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/rec/ - Ex-NEET / Recovery

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 No.352

How do you even get a boyfriend or companionship?
How will I deal with the regret of never having a gf or bf.
I want to get one, but I know I'm too messed up from psychosis, BPD, autism, PTSD, and social withdrawal.
I've been NEET for 10 years and it's impossible I'll ever get a gf/bf now, I'm too fucked up and literally, everyone else is "normal".
Some guy I was talking to told me he wished he never met me and that I was sick.
How is this even fair? I only lived once and I was born in a family that fucked me up mentally.

 No.353

Well, you are listing a whole lot of things holding you back but how about your redeeming qualities?
Why should anyone date you? Are you nice? Kind? Caring? Funny? Attractive? Honest? What do you have to offer?
There's gotta be something good in you.

 No.354

stop labeling yourself and start being

 No.355

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>>352
Run after such desires if so you wish, but always watch out for consequences in this predatory world.

Have you been not in wizchan already? lvl 20 is the point of no-return

 No.363

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How do you know you're too messed up because of those mental conditions you listed? I've had partners and so have my other NEET friends, even with those conditions you've mentioned. I know several people on here have had some luck with dating as well. That isn't to brag, but to say that it's possible.

The thing is, Anon, you have to be able to love yourself to some degree to love other people. This doesn't mean you have to have overwhelming self-confidence. This means you must readjust your mindset and outlook to be one of worthiness. That you are, in fact, not only worth a relationship, but worth being cared for and happy. Again, it doesn't mean you're going to achieve immediate happiness. But it will build a stronger foundation for any kind of relationship, and will help your mental health a lot in the long run, especially with things like BPD and autism.

Even with an unstable sense of self, you don't need to be defined by labels and diagnoses alone. After all, these are just hospital billing codes in the end, not life sentences. Like that other anon said, try looking at some of your better qualities or even just a more honest examination of your personality. Godspeed, though. I hope you get your qt gril someday.

 No.364

>>363
>you are, in fact, not only worth a relationship, but worth being cared for and happy
no one's entitled to anything hyuck hyuck hyuck

 No.365

>>364
I said it to OP and I'll say it to you. Why aren't you entitled to kindness, at the very least respect and dignity? This is a basic tenet of self confidence, but also healing, and this is the recovery board. I can even find you some sources if you insist, but regardless, I believe OP is entitled to all of the above and so are you. Take care, anon. Sage out of politeness to OP.

 No.366

>>352
This is a purely anecdotal story, but i think it might help you. I believe a lot of my mental illness stems from bullying and humiliation in my early and teenage years. It made me believe i was undeserving to even talk so people could hear me. I was so afraid of someone hearing what i was saying and starting something on me for it. I've been diagnosed with bipolar type 1 and GAD, and i believe the manic episodes are the bodys natural defence to extreme levels of depression. I used to self harm, ive fucked my arm up, I have nerve damage in it. I used to binge drink, I fractured my skull, eye socket and had to get a finger amputated because it got ripped off in a particularly stupid drunken incident. My stepdad is abusive, he's got violent with me multiple times, and he is extremely manipulative. I've been forcibly hospitalized multiple times. I think I might have and idea what you're going through
After all this, and only recently, I finally realised im deserving of things like basic human decency. I am maybe good enough to have someone actually like me, not love, but it's a good first step. Maybe you can too, it's just a mindset, you need to believe it for it to be true. Your thoughts create your reality, if you only think in negatives, your life will be negative. Notice I used the word believe a lot.



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