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 No.5866[Reply]

today was my birthday, all i expected was a "happy birthday" and a hug from the ppl i like (mostly a girl i think is kinda cute), but i've hardly recived it.
please anons, give me happy birthdays and virtual hugs so i can fell a bit better this day
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 No.5873

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Happy Birthday! May things start looking up in your life.

 No.5874

Happy birthday, Anon!

 No.5875

>>5866
happy day, anon

 No.5889

Op here, just wanna say I love each and every one of u

 No.5890

>>5866
happy belated birthday, anon

>>5889
we love you too



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 No.5834[Reply]

What are some personal goals a hikki can have? What are some tangible goals one can have?

 No.5845

Mastery of an art? Take the artform or medium you're most interested in and strive to match the skill of the artists who's work you enjoy, and when you have, strive to improve upon it. Make it a goal to become one of the creators that have entertained you throughout hikkidom so you can pick up the torch and use your skills to entertain the next generation of hikki

 No.5863

>>5834
I don't know attempt to do something productive around the house, change your diet, and lessen the depression that has a hold on you little by little one day at a time?

 No.5880

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>>5834
there are none



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 No.5766[Reply]

What do you even do outside if you don't go to school, have friends to go out with or a job? What's the point of leaving your home?
What are fun things to do?
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 No.5769

>>5768

If you live in a somewhat manageable city, try going out at late night/really early in the morning, or in weather that ordinary city dwellers would consider "bad". That way, you might not encounter many people.

But if you live in an overdeveloped, tourist-infested shithole concrete jungle like I do right now, then it won't work, and I wish I would know what to do.

 No.5805

I go on night walks every now and again, its nice to just feel and smell the chilly night air and get away from my desk for a little while. I enjoy going out and driving at night too, hardly any cars on the road and shopping is less of a hassle too.

 No.5818

I really miss when my town was safe enough to do night walks in. It was one of the healthiest things I did during my earlier years of being a NEET. It's been unsafe for going on 8-9 years now.

 No.5822

I did these walks to nowhere once every month. I got to enter different areas of the city and consequently entered different states of mind/being… I have come to believe that even each neighborhood has its own 'life force' to it, based on the people that live there, architecture… everything that has to do with that locality. In a big and varied city like mine at least. I've lived in other places where this wasn't felt as strongly. Of course, this could have just been my wild NEET imagination spurred on by some kind of mania felt due to perceived freedom from the confines of my room… or finally breathing fresh air.. either way, one of the best things I did with my time then! Other than that, yeah, it's very hard to participate in hobbies outside of your home… I wasn't able to do it and still have trouble today despite holding down a job.

 No.5826

I basically just surf the internet for online business opportunities. I can't really do anything about my situation since I'm just recovering from mental illness at the moment(the one that makes you go crazy - been not crazy for awhile though).

I also misspend my neetbux on food at the beginning of the month.



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 No.5583[Reply]

Anyone here has an absolute lack of motivation to do anything? Usually I find it hard to relate to other people because they mention having a hobby, having "only one friend" or even a girlfriend. Well, I have neither of those.

I have a really hard time to start doing things because of this lack of motivation, but when I finally find something I like, I usually get bored or tired of doing it in like… 2 days or so. With friends, I also have this social anxiety, I can't look at other people's eyes and can't even start a conversation. And the worst part is that whenever I feel like we're finally becoming friends or having a good relationship, I have no idea why but I start feeling uncomfortable around them at the point that I start avoiding them…

So, after a few years being a hikki, I finally got slightly motivated to find a way to move to Japan. I studied a bit and got a scholarship to study in a Japanese university. Well… It's been more than a year already, and after the first month here I stopped going to classes, made no friends and have no motivation to do anything at all again. I basically buy enough food for a few weeks, store everything inside the fridge (which is just next to my bed) and don't go out of the bed until I start feeling really hungry.

Have you ever been in a similar situation? How do you usually find motivation to start doing something new?
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 No.5718

>>5717
Can I ask what brought you back here?

 No.5719

>>5718
Nostalgia

btw i met my first ubuufag irl this year, that was a good time actually

 No.5728

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>>5583
>Anyone here has an absolute lack of motivation to do anything?
Entirely. I've been isolating my self for practically my whole life so no motivation is probably a result of that or something. Also like you said, even if I did find something I want to do or enjoy doing, I'd stop at most 3 days later so I barely get anything done. The only thing that gets me out of my bed is so I can go on my pc and browse image boards. It's absolutely horrible and completely inhibits me from doing anything in the future because I can't even think of what I'd even like to do.

>With friends, I also have this social anxiety, I can't look at other people's eyes and can't even start a conversation

I also have this issue. I never start conversations with anyone so friendships completely rely on the other person to approach me, which rarely happens. Even if someone did, I'm too boring of a person for them to want to be around me because I add and do nothing and barely know how to communicate properly anyways.

