/hikki/ - NEET / Advice

Trans Mega Thread!

So, let's try something here.

Frequently a trans-related topic comes up in a thread here in /hikki/, and the thread will quickly get derailed by malicious comments or by the diversion in topic just taking over. There is clearly a lot of interest in discussing trans topics, as well as a lot of unwelcome interest in shutting them down. But they do tend to take over threads either way. So, while we figure out how to handle this from a moderation standpoint, I am going to make a trans discussion mega thread here to contain such conversations. This might end up being permanent. If you find that a thread makes you want to discuss a trans-related topic, make a post here instead.

Rules 6 and 7 are strictly enforced in this thread, and violations will result in longer bans. However, uncomfortable questions are also allowed within reason.

Also if a trans topic starts to derail a thread from now on we may delete those posts.

Also Sei is trans. So I might make some posts in here as well.

Update 11/04/2024: When the conversation in the trans thread veers into whether transness is even a thing that exists, that will be considered an attempt at derailment. This thread isn't for you. It is specifically a containment thread for people who want to talk about transness from the starting assumption that the topic itself and the kind of identity it discusses is valid. Please keep that in mind.

From now on, the >>>/rec/ board should generally be used for conversations about recovery from NEETism. This is not a hard rule but you are likely to have a better experience.

Seeing as absolutely everyone misread the /hikki/ rules sticky and used it to draw apocalyptic conclusions about the death of all that was good about /n/, here's a less flippant sticky with less room for ambiguity, in the form of a Q&A. We've also made some concessions based on your feedback in thread >>13, which was moved to /sugg/ for being meta.

What is allowed on this board? What is its purpose?
On this board you can discuss and request or give advice regarding NEETism, Hikikomoriism, anxieties and social or mental issues arising from these conditions of living, and things closely related to these topics. If you're content with being a NEET at this stage in your life, that's ok, and you won't get in trouble for saying so. The board's primary focus is self-help and advice regarding these issues. Despite rumors, threads looking for help with suicidal feelings or drug addition are also allowed.

What is not allowed on this board?
* Encouraging others to become NEET.
* Attacking or discouraging others for being NEET.
* Giving or requesting advice on how to enter the NEET lifestyle.
* Encouraging or showcasing drug usage.
* Announcing your planned suicide.
* Helping others to plan or commit suicide.
* Topics not related to the purpose of the board. Such topics will be moved.
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I'm living a nightmare scenario that's often proposed to neet/hiki "what would you do if your caregiver gets sick?" well, this is what has happened to me and i don't know how much time i have left, but i refuse to work, my aunt i could stay with her for a while. Not sure if my stepdad will still take care of me, he said he would, but you never know.
For the time being, I'm trying to enjoy myself in any way i can until things get worse, sucks because i have no other family. fuck it.

I'm lonely
I've lost almost all my friends, both online and irl and I spend most of my time alone
I tried a sport or going to parties or stuff like that in the past but I never managed to make a connection with someone and I was always the one sitting alone in a corner
I really wish I could socialize better but I panic and freeze when I'm put in a social situation, even online I can't join in on conversations because I get scared
on top of the self hatred I already have idk if I'll manage to find people willing to stick with me
does anyone have any advice, please?

I missed out on everything as a kid. I was always left alone by my peers which fucked me up of any social skills in the long run. I still have trouble holding a conversation. Have you guys had any trouble as a kid? This extreme isolation happened from 3rd to 8th grade which was enough to cripple me possibly my whole life. Or what is left of it anyway. Nearly 6 years of my life consisted of going home from school and back. Every day. Never talk with anyone, not even with family. Just me and my thoughts from a young age

I don't want to be like those other anons who just vent out shit here, so I'll ask the question, have you guys went through something similar that had a damaging effect on you? I still feel bits of loneliness from it.

pic unrelated FLCL just makes me feel like shit

Forgive me for my typing this is one of my first times posting here for context my parents were trying to have kids they had five miscarriages before me and my biological mother was a drug addict [opioid addiction] and i born a month early and was addicted to opioids
i think now that in my later teens i think it might have messed me up mentally permanently now that in mentally, my other parent my dad is a good guy but a big normie i feel like i should have never been born i feel like in another timeline if my mother actually changed her life i could have been a dumb normie with friends and a life pls anons help me cope

is it over for me

I wanna work out because it’s supposed to help with my mental health i don’t own any workout equipment does anyone know any good exercises btw I dont know if this belongs on this board it seems more like a /fit problem but i thought it was my fitting to be in here pls correct me if im wrong thank you

Have you guys ever experienced limerance?

I met my limerence object 2 years ago in a rythm game forum, then got closer in a discord server with people of the forum, before this I was the type of person that did not care about relationships or even friendships but being there made me apreciate having someone to talk to even if it was online.

A year passed, I was getting closer to him and slowly fell in love for the first time, every interaction felt euphoric and time without him was pure despair. After confessing due to reasons and getting rejected because of phisical distance we still were friends and I slowly got better at dealing with the addiction (I still struggle tbh)

I have been going to a therapist for this and other reasons, so he is trying to get me to know other autistic people semi-close to where I live
to have more social circles since i only have my LO's and my neighbor.

It's really hard for me to move on since we have so much in common and it feels like we were meant to be except for the phisical distance, I wish one day I find someone like him and can be in a secure relationship

Anyone have any anime recommendations like it i’v watched watamote too so any anime like them would be cool