/n/ - NEET

>>13337
I'm not sure myself. Been jobless for over 3 years now, and my friends have all moved on to 'real' lives. I just don't know how they do it. The depression and the feeling that time is fleeting are absolutely crushing.

And yeah, seeing other people doing their thing, while appearing to be happy, makes me really jealous and all too aware that I'm pissing away my life.

This thread is so LEEET

>How do you cope with not having any friends … for 5+ years?
IRC and forums. For me, it's been 6 years, coming up on 7. I've made some nice online friends in the mean time, and I'm actually reluctant to make real life friends because of how comfortable it's become. But I'm still open to the possibility of real friends. However, 3D human real life people are a huge hassle, but internet people are perfectly accepting and casual about it all. They're more like actual real friends than the real life friends I've had in the past.

>How do you cope with not having … a job for 5+ years?
The longest I've gone without a job since before I was 17, was maybe one or two years while living with my parents around 2009. But during all through living with my parents, they always forced me get, or try to get, a job. If I could go back there and live for free, I absolutely would, as long as possible, but it would soon revert back to the same deal, "get a job or you can't stay". When I was finally told to move out at 24, since then, I've found jobs now-and-then by necessity. I can't not work to support myself, otherwise I'll be homeless. Which I have been a few times, and those were actually honestly some of the most fun times of my life. I use my legs as locomotion, and live close to jobs/food stores. With minimal starting investment (rent below 500 dollars?) you should be able to set up in a city and get a job and rent a room. Being stuck at your parents' home or with no resources is just stagnation. Which I personally love, and can be a fulfilling life (or a miserable one) depending on your attitude and how you handle it. But to be independent, you must simply start being independent. No matter where you are, you are never stuck in a corner. There is always a way out. The future is a blank ticket!

>>13338
Depression is a temporary sickness caused by the moldy complacency inhaled during your stagnation, a moss covering your brain. Your motivation has rusted and it's unfathomable to motivate again. Thankfully, I learned through experience, that each human has their own personal toolbox inside their heads to fix their brains. With a routine of effort, and continued cultivation, all persons can eventually remove the sticky black tar or "depression" and emancipate themselves into a fresh, free, most triumphant world and a contented life.

>>13341
I enjoyed reading your post and I can really relate to preferring online to offline friends, but I'm honestly not so convinced about the brain-toolbox thingy.

My mentality is admittedly pretty terrible though. I've felt more detached from certain aspects of life than my peers since my early teens, and never felt a burning passion, drive or strong desires. The depression has been there for almost a decade already. I'm not convinced I can fix myself because I had a more normal life in the past, yet still felt like the oddball.

>>13341
How do you make friends online

There is a gaming forum I occasionally post in for almost 10 years now, but most of the time I go ignored, and i've never had a private chat or anything.

I've been in an irc for I think 11 months, but fell to the wayside. Like forums, mostly ignored/topic changed when I try to speak up.

>>13341
>With minimal starting investment (rent below 500 dollars?) you should be able to set up in a city and get a job and rent a room

Where did you get the initial money? I've never seen an apartment less than 500, especially in cities where demand is high because everyone works there. I'm not sure ifnyou can even net more than 200-250 a month in part time minimum wage..?
Also how did you get the job? Just being desperate doesn't seem to help get calls, and my low self esteem/social anxiety is very visible in interviews

>>13341
I can relate to the friends part, but not so much to the toolbox part, like the person above me said.

I haven't had IRL friends sans one for 7 years, and absolutely none for 5. I have, however, built long-lasting relationships with people I met online and we've been talking about everything and anything, being silly with each other and exchanging cool shit we found or saw for years. It's cozy and the not-physically-there part doesn't bother me at all. The friendships are as real as they get.

As for depression, I've been depressed since I was 8. It got especially bad 6 years ago, and it only got every so slightly better because I'm now being treated.

I have tried everything. During my time with it, I was going to school, I was doing past-time activities, I was interacting with people and achieving things. Did that make it go away? Not at all. It has been slowly but steadily seeping in deeper and deeper into my being like cancer, it made me fall out of life and lose enjoyment in pretty much everything I used to enjoy.

Now, that I've done plenty of introspecting, I can tell when I'm thinking in a distorted way, or when I should be feeling a certain thing but am not; I can tell when a panic attack is coming and I can tell when suicidal thoughts will show up. Can I make the bad feelings go away? Can I change anything? No. I can just anticipate. It's a feeling of impending doom. On top of that, I know I have all the requirements to be happy at my disposal yet I can't be, no matter how much I want it or what I do. It makes me feel like a selfish, ungrateful, broken piece of shit.

