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News Post - Ten More Years!

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 No.18474

How do I stop caring what other people think of me?

 No.18476

Wrong board, not enough information about you.

 No.18477

You've already failed by asking for other people's opinions on how to stop caring about people's opinions.

 No.18479

That image almost made me lose my dinner, op.

I don't have much advice to offer, but I do notice one way I've learned to deal with it is when I reach my limit of how much bullshit I can take from people, and it's as if my brain automatically turns that worry off just out of tiredness and anger, refusing to care anymore.

>>18476
I don't think it is the wrong board, it's just more common to see topics like this being discussed over at /hikki.

 No.18485

Well there's always the age old advice that "people don't think about you as much as you do. That's true and worth bearing in mind when you go into deep thought spirals about one thing you did that you think everyone views you differently for. They probably don't most of the time.

Inevitably though, people do think of each other a lot, and sometimes people will think poorly of you. Just try to avoid doing really egregious things, and accept that you cannot completely stop worrying about how others perceive you.

You could also just not talk to anyone, but that sucks.

 No.18489

>>18485
>You could also just not talk to anyone, but that sucks.
You don't need to do this. There is an alternative. Only talk to people behind the persona you wish to present. Avoid expressing unpopular opinions that might get you torn down. Assume everyone is lying as much as possible to further their own ends. Life is easier and safer this way, I've found.

 No.19742

start caring more about what you think of you. how can you possibly reliably tell what other people really think of you.

 No.19743

If your opinions and personality are nothing too extremist, start exposing yourself to situations where people will inevitably think negatively of you, step on everyone's toes, and learn by experience that their thoughts are meaningless to you because they deliver no physical consquences at the end of it.

Except for when you need to build a presentable image for yourself to find a job and the like, but then why are you asking for such stupid advice?

 No.19744

if you think you can disregard how your interactions with other people go, you are crazy. it matters a lot. the good thing is that you can stop worrying even if you need to care.

you see, when you can control something, you don't need to worry about it. and there's two ways you can change how people see you. the first is spending time with them. with time, their assessment of you will get closer to reality. you can shut down any misconceptions that way. this is potentially very short term, like a day or two.

the second, complementary method is changing yourself. naturally, it happens in the long term, and its results can be tested by using the first method. if you can change yourself even a little you will realize you can change what people think of you. it's not magic, though. who you are limits who you can be, and the only image of yourself you can reliably project is the reality of who you are. but it's still control, and control ends worries.

 No.19746

Find a hugbox and stick to that.



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