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 No.5807[Reply]

I just started uni a few months ago and I think after so many years of near social isolation from anyone but the few friends and family I did have I don't even know where to start anymore.
I haven't had a single meaningful conversation in two months and I haven't spoken to my room mate in over a week and I eat lunch alone every day. I feel like there's a brick wall between me and everyone else.
On top of all else I make an embarrassment of myself in a required public speaking class every week and now I'm more self conscious than ever.

It didn't really bother me to be alone before, living in a small rural town with few people I could relate to but now that there are so many people around me that even share similar interests to me its extremely overwhelming and I feel more alone than ever.
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 No.5815

For all i know about making friends,bravery is an necesary component but it is totatlly useless if you lack luck.

 No.5911

tbh idk, the people in my life hurt me

 No.5912

I can't help you as I never had friends

 No.5924

>>5807
friends aren't something you can really force, but I'd suggest looking for clubs or activities to hang out in, if you're able. That is probably one of the more natural ways to put yourself into a social situation.

 No.5925

I always had issues talking about myself or my likes, so all I did was ask people about theirs, if I didn't like or wasn't interested in something I'd ask too. Sometimes I felt empathy and sometimes I didn't. As time passed I happened to surround me with extroverted people who were good at communicating their feelings and I think I learned some of that as I spent time with them.

A good thing is that they always tried to find new ways to offend eachother in a very friendly way. Sometimes things got a bit far but we all knew it was a risk we were taking, we took the hits anyway, and to be honest sometimes those words were right. This made us stronger in a sense, we became more aware of the perception people had about us, so we slowly improved, or at least knew about our lackings and tried to balance it in a way.

Eventually, I became good friends with a girl and we got into a relationship. She likes to talk about herself a lot, about the things she wants, clothes, the people at her job (I am still a -bad- student), her friends and all, which fills that void of my personality. All I have to do is listen. It makes me feel less lonely to be with her.

I used to be afraid of social interaction, but as I knew people more and more I noticed most of them were not that different. People feel embarassed even though you see they did fine. I still feel lonely sometimes –and I believe it's a feeling inherent to our generation– even if I'm surrounded with people but now I can go through it knowing I won't go down.


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 No.5733[Reply]

i've never really been accustomed to normal conversation, and i suppose that's why what happened today happened. i was talking to one of my few friends and she sent me a website saying that it was her least favorite site. it was this page where AI makes images of people who don't actually exist, and i asked why didn't she like it, and she began to rant about how i always ask such questions, meaningless inquiries that add nothing to conversation, and i just felt like shit… she told me to stop acting like i didn't understand anything because she "knows i do." i didn't understand why she would hate that website, that's why i asked her. now we're at odds. it'll resolve soon, i'm sure, but i just feel like i did something wrong. i've always done this, and people always seem to get weary, even though i'm asking genuine questions. i feel like i'm trying to be kept down, but i don't want to be.

i just wanted to ask a question.
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 No.5806

>>5804
First you start throwing this "incel" crap for a post that has nothing to do with sexuality/romantic relationships, then in the end, you come to pretty much the same conclusion as the aforementioned post…

 No.5808

>>5806
you are deeply disturbed w

 No.5809

>>5808

Could be. To me, the story goes as follows:

-OP has a conversation with their "friend"

-Said friend brings up a ceratin (otherwise tame and non-controversial) website, expressing her dislike for it

-OP has a different opinion, so asks her to elaborate

-"Friend" gets triggered and insults OP

Unless you are white knighting because the "friend" in quesstion happens to be female, or you have been succesfully gaslighted for years, it should be clear that for this "friend", OP was never a real friend. They were merely a utility of reassurance and emotional comfort to her. OP made the unthinkable mistake of having (and expressing) a different opinion, so they had to be taught a lesson.

If you think that this was all OP's fault, and it is perfectly fine to throw a fit and insult a supposed friend over an AI, then I don't know what to say.

 No.5813

>>5809
lol

 No.5910

OP here. all has been resolved. thanks for all of your input, some of it did help. me and her are on good terms now.


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 No.5777[Reply]

Dear /hikki/

I wouldn't call myself a NEET since I have a job and go to college, but a lot of my friends from school don't really talk to me anymore, and I live in a small southern town where I don't really fit in. The only thing that really keeps me from feeling empty is a close long distance friend I've had for about 3 years now. She's gone to bed for tonight, so while browsing the web I came across this forum.

