/hikki/ - NEET / Advice

>>8538
I tried to interact with communities of similar personal interests, but it seems like I lost literal any social skill, ended up doing the "ignoring socialization to play video games" or watching things I find on Internet.

How people do it?

>>8539
I totally get that, it is really difficult to even get started on building those skills, and even now I struggle to consistently socialize, but I think at a certain point you just need to push yourself. Say what comes to mind, figure out the other person's interests and boundaries as you speak to them.

Honestly, its going to be unpleasant and scary, but the only way you can really learn is through exposure. I notice I tend to ignore interactions cause Im afraid of awkward situations and hurt feelings, but both of those are merely a consequence of being alive that we can recover from.

You got this, just talk and talk and don't let your thoughts get to you.

>Habitica
Now there's something I haven't heard of in a long time.

>>8277
>picrel

ngl i like westshit plushes way more than fumo… im always scared the felt hair on the fumo will split apart, and west style plush tends to be better for snuggling

Humans need interaction with other humans.

You can practice being a zen monk anytime, but making connections with other humans before it becomes fucking weird and creepy is a time-limited event.

So don’t waste it.

>>7723
>neurodivergence
I always had the feeling that all those mental illnesses are just completly made-up bullshit to frame people who dont fit in with society.


>Hyperactive thoughts
I consume a lot of media, read alot of articles and drink a lot of caffeine so my mind is always running, but I never experienced a "automatic mode"
>spacing out
I only space out when I have nothing to do and have to wait for something to happen like in the waiting room for a doctor.
>sensory sensitiveness
I do hate loud crowds of people.
>limited interests
I like vidya, music, history and technology
>liking sameness
I actually really hate repetitive and redundant routines. I completly hate it sitting in the same room with the same retards and doing the same shit for years. If I would have to work I would become something like a trucker or pilot where I always visit new places and meet new people.
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sounds like autism, but it isnt if you dont have much trouble with problem solving and navigating social situations, since its an intellectual/nervous system disability rather than a personality issue
I have adhd and have social issues, dissociation, weird hobbies, and impulsiveness but none of the sensory issues or problems with changes in routine, and I have no real problem adapting to most situations unless I shut down to stress

I'm not a hikki anymore since I started college (again) but even then I'm a loner on campus.

I was always a bit reclusive and very shy and this society isn't especially welcoming for people like that. So you get stuck in that corner and that's your whole life. The social skills and speaking got worse as I became more and more of a loner.

Society is basically dead now anyway. Every interaction is so impersonal that unless you already have friends or go out of your way to insert yourself into people's lives, you will just end up alone and nobody will notice. Its very easy to end up a hikki.

In old movies, you'll see people talk on street corners or interact with waiters and stuff. Do people do that anymore? No. We use electronic service machines, social media, and order stuff online. So how do people not turn into hikkis? If you're reclusive, mentally ill, shy, or odd you will end up hikki adjacent because your connection to the social world is already weak.

1. I'm autistic and have a brain injury, both diagnosed. The demon psych professionals put me on every pill they could as a child, if it was given to children in the 2000s I was on it. They also put me in solitary confinement and severely traumatized me. My self-isolating behaviors are all rooted in responses to my childhood environment being overwhelming and then recoiling from the education/prison systems attempts at forcefully reintegrating me instead of just letting me hang out in a park and read books or something. Children aren't meant to be locked in sterile rooms where they sit still and listen for 8 hours, not just autists like us.
I digress, I feel safe and can think when I'm alone. I mask in most social situations and it builds stress all through my body when I have to do it. There are a few 10+ years online friends I have where I don't have to mask and I really enjoy their company. I have PTSD, depression, anxiety, ahedonia, insomnia, and misophonia. Everything but the misophonia and the ahedonia are "officially" diagnosed but I know myself well enough to apply the other two at this point.
2. I've been hikki or hikki adjacent since I was a child. These past few years I've really tried my absolute best to get out of it recently. Somethings are better others are the same, I think my sleep is worse than its ever been. I went out with my cousins for new years which was really nice yesterday.

