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 No.6287[Reply]

Hey uboachan, I'm trying to do an art project on NEETcaves and coming to the end of my search but figured it would be good to get in some diversity from the sites I use. Anyway I am trying to get an art gallery up and running displaying NEETrooms + thoughts and feelings from NEETs. If you would like to help it would take a few minuets and you can find a link to the google form here https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1TjcxnVdl_cAk7cPTjgzzS2H8TZz2HAQ6dWw2_whsSMM it’s editable so you can edit or withdraw your submission whenever, if you are interested but don’t wanna sign into google feel free to email me at connectedculturesociety@gmail.com and I can copy paste the stuff your way or feel free to poke my brain about anything else.

Thanks for reading, hope you lot have a good one.

 No.6311

This is a really good idea, thankyou. I'll email you if I have the motivation soon!



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 No.812[Reply][Last 50 Posts]

what do you do when you are depressed?

OP cries under the bed
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 No.6306

>>4509
Atleast you had a girlfriends and have active friends to cry to.

 No.6307

>>5062
I agree, especially with last point. My brain always focusses on the negatives and accepting happiness and become alien for it.

 No.6308

>>5791
I still shower, brush and maintain my daily hygiene. Sometimes it makes me temporarily but no significant changes in the long run. I guess I do these activities to convince myself that I am actively doing something productive

 No.6309

>>5800
I see. Does it help? Also, do you do meditation of any kind?

 No.6310

>>5876
Some people have a gene that allows them to function on less sleep. Do you feel drowsy and/or less productive during the day?



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 No.6272[Reply]

Sometimes I have this feeling that I would have been a lot better off if I decided to drop out. From what I recall, majority of the times it wasn't all about learning and instead asserting your own dominance in the social hierarchy and social standing. Maybe even stooping down to someone elses level at the expense of your own self. There were also some social pressures and expectations I had to meet which screwed up with my productivity and learning since I was worrying most of the time. Which makes me come to think that isolating myself from all the nonsense and reprioritising would have been a better approach.

 No.6279

>>6272
I did drop out and I regret it heavily. I got my GED at 17 and got into community college no problem (before that went tits up in its own unique way.) High school has a tremendous amount of hierarchical social bullshit. Yet, not everyone there is like that and I regret not having the opportunity to meet those people and have friends. Plus, it's overwhelmingly lonely and depressing to be in my current situation now where all the young people are feeding themselves to the leviathan instead of building community. At least in high school I would have been around people my age.

I commend you for desiring focus. I too want this, just with other mutually complimenting people. I'm no monk.

 No.6280

Wise words, anon.



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 No.6274[Reply]

I'm honestly shocked I've made it through this year so far and I haven't off'd myself for all the crap that's happened.

I'm at least thankful that I still have a job even with the pandemic happening but it's a job given to me by my own parent. The job itself which doesn't have permanency and doesn't even give me enough pay for me to properly live on my own which yeah, that means I still live with my parents.

Last year I ended up flinging my diploma due to not passing two courses within it and this year I haven't even been given any thumbs up in trying to finish that and even then I feel so tired of constant study for a job that I'm not 100% that I'd even be fine with for most of my life. Yet it feels that I've come this far with what I've learnt from there that it's the only way I can go here on out.

God and socially this year has been horrible to. My girlfriend for 3 years broke up with me after having visited her city 3 times before and feeling like something could actually happen. I loved her so dearly and even now I can barely get over her just, sobbing really thinking about it.

On top of that a social group I had been with for longer started calling me a pedo due to the age she was when we started dating, which is both none of their business and ultimately wrong since there was nothing like that involved and even if it was were not even in the bloody U.S. where there's rules like that, but regardless they kicked me out and threw me under the bus, making lies up about the ages and when it even started.

My only social solace has been in two small groups which may as well be full of the same kinds of people in here, NEET-like and in conditions close to that of hikkis. Not to mention in one of them there's a single person who drives attention to himself completely ignoring me passing me off as annoying and I just left that entire circle because of that… Just how the hell does one get out of this soup? I feel like going on I'm just going to rot away as some failure despite all the "success" I've had up to this point. I've lost the one person I truly loved and there's now a group of people that wish I never existed.

I'm sorry if this isn't something that fits into this board but… I just think after this year I'm just going to permanently be confined to a screen in a vein hope to find happiness.

 No.6275

>>6274
What groups, anon?

