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no, im very asocial/anti-social only friends i had were from school.
only reason i made friends in junior high and high school was for drugs, eventually burnt out on drugs moved away from those individuals.
but, i was already living a digital life before i dropped out of school/society. and due to my anti-social nature im content interacting with people via text or vc that fills up my social meter.

No. I've never had a successful friendship that didn't blow out after a few weeks. I haven't tried to make friends since around 2016/2017ish. I wish I knew how to make some but my brain is so rancid and my social skills are so underdeveloped there's always a huge gap between myself and the other people I meet.

After school you pretty much have to keep reaching out to them and keep talking or it's over.

School is one of the only social environments left where it's normal to just talk to people about random stuff and it's not totally weird.

I'm in school right now and I have a bunch of acquaintances - maybe not friends. I mean I don't hang out with any of them. If I ask a girl to hang out then it's like we're dating. If I ask a guy then it's less weird, but even in college it's hard finding times and meetings.


I'm just trying to grow my social circle, know more people, make more genuine connections. But it's hard because again everyone clicks with everyone differently and even when you do click, hanging out is difficult.

Although I kind of give no fucks and do it anyway though even if it doesn't work out because I'm realizing this will be the best shot I got.


Clubs are the best shot, but even then most clubs are kind of shit. Meetings once every 2-4 weeks. I usually just look up fun events and if I make an acquaintance or a friend I like in a class/club then I can ask them to hang out at that event.

Anything is better than being terminally online - I told myself If I end up a social failure then I can always return here.

I've realized that there's child hood friends, high school friends, college friends, maybe work friends, and neighbors. If you didn't take advantage of that then you're kind of fucked.

>>27114

This is something that has always bugged me about image board users. Most of them live either in europe or in the US, where for some reason, friends gatherings and just, talking to people on the street, is deemed as weird. Meeting your friends at school seems like the only chance for most people on first world countries to make relationships flourish

I met my best friend after I intercepted her whilst she was going home; in third world countries to do this is seemed just as, well, an straightforward approach.

I hope everything goes your way fren

>>27113

>my brain is so rancid and my social skills are so underdeveloped there's always a huge gap between myself and the other people I meet.

You should start by talking with people that are just as socially inept as you are, and gradually, learn a thing or two from them.

The Lainchan IRC for example, it's a nice place with a lot of really kind lainanons.

Blowing up relationships after a few weeks is also part of the learning process, i guess, so just keep trying and you'll eventually be able to find somebody that you really like, and that you really really want to spend your time with

>>27112

You don't feel miserable by just talking to people online?

Back when i was a hiki, i always felt alone even if i talked to people on discord or whatever; there was always something missing

>>27117
nope, its the best way to deal with people.

>>27116
>Lainchan IRC
Isn’t that place full of /pol/tards now? I heard most of the oldusers left.

Doesn’t telling people to find friends online encourage them to stay in a hole? Online friendships are a poor substitute for the real deal. Sadly, genuine friendship is becoming rarer these days, even for so called normies.

>>27123

>Doesn’t telling people to find friends online encourage them to stay in a hole?

Yes, it does, if the people in question don't actively try to get out of it, that is.


As for the Lainchan IRC, i really don't know.
Last time i used it, which was not too long ago, I had a very nice chat with a fellow there

I've recently started to make irl friends in the past year… its hard cause I feel like I don't understand most social conventions of irl and we struggle to relate to each other because of our wildly different pasts. But they invite me to things and even when my brain is screaming that they secretly hate me they seem to enjoy my company. So I guess it can help..

t. recovering neet for 10 years…

>>27125

You always have to start from somewhere, and at least in my opinion, to get real life friends after 10 years of being a neet, is a hell of a start.

Yes Ubuu, the bonds that you make with your first friends might not be that deep, or that interesting really, but they are at the end of the day, experiences that leave you with valuable knowledge that then you can use to treat people properly in the future.

I wish you the best

Yes.

>>27202
Cool. How is your relationship with them?

I have no friends and I try my best to keep it that way. Honestly, I don't believe that there is such a thing as good people, and I don't believe that humans possess any redeeming qualities. People are profoundly rotten to the core. There are no friends in this world.

I have plenty of irl friends but I haven't seen many of them in a long while and lost contact. I still hang out with my friend group from high school though and I'm glad they're still around. I find it harder to make any new irl friends nowadays, my anxiety and depression is just too high for it and I always get angry or frustrated now when people reject me or ignore me in social settings. I'm kind of going through it right now socially adapting to environments where nobody knows who I am coming from environments where everyone did post-community college. It's hard and I wish I didn't feel like a social outcast nowadays.

>>27112
did you have any friends not for drugs?

>>27296
kinda, we all skated together which turned into us all being druggies.

>>27284

I wish the best for you my frend.

For me it was really hard to feel comfortable with my friends, mostly because of my own insecurities.

I've made mistakes and it took me quite some time to accept that I am a better person, and that I've changed