No.8182
I don't know how to do something like that.
No.8187
I'm in one. We met on uboachan irc. Met irl after a year an a bit. [it was scary and cute as hell.] It's going really well, we keep each other up and I really admire him as a person. 3 years together now, and we still haven't really fought once.
No.8191
So many relationship threads lately, it seems like…
At present, I am not in a relationship. I'll take this opportunity, however, to list my romantic (if you could call it that) history. Counting all technicalities, I've been in a total of four relationships: One online, three IRL. The online one and the first of the three IRL ones were trivial, which is why I usually don't mention them. The other two IRL ones were serious, but… well, considering how many posts I've made about them all over this site, you probably already know about them. If not, suffice it to say that they went poorly.
No.8195
>>8187So lucky!
>>8192That sounds horrible
No.8197
>>8192People like this is why I originally thought I would stay a virgin forever. There are many who like to get you close and take advantage of you, and then break you, for pleasure. Very scary, very unfair…. you poor, poor thing.
>>8195I really am…what are the odds of something like that happening? Sometimes I feel like I don't deserve it.
No.8207
>>8192you probably like hearing that.
otherwise you wouldn't even pick up.
No.8209
I don't think I could have a relationship with someone at this point in my life.
No.8211
No never had a proper relationship. My older brothers girlfriend had a thing for me and we did some stuff.
That's it really.
No.8228
>>8226Well uh my older brother was kind of an asshole. He was verbally and physically abusive towards her.
One time I stepped in just before he was going to hit her and we kinda had a fight.
From then on she started to like me because I stood up for her.
Yes he did find out.
No.8229
>>8227That may be the most NEET thing I have ever heard.
No.8239
>>8179>>8182>>8209>>8211>>8227Typical /n/, a bunch of retard nobodies chime in a thread that has nothing to do with them. If you've never had a relationship then don't bother posting in the RELATIONSHIP thread, thanks.
No.8240
*removes trollface mask* So anyways. To the people who are in a relationship: do you go into a relationship thinking about what you have to offer to the other person? Or did you just not care because you felt desperate.
No.8249
I've been in a few relationships, though they've all ended pretty badly with insults of me not putting out enough for the guy.
>>8240I bring up I don't have much to offer to anyone who admits crushing on me for the past few years. It helps work things out that I might not be "Teh wun".
No.8256
>>8254Very true, it's pretty much a rule of life, not just relationships. If there was no bad, life would just be good all the time. Thered be nothing to compare it to. And that would suck for some reason
No.8258
>>8254So, like how Bender explains what love is after invading heaven with an army of robot pirates.
Can someone find a YouTube link to that?
No.8259
>>8258Hahaha, holy fuck, I forgot about that episode. Thank you, sir. Shit… why the fuck did they have to cancel that show? Seriously the best fucking thing Groening ever did.
Ugh, now I'm depressed.
No.8262
>>8254Haha my relationship with the guy we fought over the most trivial shit. And then he got to the point he didn't want to fight anymore because he felt bad even if we resolved the issue. Iunno if he expected relationships to not have fights in them abound.
No.8263
I've been in quite a few back before I became a NEET, but I doubt I'll ever have one again. I don't think I'd even want an irl relationship, they're too physically and mentally taxing. I do wish I had someone to talk to for hours on end and not even realize the sun has come up, but I don't ever see that ever happening again.
>>8254"Fighting" should be distinguished from discussing. A good couple puts everything out on the table and calmly come to an agreement through discussion. A couple that actually fights don't even know how to communicate with each other and their problems will pile up just as quickly as the couple that never fights.
No.8266
>>8254Well, I guess it's your own fault for generalizing so much. Pet names are disgusting. Bragging about your relationships on social media is disgusting. People in general are disgusting. Surely, you could find couples who actually do that to turn your stomach, without multiplying the number in your head with no real proof?
"fighting" and "discussion" is not the same thing. Fighting is disruptive and hurtful for both parties, and rarely solves things. When you're controlled by anger, you are irrational, and you usually would have to have a normal talk after fighting to resolve anyway. Actually being open and talking about whatever comes up, good or bad, usually prevents outbursts of anger.
