No.8156
I was in a union when I was 11, and worked on and off for 10 years or so, but I think it kind of burned me out too early, and now as a proper adult, I am NEET.
I am still qualified to do some things, but adding in an overwhelming amount of self-harm to my frontal and occipital lobes has left me not…"unable" to do things, nor even "unwilling", it just don't figure into my day.
I don't concern myself with my bowels unless I have the urge to take a shit, and there's no physical urge to work, only social.
It's kind of hard to wrap my head around, but cooking food for myself is about all I can manage some days, and even that can be exhausting, triggering a violent implosion of self.
In this way, have I become a tree, rooted here, swaying somewhat.
No.8164
I was a NEET when I got here, but I had to get a job when my monnies ran out.
No.8174
NEET is just sort of an uninteresting descriptor. Technically you could be a NEET and a social butterfly or a NEET and earning an income. The true ideal to strive for is that of the hikikomori
No.8176
Technically I'm not a NEET but practically I am completely. I have a very low-paying job I do completely from home, so while I am technically employed I still live like a NEET/borderline hikikomori, last went outside like 2-3 weeks ago, and only make enough for rent and food.
I'd say most people here are just people who spend all their free time inside, rather than being completely out of employment or education. This board is more the general social board anyway, so I don't think it matters very much.
No.8177
Unfortunately I`m not a NEET, but I`m striving to be as solitary as possibe. People make me anxious and its tiring.
No.8181
>>8180>husband>college>friends>I can sure empathize with themYeah, no. Maybe sympathize, but not empathize.
No.8183
>>8181and?
Just because I have things like those doesn't mean my life is perfect and I can't feel things neets would. Hell two of those things aren't even things exclusive to neets, they're just things that deal with relationships which some neets may have and some neets may not have.
My husband is really the only person I talk to and even then I feel like sometimes I've gone and alienated myself from him. I rarely if ever talk to my friends. I think the last time I saw any of them was back at the beginning of summer. As for school I'm just kind of coasting it through and trying to get by. I had to go down to half time because taking more then 2 classes stressed the hell out of me. I'm worried shitless about actually getting a job now that I'm nearing the end of it; having never worked a real job in my life nor having driving experience. I've never done anything and I'm going into a field where experience is suppose to be my selling point.
I may not be experiencing everything people here are but I can see where some people are coming from and do more than just understand. I guess what I mean to say is I feel like a neet sometimes because I just don't feel like I'm going anywhere and that nothing's working and I just want to crawl into bed and not come out. The more I try to strive towards something the more I feel like I'm just going backwards. Though I know that I'm not a neet (I never tried to say that I was just that I've felt like one) because I am doing something (albeit probably badly).
No.8186
In a few months I will have finished my 5th year of NEETery. I graduated from high school in 2009 and haven't really done anything since.
No.8188
I've been a neet for around 4 years now.
No.8196
>>8186>>8188We about the same. I'm going on 5 years after giving up on college in 2009
No.8202
I think the reason most of the posters arent true neets because its hard to be one. Money isn't that easy to come by when you do nothing all day. On this board i think its more just people who feel alienated and distant from the real wolrd.
I myself am not a neet (i have friends and a boyfriend) but i still have this empty feeling and often just feel like an outcast, especially at my school.
No.8203
>>8202
>I myself am not a neet (i have friends and a boyfriend)Sorry to interrupt, but what has to do having friends and a partner with being a NEET?
No.8204
>>8203Sorry i worded that wrongly. I spend time out with them away from my house is what i was implying. I should have been clearer.
No.8205
>>8204going out of the house doesn't make you a non-neet. you're confusing neet with hikkikimori.
neet is "not in employment, education or training".
No.8206
>>8205oh sorry im new to the whole neet thing. I didnt even know what that was untill a few weeks ago.
No.8333
>>8183>My husband is really the only person I talk to and even then I feel like sometimes I've gone and alienated myself from him. I rarely if ever talk to my friends. I think the last time I saw any of them was back at the beginning of summer. As for school I'm just kind of coasting it through and trying to get by. I had to go down to half time because taking more then 2 classes stressed the hell out of me. I'm worried shitless about actually getting a job now that I'm nearing the end of it; having never worked a real job in my life nor having driving experience. I've never done anything and I'm going into a field where experience is suppose to be my selling point.Damn, you ever read something that is so similar to your life that its scary?
No.8355
NEET is just a meme to most of these people. They look down upon actual NEETs and loners on /n/ and some of the mods of uboachan are mentally ill feminist transsexuals.
No.8433
>>8432>guys I totally have social anxiety>can fake not having itHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHHAHAH oh wow.
Seriously though. You just have a fear of being judged - that you can control, as you said. That's not social anxiety. You just want to be respected.
