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 No.7863[Reply]

how the fuck do i talk to ppl irl (specifically at school)
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 No.8103

>>8091
I don't actually have any problem leaving my house/room, I just don't have any friends or money to do anything.

 No.9540

this board is so bad to be on if you are a teen or young adult. especially if you are easily impressionable and think hikkineets are cool. brainworms. also absorbing other's miserable thoughts. it's bad.

 No.9542

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>>9540
It's a fansite for a game where some girl shuts herself in her apartment and has nightmares until she kills herself and there isn't much to the game other than to watch the girl go through trippy and fucked up trauma implications.
That will obviously gather a bunch of people from which a great many will be mentally ill, and for some reason they have a forum to discuss mental health of all things where most are likely not to be in a good place to give mental health tips to anybody.
Of damn course its not a place for kids or idiots. This site is as adults only as it gets.
On the bright side, it's fun.

 No.9543

>>9542
plump 13 year old pakistani fingers wrote this

 No.9545

>>7863
>school
i really really hate to be like this because gatekeeping doesn't help anyone but i feel like hikki communities are not the best place to ask for social advice in situations like this



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 No.9531[Reply]

my mother has come to realize that i havent been leaving my bed let alone my room and she's starting to try to pull me out of the room to spend time with her (e.g. cooking, helping her out with stuff).

however, there's some subconscious side of me that, against my will, fights her at every step and the moment i'm free from her plunges me back deeper into isolation. i don't know what to do. i dont want to be this way anymore. i don't want to be alone but for some reason part of me does want to.

i wanted to live a normal life. i wanted to go to community college. i wanted to have a career. i wanted to have a loving husband. instead i can't remember the last time i left my house.

please for the love of god help me. i cant keep living like this. i genuinely don't know what to do anymore. i don't want to die a miserable shell of who i used to be.

 No.9534

sounds like depression

 No.9535

>>9534
oh yeah about that to clarify for further discussion i am diagnosed with major depressive disorder and nearly dropped out of high school because of it

 No.9536

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I think what it comes down to, and this might not sound helpful/easier said than done, is just resisting the urge. i guess "resisting the other side of you" in this instance. it'll be extremely uncomfortable but you can't have anything if you don't try for it. little by little of course, don't force yourself too hard in the beginning or you will fall back. it sounds like your mother is pretty much giving you baby steps so try your hardest to go along with her for now and then work your way up. maybe to not immediately go NEET mode again, you could hang out with her a little longer each time you do something together, like a chat after putting away the groceries or what have you or talking about the food you guys made and considering other recipes. hope this doesn't sound too reddit, i believe in you anon-chan

 No.9538

the reason why you kinda dont want to get out of this subconsciously is most likely because that is simply what you have become used to. isolation is your everyday life since probably quite a long time and getting out of your comfort zone is extremely hard but definitely possible. so yeah do what anon said, push yourself through with it, the fact that your mother acknowledges your problem and offers you subtle help is giving you a big advantage in terms of healing. accept her help, do not dump it in the trash just cause youre afraid or because it seems difficult. thats one of the reasons why many people (including me) stay stuck forever.



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 No.9537[Reply]

hi, can someone please help me decide if ita even worth trying to find a job anymore in the UK.this is a big dilemma, i love the uk people qre kind and respectful but im starting to go insane from all the inactivity and job hunting. and i feel ive let myself down for giving up. but i feel like im naturally gravitating towards it

>30

>romanian with settled status
>bsc, masters in IT
>3-4 years experience in IT
>2 in Romania 1 in the UK
>found last job after one whole year of searching but screwed it up
>looking now, barely 5-10 new jobs a day

appreciate any thoughts honest opinions thank you


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 No.9417[Reply]

how do i make myself less like byakuya togami and more like chihiro fujisaki
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 No.9425

>>9423
he wants to be like a video game character.

 No.9433

what the ._.

Btw, i hope Balatro rlly good game

 No.9519

well, comparing them both, chihiro fujisaki has a milder personality while byakuya is more precise and sometimes blunt in his words. So try to be calmer, quieter, gentle.
you know, a submissive breedable twink

 No.9520

>>9519
im not wasting my money on pinkpills you shill

 No.9521

>>9423
Can you post tomoko_disgust1.png (or tomoko_disgust.png) for me please



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 No.9516[Reply]

I'm living a nightmare scenario that's often proposed to neet/hiki "what would you do if your caregiver gets sick?" well, this is what has happened to me and i don't know how much time i have left, but i refuse to work, my aunt i could stay with her for a while. Not sure if my stepdad will still take care of me, he said he would, but you never know.
For the time being, I'm trying to enjoy myself in any way i can until things get worse, sucks because i have no other family. fuck it.