No.8268
>>8266When I say fights I include discussions personally. Because even THAT he wasn't ok with.
No.8270
>>8269Yeah the breakup was pretty what the fuck on my end. I could have taken it better but I didn't expect him to just cut it off just because even after talking things out (if I were at fault for starting anything/agitating or he was) he felt bad about either way.
We're still friends and all but it's like, we both decided to swear off of relationships after it. But I said that before him, who knows might keep to my word this time.
No.8272
>>8270that's sort of reminiscent of a boyfriend I've had online for 4 years. In the last year or so, he would constantly insult me, or abandon me for days without warning. In the end, I was the one who cut him off and he asked me to stay friends and to not date anyone else. I refused.
3 years later, he sends me an email asking how I'm doing and says we should try be friends anew. I reply, describe what happened in detail, as does he. The conversation is nice and interesting. Immediately after he finds out I am in a relationship, he stops replying. So much for wanting to be friends… Kind of pathetic, really.
No.8275
>>8272Kind of is an understatement. Sorry to hear he was so insulting/rude. Ours was, kind of symbiotic on both ends since we both were prone to mood swings/depression and any time it happened to the other we brought them back up to a more positive light/mood. For a while after the relationship there was misconception and he thought I hated him and I thought he hated me, through a third party it was fixed though and henceforth, back to being friends.
No.8314
>>8301What do you mean?
According to all posts I read here, the number of neets is 0.
No.8320
>>8301>>8314NEET stands for "
Not in
Employment,
Education, or
Training". That has nothing to do with their ability (or lack thereof) to form relationships, and there's definitely at least a couple NEETs in this thread.
No.8366
>>8357Just remember some people might be LGBT. But I know what you mean.
No.8367
I want to at least know what it's like to be in a relationship with someone before I inevitably die within the next 10 years. It hurts to be alone. On the flipside, I feel disgusted by my resolve as I know that I should learn to enjoy life without crutches.
Though… there's nothing else here for me. I have no interests, there's not much motivation to live. But I constantly daydream about holding hands with someone or tightly embracing them. The hope that I will by some miracle achieve this in reality calms me down when I think about how much of a nightmare this existence is.
No.8380
So yeah just an update from
>>8189This weekend he broke up with me and holy shit.
Wow being in a relationship is so fucking terrible sometimes especially after its over.
No.8381
>>8357Aren`t "stay at home moms" technically NEET? Ths thread still proves a few things.
No.8386
>>8380I hope it ended on a non hostile note.
No.8387
>>8381Stay-at-home moms are technically doing a job, they're just not paid and nobody considers anything they do as actual work for some reason.
A good one is technically a chef, a teacher, a janitor, a manager, a secretary and sometimes a financial adviser.
>>8371What do you think of camming and posting vids to YouTube and the like?
What's your opinion on relationships via letter or phone, i.e. long-distance relationships before the Internet? (Esp. just the letter ones.)
Sorry for random questions. No.8403
>>8381What are housewives doing on a website for weeaboo nerds?
No.8405
>>8387>What do you think of camming and posting vids to YouTube and the like?>What's your opinion on relationships via letter or phone, i.e. long-distance relationships before the Internet? (Esp. just the letter ones.)Most people desire social contact, camming is just another form of it. I'd say cams and videos are a step up from just text messages, but I think true friendship is a bond that goes way beyond having just conversations with each other.
Often those that say they don't need friends do want them, but have been hurt so often they can no longer imagine it to not be painful. Like I have a friend who would often say all women are heartless whores and sluts, but I know it's because he's actually a romantic person at heart who is so deeply insecure that there is no way he'll get a girl (other than to pay for it). For him it's easier to see women like that than to accept that the reason he can't get girls is because of his own behavior (which he knows, but it is too painful for him to think about).
I can't imagine having a (romantic) relationship without physical contact. That said, there is something to be said for maintaining a certain distance for a while, but for it to remain that way wouldn't be satisfying enough for me. But that's me, perhaps it's different for others.
No.8407
>>8406Maybe you should try making contact with him again.