So, no, "just fix yourself" is not a good advice for a depressed person. It's like telling a blind person to "just cross that slackline" because they can feel it below their feet. A depressive episode? Sure, it will pass within a month to a year if you work with yourself. Getting out of major depression requires guidance, years of work, breaking yourself as a person and rebuilding from the ground up while facing your deepest fears and immense pain. And in many cases medication that might or might not be addictive and fuck you over in the long run.

>>13343

>I've never had a private chat or anything
Well, here is your problem. To make friends, you have to approach people. If you keep finding yourself talking to this one person or finding someone interesting, talk to them in private, and perhaps get to more personal topics with time, like sharing feelings, thoughts and advice. You get closer to people that way and form stronger bonds.

>>13343
Do you know of the Uboachat over at Skype? Check this post >>12231 for more about it, you'd be welcome there.
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>>13337
I have a job and a few friends but it doesn't change the fact that i'm depressed and feel like shit.

Never held a job and had no friends since almost 10 years now, wow how time flies.
When i get reminded that other people are doing something with their life i feel like i sufficate.

Smoking a cig when it kicks in always helps me and sometimes a drink too.

I really dont know what to say when people would ask me about my life, id prolly just say nothing, as if i still care.

>>13341
I enjoyed reading your post and I can really relate to preferring online to offline friends, but I'm honestly not so convinced about the brain-toolbox thingy.

My mentality is admittedly pretty terrible though. I've felt more detached from certain aspects of life than my peers since my early teens, and never felt a burning passion, drive or strong desires. The depression has been there for almost a decade already. I'm not convinced I can fix myself because I had a more normal life in the past, yet still felt like the oddball.>>13348
>When i get reminded that other people are doing something with their life i feel like i sufficate.
So do I. I feels like time is catching up on me, certain doors closing forever, etc.

How's your mental wellbeing?

>>13349
I sure screwed up that post. Ignore everything but the last 3 lines.

>>13349
>How's your mental wellbeing?
Bad probably, tough im currently rather stable an suprisingly for this time of year have been little depressive, tough i feel often tired.
But i guess that is normal.

Music and daydreaming.

just get to know a few people. everybody else is more depressed than you. they have shitty jobs, shitty boring friends only they waste all their time doing things that they dont want to do in order to own negative dollars.

I'm debt free, living the NEET dream on autismbux.

making women happy is the only thing that cheers me up. but I cheat. I go with whatever girl is the loneliest borderline I can find. you get to be their world and cheer them up. just dont expect it to last because they're like that. this fulfills my social requirements and there are always more of them. an endless supply to go through.

I have a great desire to meet a girl who is intelligent and thoughtful and find companionship with them. but that's not going to happen.

>>13624
How about no

I play vidieogames while I wait for my death.

>>13337

I feel the same pain, being socially inept is suffering. Trying to enjoy myself alone is getting harder and harder everyday.

>>14466
Doesn't that simply mean that you don't want to be socially inept?

>>14467

I tried to communicate but in the end people just ignore me because obviously they think I'm a shit or maybe a boring shit person. It's not easy to talk casually because I don't talk to people very much. Normalfag like you will never understand what's like to be me, because all you care is to talk with fun people. If only people could stay a bit more patience in knowing me, I might able to show them an interesting side of me that they wouldn't imagine. It's always an early assumption that's ruin the social interaction because they think a talkative person makes them interesting.

>>14469
Is that how it works? I think you should pay less heed to what they may think of you, more to what you know about yourself. Then conclude, "these bitches are missing out and little do they know".
You don't really want to be friends with such people who disregard others like that in the first place. People who only want talkative bunch? Whew, talk about narrow-minded, pass up on them.

As for me I ultimately stopped giving shits about interactions with people, minding my own business instead. It's working out.

>>14471
>As for me I ultimately stopped giving shits about interactions with people, minding my own business instead. It's working out.

This is true. Honestly, I'm surprised by the number of people who want to interact with others while ranting in the same post that other people are shit.
I genuinely don't understand what drives people "harmed by these shitty people" to want to interact with them. It's like saying "I hate crocodiles and rotten water, but I want to swim with them in the filthy swamp without being minced to death by their teeth". If those people are shitty, don't even pay attention to their existence.

I'm not saying to cut ties with the idea of interacting with others or to keep it as little as possible, as I have done, but ranting about how you're not in the "cool normie club" is just stupid. I'd rather die alone. No, in fact, I chose that simply because I gave up in the idea of having friends. And it turned out pretty good for me.
I'm a boring person? Sure. Do they care about me? No.
That is what freedom is all about. Since I'm not tied to pretend to fit in a category, I'm free to be in as much places as I want, or none.

