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 No.5407

Has anyone here ever been obsessed with someone for no reason at all? Not in a crush-esque kinda way, just platonic, if that.

For example, I saw someone a while back on a Discord server and they're probably the only person who shares the same interests on the server as I do. I can't get them out of my head and am constantly thinking about doing stuff together. I've got a circle of friends already, but I just feel some sort of a special connection (?) to them. Am I becoming a creep or something?

 No.5408

That just seems like the beginning of a new friendship. It's not creep/stalker behavior in that context, but obviously it could develop into something unhealthy depending on what direction those thoughts take you.
To answer your first question, yes and no. I swore off thinking/worrying about other people ever again after I made the mistake of looking at this person's LinkedIn profile while I was NEET.

 No.5409

all the time, ill just absorb their interests and fantasize of talking to them about their interests but dont know how to, ill even find their facebooks for fun, is that weird, i just want to be dependent on someone

 No.5410

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>>5408
> after I made the mistake of looking at this person's LinkedIn profile while I was NEET
Why would that be a mistake?

 No.5411

>>5410
It isn't logical to waste time agonizing over the personal achievements of someone who spends no time whatsoever thinking of you.

 No.5413

i get obsessive over nearly everyone if they talk to me often, either platonically or romantically, almost always the latter. i don't know how to deal with it, and i only understand it to a certain extent. i'm extremely dependent on other people, and i become a complete mess without someone to rely on. i just can't figure out how to live without someone else guiding me along and helping me and stuff like that

 No.5420

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I share some of my classes with this seemingly autistic guy. Barely ever talks, no friends, leaves as soon as the situation allows, almost no internet presence, weird mannerisms. Only thing we clearly have in common is a surface-level interest, and even there our tastes diverge.

Seeing what an enigma of a person he is, and seeming like a person I could relate to well, I got it into my head that I had to get to know him and figure him out, that surely something good would come out of it, and so for a while I obsessed about him and paid attention to every minute detail of his existence from the side to write it down later, almost never actually interacting though, since I rarely got the opportunity, and embarrassed myself a shit ton. It got to the point where I hunted down the name of his high school and found old class photographs of him by meticulously going through the Facebook profiles of each student in his generation. Out of all of our interactions, there was only one time that we casually chatted, made jokes and laughed normally, the rest after that always ended on a sour, awkward note, if you could even call them interactions.

In the end, while I spent god knows how much time agonizing over him, he probably just thought I was a pest, considering his body language (which I interpreted as anxiety at first) and now thinks I'm a retard. In hindsight, I'm fucking disgusted with myself. OP, whatever connection you feel to this person, you're partly just deluding yourself. You don't know enough about them for it to be an indication of a good friendship. If you actually start talking to them it's entirely possible that you'll be disappointed like I was and lose interest. So steer yourself, I guess.

Other than that, I check the blog of this person that changes domain a lot every few months, just to see if I can find it again. When I first did it, they had an IP tracker and since mine was from a neighbouring country, they pegged me as a stalker and freaked out. I don't really care about the person themselves, though.

 No.5421

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>>5407
sometimes i stumble upon low-viewed youtube videos made by people with disabilities (autism, cerebral palsy, etc) and i get this uncomfortable burning sensation that doesn't go away unless i check their channels/social accounts to make sure they're alright.
This feeling normally goes away after a couple of days, when i completely forget about them.

 No.5422

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>>5421
Only schizos and manic depressives get my attention, and it's not because i'm worried e about them.

 No.5423

>>5420
This post scares me slightly, since I'm sure your description of him is how I'm perceived and because there are a couple of people who occasionally engage with me just like you described. I interpreted it as pity before, now I'm worried that I've got some kind of "mysteriousness" to them.

 No.5424

>>5423
In the past, I came across that way to some people. For most, it's more likely to be pity. Anon is just too used to stories about quiet people actually being something extraordinary.

 No.5428

>>5423
Yeah. I just have to say: I'm so sorry.

 No.5429

>>5428
Don't be, I'm sure >>5424 is right. I was just being dumb.

 No.5721

I do this all the time, probably cause autism

sometimes I stalk people I used to know's instagrams for a few hours at a time
there's this one person though that I've been obsessed with for almost two years now, some suicial NEET trans girl that sent in a bunch of questions to my friend on curiouscat for two weeks then just disappeared and never returned
I never even talked to this person but sometimes I feel like we would be really good friends

 No.5723

Tfw no cute girl stalker

 No.5726

>>5723
tfw no cute guy or girl stalkee

 No.5727

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When I was in school, I would obsess over girls I knew that mildly looked like anime characters. It wasn't sexual though, I just had this weird urge to hug them. It was the same feeling you feel when you find a new reaction image you like a lot.

 No.5787

I used to obsess with this guy from a japanese culture forum I used to browse a lot in my early teenage years. He was this kind of guy that knew japanese and everything cool about japan, and his influence is half of what made me what I'm today, for better or worse.
Last time I heard of him was 5 years ago and he was a full blown normalfag, married and with only his job as an hobby. I don't want to change.

 No.5793

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Yes, I have.
It started out simple enough. I saw a cute girl that piqued my interest while walking home from class. Fluffy light brown hair, vibrant pink clothes, and cute face to go along with it, only a bit powdered with makeup. Her aesthetics really spoke to me. It was really the innocence she vibrated that spoke to me. The feelings i felt for her (or do I still have those feelings?) were truly platonic. I felt a bit of savior complex thinking about her. I wanted to protect her from things that would never happen. I even dreamt once that while walking in the dark streets she gets mugged, and I happen to stumble upon the two and beat the mugger into submission. My obsession grew stronger and stronger. I found out more about her. She likes used to live in another state, does art, and likes pokemon to an extent. I found out her name through a yearbook and with a quick google search I found basically all of her social media. But enough about her, back to the story. We have about the same route home, so I took her route in hopes she wouldn't notice. I almost found it out, but she caught my following her about my third time. My friend found out about my so-called "crush" on this girl and told her that I liked her. The distance between me and the girl grows longer as not only does she know I like her, but thinks I'm a creep stalker freak when I'm not.
God I'm so self conscious
I just want to love someone and have them love me

 No.5796

It would occasionally happen when I found someone I really clicked with in school due to a shared interest and outlook. I would always seek him/her out to talk to and would often prioritize and look forward to meeting him/her. Sometimes I would feel insecure about it and try to stay away from them more, and eventually we would grow apart.

 No.5797

It never happened to me

 No.5811

i actually have a ton of people online that i stalk and imagine cultivating friendships with

i'm too far gone socially though

 No.5812

I don't have anything to contribute beyond the fact I do the exact same thing >>5811 does.

 No.5893

yeah.
i've been following the same group of writers for three years across tumblrs, across twitters, across chatzy, but they're growing steadily more secretive with their writing, (e.g. you have to submit a few pieces of your own to gain access to their discord channels or whatever). it's somewhat stressful but i guess i've gotta move on/keep what i have on me and get rolling



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