No.8408
>>8386It didn't really. I mean i was a little too dramatic about it when he said we were breaking up. But now that a few days passed all i hope is that he is happy with his decision and if he is then im happy.
No.8409
>>8405I definately agree. Relationships really arent much unless it has a physical aspect to it too. at least for me thats how it has to be.
No.8410
>>8407I guess I could look up his name or something and see if I can find him again since I don't have his number/email/anything anymore. I don't think he'd even care about me after so long though, he's got his own life, things change etc.
Towards the end of our friendship it was me starting all the conversations/interaction though. I blame it on the fact that he got an overly jealous girlfriend. I'm guessing they're still together, they were crazy for each other.
I really should have told him how I felt. I have a 95% sure feeling he grew frustrated with me, he wasn't the type to confess to girls at all, he was probably waiting for me to say something but I didn't. It's all in the past but it's hard to forget sometimes. I just wish he wasn't such a pushover.
No.8418
>>8406>>8410That's really sad. I'm upset that I didn't have anybody to talk to in the first place, but this sounds like it's even more painful.
No.8422
>>8410Let me play you a song on the world's smallest violin.
No.8424
>>8406Had a somewhat similar experience that I was reminded of by a dream.
http://uboachan.net/yume/res/1639.html#1642 No.8425
>>8424That's actually pretty eerily similar! Except for that last part, I don't know what the hell was going on with his emotions. It was because he was avoiding me so harshly that I figured he didn't care anymore.
He did later find out I really liked him a lot, but that was a little while AFTER we completely stopped talking, a mutual friend told him. It's pretty childish, but I hate that he didn't leave that girl for me, she really wasn't even that great.
I wish he could have at least told me why he didn't want to even talk in the end.
No.8426
>>8422Why do you have to be so mean?
No.8456
>>8426Why does she have to brag? Girls like her wouldn't give 90% of us the time of day anyway.
No.8460
>>8456Your post gave me aids.
No.8463
>>8459>>8460She won't fuck you if you white knight her.
No.8466
>>8463It's more other girls than white knights.
No.8467
>>8459>NTRdHad to look this one up. Probably for the best that I am not familiar with it.
No.8468
>>8463That still doesn't address how it's bragging.
She never gained anything. White knighting would be more of if they directly attacked you a la the "this post gave me AIDS" one. Even that loosely.
>8425 Sorry to hear that. But if the attempt was made to contact him and he willingly ignored it, nothing more to do at that point.
No.8479
>>8456I'm sorry if my post came across as bragging, I didn't think I was.
You're right about the time of day thing though, being a full-time hikki I'd probably freak out if a stranger suddenly broke into my room. I mean I guess they could help themselves to some snacks or something, but I'd be too shy to answer any kind of question.
>>8468I haven't tried or anything but I'm very sure he'd ignore that too. I honestly want to be past it, and I sort of am, but he was the closest friend I've ever had so I'm just a little but hung up on that I guess.
Sorry if I'm just complaining, thanks for listening, uboachan.
>>8418Sometimes I wish I had never met him. I might have been better off completely alone.
No.8613
>>8479Well, I just got off a 1 week ban for being "mean to you". So, I'm glad you're sorry, and I hope you also appreciate the fact that the mods here treat you differently just because you have a vagina.
>being full-time hikkiFYI, you're not a full-time hikki if you have a boyfriend, or "really good friends" as you put it. That just makes you a normalfag.
No.8617
>>8613>that girl is having boy problems when i don't have girl problems what a fucking cunt>i'll be a dick to her because she probably wouldn't automatically do everything i want her to if we met>implying anyone should actually have to give anyone the time of day>implying I was only taking about her giving me the time of day>"I'm glad you're sorry">by which I mean how dare you talk about your relationship bullshit in the relationship thread>how dare you talk at all>"FYI, you're not a full-time hikki if you have a boyfriend, or "really good friends" as you put it.">implying i have no significant other or friends, and therefore my hikkipeen is enormous>you can't ignore my girth nowIt's jikan to yameru posting.
