No.14957
>>14956Settle down.
>>14954It ended well, but very differently than I expected, and changed my entire life.
No.14961
The very first person I fell in love with was a 21 year old. Not a crush, though it started out as one. This person was my first love. It happened online and I was 14 years old at the time.
Back then I didn't really care about age, and I was too young to be suspicious of how he always praised my awful artwork or how he got really excited at pictures of me. I loved him over the whole Summer and when I said I liked someone, he asked if it was him. Long story short, we had a sort of mutual confession thing, and by the time that conversation was over, we were dating. I was really happy!
Though a little bit into the relationship he started asking me for nudes, and when I said no he continued to ask, even trying to persuade me with an offer to send a nude of his own. I still declined and I went on happy with the relationship.
But that happiness ended when I told some friends what had happened between us, and they told me that was quite bad, and I needed to get rid of him before something worse happened. My 14 year old mind couldn't quite grasp anything that could be worse than that, but it took me quite a bit before I actually broke up with him. Though, I still loved him for a while after. He was my first love, after all.
Nowadays, he's dating someone else and saying he's 19.
No.14975
>>14974
They weren't derailing, you just didn't like them.
>there are holes in the system
Yeah, like the virtual infinite supply of proxies everyone has access to that entirely nullify it. It's an institution that gives some transient sense of retribution when someone's feelings get hurt, not technologically competent policy. Not that I'm ever going to use this irrelevant shithole after that embarrassing display.
No.14982
>>14978>>14955Either one. Just someone who you knew it'd be difficult to start a relationship with.
No.14983
>>14964Waifu for laifu
But yeah all the people I thought I was in love with were nothing more than infatuation confused for love. Especially with people I dated. Only one of them I really think I love, but not in any sort of romantic way. I thought it was romantic but that was just me being young and stupid. Romance is lame.
I guess a waifu is considered not right but fuck anyone who thinks they can tell me who to love. Love is about the people in it not anyone else. Not parents, not friends, and especially not strangers.
No.14984
Eh, I liked my best friends girlfriend at one point but then realized that I didn't like her in that way, just enjoyed her company
Nowadays I don't even bother with women
I'll stick to my 2D thank you very much
No.14985
>>14983Kinda off-topic, but how can you tell the difference between infatuation and actual romanctic love?
No.14988
>>14985>How can you tell the difference between infatuation and actual romantic love?My opinion:
"Actual romantic love" is what you call your current relationship.
"Infatuation" is what you call your previous relationships in order to justify how much more mature you are now.
No.14989
>>14985It's something personal and its not the same for everyone. You really need to decide for yourself. Think about it. Really really think about it. Here's a few good comments/ideas think about, but some of them aren't always love/infatuation:
Would you consider them perfect?(infatuation) or do you see flaws in them and want to help them grow?(love) It's hard to love someone if you've never seen the bad side of them.
Are you feelings geared towards making yourself happy in the relationship you have (infaturation) or is it based on making the on making the other person happy (love). Really analyze things and see why you're doing it. It might seem like you're doing it for the other person but it might just be to get your own release out of it.
How far are you willing to go for them?
If you weren't attracted to them at all and you had no romantic feelings for them, would you still love them with the same intensity(non-romantically)? So try imagining them in the place of a friend you have or family member.
I feel romantic love is more of a two person thing as well. If the other person doesn't let you love them, chances are you won't be able to be emotionally intimate with them and see who they really are. Plus infatuation is usually just a phase and everything is really intense.
It's all up to you I guess but generally love is more subdue and long lasting and infatuation is something teenagers would do or is loving the idea and not the person themself.
but really its all just my opinion and view on it. could be completely different for you. sorry for wall of text No.14990
>>14985For me, infatuation is a self centered desire for your own happiness, merely masquerading as love, whereas "love" is a desire centered on the other person, for their happiness even in despite of your own.