I suggest introspection and I hope that you will eventually be able to build self worth without needing others' approval.
No.8515
>>8433You are correct, I don't have SA, but I didn't admit to having it. I just exhibit symptoms that make me somewhat anxious and reluctant in some select social situations.
But I do try a lot to make an impression of myself.
I act like the typical jestful idiot around my friends, like I can be myself. I feel happy around them.
But when I'm around my extended family, I choose words carefully, like I said, and tend to be quiet.
This is the same for unacquainted classmates.
This is all trivial and I sound like I'm begging the question. But what is self worth?
How do I get it? To me, right now, self worth seems like something to be proud of, something to flaunt like an accomplishment. It seems, pretentious..
No.8516
I avoid social situations.
If exposed to social situations it's pretty fucking hard not to be on edge and wanna leave. So iunno about faking being comfortable is a cure unless that's not what you're trying to convey as a message.
No.12800
Former /n/eet. Was a NEET for 4-5 years before. I'm going to school now.
No.12802
I am a kind of borderline neet?
While I am technically going to university I am doing a maximum of 2 courses a semester which means I go to uni maybe twice a week. I am basically "working" less than 5 hours a week so my lifestyle is barely different from that of a full neet.
The main reason I go to uni anyways is because my parents are forced to pay me money for going there.
No.12803
I guess i was always a neet, i dropped out of school and never had a job, that was like almost 10 years ago by now.
I am utterly lost in life, i have no friends either, forget about girlfriend etc.
Almost all i do is bum off at my PC, parents support me.
No.12805
I've been a NEET for about 1.5 years.
No.12806
dat necro
>>12805Grats Sei you're cool enough for /n/ now.
tfw being NEET is just a meme here
No.12807
NEET and also a hikikomori, 5 years now. Never finished hs, didn't even get that far and never worked. Parents don't give a fuck.
I agree that some people here may say they are neets when it's actually not true. They do it mostly to fit into the community or just because being a neet sounds cool to them. You can't be a borderline neet or a half-neet, that's just silly.
No.12819
This year, I've been neet more often than not (7 out of 12 months). But to be a neet without parents around is very hard. So working now-and-then is mandatory to recoup funds to coast in neetdom again.
No.12836
I dropped out at 16.. I think, somewhere around there. I've never learned to drive a car and never had a job. I turn 22 in a couple of months.
I don't know if I'd go as far as to say I'm a Hikikomori, but I am reclusive as well. I go out but very little.
It sucks. It really really sucks.
No.12838
I dropped out of college after my first semester back when I was 18. Since then I've done online classes and if I need to go somewhere my family drives me; I never got a driver's licence due to the fear of tragically dying.
I'm a few years older now and am seriously planning to go back to University. I dropped out the first time due to social anxiety and fear of crowds of other students; I stopped going to class and just dropped out when the semester ended. I want to turn my life around and achieve something and I think going back to University and succeeding, even if for that first semester will do me a lot of self-confidence.
No.12843
For those of you planning to go back to University, how do you plan on affording it? I would love to go back and finish my degree, but I had to drop out because the costs were overwhelming. Ideas?
No.12847
>>12843If you live in the US, you can get money for college by filling out the FAFSA and hoping the government pities you enough to give you a grant. Scholarships are the other option. Other than that, you have to either take out a loan, hope someone with money will sponsor your college education (usually parents), or suddenly run into a lot of money yourself (though, if you had that much money, why would you spend it on college?)
No.13009
>>8202>I myself am not a neet (i have friends and a boyfriend) but i still have this empty feeling and often just feel like an outcast, especially at my school.Yes, I'm sure that being a tremendous outcast who was able to form a romantic bond with someone and maintain a social circle must be a terrible fate.
It makes me wonder, why is it that I never read the abundant accounts of male social outcasts with their girlfriend and friends as often as we can hear about them from the fair sex?
Come to think of it, last time I checked, myself and most of the other male social outcasts I've known were too busy being ostracized and humiliated to find any friends, especially from the opposite gender.
No.13069
>>13009>It makes me wonder, why is it that I never read the abundant accounts of male social outcasts with their girlfriend and friends as often as we can hear about them from the fair sex?Well the amount of bitterness here might be some indication.
No.13074
>>13069Are you saying "bitterness" is more prevalent in males?
No.13210
>>12847Yeah, the whole dropping out was because loans didn't cover it. Now I qualify for nothing, because I didn't/don't have the cash to make payments on the loans I had. :/
No.13244
>>13209>how did you find the money to pay back loans for first year tuition?I didn't.
That debt's not going anywhere. My life is pretty much over. I don't know why I haven't ended it yet. I'm not even spending it as if it's over, because I'm a coward.