No.8618
>>8617A relationship thread is a stupid idea on a NEET board anyway. It's just going to be a bragging/dickmeasuring contest. This thread should have been deleted.
No.8620
>>8613how dare you post here without a vagina
No.8621
>>8614Really? What happened exactly?
No.8622
>>8613I really didn't mean/want for you to get banned anon, I'm really sorry, you didn't really even do anything to get that I think.
>FYI, you're not a full-time hikki if you have a boyfriend, or "really good friends" as you put it. That just makes you a normalfag.But I don't have that.
No friends, no boyfriend, no one I can talk to, nothing. He was the closest/only friend I ever had and I actually even loved him is what I was saying. But we're not friends anymore and we haven't been in a long time. I'm alone. I'm afraid of actual people. I don't know how to make friends. I talk to strangers on the internet but that's about all the human interaction I get. I live on my own and my siblings just feel bad for me and give me money to eat.
I'll let you have the last word after this if you want anon, again, I'm really sorry you got banned, I didn't want that.
No.8624
>>8613>I hope you also appreciate the fact that the mods here treat you differently just because you have a vagina.No one gives a shit what gender the poster being mistreated is. You seem to be the only one who actually cares. If she was a dude/trans/genderless/whatever else your fate would be the same. You were banned because you are an asshole, not because of her or your gender.
No.8625
>>8621I made a lot of mistakes and learned a lot about myself and about what a relationship is. That's about as much detail as I'd care to go into
I will say this: I'm incompatible with people and it's just not for me
No.8631
>>8613Would an internet boyfriend compromise that? Just wondering.
No.8632
>>8629>normalfag wage slavenigga what? I have been a neet for 4 years. I don't have a single friend irl. I'm a loser with no future.
Okay, since you seem to be really new, I'll explain why I use a tripcode. Before I was modded, I would post as anonymous, and people got mad as they did not recognize me/knew who I was. I have been using a tripcode since then. All mods use either a name or a tripcode outside of "official" posts, both to just reply to threads, or answer questions or concerns of users. It's something to show presence. Using a #mod tag is only allowed if you're making an official announcement, or posting a warning. I don't use a tripcode anywhere outside of uboachan, and I filter anyone who does.
No.8634
>>8613I'm the one who banned you. It was cleared by a couple mods/admins, with a variety of sexual organs. Also it was almost permanent. You're welcome for that.
The reason for it was that everything you post is insulting, spiteful, or just generally negative. Y'know, like right now. Just putting that out there.
Basically: if you're not shitty, you won't get banned. Good plan? Great plan.
No.8635
>implying hikkis are superior to non-hikkis>implying any one group of people is superior to another>implying any human being can be objectively superior to another human being>implying women automatically have easier lives because they have vaginas>being spiteful and hurtful toward people who are already hurting or have endured a lot of pain>being spiteful and hurtful toward people because they're female and thus "it's impossible for them to understand the pain of being NEET"I can understand finding relationships frustrating, stupid, or painful, or thinking that women have it easier (it's an utterly false viewpoint, but I can understand how someone might reach that conclusion), but, even taking those things into consideration, the nastiness ITT is both inexcusable and appalling.
On-topic: I'm still single, and will more than likely remain so for the foreseeable future.
>>8631No, it wouldn't, provided that you didn't leave your residence to meet up with them.
No.8636
>>8634You're the one acting insulting and hateful.
No.8640
>>8639you can't directly insult other users because of a perceived persecution. it's just negativity on top of negativity.
also, i'm a trans woman, and many of the admins are male. nobody's pushing their clique on you.
No.8641
>>8639>And how am I being nasty? By saying I think women have it easier than men socially?See here, in your other post:
>>8357>These threads prove that it's far easier for a pathetic unemployed woman/grill to get into a relationship than for males.>patheticThere's also your general condescending tone as well as just simply being bitter about something that is generally irrelevant. Spoiler: Relationships are not the key to happiness. As a "normalfag wage-slave" that you mistakenly called Nam, I have a job, socialize and date. Every endeavor has ended miserably and I find that I'm much better off, mentally and financially, on my own.
