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 No.3979

Almost 30, severe social anxiety, hikki/NEET for over 10 years, no college or high school (I was homeschooled), no skills, no real job experience. So sheltered and isolated I can't relate to anyone on even the most basic level.

At this point, I'm thinking a lot about suicide, but I don't want to give up before I've at least made a real try of it.

I desperately need money. That's the main thing that needs to be addressed before I can think of anything else. It's not just for me. It's my family. I live with my grandparents, who have supported me my entire life, and they're in really poor health (my grandfather is currently in the hospital). We're pretty much getting by on their social security benefits and food stamps. I've gotten where I at least leave the house to go to the store and run errands for my grandparents, but other than that, my situation is more or less the same as it has been for the past decade or so. If they're were anything I could do online, that would be ideal, but depending on what it is, I'd even be willing to get a real world job, although there are some caveats there. I can't do any cashier type stuff due to my social anxiety and poor people skills. I still don't know how I'm going to explain to any prospective employer that I'm 30 years old and have pretty much never worked a real job in my life. It would be great if there were some organization that helped shut-ins enter the workforce, but I doubt anything like that exists. If I could just find some way to make even minimum wage, it would be life changing. The most important thing is that it would buy me time, and this is what I need more than anything.

Do you guys have any ideas?

 No.3980

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>>3979
Is your, "severe social anxiety", diagnosed, or are you just coming up with excuses? Beggars can't be choosers. As for any program that help people like you, have you at least bothered to look it up on google? Listen, there's a lot of jobs that don't require a lot of skills or education. Some employers don't even look that deeply into your background. Maybe a call center is a good pick. Maybe you could become a garbage man. They get paid decently. Knowledge is power. Look stuff up and learn on your own. If you have time, go to community college. If you don't learn to help yourself, you'll never be able to function in society. Social anxiety only gets better when you force yourself to talk to other people. No pain no gain. It's not like you can post a thread to ubuu every time there's something you don't know.
>I've been a semi-hikki for most of my life and have severe quasi-autism. How do you file taxes?
/hikki/ is mainly for for getting emotional advice. Expecting solid financial help is a bit naive. Also, you're insistence on staying in your comfort zone despite supposedly being so desperate is off-putting. If you're really desperate, you should be willing to work a job shoveling shit and going around to random people to tell them that you shovel shit for a living. You should be willing to put on a toilet costume and spin signs. Best of luck.

 No.3981

>>3980
Why the hell is a normie sadist like you even posting here? Everything you've said is myopic "just man up" tier bullshit. Go to hell.

>Is your, "severe social anxiety", diagnosed, or are you just coming up with excuses?


Did you miss the part where I said I hadn't left the house for over a decade? Yes, I'm faking it. I'm a suicidal friendless almost 30 year old virgin who spent over 1/3rd of my life as a shut-in just because. You're right, when I was in school, I would hold my bladder in from the beginning of the school day to the end, not because I was terrified to even raise my hand to ask to use the restroom, but so that I could later in life shamefully tell anonymous strangers on the internet that I have a mental disorder I hadn't even heard of yet.

>As for any program that help people like you, have you at least bothered to look it up on google?


Have you? If you have, post a link. If you haven't, what makes you think there a ton of easy-to-find programs all across the country that help recovering shut-ins find employment?

>Also, you're insistence on staying in your comfort zone despite supposedly being so desperate is off-putting.


The idea that I'm not "stepping outside of my comfort zone" if I don't do literally everything you say is ridiculous and shows what a poor understanding you have of mental illness in general and social anxiety in particular. I told you that I was willing to get an IRL job and that I currently more or less run all of my grandparents' errands despite over a decade of leaving the house only to take out the trash. How is that not stepping outside my comfort zone?

It's like you didn't read my post at all or just tuned everything out. You wanted to vent your spleen and you tailored your passive aggressive cliche ridden response accordingly. That sound about right?

>/hikki/ is mainly for for getting emotional advice.


You're obviously not a hikki, so you're in no position to say what this board is or isn't for.

>If you're really desperate, you should be willing to work a job shoveling shit and going around to random people to tell them that you shovel shit for a living. You should be willing to put on a toilet costume and spin signs. Best of luck.


This is seriously on the level with inspirational instagram bullshit. WHY THE FUCK ARE YOU HERE?! You obviously have no understanding or sympathy for hikkis/NEETs, so why don't you go back to any of the countless other places on the internet populated by and made for people like yourself?

 No.3982

>>3979
Ex-NEET programmer here.

I became a programmer after my parents financed my way through college and university. If you live in the USA, you can probably get Pell Grants for community college if you complete the FAFSA.

There is no easy answer. If there was, I would take advantage of it.

Also: you need to have social skills. I thought I would never learn any until I learned them. These social skills are required for any job ever. The usual way to get money is from other people, or have a business or investment that makes money for you. If you do not have an asset that generates you revenue, you have to be able to talk to people.

