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/rec/ - Ex-NEET / Recovery

Board for recovering NEETs and Ex-NEETs who are trying to reintegrate.
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 No.1[Reply]

Since it's sometimes difficult to have a conversation about trying to exit the NEET lifestyle in /hikki/ without it getting derailed, I have created this new board for such conversations.

If you are trying to go back to school or get a job, or if you've exited NEETdom a while ago but are still having problems, this is now the place to talk about it.

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 No.628[Reply]

I got a job working at McDonald's about 2 months ago, it was the first place to accept me. Majority of the people I work with are highschoolers and the few that aren't seem to have their own clique/ingroup at work, it also doesn't help that I'm autistic. I'm pretty sure my roster manager hates me, I barely work any hours and I don't get paid that much. I'd like to be able to afford to move and save up for some luxuries that I don't have (PC namely) but I get paid breadcrumbs. Why is everything so hard? I just escaped being a neet fulltime to be a neet mostly fulltime and get reminded how autistic and lonely I am at work.

 No.629

>>628
just go on autismbux lol, neet out again. see if your parents will pay you to do jobs around the house for them. or maybe do onlyfans lol. if you're lonely at work anyhoo you're much better off neeting out. if you want some sense of companionship play some ttrpgs or tcgs. or use autismbux to hire some supportfags to hang out with you.

one day chris kempczinski will be in a gas chamber.

 No.630

>>629
Is it so easy to "just" get some?

 No.631

>>630
in oceania regions it is, the government is basically handing out retard diplomas. might be harder in america but if so i still think you should find a different job. as a kid i remember my sister working at mcdonalds and it seemed fucking awful. i genuinely do think you need a hobby and a job is really the only way into that. pokemon cards are expensive


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 No.625[Reply]

i am an ex-hikki. i am still unemployed but i am looking for a job. i have recovered immensely after years of reclusion. now i finally go out often, socialize, i even go to parties.
but in this whole time i still very rarely was able to leave the house by myself. i always need someone of trust with me. i don't even go to the supermarket. i don't go to the bakery in front of my house if i'm alone.

but despite getting better, i'm falling back into hikkikomori lately. now i refuse to go out even if there's someone with me. even if i use uber. even though i have means of self defense. i won't even stand on the gate. i can't. i don't leave the house and barely leave my room. psychosis is coming back.

how do i actually recover? i feel like i was just forcing myself and pretending to be better and that has backfired now. this has started ten years ago, and i'm young. ten years is a considerable portion of my lifetime

 No.626

Its difficult, but you can get used to going to the super duper mart and bakery by yourself. You just have to push yourself and have some sanity maintainance tactics. Its like taking a bath, you test the waters first and slowly get used to it through gradual exposure. Actually, going to the super duper mart is pretty easy because those places are faceless and transitory. The hard part is when you get a job or go to college and end up meeting people who know you on a day to day basis and trying not to mess that up, falling back into being a hiki or becoming paranoid schizo.

 No.627

thank youu… i feel better with that. i think you're right. i should definitely find something to regulate my emotions… i'm scared of freaking out when i find a job, too. i need to stay focused on the reason i HAVE to work… thanks!


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 No.67[Reply]

For five years I've been slowly decaying: I've lost my health, dropped University, twice, and my relationships with my family is in shatters. Also what bothers me is that people I knew (I don't have any contacts left) now have good jobs, some of them their own families, while I still simply just run away from all problems I encounter.

I tried to do something with it so many times, but it never really worked out. I'm not sure whether anything can be done now, but I can try one more time.

To change the pace I will go to a local library tomorrow, so I can be closer to other people, will spend some time learning (or doing) something actually useful and will try to build up courage to make up with my family.
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 No.323

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>>302
Hi!

> What are you working as?
Software engineer in a local IT company. The coolest thing is that I'm writing code in the language I like, and that's why I even applied.

> Are you doing the same exercises as before?
Nope! I actually read up on it a bit and now are doing an amalgamation of exercises from this video. There are some other exercises as well (mostly for my buttocks) and I had to skip on some exercises after which my legs and my damaged arm hurt too much. But in general the idea is this. If you have some other exercises I might want to try, I would be very glad to hear them too, and I might try to incorporate them into my daily regimen!
https://youtu.be/vc1E5CfRfos
I'm not doing those too intensively though, as I don't really like exercises and do not plan or want to build any muscle, just want to keep my body in shape.