No.14991
>>14985in a word: depth
the lengths you would be willing to go for someone, how much you know about someone, how much someone knows you, the real gritty EXPERIENCE of it
as for OP's question yes. and i'm in a very stable relationship. and i'm kind of on somebody else. i'm kind of just…
heard once, paraphrasing: people fall out of love, just don't fall out of love at the same time.
i'm not REALLY pursuing anything and i want my current deal to work out
bc hes also fuckin loaded lmaooooooo No.15954
First blood cousin that's 8 years older than me and another guy 8 years older than me.
No.16149
>>14954When I was about 13 I saw a girl in a graduation photo from a few years back, I found her social media accounts and stuff. She was so pretty to me, but she was about 19-20 and going to a very good University. It killed knowing we could never meet. And I could never speak to her. And knowing that if I was born only 6-7 years beforehand I could've went with her to school, and maybe had a chance with her.
No.16159
Ever since this bitch with a personality disorder pretended she loved me while going out with one of my friends after talking on MSN back in the old days ever since the only people I've crushed on or thought I loved were people in relationships. It's so fucking bad.
No.16161
>>16155In 2 years your relationship will be valid, stick it out I guess.
No.16162
>>16155I should probably find that creepy but mostly I just consider it adorable.
I wish I had someone value me that much.
Anyway yeah, 2 years. Wait.
No.16164
Yeah, but fortunately I didn't do anything that cause any lasting damages to any friendships. I had just gotten my heart broken and was quick to move one. So I had been asking coworkers out to dinner, as friends.
Why coworkers? The availability in women was rather limited at the time.
No.16167
>>16166This.
Also, (and I realize I'm likely going to get quite a bit of shit for this but I couldn't care less) regardless of whether the anon is m/f, I still think this is pretty sweet.
Just wait 2 years to make a move if it isn't legal where you're at.
No.16169
>>16166We have a winner! This anon is correct, we are both male.
Feel free to call me a degenerate as I have already come to terms with it…
What can I say, I'm lonely and I barely function.
I might as well still be a kid. Talking to and crushing on underagers is what stops me from offing myself.
I never had a childhood.
>>16167I guess and at least I haven't been damaging to his psyche.
No.16171
>>16169Dude, don't listen to these anons. You're not some degenerate for caring about someone. And having someone to talk to isn't damaging this guy.
No.16172
>>16171>don't listen to these anonsNiggah what? Where did someone attack him personally one way or the other? No need to overreact, dude.
I merely implied if it was a situation where the guy is older and the girl is underage it would be treated pretty differently, and the point is still valid and nobody can deny it.
No.16174
>>16171The degenerate thing is pretty much lighthearted poking fun at himself for corrupting the yooth and being gay. Chill son.
>>16169Still pretty cute then yeah.
Well. I'm pretty young still and never had a childhood either. And having anyone to relate to makes me the closest to content I can really be.
And it's nice to have more than one friend, might take a teeny bit of the pressure off in case you feel like you're making him uncomfortable.
Wanna talk anon?
No.16176
I always considered having a crush on someone from the past that I haven't seen in years to be shameful. Because people are expected to move on. It is also fantastical to imagine that someone will stay the same person for that long.
No.16193
>>16163I think it would still be pretty adorable.
>>16176You shouldn't worry about what's expected, that's a good way to be miserable. You're probably right about them being different, though.
No.16200
>>16193I also sorta left out that I was was rejected by those people, directly and implicitly.
No.16201
>>16200I don't know how that works, but don't give up. It'll work out even if it doesn't.
No.16204
>>16203Sure, but keep in mind you're on a site seemingly made up of leeches, drug-using leeches, and drug-using leeches who lend large amounts of significance to imaginary friends and use them to erp with people. Which I'd say is a wee bit more degenerate.
No.16205
>>16204Sure, but people shouldn't be so delusional that they deny it and even defend it.
No.16206
>>16205I'm not defending any of that nor denying it, but the fact that he actually regards himself (albeit probably jokingly) as a degenerate says at least he's somewhat self-critical, unlike, say, someone who insists a construct of the mind with the personality of a cartoon character is legitimate to strangers. So I feel like he should get off a little easier, since I'm sure he doesn't let himself.