 No.6278

>>6275
I'd prefer not to say. Not just for myself but also because I still respect my ex, despite how I'm still depressed over the breakup. A friend of hers tried to stand up for me on her behalf but that old group I was with still kept to their lies despite her efforts.



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 No.6233[Reply]

I'm just trapped in an endless swirling antlion pit of worthlessness, what do I do?

I've been socially isolated and excluded from having friends ever since I was a little kid because I have debilitating ADHD, depression, anxiety, autism ect.

After barely scraping through highschool, I managed to move out of my abusive parents' house into a shoddy bedroom rental in a house full of real creepy normie cis dudes. At this point I somehow managed to make a girlfriend online because we're both NEETs and after a couple years of dating and mailing my stuff to her house in boxes because moving services aren't affordable, and finally took a plane to move in with her.

We've lived together for about two years now and she's the light of my life and the only reason I haven't offed myself. But after two years, dozens of resumes, and the fucking ocean of spaghetti I've spilled trying to hand them out, I still can't find work.

Her parents are nice enough to let me live here rent free until I can find work, but I've just become such a parasite. I don't know what to do. I'm trying so hard and the world refuses to acknowledge it. Help.

 No.6234

>>6233
I think this post is more properly suited for /rec/

 No.6260

>>6233
Try a part time work meanwhile you search someting more stable

 No.6262

>>6260
I agree. I think what's important is to keep you from drowning in your own mind and stop moving forward. Any from of foothold or ledge to grab on would be good. Or not. So far like all I ever do is curl in to a ball and wait for things to go away. This "just grab a crap job and figure it out from there" is my go to self-reassurance when ever I remember that I'm actually old enough to be executed for serious crimes and shits while not having a slither of any practical skills to funtcion as an adult and haven't once attempting to redeem myself. I haven't made any steps, I don't really know if it works or not. This entire reply makes no sense and probably is the summary of my entire literature skills but you have come so far to drown now. Trying to keep your head above water, you got this, I hope.



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 No.6239[Reply]

I've been a neet for 3 years, and my concentration and memory is dog shit now. I' m getting tired of this lifestyle, but it also feels impossible to move on. How can I study properly now? Or be trusted not to fuck up at work? I hate how I basically made myself retarded.

Even when I was in school I asked stupid questions/made stupid mistakes that would make people give me 'are you fucking stupid?' looks. They always say there's no such thing as a stupid question, but it's just lip service. I'm tired of people's judgement for being slow, especially if I'm around others and can't think properly because people make me so nervous. But I also want to do something worthwhile with my life.

 No.6240

Well, if you're able to keep your grades up with lots of effort, then it is just a matter of getting past the judgements of others. I've personally delt with a lot of imagining that people are criticizing me silently, and I have come to the conclusion that it's bullshit and people don't work like that. Even if you do get looks it doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things so long as you're working to get where you want to be. People won't care if they thought someone in their class was stupid once they get home.
Studying can be difficult if you've gone a long time without exercising your brain, but it's just something you need to build up. Learning something logic related like math would probably help. Don't fall into thinking you can't because you're stupid, the brain is built on effort.
As far as work goes, so what if you're the squeaky wheel? What are they gonna do, fire you? If you're just getting a job, you're probably not working with nuclear reactors. Minor fuckups don't matter. Just make it to work on time, communicate enough to get the job done, and try your best.

 No.6241

>>6239
What have you done in those 3 years you think it were so detrimental? Even games and watching anime requires some level of concentration.
>>6240
>try your best.
That's it pretty much. Pick the subject matter you want to study and start reading about it. Not much else you can do I guess.

 No.6248

I don't have anything to add to OP but I would just like to say my memory problems are becoming really scary for someone my age late 20's but damn it has gotten bad. Any remedies would be much appreciated. Hope you are doing well, OP, and everyone else



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 No.175[Reply]

If I'm successful financially, I think I might create a NEET house, as a safe space where NEETs can move out of their parents house, become a virtuoso of what they're passionate about, and/or be counseled on how to actually succeed at life. Eventually though, they will have to either use what they've learned to get a job and move out, or contribute to the household (I suspect it'd mostly be the later, since it's the safer option).

What do you think? Can someone learn to not be a leech on society in an environment like this, or would this inevitably reinforce their dependence on others? Would you be comfortable moving to such a place full of NEET strangers, even if shit hit the fan?
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 No.6132

>>16612
Have been thinking of the same thing, I am getting a few hundred USD in inheritance or innheritance equivalents and was scouting out a nice remote mountain village to build my neet-mansion and invite neets but kung flu got in the way.