> Even though it is kinda strange to walk around with no idea what is going on.
I had no idea what was going on in my country for the most of my life. But now it is actually quite hard to miss on those, and I fail myself and do read them quite frequently anyway. Even though I do try to limit it.

> I am struggling lately.
What happened?

 No.334

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>>323
Sounds great, I am glad to hear that you like it. So you are working and going to university at the same time? Certainly a lot to do. I assume the degree you picked up again is programming engineering?

Interesting video, I never looked into all the things you can do without any tools at all. Just 3 weeks ago I decided not to go to the gym anymore, because I just couldn't stand the noise there any longer, radio running the entire time, a lot of people around, even a tv with sports turned on. I changed to working out at home again, but searched for new exercises as well. Right now I am trying out exercising with dumbbells, there is a lot of variety too.
Any reason why you are training buttocks especially hard? I do that too for my back, because I now it is not in a good shape.

This was exactly the other way around for me, I followed very closely what is going on but stopped somewhere in 2018 because it was always only negative, sad, frustrating and so on. I just didn't want to read all of that negativity anymore. I have to say that I do feel better since I don't know anything about all the happenings anymore.

Last time we talked I quit my job and was trying out new things like mailman. After all the different ideas didn't appeal to me at the end, I applied for accounting again. Unfortunately I landed the worst job I had so far. The organization and communication is equals zero, the traffic agonizing, the work boring and tedious, the industrial sector a lot of stress, the company owned by a larger one that dictated everything and doesn't listen to anything, the list goes on and on. My mental health once again went downhill very fast and so hard that I take antidepressants again. Luckily the job is dated to end on the 31.12.2021, they wanted to keep me but I said no.
I truly fear that I only can get better if I don't work in an office anymore, next year I will try out something else once again, I have a good feeling about it this time.

 No.621

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Kind of scary to read what I was writing here before. (But maybe I will find something in me to do it later).

>>334
Very-very-very-very-very sorry! For not responding. I knew that I should, but for some reason I was running away from many things (this one including), even though they were constantly on my mind!

Right now I am at a point (notwithstanding it being 4AM) where things are not very good. But I will manage, I will recover and hopefully I will share parts of it here.

 No.622

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>>621
Take your time, I am still here. Just glad to see that you are alive. Thought you went to a prostest and vanished because of that.

 No.624

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I'm working. On what might calling, a "Selfed Improvements". Im staredr Playing ultrakill, and now I keep trying to get an S Rank on Time for all the Things I Do. LLike. Showering Or Getting Dresed.. I need those points. Also trying TO computer and reading In 10 minute intervals. Maximising my knowledge of our earths Lore and worldbuilding by reading politics Book. You could Sqay Im LOcked IN !!!! ! Hello hi


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 No.6[Reply]

Ex-NEET/Hiki general thread, how long has it been since you got out of it? What are you working on right now? Do you feel like going back to that life sometimes?

I got a job and started going outside 6 years ago, after 2 years of being isolated completely, sometimes I feel tempted of just staying at home playing videogames all day, or to stay in bed doing absolutely nothing, I am still depressed, recently something bad happened, and I felt the need of going back to those habits, close my social media and be a full time anon again.

An important part of my recovery was the people around me, and volunteering at hospitals and hostels for the bed, working still feels kind of weird though.

Now I work as a programmer and web designer, not the best job for someone like me, but it's what I learned to do.

It's hard, but like an anon told me here, if I got out of that mentality once, I can do it again, and so can you.
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>>540
I'm this anon. Not eating much better but marginally trying to drink more, paying attention to what I eat, even if it's not healthy just trying to get more protein so I have actual energy. I'd been exercising more but I threw my bad back out so I'm recovering from that and it's a struggle to get back into it. In good news I've finally made it to calculus, and I've made and shared some projects (and kept them up rather than nuking the account like usual). Slow progress.

