/hikki/ - NEET / Advice

lack of motivation and desire to live outside the confines of society. Sometimes, forced to live outside the confines. But self-destructive tendencies from feeling rejected by society structures at large play a role too. Then there's just people who do not want to get a job.

It depends from person to person. But in my case, it was due to autism, depression and far too permissive parents.

>>9753
I feel you on that. Not a neet anymore but autism and depression is a hard combo. I had rage issues a lot growing up. It's more under control now. Do you get any government assistance/applied for gov assistance? If you got your diagnosis handy and have a doctor who can vouch for you, you may qualify for ssdi. I was eligible but didn't complete the additional paperwork because ssdi wouldn't be enough to live off (I live alone with a roommate in an expensive place atm) and the one downside of ssdi is you can't work or gain extra income (unless its considered a "gift") but if you live with your parents its basically free money you can obtain that will help with financials.

>>9754
In my province you can work while on disability to make extra money on top of the $1500 CAD a month. It also seems there are no expectations of ever finding work. Nobody has checked up on me in the 10+ years that I have been leeching from the government.

>>9755
>province

CHINESE!

>>9756
I mean… he could be Canadian instead.

>>9757

He explicitly said that he was Canadian. Did you all miss the part where he talks about "CAD"?

>>9757
Vancouver had a 19.6% Chinese population in 2021. BC as a whole was 10.5%. Other provinces are lower but it's a running joke to call Canadian's Chinese. I have encountered this phenomenon a number of times.

>>9758
CAD

chinese
autism
dollar

>>9760
i think this is true and real

inaction

Neetbux

>What causes people to become neets?
It's Dostoyevsky's Utopia. Everything is provided for, whether by family or state. If you fed a lion 3 meals a day it'd probably stop hunting too. But Humans don't just eat, they need mental and social stimulation. Social media and the internet trick your brain into thinking it has those things, so there's no desire to hunt for them outside.

>i mean no disrespect
There is nothing disrespectful about being curious, thank you for giving people something to post about.

>>9747
Hard to say in my case, its probably mental illness combined with lack of ambition and feeling like an outcast my entire life, I was always pretty much a ghost throughout my younger years in school, no one spoke to me and I didn't speak to anyone, I was basically a ghost and I kinda grew used to that, too used to it, now I'm a neet for 5 years straight at 23, no friends, no connections, no network, just kinda stuck like this, just looking at job searching websites gives me a mini panic attack, not that I can't do the work, its just the idea of having to go out and interact with people after so many years of being alone kinda terrifies me, which is weird to say since I don't think I have social anxiety, its just that it sounds so exhausting.

>>9759
ninja i lowkey did not know this i just thought it was funny to be retarded

The reason the life I live had been that of a NEET is that it had never been my life but rather my mother’s and father’s before he fucking decked her 4 years ago ( I wish he finished the job ). My mother with which I live had for myself taking walks called the cops twice one me since I’d turned 18, the day after and like 2-3 days after that. I’d doubt that’d help the fact I’d been intensely suicidal since 7 had helped. With no means of controlling the life I had lived and I’d grown to to not care for effort as I’d been taught it had meant nothing to benefit myself.Whilst I had told my mom and the social workers that it was due to that I had barely passed 9th grade (13-14 years old in the USA where I live) I knew that I could go an fail tired or not and fail relaxed but if it was my own life to the most unimaginably basic degree to most I would have wrought a life that whilst certainly by no means enviable would have been functional. Sorry a writing an Amazon to convey a most pitiful lawn but there’s mine I guess

Raised by a schizoid turbo autist father and bpd mother. I lost years of my life playing babysitter for them and only now picking up the pieces.

>>9747
>What causes people to become neets? Is it social anxiety, depression or something else
For me a lot of it was my chaotic, terrible upbringing and then just the usual societal pressure + mental illness stuff. I suppose this is how it works for the majority and some are just lazy or dont see a point in spending 8+ hours a day doing something you hate for 50+ years at minimum pay

I tend to drift from NEET -> stable enough to not be a NEET -> become unstable -> back to being a NEET, so in a sense im "less" NEET than others, but still just as incapable of employment, even if i try. At some point you prefer the solitary confines of your bedroom over in-person interactions with other people, atleast the funny anime characters on my computer screen dont make me feel sad.

>i would like to learn i mean no disrespect i feel bad for neets i just wanna know for morbid curiosity
thank you for your humility
now excuse me as i drown my sorrows about my shitty life in liquor on my 26th birthday while listening to waqs

>>10333
Hey anon happy birthday!

is there anyone else that thought shut in neets were the coolest thing ever and had the best lives…

>>10334
The Breeders (I only listened to a handful of songs).

>>10338
I thought being depressed was cool when I was 12.

>>9755
Why have the fates condemned me to burgerdom when I should have been a leaf.

>>10345
1500 CAD amounts to basically nothing here if you're in the city or its edges, if that's any consolation. If you want it to be enough for food and rent you're looking at a room in a house and a shared bathroom as one of the better outcomes. People with bad physical disabilities are more or less screwed here if they don't have anybody else helping them financially

>>10351
I remember making an exercise in the end of high school (years ago. around 2017 i'd say) with a classmate to find a place and budget to live with at a minimum wage in my fishing/mining-centric town. for a single person, apartment listings online were so fucked we were hard press to find any savings with nothing to spare for anything/hobbies except for rent and groceries. we didn't even think about insurances and car usage. I'm scared of trying the same experiment today.
….I hope my fellow leaf neets are doing fine if they are alone. guh. shivers. I got no real idea of how applying for unemployement benefits work and I don't think I'm ready to find out.