>I have no idea why but I start feeling uncomfortable around them at the point that I start avoiding them…

I've never related to something as much as this before. I did this all throughout grade school and still do it know, even with my parents. But I can never understand why I do this. Maybe it's because I never really wanted to be friends with most people irl in the first place but I also didn't have the guts to say no to them and then look weird. I'm not exactly sure but do you feel a similar way?

>How do you usually find motivation to start doing something new?

I don't. If I do it's just a sudden impulse then it's gone in a couple hours.

 No.5799

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>Have you ever been in a similar situation?
I'm in the same boat, actually. Almost all of my motivation seems to have gone when I was bullied out of high school. I would have on and off bursts of self-motivation, but they don't stick around for more than 6 months.
I don't have motivation to find anyone or do anything as a proper hobby because I don't find a point in any of those things. If I have everything I need to be alive, I'm okay.
>How do you usually find motivation to start doing something new?
If I wanted to have anything that even resembled self-motivation nowadays, I'd have to daydream impossible situations and delude myself into thinking any of it is within my reach.

 No.5823

I can't will motivation. Sometimes I might get a short spurt after a breaking point, but it never lasts that long. The only thing that worked consistently was when I had real plans for the future that I truly believed in. As for how they come to be, I have no idea. All of mine were based on violent desperation meeting opportunity and jumping on it like I would die if I didn't (coming from a place of burning desire for change rather than force). From there motivation is a natural byproduct for me.

Unfortunately I've hit a wall myself in the last year. Struggling to find something to believe in again, wasting away on the internet again, etc.



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 No.5785[Reply]

I know this is a bit of a touchy subject here, as some feel that if you interact online you're not a hikki, but for those of you that have had stints of total hikkidom and isolation, how was it?
Is it true the isolation makes you crazy? Do you regret it? Would you do it again if you could?

 No.5786

Went full hikki for about a year. Didn't go insane but I admit - even for someone like me who is pretty much a self sufficient entity, absolutely zero interaction did get a bit dull in the long run.



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 No.5750[Reply]

Anyone else here have a psychotic disorder? I have psychotic depression; professionally diagnosed, of course. I often feel like I'm worth less than a grain of sand, and feel paranoid that demons are coming to get me and are conspiring to fuck up my life, and people are constantly laughing at and talking about me while on campus. I feel like my psychosis came before the depression, considering I've always been quite paranoid, and I didn't get really depressed until I was 15. I guess my psych sees the psychosis side of things as worse too, since I'm on an 80 mg antipsychotic and a 10 mg antidepressant.

I'm curious whether or not any of you NEETerinos, or anyone else lurking, I guess, have similar disorders.

 No.5758

I have a disorder, schizophrenia, and i had similar simptoms, i don't have longer any simptom since 6 years ago, but i still take the medication.

 No.5771

Same here. I'm diagnosed with psychotic depression as well, it's fucked. I don't know what to tell you. I'm on Quetiapine nowadays so the voices talk less.

 No.5780

severe bipolar here. am not in a severe episode now (first time in years) but i get symptoms in both depression and mania. first happened when i was 13.. its not paranoia though, i cant imagine what its like to be paranoid on top of the awful stuff



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 No.19[Reply][Last 50 Posts]

hi /n/, im curious about the NEETdom and wondering if you could answer some questions?

how long have you been a NEET?
was there a reason for you becoming a NEET?
what do you do all day?
what form of social interaction do you have, online and offline?
how often do you get outside, if at all?
do you live independently or with parents?
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 No.5691

>>5690

Fuck, well ignore the "without a job" part unless like me you don't really consider that a "job."

 No.5737

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>how long have you been a NEET?
A total of four and a half years, off and on. I now have a job after 4 months of unemployment.
>was there a reason for you becoming a NEET?
Bullying and abandonment in grade school sealed the deal for my depression.
>what do you do all day?
When I'm NEET I mindlessly browse the web, tinker with my computer, or play whatever game I'm feeling at the moment.
>what form of social interaction do you have, online and offline?
I have a few online friends who were also NEETs for a long time. One of them I met in highschool, the other two I've since met IRL. Actually ended up living with one of those two which got me out of my dad's place, and I still keep close communication with my other bud, despite our friend group online dismantling. Made some normie friends that were girls recently, but that ended when I got too drunk with one and groped her.
>how often do you get outside, if at all?
Before I moved out, almost never. Didn't really have a clue what the world and people were about, besides from what I saw inside my hometown or on my computer screen. Now that I've moved out I go outside to work, skate, eat, or drink. That's about it.
>do you live independently or with parents?
I moved out of my dad's place when I was 19.

 No.5739

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>>5690
I do live alone on disability bux. Almost everything gets delivered and magically materializes at my doorstep.
The system works but isn't very stable… or enjoyable.