I looked at this board and I almost cried… I say almost because it's hard for me to cry anymore. A board of people, lonesome and in pain like she is, and at times like I am.

I know my words may be meaningless Hallmark nonsense you've heard a million times, but please keep trying. Keep trying to make friends. Keep trying to find your meaning in this otherwise meaningless existence, and find freedom in knowing it's meaning is for you to decide. Maybe I have no business posting here but my heart is telling me to reach out. Each and every one of you has potential to be something. I know it's hard, but try to find joy in every little victory. If you ask a girl out and get rejected, acknowledge your bravery. If you go for an interview and fail, correct what you did wrong and double down on what you know you did right. I'm just rambling now, and maybe I have no business commenting on your troubles, but it pains me to see lost souls with nowhere to turn, because I know how it feels. Please, if just one person hears me out, please try to have hope again. If anyone here needs someone to text to I've created a Discord account. Contact me at ApolloSanshiro #1110 on Discord.

Going to bed now. I'll check as soon as I can to see if anyone here has sent a friend request.

Best wishes to everyone,
ApolloSanshiro

DISCLAIMER: I'm not a qualified professional and I'm NOT substitute for a Suicide hotline or psychiatric professional. Please don't announce a planned suicide to me as I can't afford any legal liability.
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 No.5795

I didn't go in with the mindset of a "leader", so I'm sorry if I came off that way. I mainly used a name because that's the name I chose to use for my Discord account, so using the default "anonymous" seemed kind of pointless this time. I just thought that if I made an earnest attempt to reach out, someone might give me a chance to be there for them, since that's what I wanted during a very troubled and lonely time in my life. I realize now that I acted too hastily in a community and culture I don't fully understand yet, I'm happy I made the attempt anyway, and I have no intention of giving up, but I'll be sure to think my actions through more from now on. Thanks again for you support and advice.

I do intend to return to 4Chan like boards from time to time, as I've enjoyed my time here so far. Any advice for how I should conduct myself? I've only occasionally posted on 4Chan from time to time and done a little lurking.

 No.5898

>>5795

> I do intend to return to 4Chan like boards from time to time, as I've enjoyed my time here so far. Any advice for how I should conduct myself? I've only occasionally posted on 4Chan from time to time and done a little lurking.

Lurk more and understand that boards like this are pretty far removed from 4chan too. The culture here is different than the culture there.

 No.5902

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>Outsiders see us as a 4chan like board

 No.5903

>Keep trying to find your meaning in this otherwise meaningless existence, and find freedom in knowing it's meaning is for you to decide.

My existence is quite meaningful, thank you very much, I just wish I could forever stay inside my room with no one bothering me. Glad you have that one friend, but that doesn't mean everyone else also should have friends. I LOVE SOLITUDE. Just being alone, doing housework alone, watching movies and playing games alone, with no one around me - all of this is AWESOME. "Lonely" does not mean "in pain", remember that.

 No.5905

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Have you got anyone on discord yet OP? You seem to have fallen victim to /hikki/'s dumbass old-gaurd, but I hope you made at least a couple of friends.


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 No.5887[Reply]

this is it bois sick of the trauma sick of thinking everyone hates me sick of having no point in my life. wake up every morning looking at where im at now and feeling nothing but anger and disgust. just need a nice discussion before i quit this shit and ascend

 No.5888

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IMO becoming an hero isn't the best response to this. If you're prepared to leave your life behind, you might as well use that opportunity to go on an adventure, like leave all your possessions and run away somewhere to explore a country or jungle or something. If things get too bad or you get arrested you can always kys then, but at least you will have finished on a high note, having fun instead of being depressed and barely existing at all. I remember there was a guy on wizchan who moved to japan to be a hobo for a year.

 No.5896

>>5888

Seconding this. But know that the cops won't just let you kys and a bullet or bridge is way easier than bashing your own head against the cell toilet. And if you fail they'll restrain you in solitary which is worse than death. Don't get arrested, or if you do have an exit plan prior to the actual arrest.

 No.5904

…is he gone?