Nice datamining thread. I'm not a hikki anymore, but there were definitely 6 month plus stretches of time where I did not go outside during my on again/off again NEETing days from 2015-2023. Hikkis tend to be pissy when it you let it be known you don't number among them anymore. It's the same kind of reaction you'd get from admitting you don't walk the the path of the wizard anymore. Perhaps it's an unpleasant reminder that their own days are numbered.

I had a bad (to me) childhood that I suspect caused CPTSD (self-diagnosed). I've been formally diagnosed with Avoidant Personality Disorder and Major Depressive Disorder. Basically I grew up poor and had a mental breakdown over performing academically and never recovered.

Hikki lifestyle ain't bad when it's someone else paying for it. The early years are sweet notwithstanding the spell of anhedonia I had. I think having been a hikki for a few years is enough that you will carry that experience with you the rest of your life. I don't think working a dead-end job to survive is that different in the grand scheme of things in terms of who you are as a person.

1. I have a schizo-spectrum disorder, one symptom is that being around people causes me to lose grip of the world and drains all my mental energy, another is anhedonia, so no motivation. I was also raised with the intention of making me helpless.

2. Several years, briefly interrupted by some attempts that didn't work out. I would be ok with hikikomoriism if I could live alone, but living with my family removes too much agency and privacy.
A cure might require magical intervention or an apocalypse scenario, nevertheless I have hope that these things are possible. I also might be able to make myself money online somehow (I am beginning to write a blog, which can't make money on it's own but maybe it could lead into something). I would like for one of these three things to happen soon, before I end up on the bad route.

>>8805
1. I dropped out of college two times already, i don't have anything diagnosed but i wouldn't be surprised if there was something wrong with my brain. Other than that i have type 1 diabetes which comes in play when im at a job and my sugars low or some situation relating to it.

2. For almost 1 year. The first seven months were some of my most miserable because all i did was play league of legends or some other f2p shitty game but later i started focusing on drawing so it can become my main job one day. I really desire to live of with my illustrations because it's what i love, what gives me meaning and im willing to do the impossible to live as an artist. My biggest fear is being stuck in a shitty job, always daydreaming about doing something more enjoyable,deeply fear that my life would start only at friday or the moment my turn ends.

>>8850
Nudes now

>>8854 Whats wrong with you?

Drinking rn

i am 19
i don't have any goals in life. i have no direction.
i just wanna be good and skilled. i just wanna write cuda and make things parallel.
i want to see my machines solve sudoku and do meaningless work.

>>8857
Melpomene appreciation

>>8830
If I knew what Bedrock would become, I would keep up the Legacy version without any doubt. And no, the 1.9 combat will stay on during sex until it (probably) get ported to older versions.

>>8832
I am genuine;y really miffed about the marketplace. It could have been such a good way for creators to make money off of modding but instead we get Epic Hacker Tools add-on 9000 420 or whatever.

>>8834
I know there's some quality addons and genuinely good creators, but the marketplace sometimes gives me the idea that Bedrock edition (at least that sense, the core game is still good) is just a knock off of that roblox garbage.

>>8835
yeah… it's a shame. it does have some pretty good stuff, like wireless multiplayer and imo nicer ui but it's so overshadowed by all the slop being forced down your throat that it hardly feels justified.

updated pic of my bst, the other tv i had (posted here >>7971 ) was far too big so i traded it for a better sized tv, so i could put it beside me.

>>8838
no unless you turn into fish do it become fish

>>7606
>>7605
>>7344
>>7077
>>6741
Your Cat is nice, otherwise wrong board jackass. You're not a hikki, you're not even a NEET. And I don't want to see your face either.

>>7607
I was for 7 years and this is my thread fuck off

I ran out of my vitamin D supplements not long ago and I'm beginning to face the effects without it. Being a hikki especially one who's been inside for 6 months now I know it won't go well without it - going to reup soon.

so much to update in the last year jesus christ

long story short im very much NEET again, i pick up my first dole/unemployment payment in ireland tomorrow

meanwhile cafe went to shit and i lost everything, but its pushed me to accept im going to have to back to school which ill most likely be doing from this september

i moved back to america for a month but nope'd the fuck out, im 32 in a month and without a degree the job prospects were shit but its really the same in most first world countries so may as well be somewhere im happy and has a better welfare state

in ireland im going to be able to get paid to go to school, potentially get a medical card for free healthcare, all that jazz which is great

>>7606
you look like stampylonghead if he just went cold turkey on a heroin addiction <3

>>7891
>>7897
I was here long before I was 18 and I always got the impression that other people were too. Also your "we are not the same" shit is stupid. They weren't claiming to be le tortured soul, self harm just means harming yourself.