If you want some people to chat and joke around, or to play games, and with more or less the same tastes as you, you're free to join any IRC or keep posting in imageboards. I genuinely feel more at peace having debates here than interacting with real people.

>>14469
Now now, i know what you're talking about. I'm no normalfag.
But i'm just saying, nothing is really gonna change if you post on /n/. You either deal with it or learn to better yourself at conversation.
If you seek for people who seem the same way, you're only pushing yourself further down the rabbit of going batshit insane because of loneliness, misunderstanding and a few other factors.
I suggest you force yourself away from the PC for a while. Just go on walks or whatever. Don't think about other people's happiness, think about your inner peace of mind.
Remember, none of the people around you will ever feel the same way you feel. In a way, that's unique, but you shouldn't out it too much, nor should it last too long. It's not good for your mental health. Always try and keep fixing it.


We live in a beautiful world, you only need see it.

>>14469
Same experience, although really I have nothing to offer in a friendship even if I had one.

Shut in/NEET for 8 years now, I have no social life or interesting past to share short of suicide attempts and psych ward stays.

I'm beginning to think it's literally impossible at this point to get better.

Fucking sundays, never get out on a sunday, its a real drag, i dont know why i do this to myself.

It really sucks not having any real friends for years, not even having had any with which you could have had some kind of life.
Im scared of not being able to catch up anymore one day.

>>14538
Ayy, I'm guessing the last 3 posts on the board are yours with all the salt pouring from each of them. Did you come here particularly to bash the place? Did a NEET stick anything so far up your ass you feel the need to let out on others?

Really, there's no other word for what you did than "shitposting". Get out, we don't need your kind. Have had enough of immature pricks elsewhere.

Being friendless is hard but there are at least people who I can talk to online.

As for being jobless, that sucks. I desperately want to be independent and to have a little more freedom in my life. How can I get a job if I have never had a job in my life and I'm a shut in with no experience and poor social skills? Is there hope for someone like me? Please help.

>>14538
But I get paid for doing nothing and I don't have friends.
Are you jelly or something?

>>14540
Try some menial labor. I'm about to apply to load and unload shipping vehicles for Fedex.

I would very possibly kill myself if I didn't have any friends at all. Feel halfway like doing it anyway, just because those I can see myself in don't care for me or about me and, well, very rarely do any genuinely care for one they've never physically met, even if they like them.

Get a hobby will you and do something productive with it. Just remember that there are neet in here who are alot older than you are.

>>>14540

Get a hobby will you and do something productive with it. Just remember that there are neet in here who are alot older than you are.
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I like to have fantasies of having friends or going on adventures with them. It takes away from the crippling loneliness

Drugs, anime, music, make posts on chan sites and repeat.

besides the drugs (only been doing that for 3 years) I've been doing it for 7 years straight now.

I think I might of gave myself a mild form of brain damage from the drugs.

>>14589
Whenever I imagine oldschool ubuu it's people like you. Sucks you might not get too far, you're a fun sort, underappreciated really.

How do you get consistent access to drugs though? I know you didn't mention being a NEET but still, that seems to require knowing people.

>>14590
>How do you get consistent access to drugs though?

The pharmacy and department stores mainly because I'm too dumb to figure out darknet.

>I know you didn't mention being a NEET
I'm a friendless NEET who's never worked a day in his life.

>Whenever I imagine oldschool ubuu it's people like you.
I have always felt that I was behind my time.
I wish I got to this site when those guys where here.

>you're a fun sort, underappreciated really.
I agree and I always try and have a fun time on the inner tubes.

>Sucks you might not get too far
Dying before I hit 30 would be a dream come true.

>>14591
you seem like a really chill person

>>14591
Ah so you're one of those dxm anons. Always meant to try it but weirdly enough never gathered up the will to plunge into weirdspiderland, despite the fact I was fine with shrooms, smashing records against the wall and seeing them shatter into millions of sharp versions of those tiny sprites from Totoro.

I feel ya on the arriving too late, by the way. But yeah you seem neat.

>>14592
I'm a laid back and chill person.
I wish I didn't have such a god awful childhood that caused me to invert and become socially awkward, if I didn't I might actual have friends.

>>14593
It's a pretty fun drug once you get over the taste if you don't do extraction.
Running around my house high on DXM blasting lolicore music is a lot of fun.