My suggestion would be that if you have opinions you want to share, just do so without being rude, and then feigning ignorance about it. On top of the accusations in your other posts, you're just trying to exacerbate things. If you want to discuss, please do so in a manner that isn't incendiary and insulting. If not, wrap it up and move along.
No.8642
no picture because critical shortage atm>>8622You have nothing for which to apologize, my dear Anon, as you've done nothing wrong. I'd hardly call your post "bragging". Either way, posting something that others don't like doesn't make YOU responsible when said others decide to be hostile toward you because of it and consequently get banned.
>>8639>No one said it's a superior thing to be.Allow me to direct you to
>>8613 (being NEET versus being "a normalfag") and
>>8629 (asserting that a "normalfag wage slave" being a moderator is disgusting, with the implication of how a NEET being a mod is completely OK). Also, I fail to see where anyone is berating being a NEET, outside of the "get back to the sewers" joke.
Moreover, you're welcome to believe whatever you want, but I'm not going to sit here and watch you berate and hurt others because of said belief. And it's the moderators' job to police and reign in people who are bullying or attacking others, while there are explicit rules forbidding users from flaming or conducting personal attacks against other users.
By the way, I'm not a mod, and I'm in no "clique". I'm just a random tripfag who isn't particularly fond of people who are mean and spiteful.
No.8646
>you can't directly insult other users Then why is it okay for the mods to call me a spiteful asshole?
>I am a trans woman Aka a man.
Let me guess, transphobia is bannable, right?
Except it's not listed anywhere in the rules http://uboachan.net/rules.phpI don't actually care about hating trannies, but I do hate social justice warriors, and that's how the mods are coming across as. You claim you're trying to make /n/ welcoming, but you're actually doing the opposite, all you've done is insult me and you ban people for their opinions with the vague reason that they're being "hostile" without explaining how. Opinions that are not controversial in NEET circles, you may think "the genders are equal", but it is not out of the ordinary to say that women have it easier socially than men and that is all I said.
And the idea that normalfag is some kind of abusive term is laughable. Grow a spine.
(USER WAS BANNED FOR THIS POST) No.8647
>>8641>My suggestion would be that if you have opinions you want to share, just do so without being rude, and then feigning ignorance about it. I feel I did that.
No.8648
>>8646>>8647>Rule 4. Do not post any of the following: Troll posts, flaming, personal attacks, guro, gore, furry porn, shock porn.
>Troll posts, flaming, personal attacksThis is what you've been doing, and continued to do, even after I just explicitly asked you to refrain, and did so politely. I know you think being rude and degrading thread quality with your "opinions" (insulting other users or continuously making incendiary statements) are acceptable, but we do not.
No.8652
>>8648Why did you not ban Nami for calling that guy an asshole?
No.8654
>>8652There's a difference between being an asshole and calling someone out on being an asshole; a lack of tact, while a failing point, doesn't warrant a ban.
Shitposting and continuously degrading the thread quality as well as potentially ban evading is another thing altogether.
No.8656
>>8650Nah, I'm still here. That individual took it upon himself to use Kyoko pictures out of spite. In retrospect, I'm very glad that I decided to start using a tripcode instead of pictures alone.
>>8655Good luck! I'm sure it'll go well for you, especially since you've already had something of a date together before now. ^^
No.8761
i know the person I'm dating sees this board.
I'm gonna kick you while your not looking
No.12312
>>8227Man i understand you so well. That actually sums up my entire life.
No.12313
Ivr never ddated a g I rl,
No.12314
I'm 23 and I've never been in a relationship. I'd like to be in one even if it's just for a week just to see what it's like but I have no idea how.
No.12317
>check this board
>see this shit
Oh, another /r9k/. I'm out.
No.12318
>>123171 long general thread asking about relationships on a board full of threads asking 1 or a few questions
yup, clearly /r9k/
No.12324
>knows girl in MMO
>she's nice, smart and seems to like me a lot
>we live in the same country
>we talk every day and have fun together
>she says "im a dude"
Best romance
No.12328
I was in a relationship with someone I really cared about… Then she left me yesterday. Yay.