>>7898
1. literally the first rule on the rules page is that you have to be an adult
2. this is a forum for NEETs/hikikomori. Not only has the user we are discussing admitted to not being that >>7863 but last I checked in most countries it's illegal to be a NEET when under eighteen.
This is a place for NEETs and hikikomori. It should be common sense that anyone who does not fit this criteria should leave.
Even if you think rules are retarded, people who aren't NEETs should be allowed in a community specifically dedicated to NEETs etc. do you think a minor SHOULD be here? I sure as hell don't want anyone to grow up to be like me. I get the feeling that this minor romanticises this sort of lifestyle and joining in with communities dedicated to it will likely do more harm than good.
Also I'm not even just talking about their one post here, I'm talking about their participation in this community as a whole.

>>7899
I honestly don't agree with most of what your saying, legality doesn't really have bearing on whether a person can be a hikki or not, my school just lied about attendance to keep their stats up when I was that age. But this user obviously isn't a neet or hikki and should hang out on any other board on this site instead of this one.

>>7842
I forgot to mention that the scars lasted for 3 or 4 years.

>>7297
>>7289
Replying to myself just to randomly vent / blog I guess, there's a weird comfort in just saying my thoughts on this board every once in a while. It feels like a lot has changed while nothing has changed in two years. I still go to gym, and I work at that job still and got a small promotion, so I've been able to save up money and visited another country for the first time ever.

I wasn't self harming since this post, until a friend commit suicide in 2023, so I started again. Part of me thought I grew out of it, but I feel like at this point my way of dealing with my emotions has been so unhealthy for so long that I'll never stop doing it, I feel like my emotions are much stronger and linger longer than normal peoples' do, but maybe they don't, and I'm just making excuses. It doesn't help that I think a part of me really likes my scars, like they're a significant part of my history like tattoos or something.

I also recently got very close with a girl, but my insecurities started showing, and I think this made her lose interest in me, so I started cutting again while at work today. I couldn't find anything sharp, so I snapped my plastic ID badge in half and used that, if there's a will there's a way I guess. I need to go to therapy or go on antidepressants or something, but I'm so emotionally closed off from most people that it feels scary to ever be open.

>>8561
Together with you or together with each other?

>>8313
What’s the image in your post from uboanon?

I used to think that I was unwell for being a loner that did not want to integrate into a larger society. Everyone else is thinking about capital, marriage and retirement, don't they? What kind of man does not strive for wealth and children? I will tell you what kind of man: the same kind that can see the illusions of this world for what they are.

Why do you people live for? Do you live for the sake of living, or do you seek something beyond our rotten world? Because those who live in order to live will perish, while those who want to reach for the stars will reach them! Everyone will see the suffering of the Earth at some point in their journey, and when they do they will either accept the world and seek its comfort or rebel against the world because it is wicked. You can see how all wars are unjust, all states are illegitimate and all rulers are robbers. Then why do you wish to live for the king and his kingdom when you can live for your own salvation? Leave the master alone to rule over his slaves, and seek comfort elsewhere.

They will call me mad for rejecting the world, but they cannot see that they are mad themselves. We are all broken by the world around us, nobody is left unscarred. Some will realize this, others will not. We live to be understood by our peers, but they can never understand us. There are no words that can fully convey what bothers the soul, and no one can peer into our minds to see our thoughts naked. That is why you are condemned to live and die on this Earth alone.

What am I going to do now? What are you going to do? I don't know, but we must seek our salvation independently. No two lives can be the same, as such no solutions can be either.

(also sorry for the schizopost lolo)

>>8591
Looks like that Sims game made for a younger audience, MySims I think it was called. Played the shit out of it back in the day

>>8639
nieztche is that you?