Still, I don't deny it's all some level of degenerate.
No.16209
Let's make Uboachan great again!
No.16213
There are tons of places on the internet you can go to if you're looking to degrade others, you know. I don't see why you're targeting one of the only sites that doesn't care for that stuff.
No.16217
>>>>16171I have a tough skin so I don't mind the backlash when I make idiotic posts.
>>16174>lighthearted poking fun at himself for corrupting the yooth and being gay. Pretty much, I make fun of myself way too much.
>Wanna talk anon?I'm okay but thanks for the sentiment.
>>16175Please don't say that…
No.16218
>>16217Having a sense of humor about yourself isn't a bad thing. And you're welcome I guess, though the sentiment is mostly just I can relate to your situation a bit and you seem nice/cute outside of, well, the underage stuff.
Anyway try not to screw the kid up too bad, okay? Personally I wish someone valued me that much a lot but it could very easily be a helluva lot to handle for (well, anyone, but especially) someone who isn't exactly fully formed emotionally yet. And don't do illegal stuff.
No.16222
>>16219Just one question, at what age can people consent?
No.16224
>>16223>Kids already fuck at the age of 12 anywayN-not me anon-chan ;~;
No.16225
>>16219Exactly. Nowadays, at least in a few countries, people are more conscious. Don’t like it, then leave. You have plenty of other options if you're unsatisfied with where you live.
And don't derail the thread, people.
No.16262
>>16229I'm too emotionally broken, I shouldn't really be in an online relationship to begin with. Years and years of physical and mental abuse did a great toll on me.
It wasn't until this summer that I started communicating and I'm still bad at it.
I'm also disfigured because of the physical abuse. I don't exactly have a pretty face…
No.16267
>>16232What do you want to know?
No.16268
>>16262>I'm too emotionally broken, I shouldn't really be in an online relationship to begin with.Online relationships are neat alternatives for mentally/emotionally unstable folks like us.
>Years and years of physical and mental abuse did a great toll on me.Everyone is broken in their own way
>It wasn't until this summer that I started communicating and I'm still bad at it.your online social skills will improve!
>I'm also disfigured because of the physical abuse. I don't exactly have a pretty face…It's not all about the looks, anon.
No.16269
This thread is getting too cute. Something catastrophic may happen if it gets any more cute.
No.16270
>>16267Well, I suppose asking how it developed would be most appropriate. How long did you guys live under one roof?
No.16272
I really liked my cousins, then I sat down with myself and took an objective look on things and realized that if I continue my love with her It will only end in tragedy.
then I lost all purpose for a good while.
No.16277
>>16270since birth, we're perfectly one year apart. And I started when I lived "alone" with her for a few weeks while our parents was enjoying a alone vacation.
I don't really know how it started, but we've always been pretty close and now that I seriously want to get into a relationship it just seems like my sister does everything better than anyone else.
>Inb4 fat loner Nah, I'm plenty of social and attractive. I'm an average joe, I just can't get into other girls.
It doesn't help my sis have the perfect body.
>Pic related, somewhat the body my sis have. No.16281
>>16268Yes, I guess you're right.
I hope my skills do improve, they have been but its been really slow. The online relationship as been helpful and not just for me. He's doing well for himself.
Most notable being his drawings.
No.16282
>>16281Good luck, anon. I love you! <33
Also ask him to draw some Yumme Nikki fanart!
No.16283
>>16262Nah you still sound cute. Very actually.
It's hard to really love anyone when you're really emotionally screwed and you can end up hurting people you come to care about as a result of that, but you're a lot less likely to if you can trust them and be honest with them.
Anyway, it's good that he's doing well. And your skills will improve, I think a bigger problem than a lack of social skills is just being resigned to exactly that, and if you want to improve and are trying you could be way worse off.
No.16339
Just heartbreak for me…
Ok, and a few loose screws…
