You mentioned that you are with somebody else right now. Somebody real or fictional? If the former, how did he manage to get you open up to him? Or you weren't always into fictional people?
Make no mistake, I'm not making fun of you. Neither I want to derail your thread. On the contrary, I would simply love to learn more about how this works. As I'm really into someone who is in the same situation as you are. Someone who is only capable of being emotionally involved with fictional characters. We talk and go out regularly. Sometimes we get really close. But every time I try to make an inroad (no matter how gently and carefully), they pretend it's a kind of 'offensive maneuver' or 'manipulation' on my part, nothing more than a selfish attempt to separate them from this beloved video game character of theirs, with whom they've been in a perfect relationship for years now. And every time this happens, they will be mad at me for weeks. Then it starts all over again.
And no, they are not trying to screw me over. They never had any sort of relationship with a real person before, ever. People tried, but nobody had such patience and understanding, and after a few (sometimes forced) attepmts, they just labelled them as 'crazy', or even going as far as bullying or publicly humiliating them. Then we've met. And now, people started to spread garbage about me as well. Because, as I kept up for so long with this someone, they think I must be just as 'insane', and that's why we get along so well.
Sorry for the awkward pronouns, I just don't want to dislclose either my or the other person's gender. It doesn't really matter anyway. And thank you for opening up to us, I hope someone more familiar with this situation will give you some meaningful advice.
I think your mind might be prioritizing your real life partner over the tulpa, perhaps recreating your tulpa in the context of a mutual friendship might work
I've been with both fictional and real life. For me it's just who i fall in love with, not who they are. My current significant other is real and also knows about everything relating to this more or less.
Advice for you would be to let go of it. Regardless if they can date real people vs fictional, they're with someone else and as long as they're happy and not in a bad situation you should accept that and step back. I had a friendship not ruined but made awkward because my friend never wanted to get over me because he figured a fictional character wasn't serious enough or a phase or whatever, but it was pretty shitty to have him treat my relationship that way. If you value their friendship I'd honestly just cut it out and wait and see if they ever are willing to take the step with you before making a move.>>5576
It was basically just taking my tup for granted when we were together and the first sign of someone else who i could be with I guess it just caused him to leave. It was before I was even with my current SO. So it was never prioritizing my partner because it happened before that was a thing. When he left and we split I just didn't focus on him at all either because I didn't want to bother him if he was upset. And honestly I didn't even think it was much of anything at first. There's been times I hadn't felt him around for a few days, but then days turned into weeks, and months. I was waiting for him to talk to me about everything too. He never answered just left.
i think tulpas are very sensitive to your mental state, so if you begin to focus on someone else with the same kind of relationship context as your tulpa, it may disappear.
i'd recommend to perhaps follow the same steps and bring him back as a close friend/confidant
That's a pretty good idea, and sort of what I've thought about doing, but now seeing it in writing makes it much clearer of a choice. Thank you.
I don't want to go into too much detail since too much discussion is probably not allowed but I plan on tripping on dxm tonight and have been rewatching the series he is from. Hopefully it helps me talk to him in some way.