 No.605

>>540
i feel you anon… studying can be overwhelming, but don't conflate that with actual workload. have faith in your capacity to get shit done. speaking from experience, if you just bite the bullet, you can go way further than you realize. just put your mind to it and before you know it it's the weekend :)

 No.616

>>22
If u can do uni you dont need SSI. Your just lazy

 No.618

>>604
about 30% through learning calculus. Predictably, trigonometry is tripping me up, so I need to spend more time studying the identities. I haven't studied for a minute because we've been moving. We moved somewhere a bit nicer, I've been on a couple walks, I need to try to make them daily. I will do one today. I'm also cooking more and baking for my family which feels really good to contribute / make people happy.

On a side note, I'm really reluctant to continue to study because I've been really consumed by self hate for a while, and I see working/being a provider as a way to kind of, redeem or create self worth. I really feel like this is the end of the line. I am a bad person in a lot of ways and I've made a lot of mistakes and I'm in one of those periods where I seem to make a mistake every day. If I can't make up for it by succeeding at this (and continuing to succeed at it, forever, until I die) then I really feel like I'm net-negative on those around me. In some ways living like this is more comfortable. Right now, I'm a terrible failure, but I have the potential to be something else. If I fail, then all I am is a terrible failure, worse than before. I know I have to push forward because time will make that decision for me, so I have to at least try, but it's so hard to risk, I guess, the last possible shred of self worth and hope.

>>605
I think of this comment when I am struggling, thank you. It helps.

 No.623

hi uboachan, I am just here to announce i will be renouncing shitposting for at least one month do stave off insanity for a little bit longer


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 No.554[Reply]

Hello lovely people, I just wanted to make this thread to remind you that it's all going to be OK.

Can you share some positive improvements that have happened in your life recently? Personally I am working on getting more professional help for my issues and it's working out well. I'd love to hear some positivity of you people.
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 No.581

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after years of job hunting, i landed myself a position at a fast food chain around a month ago and im genuinely happy.

the job is not anything spectacular, but i have much better perfecting my social interaction w/ others because that was something that needed a big improvement in my life. it comes with a lot of confidence too, which ive built up. i personally take anti-depressants and i still see a therapist but im pretty happy overall.

 No.583

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I'm currently receiving professional help, been taking antidepressants and medication to treat my severe anxiety, trying to not going back into the self-harming cycle (1 month free from it!).
I feel so alienate from society, like i don't fit here at all, but thanks to having the help i need i make little efforts of going outside everyday. Sometimes i miss the quietness of waking up in my room, in my safe space, and not having to spend my time outside of my room, but i've never been this happy to be able to wake up and just be glad that i can see another day. I just wish my brain worked properly because it's too loud and noisy and it never shuts up

 No.611

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I finally after 6 years of recovery have gone from hikki NEET unable to leave the house to actually having a good job that pays well… I spent the last two days in bed playing video games and watching anime til the early morning with the understanding that I probably will never be able to do this again, so wanted to send it off properly..

 No.617

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i handed in my last assignment at university today… i dropped out twice and i just turned 30 but i actually finally managed to finish. its weird to think that up until 5 years ago i was a hikkineet still and had been since the end of highschool.

 No.620

im sort of recovering. for about 2 years i isolated myself from everyone but i've tried making a discord server recently to get my old friends to start talking to me again. it's sorta been working, i now have one friend who i get lunch with on wednesdays and i voice chat with some old friends occasionally–but i'm pretty sure the guy i get lunch with only attends because i pay for his lunch. outside of these times i avoid talking to anyone.


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 No.250[Reply]

Just got a job today. I'm probably going to quit or get fired again, but, let's see how this goes

I will try to keep this thread up as a "journal" in hopes of helping or motivation another anon to do as I did today
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 No.426

>>425
I should mention, I was also really anxious on the first time I asked for a job at a computer store. Remember to collect yourselves before doing stuff like this, I got too excited and didn't think of it. Maybe I would've gotten the job perhaps? But that's not what I'll think of right now. I can't control everything and that's fine.

(also, correction I meant to reply to 424 on the second reply. to clear confusion)

>>417

>but we all get better with practice right?