 No.9517

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i dont want to dwell on this, but its difficult not to notice this sword of Damocles hanging over my head.

 No.9518

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i dont kwiw what 'sow rod of damocles'. Uvoachan is jus an extension of my mind and a bad conversaiton with myselfe thats become an unhealthy habitgt



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 No.9396[Reply]

some time ago I talked to my psychologist, I told her about my most recent attempt to end my life and other suicidal idealizations, she told me that there was a dysregulation with my emotions, that at the slightest bad situation I was already thinking in the extreme, between many words we determined that the origin of my problems was due to the environment that surrounded me and she was right, living with parents who were not mentally and economically stable is not the best for a child to develop, fights, beatings, alcohol, death threats, in addition to suffering bullying for a long time for not being generally neurotypical caused me to have suicidal thoughts with 11 years and many attempts in progress, currently: I do not feel very well but it could be much worse, I went back to smoking for a short period of time and I isolated myself in my room, it is not that I have relapsed completely, I just want to disconnect a little bit from everything to reflect on myself and try to improve somehow, I feel optimistic about it ngl

 No.9398

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some time ago I talked to my psychologist, I told her about my most recent attempt to end my life and other suicidal idealizations, she told me that there was a dysregulation with my emotions, that at the slightest bad situation I was already thinking in the extreme, between many words we determined that the origin of my problems was due to the environment that surrounded me and she was right, living with parents who were not mentally and economically stable is not the best for a child to develop, fights, beatings, alcohol, death threats, in addition to suffering bullying for a long time for not being generally neurotypical caused me to have suicidal thoughts with 11 years and many attempts in progress, currently: I do not feel very well but it could be much worse, I went back to smoking for a short period of time and I isolated myself in my room, it is not that I have relapsed completely, I just want to disconnect a little bit from everything to reflect on myself and try to improve somehow, I feel optimistic about it ngl

 No.9402

good luck anon

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 No.9512

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iu wonder what could be the context for this thread ? can someone confirm



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 No.19[Reply][Last 50 Posts]

hi /n/, im curious about the NEETdom and wondering if you could answer some questions?

how long have you been a NEET?
was there a reason for you becoming a NEET?
what do you do all day?
what form of social interaction do you have, online and offline?
how often do you get outside, if at all?
do you live independently or with parents?
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 No.9458

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>>9453
Updating so soon after my post, I got an offer! It's for an assistant manager position at Subway. Unfortunately I have no choice since my phone bill, car insurance, and internet bill autopayed for this month and now I'm down to my last 100 dollars.
If this doesn't work out I don't know how much longer I can last.

 No.9472

>>9458
well I didn't get the job because I didn't have manager experience. How am I supposed to get experience for a job that requires the experience of that job to get?
Anyway, I HATE VIRTUAL INTERVIEWS. I HATE SETTING UP MY WEBCAM. I HATE SHOWING STRANGERS MY LIVING SPACE WHEN THEY WON'T EVEN SHOW THEIR FACE.

 No.9473

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>>9472
You don't, you show them the wall, picrel.
> How am I supposed to get experience for a job that requires the experience of that job to get?
Don't worry, sooner or later they will realize they won't have anybody qualified for the job since they haven't trained anybody. It will all burn in hell.

 No.9481

>>9472
If you're my bro, you lie and say you have it. There's a reason why he's now making quite a bit of money and I'm basically NEET again -_-

 No.9482

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>how long have you been a NEET?
Two years currently, plus 2 years between 2020 and 2022.

>was there a reason for you becoming a NEET?

Mental health problems from childhood s/a, and generally not liking other people. I find it impossible to talk to or trust anyone, even if I know I should.

>what do you do all day?

Scroll through imageboards/social media, read a lot of manga and play a lot of games (even if they aren't good..)

>what form of social interaction do you have, online and offline?

I have a friend who texts me from time to time, I think she just finds the way I live interesting. I don't get it, but there's probably some novelty in listening to me ramble

>how often do you get outside, if at all?

Every few months. My mom has health issues and doesn't like going to checkups alone.

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 No.9392[Reply]

Do things just get better? I feel like my entire life has been some kind of transitionary period. I've always just been waiting for the next thing to happen, the next house, the next open room, the next apartment, the next space. I genuinely feel like I have no concept of setting down and feeling secure. I also just feel like I'm at the complete whims of my family, they tell me what I have to do, they expect me to do this, go to college, get a good job, they expect me to get married and have kids for them. I haven't even felt happy first. I just want to live for myself, if I can't be on my own, I don't want to even live at all.

I've felt so dejected from drawing at all. I've just kinda ran away from my friends online, I can't seem to do anything.

