you're just getting a job, you're probably not working with nuclear reactors. Minor fuckups don't matter. Just make it to work on time, communicate enough to get the job done, and try your best.

>>6239
What have you done in those 3 years you think it were so detrimental? Even games and watching anime requires some level of concentration.
>>6240
>try your best.
That's it pretty much. Pick the subject matter you want to study and start reading about it. Not much else you can do I guess.

I don't have anything to add to OP but I would just like to say my memory problems are becoming really scary for someone my age late 20's but damn it has gotten bad. Any remedies would be much appreciated. Hope you are doing well, OP, and everyone else

You're addicted to the internet because the internet is awesome.
Don't stop because of some bullshit you heard on the news

You first have to find out why you use the internet in an addicted way. Are you using it to calm down? Are you bored? Are you scared? Once you figure that out you need to find a way to get a productive hobby that replaces why you used the internet or fix the underlying issue that causes you to use the internet.

Since you said you need the internet in some situations I recommend a site blocker (cold turkey or leech blocker). You can make them block X sites from X-X hours.

Also you should look into how the internet is addiction so you can understand what you're up against

>>5710
I have this problem where I click on too many things I find interesting and then I never close the tab. So it gets to the point where I literally have thousands of tabs open and it takes my computer crashing and not saving the tab history for me to stop. Then a week goes by and I just uncontrollably start up again. Pic related is my current score

>>6189
What extensions do you use for organizing tabs? When i reach around 100 on chrome with a 1920x1080 screen new tabs disappear and I can only reach them by ctrl+tab. Should I use another browser or is there a trick I'm not aware of?

>>6204
try tree-style tabs in firefox