Yes we do. I'm glad I know this first hand. I hope I've helped or motivated some of you to do so as well

 No.571

>>250
Hope life is going well for you textile anon

 No.606

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>>571
It couldn't be going worse anon

 No.607

>>606
Wanna talk about it friend?

 No.619

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Got a part time job that is very decent and things seem to be going in the right direction. I have to deal with my parents asking me to get started on my drivers license, not gonna do that until my mind is stable enough.

Months ago I fell in love with someone online but we cant date because of distance, it is quite difficult having to accept that i can only be friends with them but this relationship is too precious to lose and if I tried to get them out of my life I would lose my only my social circle.

While adult life is scary and the future feels unpredictable I encourauge all of you anons to keep going step by step, I promise you that we can find happiness.


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 No.608[Reply]

I'm a bit embarrassed to make this post, but I've been lurking for a long time and was hoping to hear from other people who have had the same issue, or know how to get out of it and stuff.

My issue is is that I use the computer too much, and I've been using it for 10+ hours a day nearly every day for the past 6 years. I've been a NEET and a hikki for most of that time, and I really really hate that I do that. I feel like I've not grown much as a person, and I feel as though I've become boring and hollow and skill-less as a direct result of my overuse of the internet/computer. I rarely do anything I can feel proud of, and the anxiety of having wasted my life permeates every waking second. I have terrible time management skills. Currently, I'm doing a course thats the equivalent of highschool in my country as I dropped out after completing year 10 due to issues around social anxiety and depression. I'm only just barely managing to pass because I wait until the last second to do anything, and I'm terrified I've permanently fucked my brain through habitual overuse of the computer. I'm currently 21. I'm also scared I'll never be able to learn the social skills needed to make close friends, which is absolutely terrifying, as my main motivation for getting out of neet-dom the past few years has been deep loneliness.

I'm sorry for throwing a pity-party, I really want to be proud of myself and turn myself into someone I can be happy being. I'd really love to hear from someone else who has dealt with a similar-ish issue (and hopefully solved it!), I've been feeling a lot of self doubt and fear recently, and I'd love to find someone to relate to. If this post is too self centered and just shitting up the board, feel free to delete it.

Another question for people who've got hobbies: what might be a good one with a low skill ceiling to take up for someone who freaks out over being bad at everything? I've heard a hobby is a really good way to kickstart self esteem.

 No.609

The brain can be is a master in let you think you suck on everything you tried to do (because is tend to happen to me.. A LOT). Even on dumb things like videogames, I feel everyone play anything way better than me effortless, or in case of drawing, everyone draw just perfectly with almost no practice but me. Don't know if your experienced similar thoughs.

What you mayorily consume on those 10+ hours while being in the computer? There you may find a hobby on things you feel interested. But remember to not burnout yourself and know when to rest and slowdown.

 No.610

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try not to define yourself on normalfag terms, or let your sense of self-worth be defined by their backwards "standards".

-keep a journal
-write stories
-anything art related is not only productive but gives one a sense of accomplishment
-learn more about computers
-research the human condition philosophy, psychology
-do what you love

 No.612

I have this overwhelming feeling that to be loved and appreciated you need to have value. In today's capitalist economy value means having a productive skill useful to employers or having some kind of talent or charm that makes people like you. The only things I'm good at are not productive and don't impress people. So I am worthless and I cannot compete. Why would anyone waste their time on me? Why would anyone want to be my friend or hold me and comfort me? I want to learn something and be talented so people will be impressed and respect me. I wonder if that's a really selfish and stupid reason to learn anything. Can I really master an instrument or a sport when I'm nearly 30 and behind everyone in skill and experience? Yet if I don't do this I feel like I'll die alone.

 No.614

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>>610
I really recommend the journal thing.
Being on the internet is so dopamine rushing, just doomscrolling an all, but only you can break this cycle.
What stuff do you used to like to do that now you don't do anymore? I'm really picking up into drawing again, and i want to learn how to grow some plants.
You're 21, but you're never to late to keep learning and growing.
Personally high school for me was pure hell, but to this day i'm glad i'm not seeing those fuckers anymore, currently surivivng college, even with my poor ass social skills, i've managed to find people who understand me and i realized people are more than what the internet or social media paints it to be. Humans are meant to socialize, you'll be ok. You'll find lots of good people.