>weirdspiderland
That sounds more like DPH from my experiences.

I've never really had heavy hallucinations on DXM, not yet at least.

>>14595
We could be friends if you want to, anon.

>you're a fun sort, underappreciated really
>you seem like a really chill person
>But yeah you seem neat.
>We could be friends if you want to, anon.
Are you replying to yourself?

>>14596
I'm up for that but I don't really know how friendship works.


>>14597
Unless the theory of a Multiverse exists and I'm unknowingly communicating to myself via an internet wormhole.

No, I'm not replying to myself.

>>14598
We can work on learning how friendship works together!

If you wanna add me on steam my is /id/homelessmagicalgirl and my throw away skype is kazurachan
I'd rather give you my actual skype through steam since I'm lazy and don't wanna log onto that account. So just reply saying you've added that skype so I know to check.

Assuming you use either of these applications.
(This is also extended for anyone else who might want a friend.)

>>14599
It's worth a shot, I don't have anything to lose at this point.

I'll also drop mine so I don't feel like I'm alienating.

http://steamcommunity.com/id/Yakui7

Anyone can add if they like.

I have Skype also but I never check it.

Friendship time? I have been looking for people to talk to on Tox.

My ID: B33CA8573F05AB2F5121557328556F8A6B49998701C73F8F380D0669CBFC5064FCEECD719429

I don't. I've handled it poorly.

I won't know because i dropped out 10 months ago and i'm already almost crazy and gotta kill myself or become homeless.

>>14601
I haven't heard anyone mention tox before and actually intend on using it.
Mine is 66CBC427B7FED410A186751025B6CAA94AFB80CDA047BE22E95EB6C691443000A0A2FD118DB7

Would be nice if I could get some friends to chat with on here since it seems so much better than skype.

I would prefer to use Tox as well, because of Skype being a botnet and all.

>>14601
>>14609
I've added you. Here's my ID:

A965812EF8D47DE17C23968AD01177FC738B7EAB9FC3B15092F1405606794947898E0776D0E8

>>14601
>>14609
>>14610
Admittedly, I've been looking for an excuse to start using Tox for quite a while now. I've sent the lot of you requests. My ID is as follows:

7DC844D97BE6B45BDE40D16454329088295536F609C3345E7638DC3B5E5BAA5BB5F350B8A444

If we're sharing tox IDs, mine is:

AB46C81783712DF072274948E8A0A68C715CDD726FED76C8B7FFCFC9A21FD022A83FE1F34E5F

>>14617
>>14616
>>14610
>>14609
>>14601
>>14540
>>14541
>>14566
>>14596
>>13343

Would you guys mind joining us at #truNEET on rizon irc, You seams like lovely neets here, It felt like I want to snuggles all you cute neets here.

I used to feel like op a few years back but now its better.

Went outside to the lake for swimming yesterday.
Its a bit dissapointing when you have no friends. I have been outside a bit over time and can say its not unusual see some people alone, but it still a rarety.
Its hard to me to imagine that people manage to make friends other than trough school/work.
It puzzles me how people can make social ties.

At any rate i had some time outside got some sun and some excrecise and had my fun, but in the end i cant help feeling a bit empty.

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I mostly watch anime all day and play some LoL on the side

>>14660
I ate alone in subway once. There were a lot of older people sitting alone drinking coffee

>>14672
Sometimes I hang around book stores alone, this one I went too had a big Manga section but it as wall to wall full of Harems.

I stood in that section for 10 minutes just wondering to myself why this book store had 5 shelves all lined up with Harems. People gave me weird looks.

>>14673
I wish I had a bookstore to hang out in. Or at least more 24/7-like options to get out more. Not in my area of hell though. Oh well.

>>14674
That one I mentioned is the only decent one in my city and I need to cross a bad part of town to get too it.
I don't have much options either.

I don't really like going to that book store, the clerk gave me a smirk one time when I bought a Yotsubto manga after embarrassingly digging through all those Harems.

>>14683
They shouldn't judge paying customers.

I didn't really like people anyways. Now I'm sick I have an excuse not to talk to any of them.

>>14768
I wish I could live alone under a mountain, or in a small pink house on a tiny island and only have to see a few people a year.

>>14673
I want to open my own manga store someday.
I'd call it "Weeabook"

Sadly that will never happen.
Not many people post here anymore either.
I wonder if i should go outside.

>>14799
>I want to open my own manga store someday.
>I'd call it "Weeabook"

Anon, you nailed it there. Now I want to buy my ero in your store.

I only buy manga from Japanese publishers. I can't read Japanese.