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 No.3085[Reply]

i'm looking for some perspective, as i'm not really sure where my life will be going.

i am about to enter for-real neetdom for the first time in my life, but i know my parents will not let that be the case for long. i don't want to get too detailed, mostly because a lot of it isn't relevant, but my relationship with my parents got really fucky when i first hit puberty. i couldn't explain why i was feeling the way i was, so i would lock myself in my room and shut them out. they didn't understand what was happening, some bad stuff happened over time, but after 3 years of constant fighting they gave up on me.

they still don't understand why i am the way i am, which is my fault for never letting them. thanks to something that happened during the years when we were fighting pretty much any sense of trust i had in people in real life was shattered. but i am about to drop out of college, i've never worked before, and i can't drive. they don't understand that i'm not exactly doing the best mentally, they've always thought of me as lazy. because of this they'll want me to get my shit together, but i genuinely don't feel like i can.

i guess my question is whether or not i should show them that i am not well. i don't think a shrink would have anything worthwhile to offer me, but i think going though all the bullshit get better type stuff would be infinitely better than continuing on day to day ready to fucking blow my brains out. i'm not exactly sure how i would muster up the courage/design a situation to show them i am currently not fit to live a "normal" life, and, beyond that, i don't know if they would believe me or care. right before my parents completely gave up on my i told my mom that i wanted to die and that i think seeing someone would be good for me, which was pretty much the only insight i gave her into how i was feeling. she told me to take a shower and "just cheer up."

it's feels like a bit of a miracle that i haven't had a serious break down or anything like that, but i don't think i can keep existing this way.

does your family know how you feel? do they accept it?

 No.3088

I can't really give much exact advice, because health service costs (or lack of) change per country, people's parents are different, etc.

Assuming it's not pointlessly expensive, I'd recommend going to your doctor alone and explaining things to them. In this country, at least, they may be able to refer you to a psychologist/psychiatrist (can be free, at least over here). They may not necessarily be much help, and I'd heavily recommend against starting on any medications unless you cannot even begin to understand and remove what's causing you problems, but doing such and then informing your parents would, in many situations I believe, be enough to make them begin to realize how serious you are about this. From there, you could begin (again, depending on country) to get into a welfare system for the time being.

I was in a pretty similar situation when I dropped out of university. The thing I went there to learn ended up not being something I was really interested in enough to go through several more years of study, tests and a heavily flawed education system. So I just stopped going to classes and wandered around the campus instead, then eventually dropped out. It all went a lot easier than you'd think. From there, if you mend things with family (you don't have to be doing this for them or anything, it's quite fine to see it as for your own peace and comfortable living conditions) and take a break from stressful life, you'll gradually become more open to doing things and may find something you'd be happy to study or do for a job. That is, on the condition that you keep an open mind, and don't develop aversions to those things, which it seems many of the longer-term NEETs tend to. Basically, enjoy the NEETlife, but don't feel anger, resentment or depression for the "outside" world. That was what held me back for the longest. If that sounds or becomes something that's difficult for you to do, meditate every day. I'd be happy to give advice on this, if you'd like. It's easily the single most effective path towards an open mind, willpower, control of your emotions, and the complete destruction of suffering. I learned that a breakdown, if handled well, is a chance to purge what you've learned is harmful for you and completely start over.

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 No.2927[Reply]

If you have add or are impulsive and you feel that is holding you back from starting to look for a job, take medication. (I took Concerta personally)

Improve yourself. YOUR GOAL AS A NEET IS TO MAKE YOUR BODY AS HEALTHY LOOKING AS POSSIBLE. The point is that self betterment improves confidence and lessens your social anxiety lessens. Trust what I say.

Keep your skin clean by exfoliating (I use baking soda and water) and then moisturize everyday TWICE.

If you are overweight, eat less (no high calorie foods). Exercise focusing on high repetitions and drink a lot of water to fill your stomach.


If you are underweight and a girl, you are in the clear, it's a good thing. (As long as it isn't anorexia or something, I personally don't have much help for that)

If you are underweight and a guy, like myself, drink whole milk (half a gallon a day, or a full gallon if you are serious about gaining weight) for a couple months on top of your existing diet. And 2-3 full meals a day. I personally recommend getting a big bag of white rice and stock up on chicken breasts. Do pushups and squats everyday and get into lifting.

I focuse here on nutrition because that is that core of your mental health and physical health. It will makes you think better and look healthier. Combine this with exercise and your social anxiety problems will fade away as you notice improvements. Soon you will put your struggles behind you and be laughing as your confidence starts a positive feedback loop.

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 No.3055

>>3053
>The problem was anon having such a big problem other people’s idea of attractiveness.

Which is why I pointed out his lack of tact. He could have easily just left it at, "I prefer thicc gurls" and been respectful but why really entertain someone who doesn't actually other's ideas of attractiveness.

 No.3056

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>Everybody having an argument against a frogposter
Even if you are underweight and considered "attractive", that's not healthy nor healthy looking, you'll look like a gnome.

Now let's go back to talking about how people are judged by their genitals.

 No.3072

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the level of ignorance in this thread is staggering

 No.3073

>>3072
Enlighten us, Sensei.

 No.3074

>>3072
Care to elaborate?



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 No.971[Reply]

Hey /n/, gotta wonder has anything good happened to y'all lately? Could be as minor as remembering a funny event from a manga or something huge. I'm curious.
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 No.1105

>>1103
I just emailed you because I cant figure out which one is you.

 No.1109

>>1105
Sent request on skype.

 No.3009

my dog died this morning

 No.3018

>>3009
…and that's a positive thing?