I plan on buying a lot of land and building only the amount of rooms required and using the rest of the comfy mountain forest land for walks and such.

 No.6161

Where are you going to find a bunch of NEETs?
All your gonna get is homeless people.

 No.6218

>>6161
easy, just ask for a little bit of money a month, say 100$, from what people are talking online, there are a lot of adults living with their parents, and guess they would be glad to send their 30 year old off to some kind of shared flat

 No.6220

That would be wonderful OP, I'm trapped with my parents in an isolated shithole town and I hate it. If I had somewhere I could fly to and never go back I would be so much happier.

 No.6221

>>6220
>isolated shithole town
Sounds comfy. I live in a big city and I'm miserable. I wish I could move to some bumfuck hick town and live in some cabin in the woods away from society



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 No.5710[Reply]

I developed an internet "addiction" and I can't get out of it. There are many issues that have piled up since I started to ignore them. How can I replace the internet with something productive?
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 No.6159

You're addicted to the internet because the internet is awesome.
Don't stop because of some bullshit you heard on the news

 No.6175

You first have to find out why you use the internet in an addicted way. Are you using it to calm down? Are you bored? Are you scared? Once you figure that out you need to find a way to get a productive hobby that replaces why you used the internet or fix the underlying issue that causes you to use the internet.

Since you said you need the internet in some situations I recommend a site blocker (cold turkey or leech blocker). You can make them block X sites from X-X hours.

Also you should look into how the internet is addiction so you can understand what you're up against

 No.6189

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>>5710
I have this problem where I click on too many things I find interesting and then I never close the tab. So it gets to the point where I literally have thousands of tabs open and it takes my computer crashing and not saving the tab history for me to stop. Then a week goes by and I just uncontrollably start up again. Pic related is my current score

 No.6204

>>6189
What extensions do you use for organizing tabs? When i reach around 100 on chrome with a 1920x1080 screen new tabs disappear and I can only reach them by ctrl+tab. Should I use another browser or is there a trick I'm not aware of?

 No.6213

>>6204
try tree-style tabs in firefox



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 No.6201[Reply]

Not a NEET exactly but I grew up with anxiety issues because of an overbearing mother. I was feeling like I was getting better ever since I started college but the pandemic has made my issues worse because of having to take classes online which made me not able to focus well. I was also trying to get over my anxiety issues when talking to people.

I am thinking of taking a break but my mother wants me to take classes part time so I won't struggle. I am unsure about my major since the pandemic threw it in the gutter. I haven't picked my classes yet and feel like I'm wasting time and money. My mother is worried about me since I don't really leave home to exercise or anything since the pandemic has started and I am not taking care of myself as I should.

I do have friends but I only trust a few people in my life due to bullying, unpleasant experiences, and people not understanding me. Even then, my anxiety interferes with situations sometimes. I question or feel like I'm too shy to talk seriously to most of the people I meet online/irl. Most of the time, I put on a mask to hide how nervous I am.

I have a job interview today but I'm trying to have low expectations since I've struggled to find a job ever since I was laid off unfairly years ago. It's gonna be hard not to stutter. I'm mostly afraid of slipping into becoming a NEET because of struggling so much lately.


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 No.5836[Reply]

How good/poor is your hygiene?
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 No.6187

I probably haven’t brushed my teeth since March. Can’t remember anymore. Haven’t bathed in months.

 No.6188

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>>6177
>I take a bath three or so times a month
I haven't taken a bath since I was seven. I remember just resting in the warm water peacefully. Are baths better than showering?

 No.6190

>>6188
Showering is a more efficient way of actually cleaning yourself and if it's less than ten minutes or so a shower will usually use less water but some people really like baths. For me they're a lot more relaxing and every time I take a shower I think about how much I'd rather be just sitting down and submerging myself for a long time in a tub full of hot water.

 No.6195

>>6188
since you become an adult it's not. I also remember those times when i loved to chill in bath, i've been trying to enjoy this as i did but it doesn't feel that good and calming anymore.

 No.6199

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>>6188
I'm not sure as I have only had like less then 10 showers in my life. My house does not have a shower so its always baths for me. I only take baths this often for umm reasons lets just say that. If I didnt have my reasons I would take maybe 1 every two months or so.



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