/hikki/ - NEET / Advice

I'm too embarrassed to read my old posts. I'd delete them if I could.

But I can say nothing has gotten better, only worse. I think I'm in my 12th year of being a neet? It's been half a decade since I've visited this place as well.

dunno if you'll read this but taking action for your OCD is the first thing to do; if it's bad enough to seem like a delusion it's clearly the main problem. stay strong

Im just like you

>>5751
It sucks to have anxiety mixed with poor social skills but you should really try to finish uni. Once you're done with that then just find a job in IT where you don't really have to deal with people in person and you'll be fine.

>>5751
If you're really an IT major then the cutting edge for you would be learning every shell you can possibly learn.

As in, become fluent in Unix and Bash, learn PowerShell, learn how to script in all of those, and try your hand at other CLIs as well, like maybe Cisco IOS or Python scripting.

If you can demonstrate proficiency in these things you're 10x more employable than the average schmuck that only has Windows based certifications or whatever the case is. IT is moving towards automation. Learn programming and scripting.

>>5966
>I've been wondering the same thing for years. The verb 引く has only one k, yet people constantly spell it with two.

Exactly it makes them look like a fucking idiot who doesn't know how to spell.

>>5965
As far as the board title is concerned, I think it was named this way as an abbreviation, because Hikikomori has two Ks and ends in an I. HIKiKomorI. In Japanese the double K also renders as a pronunciation jump, alluding to the word being crunched down. You could also see it as the last two letters in the first five letters being flipped around for funsies.

It might have also been that someone (possibly me, don't remember) couldn't spell.

>>5965
"ヒッキー" exists as internet slang for hikikomori, though?

>>5933
you should let him

used to go 2 weeks at a time in high school. Because of that though I now cannot stand the smell and have to take one once a day or at least every other day. If I don't, I'll get extremely uncomfortable and irritable.

>>5974
And you would go to school dirty??

>>5975
was suicidal at the time and couldn't bother to do it as I thought it was pointless. changed over the summer as i thought maybe i could make things different in collgere. instead just started to really enjoy the feeling of not feeling greasy and oily all the time. also played a part in the fact it helped a lot with getting rid of acne.

I shower everyday but rarely shave

Maybe like 3 days out camping or something

Keeping friendships is hard even for normalfags. Transient NEET here trying to stop NEETing but failing for 3 years.

> What an asshole, if you don't want to be friends with someone just fucking say it, you coward.

I did this to someone and it went badly. He cried in front of me and I felt like complete shit. I understand why people don't. Relationships both platonic and romantic need to be mutual, if one party isn't getting anything after a fair amount of time (year(s)) that's time to cut to the cord.
The ritual for normalfags is to gradually fade away. I've learned this from multiple groups now. It sucks being on the other end of it and I agree it's not intuitive. The other problem is that literally everyone I've ever met is insecure, even the good people out there as rare as they are. So saying "I don't want to be friends" = directly attacking their egos and making them feel vulnerable to them even if that's not what it means. People can't take the idea that it's natural to grow apart sometimes and they go apeshit over it. When people grow apart well adjusted people find new people that fit them better. (Like climbing a mountain for people like us.)

>>5892
Looking back at my post, i got super depressed and overly dramatic by the end, i sounded like a teenager haha.
While a lack of experience is part of the problem, i think it goes deeper than that. I've tried to be social throughout my life, i've been in many social situations, I got "experience" socializing, but mostly experiences of failure, of feeling isolated and laughed at. They say that we learn from our failures and get better thanks to them, but when it comes to interacting with others it only drives you deeper into solitude.
And all the good experiences i gained being friends with that guy for so many years have not helped my social skills at all.
I think it's mostly a personality thing.
I've always suspected that it might be pathological, perhaps im somewhere in the autism spectrum, but i doubt knowing that for sure would help me at all in overcoming this fundamental flaw.
>>5897
I understand. I got resentful when i wrote that.
I wouldn't be able to just tell someone to stop being friends with me either.
Maybe this is the best way to part ways. The silence and ambiguity is anxious and annoying at first, but when it goes on long enough the message that the friendship is over is clear, without awkward loud fight, just calmly fading away.
Friends come and go like that, its just so much worse for someone with only one.