 No.3065

In order to keep my family closer together, I've recently started to enforce a rule that prohibits computers in the bedroom and started to make a family computer room where everyone has their computers at.

I've already moved one of my computers over and so has two other family members. All I know is that kids shouldn't have such unrestricted access to computers (especially the internet) and even adults shouldn't be locked up in their rooms. That much I know I can work on for my own kids if I have them.

Plus my family IT work is massively simplified. I might even just rewire my cables so I can move the router and modem closer to the computer room.



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 No.2803[Reply]

Hello there, posting here because I kinda need to talk about this with someone, hope this is not a problem.

I have been working for some months, but decided to quit in some days because.. I don't really feel like keep going on.
I always had different kinds of social problems, and I really have more than one emotional problem for the job I have right now, which was pretty much the same for school. Sadly, I never took the courage to tell this to someone, so I'm kinda stuck in a situation where I don't know what to do.

Now that I was able to buy some new consoles for entertainment, and some new equipment for digital drawing, I'd really prefer to stay at home, while I have the opportunity to do so. I still live with my parents, and my mother told me to rethink about my decision, and she pretty much assumed I took the decision just out of lazyness, which I don't think is true..
What is true, however, is that I won't have any more income to buy games/fun things, and it would be hard to find another job, for the situation I'm in.

I really love drawing, but I'm one of those persons who kinda needs time; I can never put myself to drawing after eight hours of work because I just wanna relax.

if you were me, what would you do? what do you think about all of this? Thank you for answering in advance.

 No.2804

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Wow. JKust fucking wow. To be entirely honest, I'm actually in the same boat. Like seriously all the things you mentioned hit me right at home. The way I see it, we have to change ourselves to adapt to our current situation or die being a deadweight. Right now I'm in the middle of applying for another job but so far no luck.

Hopefully for you, you might be able to live as a freelance illustrator or even animator/web designer if you can extend your skill set to that. There are tons of companies looking to hire contracts for the things I mentioned earlier, all you need is a good online portfolio and a good attitude. You will really need to fix how fast you can churn out those designs though. Frankly I never liked this idea and never really want to make my hobby as some sort of means to live.

Good luck to you man.

 No.2805

Dude, I've been working for four years now, I just want to quit because I'm sick of coming home and just wanting to relax rather than do things I want to do.

If I were you, I would keep the job. At least save your money and put yourself in a position where you can either quit or at least reduce your hours like if you are full time, go part time.

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>>2804

Thank you for the good luck!
In those months of working, I learned what it means to work and to not have time for yourself, so the first thing I'll try, will be to help with house chores and such (something that I never did before), time is really precious and this could be a little help for my parents.

Of course, this is a risky way, I don't know if I'll be able to become good at drawing, but in that case I wouldn't mind making some money with it. Well, not that I wanna think about that from the start, I was just thinking that it probably wouldn't bother me much, I really love art.

>>2805

Sadly, there is no possibility to work part time at my work. My country is in a bit of a job crisis and finding another job is really hard, and the fact that I'm young without experiences, and without a driving license, makes it all worse.

 No.2807

>>2806
Then I have too ideas, one that is a bit more humorous (can't be all gloom and doom all day) and one more serious.

Are you a cute guy? Maybe if you either go on Twitch, show your face, draw and play some vidya or become a cute cam boy and maybe you could rack in the money.

On a more serious note, unless it's too late, I would just continue to work full time. And instead of spending money on vidya, use that money to make yourself more self-sufficient. Do your local laws allow you to raise chickens? Or do you even have the space for that? (and that's only one example) Any investment that lowers your spending is a good one. Hell, this is my inner PC gamer faggotry talking, but I'd even ditch the consoles and go full PC gaming and only buy games when there is a good deal. I've done this and have saved quite a lot of money doing this, I'm hoping to buy some chickens this year too.

 No.2865

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>>2803
>>2804
I get that feeling, you just want to follow your own paths instead than rather going with the mainstream, is totally fine and reasonable, do it as long as you are happy and enjoy what you are doing that's the whole point actually. I am trying to get a part time job to finance the same reason as OP's, but also i want to play the synth, and im currently finding a way to support that goal. Even if it's a dream you should pursue it and make the best out of it while you can, also getting into desing to also do some freelance and IT, if you want to learn a skill is as easy as wanting to do so, just need some will and minimum resources if you have them i hope for the best for you both, also the anon with the chickens, tried to do that but with home gardening, pretty good just to get some fresh produce, sadly don't have space for chickens.



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 No.2837[Reply]

31, barely working, living in mothers basement, Constantly sick with an unclassified autoimmune disease, in a state of decline. Spend most of my time laying down while browsing useless things on the net or playing free apps. Considering suicide daily.

 No.2839

Why do you live in the basement? Just use your old room. Or did you always live there?

 No.2840

I don't really get the vibe that you're asking for advice, so I'm not going to try and give some irrelevant two cents in that regard.

Though, I will say that I'm a wageslave making decent money. However, you and I have something very much in common - neither of us have a reason to be alive.

I am also constantly sick. It has nothing to do with not eating enough, or not eating right, or not getting enough activity. It is my body's natural desire to expend as little energy as possible to achieve a given task, and as of right now, at a physical level, I believe we are both already on our way out. we are not meeting our instinctual mandate.

 No.2843

You could at least play better games on your PC. Why would you settle for shitty free phone apps?

 No.2844

>>2843
Considering how the term "app" is now a catch all term for software with mainstream desktop OSes having "app stores" and laptops and mobile devices slowly fusing together, it's very likely he could be playing PC games.

But his photo looks like he took a picture with an iPhone and posted it. Some mobile games are good, shame it's mostly Nintendo games.



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