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Talk out. Clarify that it isn't that you dislike this person; state that you need your personal space and explain your circumstances.
I'm supposing since you're dating already that she/he knows what kind of person you are, so he/she should comprehend. If anything, be extremely clear with what you want. Like, for example, "I understand your feelings, but I'm not really used to this kind of situations so I feel kinda uneasy and I don't know how to react", or something like that; just do not leave room for any kind of misunderstanding.

It's better than to keep it up for yourself, because it will poison you until you can't take it anymore; and you may even accumulate hatred for this person.
On the other hand, if this person isn't happy with your answer, so be it. It means he/she does not understand you enough and in time it will bring you more relationship problems than you probably want. It's sad, but sometimes, no matter how much each loves the other one, relationships just don't work out, and it's better and healthier to cut it off sooner than later to evade unnecessary damage on both parties.

Good luck buddy, hope this advice works for you.

watch anime and play games with that person you fucking faggot do you even have a soul

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Thanks. Honestly I do love this person quite a bit and in the future I'll probably grow to have the same feelings that they do. But everyone has ignored me for so long that I don't know how to feel or react to someone saying they want to be with me forever. I've asked them before if they regret choosing me and they say they wouldnt want anyone else. It makes me happy. I don't think I could ever hate them.

Making a thread like this. Im just a big fucking asshole.

Thanks for your advice. You're a nice person, I hope things go well for you in the future

>Making a thread like this. Im just a big fucking asshole.
Normally, this would annoy me, but since we aren't having much activity here and there was no other place you could've posted it in /n/, I decided to overlook it. Relax.

>Thanks for your advice. You're a nice person, I hope things go well for you in the future
On all the years I've been in this site giving advice and participating, I think this is actually the first time someone has replied back saying I'm nice. It feels kinda weird.

If anything, thanks; I think I'm doing well here, though sometimes I have so much doubts and anxiety that I wish time would froze.

I agree with the other anon.

To put it very simply: if you don't think you can't be best friends with this person, share your hobbies and have enough space while still being together, you shouldn't be together, at least not for a long period of time.

Forever is fucking long, and unless you're perfectly comfortable with them it's just not gonna work. Your passionate feelings will diminish [hers too, and if she really dislikes your hobbies that might turn into nagging] you will grow old and have to go through hardship and change. All that will remain in the long term will be friendship, common interests and care for each other. Make sure you have plenty of those.

You can be with someone and have personal space. If thats something you need, shared interests or not, then say so. Talk about it, "I care about you, but I need x time to myself every day/week/whatever. Lets work this out." Don't sweat the forever gumph, that just means they like you, there is no need to race towards anything that crystallises your commitment.

If you don't imagine you can be happy with them even with such an arrangement, then maybe this isn't right for you. If you can't be happy with anyone, no matter what arrangement, either you need to accept a life alone or work to change yourself. Good luck.

You're not a bad person for feeling this way. Everyone has their own needs. You aren't responsible for the happiness of someone else.

Tell them about how you feel about it, though. It'll save you a lot of pain.