/hikki/ - NEET / Advice

honestly I just feel awful, I just want some friends to hang out with and some money to live decently, nothing too crazy

>>6191
>Have friends in elementary
>No friends in middle school
>No friends in high school
>In college no friends
>"It's okay i'll just make friends on the internet"
>no internet friends
making friends is hard and confusing and its worse because of the virus @_@

>>6193
Same

>>6191
Very very similar situation to you anon in almost every way, except for doing well in college. I'm just trying to devote the frustration to art as much as I can because I find that the short moments where I'm fully immersed in making things is where I'm happiest.

>>6191
Same here.
>No friends
>no bf
>a part of my family left the country years ago and the only person I can talk to is one of them.

She doesn't really read my messages so I'm stuck like this until I off myself or recieve a miracle. The latter is not going to happen.
My only chance for a 'social life' was ruined by this shitty attempt to destroy the economy.

So what do I do?

I can't bear this crap anymore, I just want to rest.

>>6363
Can't you follow that part of the family who left the country? You would be reunited with that person and could have a fresh start.

>>6193
>>6194
Sorry to ask, but I'm curious (feel free to ignore the question if you don't want to reply). How are you trying to get friends on the internet? What problems did you face when trying to bond with people?
Perhaps if you explain your situations people can give you some insightful advice.

I've had problems talking with people and making friends IRL but I always had an easier time talking with people online (and made my first friends on the internet). Most of the time it seems to me like people who don't "fit in with others" usually look in the wrong places, but it's not limited to that.

>>6365
Not them, but I don't know where to look. I used to post my drawings on tumblr while it was alive, and surprisingly made some decent connections. It sounds silly, but I can't remember how. Time went on, and all those connections are gone now anyway. These days I only have a modest twitter, since I don't like having social media in the first place. Some neat artists follow me, but I have 0 idea how to initiate. I don't like the idea of just DM'ing and saying "Hi, what's up". Maybe we don't even have good chemistry. I don't like the idea of finding people on discord either. It's got a lot of people that aren't my type. All I can find online are either embarrassing meme lgbt weebs, or hans get ze flammenwerfer guys. Anyone exempt who did seem alright, we're really silent, and communication died pretty quick. I hate being the one that has to keep prodding for conversation.

I don't know where I fit in, I don't know where to look. A while back I was even desperate enough to try tossing my hat in /soc/. Besides some people back from highschool, uboachan is the closest I've felt to fitting in before.

>>6369
Same. Only that I don't have people irl.

>>6369
That's pretty much how I feel. In a way, the internet is even worse than real life. I can think of things I could do in real life. Going to the right places would probably work, and allow coincidences to happen. On the internet, I have to be active, but how and where? Even if I go to a place full of people, the fact that it's online doesn't make me suddenly like interacting with groups of people. It's terrible.

Finding similar interests seems to be the key. Discord is weird in that you can join a server for pretty much any anime or gacha game from the last 6 years, and instantly join an autistic 24/7 conversation about say, shipgirls, since that's the channel's only topic. But those people rarely become your friends. The best luck I've had with making friends is finding people with the same sexual preferences and fetishes. It's kind of sad. The men I connect with the most are the ones where we can share pictures and circlejerk together. Outside of them, I'm always the one to initiate. I used to be a coomer who regularly fapped twice/day. I've since cut it down to once every other day, but it seems it hasn't changed me mentally beyond regaining self-control. I can actually spend entire days focusing on my real hobbies without a sexual thought, but they're all solitary. Like I said before, similar interests help but it's not healthy if those interests just make you and your friends enable eachother endlessly. Pic related - I've formed some deep friendships around this fetish.

>>6376
Of course, common interests are a necessity. But I wonder why sexual interests would work better. Seems very strange to me to form connections through that, with people that I'm not even sexually interest in. Not sure if I could do it myself.