Please tell me that some of you guys feel the same way, because I have no idea what to do.
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 No.9462

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>>9422
>>9412
>jobs
I've been trying to figure this shit out for the last couple days and I guess I might be a bit dumber than I thought. I don't know how to apply for a job. Also don't really know how I'd go to and from a job when I don't have a car. Could try to get something super close to me, but again… I'm so lost.

 No.9467

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>>9462
Applying for a job is deceptively easy, you "just" need to get lucky.
As for the technical process itself, you need to send then a CV(curiculum vitae) and a copy(you can get these certified at any post office if you're a Euro like me, I have no idea how Americans do it) of the diploma from your highest level of education. In practice that means either a highschool diploma or a university diploma. If you have them, send them copies of any certificates you have as well. It doesn't have to be related to the job, you're just showing off your competence.
As for your resume, just open a word document and write out your basic info plus some bullet points about yourself.
- Social security number
- healthcare provider
- driving level (whether you can only drive cars, or heavier vehicles as well)
- where you went to school and what you studied
- what languages can you speak and on what level
…. etc.
Keep it brief, keep it simple. You shouldn't need more than a page or two. Graphical flourishes are optional. Templates are dogshit.

As for where to look for jobs near you, well… you 'can' just walk in and ask. They can't stop you from doing that. Places near you might have a website listed on Google maps and you can figure out the owner/manager's e-mail or phone number from there if you don't want to embarrass yourself for little gain. Beyond that, you can try finding some job listing sites. That's about it though.

 No.9478

>>9467
Thanks. I ended up just applying to a college instead. Productive procrastination. I'm thinking of going for accounting, even though it sounds absolutely soul sucking. I probably just want some peace of mind knowing I tried before 30.

 No.9479

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I haven't draw anything on 2 months but keep imagining thousands of stories on my burnout head.

 No.9480

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>>9479
Same, I'm going to try to atleast pan out make a story into reality just one just so I can say I tried



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 No.9470[Reply]

I'm not sure what information I should share to get the advice I want to do ask me questions if needed please.

After a bit over a year of mostly weekly talking therapy I've come to the conclusion it isn't helping me in the ways I want it it to.

I want to nurture passions that time, depression, hiki-ization, life, whatever U wanna call it, ground down in to near nothing. I want to do something with music and I know it's not going to always be enjoyable but I want it to become something I can enjoy and feel somewhat skilled at.

I've attempted this a lot but keep hitting a wall of not knowing what it is I'm doing wrong or if I am doing something wrong or not. It's been over a year and I'm still very limited in what I can do and I can never memorise the name for most things it's just muscle memory. It's at this point I'm not sure what I'm saying or why I'm posting this but I guess I'm doing it anyway.

 No.9471

What sort of music, anon?

 No.9474

>>9471
Anything that can hold my interest I have a guitar I forgot to mention

 No.9475

actually switching tactic a bit, I struggle to talk to people and manage very normal basic social situations, when I do it is severely draining and/or does not leave me with any significant positive feelings or experiences worth remembering, I struggle to find the point in doing anything, I constantly fall in to bad habits of neglecting myself, the one person i felt comfortable with turned out to be a a selfish prick and i still havent gotten over him, im a tranny oversly conscious about my appearance but lacking the same ability and drive to do anything about it that keeps me from pursuiting anything susbstantial with music, i live with my parents who are nice enough that I can't justify leaving my dead body somewhere for them to find but have/are still abusive and ignorant to be a significant reason for why i feel so low and hopeless, what do you do when you spend over a year in therapy not sure what to talk about wrt any of that and just seeing what happens and having no progress come from it. I want to feel good about something, I want to learn something that will help me connect to other people, give me a creative outlet, make me feel useful. What do I do?



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 No.9438[Reply]

hi im an it guy fresh 30s. i ve barely had a satisfying workplace in the past several years because i cant get along with people. i know i have to but its very hard for me i cant stand them. this is worrying me a lot thinking i cant cope with life. if any of you have deep thoughtful advice id really appreciate it thank you a lot
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 No.9444

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born to die

 No.9445

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must be overthinking


im thinking most people who are well adjusted wouldnt even think 3 microseconds for a fucker

 No.9446

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my antennas fried long time ago. i think im crazy sorry

 No.9468

>>9440
>feelking like a real dunce this should be the easiest industry in the fucking world yet i cant keep it because im a retard
How in the actual fuck is IT an "easy" industry? You're just saying that because you were blessed with a big brain with plenty of grey matter.
I can't help you with being a better people pleaser but I'd like to know how to learn server admin stuff. I'd like to run my own things on my own server but have no idea where to start learning this stuff

 No.9469

>>9468
Thanks.

try taking a structured approach. I would suggest comptia core + infrastructure then red hat (RHCSA). Find additional background material on your own



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