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 No.2821

As someone who has no "real" friends, my only source of companionship has been online friends. After 2 years or so I fear this group of my "close" friends have all grown tired of me, just as all of my friends in high-school would. I'm more on the quiet and shy side but I try my best to message my friends online everyday, but recently in the past few months they've seemed disinterested in me, not very receptive to me in group chats or in private messages. Eventually some, who I would message everyday have stopped messaging me and even ignoring me most of the time when I message them.

Maybe it's stupid but I feel so worthless as a person, as if I'm not even worth talking to because this happens every time, with every friend group I join. In school I was friendly with everyone, but then I'd realise the people I thought were my best friends were out partying and would make group chats while excluding me.

I got over this and felt alright cutting everyone off and being a NEET/hikki, but I thought I've actually been able to bond with these people online so it hurts especially when I know that this group of people are still messaging and calling each-other daily to play video games without me. There hasn't been any sort of fight between us or anything, so why is it always me that people get tired of? It's not like I'm spergy/edgy/mean to people or anything, so I just struggle to understand it.

Sorry for the rant, just upset and wanted to be able to write about it. Is there anyone else that has/is going through this?

 No.2822

>>2821
I'm in almost the exact same situation relating to online friends. Used to have 20 Skype contacts now I only have 5 & those 5 still don't speak to me anyway.

 No.2823

Friends see each other as a source of entertainment. A commodity. If a cow can't produce milk anymore, you kill it. The same goes for friendships. All of that crap about people caring about each other and being a, "good freind", is total nonsense. It's a fantasy. If you're really THAT lonely then you might want to consider looking into human trafficking. A person can stop being your friend, but they can't stop being your slave can they? I'm clueless when it comes to that though. Books are good enough for me.

 No.2824

Expand your horizons and poke around some new Internet communities. IRC channels are generally a really good place to find friends. And then, if you have some who actually live close to you, do some offline meets. I got a bunch of IRL friends that way.

 No.2825

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I'm really sorry to hear that your so called friends treat you this way, and from your post you don't sound too spergy so I'm just gonna chalk it up to these people being dicks. And bad luck. And maybe having a poor read on these people's feelings regarding yourself? I have to say that there are certainly friends that I never take the initiative with but if they reach out to me I care enough to reply, usually with an apology for being slow about it lol

 No.2826

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>>2822
Feels bad…

>>2823
I was a funny guy in school which is why pretty much everyone was friendly with me but I found I could never get to the next level with anyone. I never really thought about friends as commodities, always tried to be as caring as possible but I think it would be nice if I could be coldhearted.

>>2824
Everyone I meet online is kind of far away, there was one guy I played video games with but after we met he started to act really strange and send me dick pics out of nowhere because he thought I was gay.

>>2825
I think I have a pretty good grasp on people, I like to think that these people have their reasons for not talking to me, maybe they're having a bad time irl or something but I hit my breaking point when it seems like it's just me that is being left out.

 No.2867

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I can also relate to that kind of setiment, the novelty of knowing someone often dissapears as people know other people, like attention munching freaks, also, the reason of how or the "why" is hard for some than others, but hey if ya wanna talk i'm open to it, just hang in there find a distraction, focus on something you'd rather enjoy than giving out joy to others just for a worthwhile amusement, give yourself some importance.

 No.2870

My social skills are probably shit and I feel I can't connect to other people 1 on 1, so omegle conversations end in failure. On the other hand, I get even more anxious on IRC because it seems everyone there already knows each other. I feel I would like friends but I don't know how to make or keep them. I don't really game or watch anime so don't have as many shared topics anyway. Kill me

 No.2877

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>>2870
I do the same thing, only conversation i have are on omegle, i can't have long lasting relationships of any kind which i kinda don't care since most are just stupid or too trivial to even bother to pay attention, you are not alone.

 No.3724

I understand how you feel, Anonymous.

The only person I could call a friend is my mother, and it is a particularly strenuous relationship at that. I pray every day that she might slip from this mortal realm and leave me with the Gilhooley inheritence that I rightfuly deserve. But I digress - good friendships are hard to come by. If you are extremely desperate for a good chummy chuckle with some pals, then I'd try pretending to be a girl on a MMORPG. Do this and you will be guaranteed friends. Trust me.

Warm regards

John

 No.3728

>disinterested in me
this was the case all my life in middle school. The other kids always called each other to do things but never invited me to any activity unless I organised it myself and called them. At some point I grew tired of this and just gave up. I am just too boring to get others to be interested in me and I do not have the interest anymore to actively seek friends anymore.
I just wanted to say that I can relate to what you must feel like. Never beeing desired like the "cool kids".

I also had online friends from my counter strike source days. It was kind of fun because we had insider jokes and I joined one of their clubs/clans. We were just regulars at the same server. Then I became less active since 2011 and now in my steam friends list you can see tons of people who had their last access to steam over a year ago. They either grew up or died. There are 3 guys left who are regularly online. Nowadays nobody bothers to even send me friend requests anymore but I also have to say that I rarely play anymore.

>this happens every time, with every friend group I join. In school I was friendly with everyone, but then I'd realise the people I thought were my best friends were out partying and would make group chats while excluding me.

I know this feeling and you are not alone. Was with me as well. I realized that I never had real friends. Just people I hung out with. Even the guys who were into my interests (anime, card games) had their other social circles where I was no part of.

>so why is it always me that people get tired of?

I don't know why you are in this situation but I can tell you the reason for mine. It is because I am a boring person. Nobody wants to be around a rain cloud so it is only natural that people would not seek my compagnionship by themselves.

>>2823
this would support my theory about beeing boring
Also, one of the guys from our former clique has contacted me as of lately. I believe he wants or needs something of me and I am soon to find out what it is. He was like this even 10 years ago.

 No.3729

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>>2870
>>2877
I know it's been months since you made this post but any tip or tag to talk with other social retards? And I mean true social retards. I don't watch anime nor play vidya anymore, and my knowledge regarding other topics is pleb tier. Been getting interested in history lately but I'd rather listen than talk. Im not the kind of person to argue endlessly over politics either.

There has to be a group for people with rotten social skills that isn't some meme forum like the social anxiety one.

 No.3730

>>3729
>Le your posting in one
Sorry anon, just getting that tremendously unhelpful answer out of the way before someone says it unironically.

 No.3731

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First step to living an utterly miserable life is giving this much care to how others perceive you. Focus on yourself for a while, everything should be done for your own sake. Companions are nice but you shouldn't have to modify your interests or personality to earb brownie points. You'll end up feeling artificial. It was all a fake facade because you're insecure of who you truly are.

 No.3732

>>3731
>earb
I meant earn



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