Of course, there are cases where this won't simply fix anything. Taking the
initiative isn't easy… just like leaving things behind, specially in this world where money or contacts are really needed to survive. And these things aren't just easy to find. But sometimes, sacrifices are needed, and if you want to advance, some things must be left behind. And the main enemy here is the fear. "But if I do that, X may happen, it could be worse", or "I wouldn't be capable of standing on my own after that". "I'm too afraid to even try, because if I fail and fall even deeper in this shithole, I am afraid I will never recover."
Does it sound familiar? I'm pretty sure it's a common feeling, though I bet people on this board actually may have felt it more… intense than the average.
For example, NEETs may actually want a job or study, but for X or Y problem they won't be able to. Magical words of support won't fix these problems. I may tell you to search for your happiness, leave what makes you suffer behind, and to change your mind; that you're not worthless, that you're just judging yourself poorly. But if you don't open your eyes for that truth, my words, even if born from the most pure sentiment of empathy and real wishful thought, will simply make you feel like you're being judged (because it's true, in some point), and these encouragement sentences will just translate in your brain as "You're not doing even what is considered minimum to support yourself, therefore, you have no value at all". Let's add more to this example and say that the family is the impediment, the obstacle in front of this NEET and his happiness. But, can he really leave them behind when he's got no confidence to survive out there in his own? The answer is yes and no at the same time: No, because he's afraid. He could, but he won't, because the fear is far more intense than the thought of achieving happiness. And the sole idea of failing is enough to dismiss any chance.
However, until this person changes his mind, until he finds his answers, sadly, this NEET won't get a "yes". And I say sadly because it is actually possible, but we all are almost too blind in fear as to consider that possibility as even real, or at least until we actually decide to improve. And, since that's a self-made step which every person needs to take by themselves, until that person doesn't get a "click" on their head, one that shows them how to face reality in a different perspective Post too long. Click here to view the full text.