/hikki/ - NEET / Advice

>>6233
I think this post is more properly suited for /rec/

>>6233
Try a part time work meanwhile you search someting more stable

>>6260
I agree. I think what's important is to keep you from drowning in your own mind and stop moving forward. Any from of foothold or ledge to grab on would be good. Or not. So far like all I ever do is curl in to a ball and wait for things to go away. This "just grab a crap job and figure it out from there" is my go to self-reassurance when ever I remember that I'm actually old enough to be executed for serious crimes and shits while not having a slither of any practical skills to funtcion as an adult and haven't once attempting to redeem myself. I haven't made any steps, I don't really know if it works or not. This entire reply makes no sense and probably is the summary of my entire literature skills but you have come so far to drown now. Trying to keep your head above water, you got this, I hope.

Well, if you're able to keep your grades up with lots of effort, then it is just a matter of getting past the judgements of others. I've personally delt with a lot of imagining that people are criticizing me silently, and I have come to the conclusion that it's bullshit and people don't work like that. Even if you do get looks it doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things so long as you're working to get where you want to be. People won't care if they thought someone in their class was stupid once they get home.
Studying can be difficult if you've gone a long time without exercising your brain, but it's just something you need to build up. Learning something logic related like math would probably help. Don't fall into thinking you can't because you're stupid, the brain is built on effort.
As far as work goes, so what if you're the squeaky wheel? What are they gonna do, fire you? If you're just getting a job, you're probably not working with nuclear reactors. Minor fuckups don't matter. Just make it to work on time, communicate enough to get the job done, and try your best.

>>6239
What have you done in those 3 years you think it were so detrimental? Even games and watching anime requires some level of concentration.
>>6240
>try your best.
That's it pretty much. Pick the subject matter you want to study and start reading about it. Not much else you can do I guess.

I don't have anything to add to OP but I would just like to say my memory problems are becoming really scary for someone my age late 20's but damn it has gotten bad. Any remedies would be much appreciated. Hope you are doing well, OP, and everyone else

You're addicted to the internet because the internet is awesome.
Don't stop because of some bullshit you heard on the news

You first have to find out why you use the internet in an addicted way. Are you using it to calm down? Are you bored? Are you scared? Once you figure that out you need to find a way to get a productive hobby that replaces why you used the internet or fix the underlying issue that causes you to use the internet.

Since you said you need the internet in some situations I recommend a site blocker (cold turkey or leech blocker). You can make them block X sites from X-X hours.

Also you should look into how the internet is addiction so you can understand what you're up against

>>5710
I have this problem where I click on too many things I find interesting and then I never close the tab. So it gets to the point where I literally have thousands of tabs open and it takes my computer crashing and not saving the tab history for me to stop. Then a week goes by and I just uncontrollably start up again. Pic related is my current score

>>6189
What extensions do you use for organizing tabs? When i reach around 100 on chrome with a 1920x1080 screen new tabs disappear and I can only reach them by ctrl+tab. Should I use another browser or is there a trick I'm not aware of?

>>6204
try tree-style tabs in firefox

I probably haven’t brushed my teeth since March. Can’t remember anymore. Haven’t bathed in months.

>>6177
>I take a bath three or so times a month
I haven't taken a bath since I was seven. I remember just resting in the warm water peacefully. Are baths better than showering?

>>6188
Showering is a more efficient way of actually cleaning yourself and if it's less than ten minutes or so a shower will usually use less water but some people really like baths. For me they're a lot more relaxing and every time I take a shower I think about how much I'd rather be just sitting down and submerging myself for a long time in a tub full of hot water.

>>6188
since you become an adult it's not. I also remember those times when i loved to chill in bath, i've been trying to enjoy this as i did but it doesn't feel that good and calming anymore.

>>6188
I'm not sure as I have only had like less then 10 showers in my life. My house does not have a shower so its always baths for me. I only take baths this often for umm reasons lets just say that. If I didnt have my reasons I would take maybe 1 every two months or so.

>>5294
You should draw propaganda for an arbitrary group of extremists. They soon will be glad to find you just working on some dick sketches.
>like to check in on me often
Wtf! Are you on suicide watch?

>>5295
What at night? Unless you're actually a ten year-old that is creepy as fuck and you should ask them to stop. Hell, even if you are ten they should at least knock first.
>>5297
Wtf! Are you on suicide watch?

They think it's normal to check in on your adult kid 24/7. I told them countless times to stop, but nothing has changed. I can't argue with them either because "it's their house and as long as I live here, I'll have to obey their rules".

>>5298
You should focus on moving out first. Or at least pay rent and argue that gives you the right to privacy. Does your door even have a lock?

>>5298

If your door doesn't have a lock, install one. The peace of mind of having a lock on your door, just for privacy's sake, is incredible.

>>5774
>have lock
>parents just bang their body into the door like retards
(im not the anon you were talking to)
Most of the time it's nothing urgent, they just want to harass me

I don't understand why you need IRL friends when you have the internet…

Understanding your relationship with your friends is about as fun as sliding you're cock into a zebra

I dunno man. I'm in a similar situation. Conversations online aren't visceral enough for me. My own company is the same old. I have seen that the best things in my life ultimately happen from being in the presence of others.

>>6142
Here's someone who's never experienced ego death.

>>6143

here's another lol

>>6147
and another one

Ego death can be euphoric, but it's not the same as euphoria. It's the complete loss of the sense of self caused by total suppression of short-term and long-term memory access. During ego death you observe the world around you without any concept of your past or identity. It's a very bizarre feeling. The euphoria comes from the total abandonment of your usual mental and emotional burdens during the experience, and it can be very inspiring in retrospect.