don't want to make a new thread and i'm a lazy fuck that is too lazy to search the catalog for a general vent/life complaint thread but fuck i hate being stupid

like that's another that gets me, i can pinpoint why i love something but i have no way to verbalize it that makes sense, i know i'll just come across as a dumbass to people. e.g. these two games explore the relationship between a consumer and the creator of the media they enjoy; there has to be a degree of trust between the two to ensure the story gets told but man that sounds so retarded

and it's not just that, i'm bad at almost everything. i rarely if ever notice plot holes. i find it hard to verbalize why i love a certain character past their design/some vague personality traits and i have this awful habit of agreeing with anyone's opinion if it's written well

i hate myself. i wish there were a pill to make me smarter

>>5878
I can relate to that so hard, I never understood how people work.

I went through a similar phase, but it got to where I couldn't keep up with everyone and/or they weren't worth keeping up with. I found the optimal number of friends for me is about 5. It helps if you have your own little group and are interconnected.
>>5942
As for the stupid thing, I relate to that hard too. Feels like there are holes in my brain. I think it has something to do with my laziness, and how I never felt to improve myself. I'm sure there are ways to train yourself to think better, you just have to find them.

It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society.

>>5946
If you're able to move to another city, state or country, your mental health can improve if the people in this new area are better, you can go from feeling 100% awful all the time to feeling 70% awful all the time, for a hikki that's a huge improvement

>>5949
Even if they move they would say everyone is the same as the people in the old place.

>>5950
Then said neet has a problem in their head

>>5952
That's obvious.

Most people fail their initial disability application. What you do then is contact a disability lawyer. There are tons of them who will file your appeal for free and then just take a portion of your backpay as payment when you're approved. I have had a few friends do this.

>>3276

The gov designs this shit to poor shame and disability shame. It's part of the strategy so that corporate heads can keep padding their pockets with our taxes instead of letting laws get written that actually improve the wellbeing of our people. That's ass OP, am sperg, had IEP in school and can't go outside without an anxiety attack and still can't get SSI.

Would reccomend you get a disability lawyer but they normally take their pay out of your benefit, find a local social services agency to help you, send your documentation and appeal the inevitable first rejection/denial.

>>5492
I feel somewhat bad replying to an old post like this, (and really that as a whole is why, while I have browsed before I've never really posted on uboachan much) but, if you are here anon, what are the symptoms of your stomach infection and gastrointestinal issues? I thought that I might have IBS, and brought it up with my doctor last year. but I don't really eat much of the things that apparently cause IBS symptoms anyways, so, I've wondered if the issue is something else. It also feels like when I'll get cramps and diarrhea is completely random. I can eat fast food garbage and feel fine, but eat a home cooked meal and feel horrible after (although I think milk and coffee will pretty consistently make me sick). I've done blood tests for celiac and didn't have that. When I do have my episodes of cramps and diarrhea, my shit will have an "infection" sort of a smell for lack of a better term, normally it doesn't smell like that, only when I have an episode, which also makes me think it might not be IBS, but instead an infection or some other gastrointestinal issue. These bouts of cramps and diarrhea happen probably around once a week, every two at the most, so it's not an everyday thing, but when it does happen it lasts quite a long time. Maybe it really is just IBS and I'm being stupid about it.

If you did end up getting a colonoscopy and more bloodwork, I'd be curious to know how it went. I get you're not a doctor, but, maybe you'd have some sort of an idea of what might be wrong if my experinces are similar to yours.

I'm sorry for the long-winded post, and if other people with gastrointestinal issues want to chime in, by all means do so.

>>5942
got some extra stool test but didn't get the colonoscopy and likely still need it. Ended up with a diagnosis and test of positive for Helicobacter Pylori after 6 months of false negatives, it might still be an infection in upper intestine.

IBS does not notmally have a distinct smell in the same way helicobacter pylori and colostrum difficile infections do, tests for those have high false negative rates so you may need to cease whatever treatment you take (proton pump inhibitor medication especiallY) in order to find out if you do have one of those

Doesn't everyone do the same thing? You'll be fine, anon.

Yeah I did the same, almost the same actually, I learned what I was supposed to know on the run.
Just learn to do whatever you lied about unless it's too lunatic, and do it fast, time is running.

>>5920
I wouldn't say contrasted. Strong people can afford to be compassionate and forgiving, while weak people need to viciously scrabble around in the dirt for whatever leverage they can find.