/hikki/ - NEET / Advice

Trans Mega Thread!

So, let's try something here.

Frequently a trans-related topic comes up in a thread here in /hikki/, and the thread will quickly get derailed by malicious comments or by the diversion in topic just taking over. There is clearly a lot of interest in discussing trans topics, as well as a lot of unwelcome interest in shutting them down. But they do tend to take over threads either way. So, while we figure out how to handle this from a moderation standpoint, I am going to make a trans discussion mega thread here to contain such conversations. This might end up being permanent. If you find that a thread makes you want to discuss a trans-related topic, make a post here instead.

Rules 6 and 7 are strictly enforced in this thread, and violations will result in longer bans. However, uncomfortable questions are also allowed within reason.

Also if a trans topic starts to derail a thread from now on we may delete those posts.

Also Sei is trans. So I might make some posts in here as well.

Update 11/04/2024: When the conversation in the trans thread veers into whether transness is even a thing that exists, that will be considered an attempt at derailment. This thread isn't for you. It is specifically a containment thread for people who want to talk about transness from the starting assumption that the topic itself and the kind of identity it discusses is valid. Please keep that in mind.

From now on, the >>>/rec/ board should generally be used for conversations about recovery from NEETism. This is not a hard rule but you are likely to have a better experience.

Seeing as absolutely everyone misread the /hikki/ rules sticky and used it to draw apocalyptic conclusions about the death of all that was good about /n/, here's a less flippant sticky with less room for ambiguity, in the form of a Q&A. We've also made some concessions based on your feedback in thread >>13, which was moved to /sugg/ for being meta.

What is allowed on this board? What is its purpose?
On this board you can discuss and request or give advice regarding NEETism, Hikikomoriism, anxieties and social or mental issues arising from these conditions of living, and things closely related to these topics. If you're content with being a NEET at this stage in your life, that's ok, and you won't get in trouble for saying so. The board's primary focus is self-help and advice regarding these issues. Despite rumors, threads looking for help with suicidal feelings or drug addition are also allowed.

What is not allowed on this board?
* Encouraging others to become NEET.
* Attacking or discouraging others for being NEET.
* Giving or requesting advice on how to enter the NEET lifestyle.
* Encouraging or showcasing drug usage.
* Announcing your planned suicide.
* Helping others to plan or commit suicide.
* Topics not related to the purpose of the board. Such topics will be moved.
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i love being egocentric

i think im getting kicked out of the college for delinquents becasue i did weird drawings

what do you guys think of new danganronpa game


https://youtu.be/3YO1U9fZAQE

what do you guys think of my room

This chan is unfortunately dead and lonely. Is there another altchan somewhere (preferably for hikkis/NEETs or at least has a decent culture for them) that is active?

My closest people only spill more water in boiling oil confirming that this more likely to be true. I don't want to hear about me being lonely forever nor being a failure. It gets worse.
>got only irl friend that holds me from committing
>only reason to get out from bed is to hangout with him
>he will leave to study in europe and live with his partner
>i stopped attending university
>parents upset and mad and on edge to throw me out (they payed for my education)
>my depression progresses to its limit
>unemployed (no one answered on my application forms)
>no finances to get professional help
>doom

hi uboachan

this is a thought i have often, do you consider yourself human?? i dont think i consider myself human in the traditional dictionary meaning of the word HUMAN

i dont know if its the lack of proper communication with others or just the loneliness of being "locked down" voluntarily (if that even makes sense)

do locking yourself up for i dont know, more than a year makes you less human? and if it does, would that be a good thing? maybe this is a stupid question but im curious, do you feel a sense of false superiority to others??


is feeling superior after long periods of time alone and the lack of personal in depth communication with others bad or good for you??

what do you do when you are depressed?

OP cries under the bed

What's even the point anymore? I've basically given up. I've lost so many opportunities; some of them my fault, a lot of them pure circumstance. But how much more do I have left to give?

People are unfriendly. All of those that share my interests are either autistics or just plain rude. I got called "terminally online" for asking for some normfag's discord handle (a site that I hate).

There's nothing to do around the city. Everything costs money. The streets are grimy and filled with the homeless. Housing costs keep going up. Nobody cares. The footpaths are choked with hideous invasive flowering weeds. The concrete is cracked and dirty. The infrastructure is accessible only to cars.

Why bother? There's not much point in leaving the house. But it's not much better inside than out. I try using mainstream socials, but everybody there is either unable to take criticism unless it goes with the flow of the community's zeitgeist, or is an American retard. And decent sites move too slowly to keep me occupied.

Why try? I'm enrolled for a once-a-week college course, starting this following week. But I don't see why I should care. I'll either do something stupid and get myself kicked out, or somebody else will.

I remember getting really sad a few years ago about the realisation that everything is ephemeral. Everything will eventually decay into entropy. I try to think about it every so often, but it's hardly motivating. What difference does it make if I try or not? Nobody will ever remember me either way.

It rained for a few days a little while ago.

I miss the petrichor.

Does anyone else feel like they've been NEETbrained for essentially all of their life? Even in elementary school, I could never see myself going to college, because I hated school too much (I have ADHD and autism), and when I was in middle school, my plan was to mooch off my family until they die (my family consisted of two people who could have taken care of me), then either:

1. Mooch off friends (I didn't want to do that because even I am capable of basic guilt, but seeing as my family brought me into this world and fucked me up, I felt like I was owed them taking care of me).I have no friends now. I don't leave the house unless to help my mom with groceries, which is a shame because today was actually the perfect weather to relax in it :( but I don't really have lawn chairs etc.
2. Go to jail/prison for the rest of my life. Considering the type of people who end up there, how guards treat you, and what actions would even have to lead me there, no.
3. Go to a mental hospital for the rest of my life. I have been in them before. After the adjustment period, they're actually really nice. I remember being in one of those blue gowns and looking at myself in the mirror and feeling like that was the only place for me.

So yeah. I don't relate to the common NEET's life that went something like:
>be me
>exists
>naturally develop career-based dreams
>go to college for them (outside of NEETs who dropped out of high school, but a lot seemed to go to college)
>fail college or graduate (I'm surprised (and impressed) by the amount of NEETs who went to college, even if they never graduated)
>somehow failed in the workforce, probably due to social awkwardness and not being able to social network or have coworkers like them, idk

My life was more like being overwhelmed with the idea of growing up since I was 11-12 and never being able to cope with the growing accountability, responsibility, and independence, which led me to become suicidal so I never really SERIOUSLY planned for the future. I mean I did plan for the mooching/jail/mental hospital thing, but I genuinely just expected (and hoped) to be dead before 18. Now that I'm out of school, I am not actively suicidal, but… empty? Like I want something that doesn't exist. Purpose, Post too long. Click here to view the full text.

I wanna know if anyone here has completely given up on finding a partner. I feel like maybe accepting the forever alone lifestyle could bring some comfort and maybe happiness into my life. Maybe im too weird and fucked up, and giving up hope is the right thing to do. Thoughts?