i think if you are happy than you shouldn't change, but if you want to it's possible, maybe with help, but possible.
the most important thing to making a change is trying again when you fail, and learning from your mistakes.
I don't even know if I am happy or not. Sometimes I am okay with my life, but sometimes I just want to be like a normal person.
we all have bad days. sometimes people need something bigger than themselves to inspire them to become different however.
When does "real adult life hit"?
I'm 18 about to turn 19 in 5 months.
Adult life is not about age, it's about responsibilities, getting enough of debts, backstabbers, your life in danger, serious diseases, being in charge of things that affect people's lives or things like that are symptoms.
However, when it comes, you will fucking notice, enjoy your moment now!
Neeting under <1 year isn't very hard. It's mostly just an adjusting period where you decide on your next step in life. You are still a teenager. You can't even drink. This is where majority will stop, most will go back to school.
When you are neeting 2+ years it becomes a part of life and you are not trying to find something next, you are in it for the long run.
Becoming an adult will happen in your 20's, living with your parents, having a job, your own place, realationships will become more apparent and expected.
Eh, it's not that bad, imagine it as if it was a catchy song:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WXvsl8xgRxc
I've been NEET for almost two years. I've realized that I'm completely terrified of people in almost every way. I keep applying to jobs because my family wants me to do something. But I got hired for one, wasn't told of a schedule change before my first day, and then decided they didn't respect me enough and I'd probably have a bad time there. So I walked away from that opportunity. I applied for another job and I'm supposed to call someone back today. I don't think I can. I don't think I can work. I don't know what to do anymore.
So yes, I would like to change. I just want to be happy and not feel ashamed of being a loser. I want money so I can take care of myself. But if I could be NEET forever I would, because less people can hurt me if I stay away from them.
Thanks for reading, I needed to vent some frustration.
Call them. You can do it. Don’t let your fears get the best of you. If it doesn’t go well you can just leave and try something else. I assure you that you will feel better after calling than if you didn’t.
I was exactly like you before, so alike that it hurts to read your post. Also a neet for two years. I used to believe working wasn’t for me, that I would be embarrassing awful at all the tasks and schedules, and just thinking of having to deal with people I didn’t knew scared me so much. Some months ago I finally got tired of feeling like shit and accepted to work on an acquaintance’s office. I was overwhelmed at first. I didn’t even have the courage to answer the phones for a long time, and would stutter when talking to people. Faced so many embarrassing situations. I eventually got used to it, gained experience, and started to be able to chill my insecurities. I still do embarrassing things sometimes but I have learned not to worry about it so much. The experience changed me, and I can even say this change affected other areas of my life for the better.
Just do your best to overcome the challenges you’ll face at work, and don’t feel intimidated when things go wrong. You already have motivation so use it to push yourself into doing what you want. I won’t lie, it will take some time to learn what to do and how to deal with your negative thoughts and feelings. Keep your perseverance at high. Even if you end up sucking at the job, remember you still gained some experience with it and you are now ready to do even better at your next one. I wish you good luck, anon. If I managed to do it, you can too.
Please call them. The best you can do is the best you can do. The best you can do changes when you make a mistake. If you don't call them, you won't learn how to do better.
>But if I could be NEET forever I would, because less people can hurt me if I stay away from them.
I used to be a NEET for a while for this very reason.
Now it's been a few years.
Now I think, "less people can love me if I stay away from them."
It takes a toll on one's mind and body not to do anything for an extended amount of time.
Long story short, I had an incident one time when I went outside. A life changing, broken bones sort of incident. And it made me fucking paranoid to go outside again. I just want to stay inside constantly, but fuck, I also want to enjoy life. I don't want to be a miserable douchebag with no aspirations, I want to enjoy myself.
However, I'm literally scared of everything. So back to feeling shit and being a NEET I go.
I feel this to be true.
I've been NEET for 7 years now and I feel blessed for having time work on hobbies, learning things and a whole lot of procrastination without really having to worry about the future.
When I was still being push to become something and work on some kind of schedule it made me insanely unhappy each time and I basically never got along with more people at those places either.
If being a NEET isn't destroying you mentally somehow I'd say you should savor it as long as you can, because for most people it will only be a phase in life.
I've been a NEET since 2011, following a suicide attempt partially due to university at the time. I've done nothing ever since, I've made a few attempts at getting back into uni but they've all failed so far. I'm thinking of getting a certificate III in something or maybe even a diploma if I'm capable.
I've wanted to change for a long but my only real motivator for that died a few years back and I've kind of just been floating ever since. I've tried talking to friend and family about it but they don't seem to understand, take me seriously, I struggle effectively opening up or all three of those. I do like the idea of helping people, especially teenagers and new adults figure things out and to avoid them ending up like me, a decade after graduating high school and having achieved nothing. My social anxiety and other mental issues will be a big problem with doing that though, since I barely know how to talk to people properly besides my grandparents and friend or saying basic shit to cashiers while getting served. While I guess I could have fucked up worse, could have gotten on drugs harder than weed, had a bunch of kids I couldn't look after or get an STD or something on par with those, I still feel like a major fuck up for the past decade of absolutely nothing. It's to the point that I have dreams about getting a similar job to my cashier job I had in high school and going over how I fucked that job up, but as an adult this time.
The decade of NEETdom has kept me back, like time while physically continuing feels like it should have stopped at one point. One way I look at it is from console generations. I graduated high school in 2010, the peak of the 360 and PS4, not those consoles are gone, the Wii store is gone, the servers for games I heard were coming out soon are closing and it feels like I just blinked, the consoles that replaced those consoles will be gone soon to.
The three main things I've considered studying to help get me a job is:
Cert III in Health Services Assistance - basically become a hospital orderly
Diploma of Nursing - become an enrolled nurse
Bachelor of Accounting - become an accountant
The bachelor degree will take at least three years to complete though, while the other two are between 12-18 months. This was a mess of a post. My bad. In short, I'm not happy and I'm trying to fix that.
what are you doing step-rifle