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 No.3205

Hello, /hikki/.

For 2 years now, I've only went out the house for school, and even with school I don't hang out with people.

You see, I moved far away from my best friend. We were closer than peas in a pod, practically glued to each other.
We'd explore the city, have trips to the mall and explore abandoned areas in our school district.

Unfortunately, we had a falling out since I was an immature freshman, and took her for granted. I belittled her art skills and made fun of her obsession with a show. We made up, but I always felt guilty, she assured me I was alright, but due to circumstances that I can't share, I had to skip our exams, leave and move upstate, and never see her again.

Now, I've moved from Louisiana to New York, and 3rd-year high school bore no friendships for me, since I had so much regrets with how I treated her.
I couldn't be close to someone else after her, and I'd like some advice from you.
Please leave advice, Ubuu. I desperately need it.

 No.3206

>3rd-year high school

 No.3207

Contact friend, apologize, communicate online. The internet is a wonderful thing.

 No.3214

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>>3207
She doesn't have any social media. I don't have her phone number either…

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>>3206

Sorry, I'm in junior year.

 No.3219

>>3214
Don't know her address either? Snail mail could at least be a start. Failing all of that, you'd just have to let it go, hopefully run into her somewhere along the line, but in the meantime just try to find new friends with similar interests.

 No.3221

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>>3219
That's actually a great idea!
After I posted this, I ended up realizing I was being self-destructive, and that we had an unhealthy relationship.

We were almost co-dependent, no friends aside from each other, and we'd get jealous of the other person's achievements. Both of us were artists, so we'd pick on each other's artworks, I almost quit due to the constant belittling of my skills, so I did the same.
In school, we'd enter each other's classrooms (which was not allowed, by the way) just to talk. Worse, she'd even tell my classmates that I was 'her' friend only, and I'd do the same.

Perhaps it was better that we separated. She depended on me for support, and so did I. We couldn't grow since we'd always talk about the same things, do the same stuff, and neither of us wanted to talk to other people other than each other. Everything and everyone didn't matter to us.
She brought out the worst in me, and I brought out the worst in her.
We were simply not growing as people. We needed to.

Thanks, by the way. It helped me a lot. I lost a great friend, but gained something better.
I'll fix my issues this year. I'll do what I couldn't. :D

 No.3223

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>>3205
>>3221
What a nice turnaround.

I especially like that you steered yourself to find the root cause of your ailment rather than seeking a treatment for the symptom of it, as in, finding another friend just to "replace" her. The sadness was never caused by your lack of a friend, it was caused by your reluctance to grow away from codependence on friends, as you say.


It is very difficult to look inward if we are always distracted by other people or entertainment on the outside - it seems like a little solitude is what you needed. Try to keep this event in mind in the future; wondering what might be the root cause of things, and I think you will do very well for yourself. Life blesses us in many ways if we remain open to its lessons.

 No.3224

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>>3223
Thanks! That means a lot to me, actually. I appreciate your words ;w;

You're right.
I did need time to myself. I've been having delusions of having the 'perfect friendship' that you see on anime and TV, since I remembered our friendship is a weird, warped way. I can't even remember how I said goodbye, I only remember the thoughts that I've lost the only person who cared for me. I already cleared those thoughts away, but damn, those were terrible…

Reading the first post again, I sound like I'm looking for an ex-girlfriend or something. That's… Not at all good. If she read this, she'd be totally creeped out.
A new hobby is what I need.

What you've shared to me is wonderful, and will help me a lot. Thanks for the advice!

 No.3226

>>3224
>;w;
man you even write like an underage fag(USER WAS WARNED FOR THIS POST)

 No.3238

>>3226
+そうだね

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>>3238
そうなんだけど?

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>>3224
If you're friend really would be creeped out by your genuine feelings than your relationship really did suck. People are awful. Also I can smell the adolescence bleeding from your posts about something as petty as losing a shit friend. Can't blame the young for acting it though.

 No.5542

>>3205
holy shit im jealous.
You literally had the best type of friend out there. Someone that actually cares enough to do stuff alone with you. Thats extremely rare so you probably won't find it in your current situation.
Try getting in contact with your friend and tell her that you are genuinely sorry. You guys will probably not hang out as much because of the distance, but at least you wont be feeling bad anymore.



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