Maybe your soul expired…

>>6151
you can do that kind of thing through practicing meditation , no need for drugs

In OP's story he's clearly just chasing the purple dragon

>>6098
u aint wrong anon, u aint wrong

I'm very sorry that you're in that situation, OP.

Personally I would never go for the rope unless I thought that without doing so I might end up in a situation where I wouldn't even have the option - for example, I might consciously consider the rope IF I was facing some sort of awful disease that might render me unable to make the decision and execute it at some point. I don't think there's any shame in choosing to exit, and I don't think you have anything to worry about as I believe in a resurrection of the dead, so you'll just wake up afterwards, but it's a really horrible decision to even consider, and so long as you're alive I guess there is always at least some hope that things will improve, and at least some hope to find some sort of happiness or meaning.

I think, so long as you're not suggesting damaging yourself first in order to be able to get it, that you should at least try for the SSI, though you'd have to consider the possible consequences of doing so for yourself (sorry I don't know much about the US system). I know from my own experience on NEETbux that it can be very hard to escape that situation once you've been in in long enough, and my situation has been very bad at points - but then again, I'm not sure the alternative was any better, if I'd continued working I'm sure that right now I'd just have wasted vastly more time serving other people, rather than at least having some time to myself as a NEET (even if in the end, my family stole vast amounts of it during that that time).

I don't think there's any shame in doing the sugardaddy thing so long as you don't actually have sex. If you can find someone willing to pay you to see photos or videos or something, it may not be ideal - but considering the amount of humiliation and subjugation involved in 'normal' wageslavery, I'm not sure that it's any worse. I don't see it as exploitation in either direction, but it's absolutely disgusting that people might have to reduce themselves to that rather than get support from 'society'. People in general should be ashamed for allowing such a situation to exist.

Maybe if you find a way to subsist for now, you'll eventually at least inherit your parents house if they own it? I see it as your parents having a moral obligation to support you, no matter how old, considering they brought you into the world and are responsible for your upbringing, so it's pretty terrible of them to want to toss you out. Is there Post too long. Click here to view the full text.

updating, still alive but not well.

however this virus turned out to be a blessing in disguise for me in a variety of ways

1. my folks actually care about me and wont kick me out in the middle of a pandemic
2. everyone around me now is living my lifestyle so im understood a bit better by some
3. im not able to get a job during all of this

but, shit still aint great or even good in the slightest.

unemployment benefits in my state is taking forever to come through, i havent gotten a stimulus check either, and im still waiting to hear back about disability / SSI shit so while i am "safe" to stay and be more of myself, im still not in any better of a financial situation.

its stressing me out and while i dont feel as bad as i did at the start of this, it's still hurting and terrible in my eyes and if anything i am believing the second this pandemic ends, i might just have to give it all up and just do it already.

for as much as i talk about this 'an hero', ill be honest and say i still fear it and still am pushed to keep going by some natural instinct to stay alive. say what u will about being over-dramatic and being being a fucking special snowflake pussy, but thats just the point, i am that shit and right now im still considering adding myself to the suicide rate of people like me.
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Lots of people get SSI $700 a month
Some people get SSDI $1,000 month
If a parent is dead you could get Survivor Benefits $1,400

>admin please do not lock this thread
damn, look at this guy knowing the admins intended culture

Institutions already alienate us, why should we care for their rigid definitions? I think there is a difference between NEET and Hiki but the Hikis themselves should define this. Considering the complexity and variation of humans at large I'd imagine there are gradients of hikikomori. I don't know where that line is between hiki and NEET but a ridged adherence to strict definitions only creates walled gardens, at least with things like this. Discussing what a hiki is isn't the same as something more concrete like physics.

>>6136
>I think there is a difference between NEET and Hiki

The only difference is one can be social while not contributing to society the other is isolated completely or nearly completely here is some more interesting info i found on some Japanese websites regarding hikikomori.

From Japanese Wikipedia.

引きこもり（引き籠もり[1]、ひきこもり、英語表記 hikikomori[2]）とは、仕事や学校に行けず家に籠り、家族以外とほとんど交流がない人の状況を指す。現時点では、日本の厚生労働省はこうした状態が6か月以上続いた場合を定義としている

Acute Social Withdrawal (Withdrawal [1], Withdrawal English notation Hikikomori [2]) refers to the situation where people cannot go to work or school, stay at home, and have little interaction with their family. At present, the Japanese Ministry of Health, Labor and Welfare defines these conditions as having lasted for more than six months.

https://ja.wikipedia.org/wiki/引きこもり


引きこもりの定義と全国の引きこもりに関するデータ
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NEET The acronym for (Not In Education Employment Or Training) The acronym NEET refers to those who have given up and refuse to attend school work or vocational training

Freeter フリーター

Japan's word to describe those who work part-time jobs with low pay and have a hard time earning a living.

Hikikomori 引きこもり

Hikikomori is a Japanese term when translated into English it means pulling inward being confined (Acute social withdrawal) it is Japan's word to describe those who have isolated themselves in their parents house refuse to attend school or work and stay in their bedrooms for very long periods at a time due to social and cultural reasons related to Japanese society (Generally 6 months)

Unemployed Person

A unemployed person is someone who is temporarily unemployed but still seeking out employment looking for a job and is willing to work

Self-Employed Person
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