A few people are an awful control group. I understand this person in particular hurt you but their actions don't have bearing on everyone's actions.
Finding someone who has been through similar things and wants to heal and grow alongside you may work out well one day.
Moreover if the idea is so repulsive than you do need to take some time to heal. I had a girl who toyed with my feelings for two years before I gave up and then it took two more years before I was really ready for another attempt at it. That's ok, take what time you need if you need to. (But don't dwell for eternity either, the people who hurt you don't deserve to have your life's emotional effort dedicated to them.)
If you don't want to be with someone who's overwired than don't. My partner doesn't have any twitter or facebook services and I'm off social media entirely. Those sorts of corporate social status nonsense sites can't hurt you if you don't engage with them. For context.
I'm going on 3 years with person after having been a virgin and never dating anyone as a teenager. It can get better but you have to try and work on yourself while you try. You don't need to be perfect, that whole perfect yourself before looking for another person thing people push is nonsense, but it can't hurt to self-improve along the way either.