 No.3984

>>3981
>Did you miss the part where I said I hadn't left the house for over a decade? Yes, I'm faking it.
Did I say that you're faking your social anxiety? No I didn't. Unless a doctor has diagnosed you with something, I'm not going to believe that you have a serious condition. Far too many people like to put labels on them self like, "severe social anxiety", and act like that's the same thing as something that is both debilitating and unable to be remedied.
>I told you that I was willing to get an IRL job and that I currently more or less run all of my grandparents' errands despite over a decade of leaving the house only to take out the trash. How is that not stepping outside my comfort zone?
Small potatoes. You not willing to get a cashier job is what I was referring to.
>You're obviously not a hikki, so you're in no position to say what this board is or isn't for.
It's very understanding of you to be presumptions about other people. I haven't assumed anything about you, yet to assume that i'm obviously a,"normie".
>This is seriously on the level with inspirational instagram bullshit. WHY THE FUCK ARE YOU HERE?! You obviously have no understanding or sympathy for hikkis/NEETs, so why don't you go back to any of the countless other places on the internet populated by and made for people like yourself?
Understanding can only go so far. It's not up to you to say what type of advice people can and can't give you.
>Have you?
Programs don't exist for people who don't have diagnosed issues. The US doesn't have a big enough shut-in problem for that. A lot of services are region or city specific too. I don't know where you live, so I don't know where to look. There's the OVR in Pennsylvania, maybe there's something like that where you live? You also might also be able to get away with faking alcoholism or something like that.

 No.3985

>>3980
>>3984
look at this condescending turd of a shit sandwich lol

 No.3986

>>3985
>turd of a shit sandwich
Great response.
>lol
Wow, you must be a tooooootal normie.

 No.3987

>>3981
>You're obviously not a hikki, so you're in no position to say what this board is or isn't for.
And you are obviously a newfag, not that I agree with the other fag about your issues, but that statement is false.
This board is meant mainly for advice and mental health, and anyone can post and tell you that.
I will save you the discrimination and tell you I have a job, a girlfriend, friends and I go outside every day.

 No.3988

>>3987
>that statement is false.
>This board is meant mainly for advice and mental health, and anyone can post and tell you that.

How does that contradict anything I've said? Obviously I understand the board is for advice or I wouldn't have made a post asking for advice. Did you jumble our posts together in you brain or something? He was saying that the board was for emotional advice only and anything about practical stuff like finding employment isn't allowed, or goes against the general spirit of the board or something. That was what I was responding to.

 No.3990

>>3988
You implied that unless you're "hikki" you can't say what this board is for. That is wrong. Nothing else.

 No.3992

>>3988
You know who I actually have have sympathy and, "understanding", for? That anon who got kicked out of his parent's house. Who knows where he is now. Saying that I should have understanding for every hikki regardless of their circumstances or outlook is dumb. That anon actually went to the doctor and tried to get their problem diagnosed and fixed. If a person
1. Only tries to improve them self(when they are fully capable of doing so) because they are afraid of not being able to leech off of somebody anymore
2. Is not willing to take any advice that they are not, "comfortable with" and
3. Gets defensive about it
I cannot bring myself to sympathies with(pity) them. I would feel worse for your grandparents, but they were the ones who raised and, "educated", you.
You reap what you sow.
>I desperately need money.
>I'd even be willing to get a real world job, although there are some caveats there. I can't do any cashier type stuff
>I live with my grandparents, who have supported me my entire life
>(I was homeschooled), no skills
The whole first part of the op was just trying to make a pity party, so you obviously did not just come here for financial advice.

 No.3996

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You got to get the idea of the ideal job out of your head. If some kid who is like 15-19 has to get a shit job due to their lack of work skills, then you got to deal with that too. A lot of people are mostly stuck with retail and fast food jobs, and maybe warehouse work.

Also, there are programs for people with special needs to find employment. At least in my area of the US, we have some of the best programs for people with various issues. But you generally have to be put through public school at least to take advantage, to my knowledge. I work with some people with special needs, one dude who works three jobs and some fat girl who likes Undertale and Homestuck way too much and cries about stupid shit.

But at best, you're going to end up in some retail job, you might be pushing carts like the dude who works three jobs or be a cashier like the Undertale girl. I guess you could do things like assemble things in the back of the stores but the most plentiful jobs are the ones where you deal with the public. It's just how it is, honestly.

 No.4002

Nothing has helped me to get employment like knowing someone who works at a place and being friends with them.
The awards I got during highschool, my volunteer work, and the fact that none of my previous bosses had anything bad to say, even the time that I spent utilizing government programs.
I'm a dishwasher now after having been unemployed for years on end and even though I feel and smell like shit often when I'm done at work I wouldn't dare quit because I need the money and don't want to spend another three years unemployed.
Maybe you could try that if you can't socialize that well, the trouble is that it often takes social skills to get friends to get employment.
If you can't do that you might be in trouble.

 No.4004

Have you ever considered becoming a hermit?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y_YfyjkxsSk

 No.4005

You could try:
>mturk
>clickworker
>affiliate marketing (ex. amazon affiliates)
>dropshipping (sell crap from aliexpress with markup on shopify or the like)

Or you could do some quasi-jobs like delivering papers (sibling made around $100 per week for 110 houses in canada when school was in. In summer it was $16.50 for the same amount of work due to glutton of younglings), shoveling walkways and the like. Whatever you do, you will end up sacrificing something for the money, be it excessive time, strength, dignity (due to your SA), or whatever. Whatever it is, just start. Even if it is as simple as a few menial nickels a day on clickworker. Think of life as a game where you must fight for and win your freedom.

If you are going to play any games, play the one that matters.

 No.4511

>>3979
I've been considering making counterfeit quarters myself, as another nearly 30 that lives with mildly abusive parents that no longer act nice to keep me there as they realize I won't likely move away now, even though ironically they want me to stay.

 No.4512

>>4511
>ironically they want me to stay
lol wut? Them letting you live with them means that they're already treating you nicely. Also, don't admit to considering crime on a public forum. God.



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