/rec/ - Ex-NEET / Recovery

>>780
wow anon, you got quite the situation there, you're not me and I don't expect you to take me seriously, but I would never, in a million years date someone with BPD, I saw what that can do to guys.

Then again, it all comes down to how much you are willing to sacrifice and how strong your self esteem and self respect are.

You could date her if you have enough mental fortitude to break up when she starts being crazy and doing nasty moves.

Again, if you're going in with no compromise that's okay but only hearing

>Sometimes she becomes aggressive or hostile towards me

is a solid NO from me, I don't need to consider the rest, no relationship should have that happening. Even more of a NO if you're feeling lonely and desperate, because your brain is not gonna be the one making decisions. If you let this opportunity pass, it won't be the end of the world, but if you go in unsure, it may be.

Maybe you can also casually discuss both of your mental health situations with her(if you cannot do this you have no business considering a relationship with her) and determine if she's willing to do something to improve in the future to give you some hope. But again, banshee screaming and insults are things that should never exist in a relationship.

tl;dr, check your mental, and confirm how much you're willing to sacrifice

>>781
>I saw what that can do to guys
What did you witness? Firsthand experience or just online reports? I know BPD gets a lot of bad rep but I already got over the hard part, I still want to be around her, despite her faults. Obviously a marriage or having children is completely out of the question (I'd have to be really desperate like you said), but she understands that. There's a mutual understanding (most of the time) that we can't operate under normal rules

>Even more of a NO if you're feeling lonely and desperate
True, luckily I'm not. When we met maybe, but now I have a lot of people close to me, and I don't notice her trying to get in the way of that

>determine if she's willing to do something to improve in the future to give you some hope
We discuss it a lot, she's actually going to therapy all the time and I've noticed her get better over the last year, like serious improvement. Her splits are much rarer and usually only last a day before she apologizes / becomes reasonable. I've also more-or-less perfected dealing with her, which obviously wasn't my responsibility, but it's also a skill I just have now, and she appreciates it too

I'd probably be happier if we haven't started talking in the first place, but now we're kind of just okay for each other

>>784
>What did you witness? Firsthand experience or just online reports?
I knew a guy who started online and then got close, he was mentally and physically abused to the point he was dead inside, the relationship luckily ended and he ended up being accused of being the abusive one, which everyone in his circle believed because the woman knows crying-jutsu too good.
Online and IRL living in the same room are vastly different and even though the girl sounded crazy online that became a lot worse IRL, however, this was a guy that had low self esteem, was lonely and desperate, and this girl was one of those girls that dress all pink and post photos with a million filters on facebook, he didn't have a chance.

>True, luckily I'm not. When we met maybe
Good, if you're okay in the head and able to say no, and are aware that this is gonna be a difficult relationship, go have fun, you seem to know what you're getting into.
>We discuss it a lot, she's actually going to therapy all the time and I've noticed her get better over the last year, like serious improvement.
That's more great news, you are being realistic, just post again in like 5 years so I will know you didn't die.

>>786
Shes waiting

lmaoooo

have fun with your "girlfriend", i bet you'll never have a mystical green ceramic tiger like me