sounds almost exactly like my situation. like literally exactly my situation.
spooky that the one day I decide to revisit uboachan for the first time in a while i see a thread like this.
ill let you know if i reach some wisdom on the topic, but right now im as lost as you are pal
For all i know about making friends,bravery is an necesary component but it is totatlly useless if you lack luck.
tbh idk, the people in my life hurt me
I can't help you as I never had friends
friends aren't something you can really force, but I'd suggest looking for clubs or activities to hang out in, if you're able. That is probably one of the more natural ways to put yourself into a social situation.
I always had issues talking about myself or my likes, so all I did was ask people about theirs, if I didn't like or wasn't interested in something I'd ask too. Sometimes I felt empathy and sometimes I didn't. As time passed I happened to surround me with extroverted people who were good at communicating their feelings and I think I learned some of that as I spent time with them.
A good thing is that they always tried to find new ways to offend eachother in a very friendly way. Sometimes things got a bit far but we all knew it was a risk we were taking, we took the hits anyway, and to be honest sometimes those words were right. This made us stronger in a sense, we became more aware of the perception people had about us, so we slowly improved, or at least knew about our lackings and tried to balance it in a way.
Eventually, I became good friends with a girl and we got into a relationship. She likes to talk about herself a lot, about the things she wants, clothes, the people at her job (I am still a -bad- student), her friends and all, which fills that void of my personality. All I have to do is listen. It makes me feel less lonely to be with her.
I used to be afraid of social interaction, but as I knew people more and more I noticed most of them were not that different. People feel embarassed even though you see they did fine. I still feel lonely sometimes –and I believe it's a feeling inherent to our generation– even if I'm surrounded with people but now I can go through it knowing I won't go down.