 No.615

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>>612
>Why would anyone waste their time on me? Why would anyone want to be my friend or hold me and comfort me?

Because you also deserve happiness and to enjoy life.
Because you can also still learning and expand your horizons, because you can do things some people may be unable to do.
You're not behind everyone, that is what nowadays social media wants you to believe, even if, in the case that you are. The only thing you can do is keep moving foward, right?
Enjoy human life in the way you like


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 No.490[Reply]

if you go to drug/alcohol rehab you can transition to 3.1 housing which is free for six months and they'll help you get a job. it's all covered under medicaid, you don't need any income to do this, in fact no income is better. then after that you can go to a halfway house where rent is like less than $200 a month and they'll keep providing you with transportation to work n shit. in a year of doing this you can easily save up 20 grand since your expenses will be almost nonexistent. think about how much of a difference that money would make to you. all you gotta do is pretend to be an addict (and most of you probably wouldn't even be pretending)
if you got nothing better going for you, you should consider it. some places will even send a guy to pick you up from your house and take you there if you don't have a car
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 No.505

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>>503
hell yeah congrats on going thru with it and getting sober too!!! that's a huge step foward!!
I'm the same person who posted about going thru the system before, that's awesome that it's so easy in your state! have you considered applying for section 8 or other housing programs? a lot of states fast track ppl in halfway houses and similar programs… it'll make that 20k go wayy farther.
good luck on your job search!!

 No.506

>>505
thank you friend. little update, i've started work, just a shitty part-time retail job, but it's easy and low-stress and i get to put basically 100% of what i earn in savings so the shit pay doesn't matter much. probably won't apply for section 8 since dealing with social services is aggravating and i try to avoid it unless i truly need it. i got a gym membership and exercise every day, my health is the best it's been in years, life is good all around. once i get a couple more checks i should be able to extrapolate how much money i'll be able to leave this place with and start planning for my future. really can't stress enough how strongly i recommend this route to anyone here who has any kind of substance issue

 No.511

So I got forced out of the NEET life after people committed identity fraud on me. Place has gone to the dogs. I did everything right. Did everything that was asked by welfare and I still got fucked over for it. Ultimately at the end of the day, that’s life. It wasn’t going to be pristine perfect forever. It’d be impossible to get a job here without ID, robotics have taken over the farming industry so no chance to backpack and make money there, tech has pretty much crushed any chance of getting work. No way would anyone here give me work after all the shit that’s happened. Unless it’s something incredibly degrading. I’m basically untouchable by jobs now. I’m guessing the only jobs I could work in are either mental health related or disability related, but no way would they let me near that. I guess that’s what happens when you get cancelled. Bunch of people didn’t like the fact I was NEET for so long, bunch of people didn’t like me being driven to suicidal ideations, so they fucked me over something fierce. I’m not even sure how I’m going to get out of this. People really hate me here so I’m guessing if I die it’ll be because of public opinion and my own stupidity.

I know what it’s like to be bullied because believe me I’ve copped a fuckload of it all my life. Everywhere I go. I wasn’t even aware of what’s happening until recently. So yeah, bunch of people scammed me took me for a ride and I got the shit kicked out of me. Like serious shit. Best to stay quiet, never socialise with anyone no matter how hard they make it. I’d go live the hermit life if I could but someone will find me. They always do nowadays. If you’re a nerd like a lot of us are, the world ain’t kind to you.

 No.513

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https://patch.com/california/menlopark-atherton/ep/4124322/nodx?utm_source=share-link&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=share

 No.613

Its blackpill inducing knowing that addicts get help while autists like myself have to rot


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 No.602[Reply]

>start lifting
>quit discord
>get an intership
>get hired
>drop out of college
>since I'm no longer going to college I have more free time
>also I have money
>lose my v-card
>life has never been better
I'm still a shitty person but I don't care, I just want to enjoy life while I can

 No.603

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Congrats dear stranger. Enjoy it


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