/hikki/ - NEET / Advice

>>788
Call them. You can do it. Don’t let your fears get the best of you. If it doesn’t go well you can just leave and try something else. I assure you that you will feel better after calling than if you didn’t.

I was exactly like you before, so alike that it hurts to read your post. Also a neet for two years. I used to believe working wasn’t for me, that I would be embarrassing awful at all the tasks and schedules, and just thinking of having to deal with people I didn’t knew scared me so much. Some months ago I finally got tired of feeling like shit and accepted to work on an acquaintance’s office. I was overwhelmed at first. I didn’t even have the courage to answer the phones for a long time, and would stutter when talking to people. Faced so many embarrassing situations. I eventually got used to it, gained experience, and started to be able to chill my insecurities. I still do embarrassing things sometimes but I have learned not to worry about it so much. The experience changed me, and I can even say this change affected other areas of my life for the better.

Just do your best to overcome the challenges you’ll face at work, and don’t feel intimidated when things go wrong. You already have motivation so use it to push yourself into doing what you want. I won’t lie, it will take some time to learn what to do and how to deal with your negative thoughts and feelings. Keep your perseverance at high. Even if you end up sucking at the job, remember you still gained some experience with it and you are now ready to do even better at your next one. I wish you good luck, anon. If I managed to do it, you can too.

>>788
Please call them. The best you can do is the best you can do. The best you can do changes when you make a mistake. If you don't call them, you won't learn how to do better.

>But if I could be NEET forever I would, because less people can hurt me if I stay away from them.
I used to be a NEET for a while for this very reason.

Now it's been a few years.

Now I think, "less people can love me if I stay away from them."

It takes a toll on one's mind and body not to do anything for an extended amount of time.
Long story short, I had an incident one time when I went outside. A life changing, broken bones sort of incident. And it made me fucking paranoid to go outside again. I just want to stay inside constantly, but fuck, I also want to enjoy life. I don't want to be a miserable douchebag with no aspirations, I want to enjoy myself.
However, I'm literally scared of everything. So back to feeling shit and being a NEET I go.

>>659
I feel this to be true.
I've been NEET for 7 years now and I feel blessed for having time work on hobbies, learning things and a whole lot of procrastination without really having to worry about the future.

When I was still being push to become something and work on some kind of schedule it made me insanely unhappy each time and I basically never got along with more people at those places either.
If being a NEET isn't destroying you mentally somehow I'd say you should savor it as long as you can, because for most people it will only be a phase in life.

I've been a NEET since 2011, following a suicide attempt partially due to university at the time. I've done nothing ever since, I've made a few attempts at getting back into uni but they've all failed so far. I'm thinking of getting a certificate III in something or maybe even a diploma if I'm capable.

I've wanted to change for a long but my only real motivator for that died a few years back and I've kind of just been floating ever since. I've tried talking to friend and family about it but they don't seem to understand, take me seriously, I struggle effectively opening up or all three of those. I do like the idea of helping people, especially teenagers and new adults figure things out and to avoid them ending up like me, a decade after graduating high school and having achieved nothing. My social anxiety and other mental issues will be a big problem with doing that though, since I barely know how to talk to people properly besides my grandparents and friend or saying basic shit to cashiers while getting served. While I guess I could have fucked up worse, could have gotten on drugs harder than weed, had a bunch of kids I couldn't look after or get an STD or something on par with those, I still feel like a major fuck up for the past decade of absolutely nothing. It's to the point that I have dreams about getting a similar job to my cashier job I had in high school and going over how I fucked that job up, but as an adult this time.

The decade of NEETdom has kept me back, like time while physically continuing feels like it should have stopped at one point. One way I look at it is from console generations. I graduated high school in 2010, the peak of the 360 and PS4, not those consoles are gone, the Wii store is gone, the servers for games I heard were coming out soon are closing and it feels like I just blinked, the consoles that replaced those consoles will be gone soon to.
The three main things I've considered studying to help get me a job is:
Cert III in Health Services Assistance - basically become a hospital orderly
Diploma of Nursing - become an enrolled nurse
Bachelor of Accounting - become an accountant
The bachelor degree will take at least three years to complete though, while the other two are between 12-18 months. This was a mess of a post. My bad. In short, I'm not happy and I'm trying to fix that.

Become a mod but get paid for it.

>cant draw
>havent written a line of code since college (very basic stuff)
>terrified of human interaction
>only good at games where boosting isnt a thing
>not good enough at those games to actually win money
where does motivation come from and how do i get some

>T-shirt designs

I made my first sale on Redbubble today. Got $2.89 US

>>5919

They banned me for posting a pepe shirt which is retarded because the whole site is filled with halfchan memes.

>>5916
Try NoFap and/or a dopamine detox.
>>5923
Pepe is banned because he triggers Jews.