 No.5744

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>how long have you been a NEET?
entering my 3rd year
>was there a reason for you becoming a NEET?
being maniaco-depressive. but what marked my entry in NEETdom was a bad case of social phobia, basically unable to go out without ending up choking and almost fainting. i overcame it enventually and now im looking to get back into education and work
>what do you do all day?
look for a job (lol); play games watch films, make art (i studied art before being a NEET), browse on twitter(super time consuming)
>what form of social interaction do you have, online and offline?
family and internet friends. sometimes my longtime friend from middle school
>how often do you get outside, if at all?
once every two weeks.. my record so far is 4 monts
>do you live independently or with parents?
was independent the 1st year and now i live with my mother&siblings. shes veeery hard to live with though, so i want to move out asap even if i prefer living with others

 No.5745

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>how long have you been a NEET?
Six years, currently trying to get out of it by working online.
>was there a reason for you becoming a NEET?
I intensely prefer my room over the outside. I intensely prefer being alone rather than around people.
>what do you do all day?
Jump from personal project from personal project while believing each time "is the one thing I'll stick to and see it through the end", while watching youtube, playing games or just doing nothing at all.
>what form of social interaction do you have, online and offline?
Imageboards online, parents offline.
>how often do you get outside, if at all?
Once a month give it or take.
>do you live independently or with parents?
With parents.



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 No.5700[Reply]

My 7 months of neetdom will end this september. Please help I'm scared, I don't want to go back.

 No.5701

I don’t really know what to say other than 7 months isn’t that long which is probably why you don’t want to go back.

 No.5708

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>>5700
You gotta work on slowly getting better, Anon. Go outside, talk with more people.
it gets easier.

 No.5709

>>5700
To be completely honest, it's better if you try to get out of NEETdom as soon as possible. I really think you should give it your best and face things now instead of several years down the line.
Either way, I wish you luck.

 No.5740

I'm wishing you the best. If you're in a position that allows you to live like you do now if you should fail, don't be too anxious. It may take some time to heal and get better before trying again.



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 No.5057[Reply]

Hello fellows NEETs I have a very singular problem. My reason for not going outside as much and working is not anxiety or fear of the outside world, though I am indeed very shy and awkward and seldom socialize.
I've been interned into mental hospitals and the like because this kind of living is making me do things that are considered too strange and worrisome, I'ts driving me crazy.
Anyway, I have a strange problem, when I go outside for too long I get very painful headaches and I have to go home early, not normal headaches but something on another whole level. I've been to psychiatrists and psychologist and regular doctor and they find nothing wrong with me, they say it's a psychological reaction.
This problem has prevented me from having a job or just going grocery shopping with the family and I don't know what to do. I'm taking medication for it but it's not working at all.
Do you have any ideas of what I can do or do other NEETs here are NEET because of other particular reasons?
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 No.5061

>>5060
Yes. I've always got tired of going outside and socializing and it leads to headaches ever since I can remember.

 No.5063

Could be the light, have you tried wearing shades, or even welding goggles?

 No.5720

>>5057

hey anon, I don't know if you're still around here or if you have the same problem still, but I have a very similar issue with headaches

I don't know what the cause is for me either really, but it might be genetic since my dad them at the same age
one thing that helps me is caffeine pills
sometimes they don't really work but when they work I can go ten or so hours without any pain

 No.5725

So, I cannot smoke. Listen for a sec, may be worth reading. When I was little it was presented to me by everyone as the biggest sin EVER, and when I heard that it also risks lifespan of ones I hated it. But not normal hate, I would go outta my way to hate the people around me too (smokers, not all of them). Now I don't hate the people anymore, but purely I just go crazy coughs around anything tobacco, even if I have perfect health and no real problems. Its all in my head and it also manifests for real from all those years of hate and rejection.

 No.5729

>>5057
Maybe you're allergic to the sun anon?
Have you tried doing trials where you go outside during the day once and during the night another time?



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 No.5685[Reply]

How do you deal with the loneliness? Most boards I use for human interactions get very few posts a day but at the same time I don't fit in at "fast" places, either. I feel truly alone.

 No.5686

>>5685
Talk to yourself.

 No.5687

I try not to get caught in that type of emotional longing. It's easier said than done but it's possible to avoid the feeling a lot of times if you have something to fill your time. Passive hobbies are easy but dangerous to over-indulge, so I wouldn't try to use it video-games or watching anime too much for this. Basically you want to fill your time and get busy inside your room. So far I've learned a second language, keep my stuff clean, learned to cook, to make kombucha and lots of small things. I've also talk to myself, there are weeks I talk to myself a lot, usually in a question and answer format, like I'm been interviewd. I have come to know myself a lot better that way, believe it or not. There's a whole person inside of you you don't know very well until you start doing these interviews. It's amusing when I think about it. Other than that I do use games, youtube and some times movies to distract myself fairly often. Just remember to not depend on those too much. Right now every time I get angst or I perceive some negative emotion coming my way I log into codecademy and do a a bunch of coding exercises to pass the time. I have a passing interest in computers and doing those can't hurt.



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