Well, if you're able to keep your grades up with lots of effort, then it is just a matter of getting past the judgements of others. I've personally delt with a lot of imagining that people are criticizing me silently, and I have come to the conclusion that it's bullshit and people don't work like that. Even if you do get looks it doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things so long as you're working to get where you want to be. People won't care if they thought someone in their class was stupid once they get home.
Studying can be difficult if you've gone a long time without exercising your brain, but it's just something you need to build up. Learning something logic related like math would probably help. Don't fall into thinking you can't because you're stupid, the brain is built on effort.
As far as work goes, so what if you're the squeaky wheel? What are they gonna do, fire you? If you're just getting a job, you're probably not working with nuclear reactors. Minor fuckups don't matter. Just make it to work on time, communicate enough to get the job done, and try your best.

>>6239
What have you done in those 3 years you think it were so detrimental? Even games and watching anime requires some level of concentration.
>>6240
>try your best.
That's it pretty much. Pick the subject matter you want to study and start reading about it. Not much else you can do I guess.

I don't have anything to add to OP but I would just like to say my memory problems are becoming really scary for someone my age late 20's but damn it has gotten bad. Any remedies would be much appreciated. Hope you are doing well, OP, and everyone else

Comfy Neet and Sunny are the best neet youtubers.

Star-chan is the cutest!!!

>>6082
>you would think they would be a bit more sympathetic and understanding because we are supposedly going through the same problems
A lot of unhappy people that aren't normalfags are like this for some reason and I never understood it. You would think there would be some kind of camaraderie or something but there isn't, just angst directed at the people you should be considering your friends.

>>5655
>?disable_polymer=1
Thank you for reminding me this is all I need to fix youtube's headache inducing redesign

Only YouTuber I know who's NEET is inmendham, who's supposedly been living off of disability for an anxiety disorder, but that's hearsay as I don't actually know much about his personal life. His videos are oddly comfy despite his pessimistic philosophy and aggressive attitude, although I find them redundant nowadays. Still an interesting guy, been around since the earliest days of YouTube and the internet in general, even maintains a nice and shitty web 1.0 site where you'll stumble upon his nudist/exhibitionism section if you click around too much. Now more active talking about physics on his DraftScience channel especially since google keeps giving him strikes on his main.

>>16612
Have been thinking of the same thing, I am getting a few hundred USD in inheritance or innheritance equivalents and was scouting out a nice remote mountain village to build my neet-mansion and invite neets but kung flu got in the way.

I plan on buying a lot of land and building only the amount of rooms required and using the rest of the comfy mountain forest land for walks and such.

Where are you going to find a bunch of NEETs?
All your gonna get is homeless people.

>>6161
easy, just ask for a little bit of money a month, say 100$, from what people are talking online, there are a lot of adults living with their parents, and guess they would be glad to send their 30 year old off to some kind of shared flat

That would be wonderful OP, I'm trapped with my parents in an isolated shithole town and I hate it. If I had somewhere I could fly to and never go back I would be so much happier.

>>6220
>isolated shithole town
Sounds comfy. I live in a big city and I'm miserable. I wish I could move to some bumfuck hick town and live in some cabin in the woods away from society

You're addicted to the internet because the internet is awesome.
Don't stop because of some bullshit you heard on the news

You first have to find out why you use the internet in an addicted way. Are you using it to calm down? Are you bored? Are you scared? Once you figure that out you need to find a way to get a productive hobby that replaces why you used the internet or fix the underlying issue that causes you to use the internet.

Since you said you need the internet in some situations I recommend a site blocker (cold turkey or leech blocker). You can make them block X sites from X-X hours.

Also you should look into how the internet is addiction so you can understand what you're up against

>>5710
I have this problem where I click on too many things I find interesting and then I never close the tab. So it gets to the point where I literally have thousands of tabs open and it takes my computer crashing and not saving the tab history for me to stop. Then a week goes by and I just uncontrollably start up again. Pic related is my current score

>>6189
What extensions do you use for organizing tabs? When i reach around 100 on chrome with a 1920x1080 screen new tabs disappear and I can only reach them by ctrl+tab. Should I use another browser or is there a trick I'm not aware of?

>>6204
try tree-style tabs in firefox

>>6170
that would be pretty nice, anon.

>>6170
likewise, guide away

>>6172
You're fucking retarded.

>>6169
>>6174
>>6197
Not that anon but we can now be found at https://anon.cafe/tower/ . Hope you guys find this post.

Are any of you the mage with the 2 dogs? It would be nice to see him again

>>6169
You still here, anon?

I probably haven’t brushed my teeth since March. Can’t remember anymore. Haven’t bathed in months.

>>6177
>I take a bath three or so times a month
I haven't taken a bath since I was seven. I remember just resting in the warm water peacefully. Are baths better than showering?

>>6188
Showering is a more efficient way of actually cleaning yourself and if it's less than ten minutes or so a shower will usually use less water but some people really like baths. For me they're a lot more relaxing and every time I take a shower I think about how much I'd rather be just sitting down and submerging myself for a long time in a tub full of hot water.

>>6188
since you become an adult it's not. I also remember those times when i loved to chill in bath, i've been trying to enjoy this as i did but it doesn't feel that good and calming anymore.

>>6188
I'm not sure as I have only had like less then 10 showers in my life. My house does not have a shower so its always baths for me. I only take baths this often for umm reasons lets just say that. If I didnt have my reasons I would take maybe 1 every two months or so.