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 No.5866[Reply]

today was my birthday, all i expected was a "happy birthday" and a hug from the ppl i like (mostly a girl i think is kinda cute), but i've hardly recived it.
please anons, give me happy birthdays and virtual hugs so i can fell a bit better this day
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 No.5873

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Happy Birthday! May things start looking up in your life.

 No.5874

Happy birthday, Anon!

 No.5875

>>5866
happy day, anon

 No.5889

Op here, just wanna say I love each and every one of u

 No.5890

>>5866
happy belated birthday, anon

>>5889
we love you too


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 No.5834[Reply]

What are some personal goals a hikki can have? What are some tangible goals one can have?

 No.5845

Mastery of an art? Take the artform or medium you're most interested in and strive to match the skill of the artists who's work you enjoy, and when you have, strive to improve upon it. Make it a goal to become one of the creators that have entertained you throughout hikkidom so you can pick up the torch and use your skills to entertain the next generation of hikki

 No.5863

>>5834
I don't know attempt to do something productive around the house, change your diet, and lessen the depression that has a hold on you little by little one day at a time?

 No.5880

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>>5834
there are none


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 No.5766[Reply]

What do you even do outside if you don't go to school, have friends to go out with or a job? What's the point of leaving your home?
What are fun things to do?
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 No.5769

>>5768

If you live in a somewhat manageable city, try going out at late night/really early in the morning, or in weather that ordinary city dwellers would consider "bad". That way, you might not encounter many people.

But if you live in an overdeveloped, tourist-infested shithole concrete jungle like I do right now, then it won't work, and I wish I would know what to do.

 No.5805

I go on night walks every now and again, its nice to just feel and smell the chilly night air and get away from my desk for a little while. I enjoy going out and driving at night too, hardly any cars on the road and shopping is less of a hassle too.

 No.5818

I really miss when my town was safe enough to do night walks in. It was one of the healthiest things I did during my earlier years of being a NEET. It's been unsafe for going on 8-9 years now.

 No.5822

I did these walks to nowhere once every month. I got to enter different areas of the city and consequently entered different states of mind/being… I have come to believe that even each neighborhood has its own 'life force' to it, based on the people that live there, architecture… everything that has to do with that locality. In a big and varied city like mine at least. I've lived in other places where this wasn't felt as strongly. Of course, this could have just been my wild NEET imagination spurred on by some kind of mania felt due to perceived freedom from the confines of my room… or finally breathing fresh air.. either way, one of the best things I did with my time then! Other than that, yeah, it's very hard to participate in hobbies outside of your home… I wasn't able to do it and still have trouble today despite holding down a job.

 No.5826

I basically just surf the internet for online business opportunities. I can't really do anything about my situation since I'm just recovering from mental illness at the moment(the one that makes you go crazy - been not crazy for awhile though).

I also misspend my neetbux on food at the beginning of the month.


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 No.5785[Reply]

I know this is a bit of a touchy subject here, as some feel that if you interact online you're not a hikki, but for those of you that have had stints of total hikkidom and isolation, how was it?
Is it true the isolation makes you crazy? Do you regret it? Would you do it again if you could?

 No.5786

Went full hikki for about a year. Didn't go insane but I admit - even for someone like me who is pretty much a self sufficient entity, absolutely zero interaction did get a bit dull in the long run.


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 No.5750[Reply]

Anyone else here have a psychotic disorder? I have psychotic depression; professionally diagnosed, of course. I often feel like I'm worth less than a grain of sand, and feel paranoid that demons are coming to get me and are conspiring to fuck up my life, and people are constantly laughing at and talking about me while on campus. I feel like my psychosis came before the depression, considering I've always been quite paranoid, and I didn't get really depressed until I was 15. I guess my psych sees the psychosis side of things as worse too, since I'm on an 80 mg antipsychotic and a 10 mg antidepressant.

I'm curious whether or not any of you NEETerinos, or anyone else lurking, I guess, have similar disorders.

 No.5758

I have a disorder, schizophrenia, and i had similar simptoms, i don't have longer any simptom since 6 years ago, but i still take the medication.

 No.5771

Same here. I'm diagnosed with psychotic depression as well, it's fucked. I don't know what to tell you. I'm on Quetiapine nowadays so the voices talk less.

 No.5780

severe bipolar here. am not in a severe episode now (first time in years) but i get symptoms in both depression and mania. first happened when i was 13.. its not paranoia though, i cant imagine what its like to be paranoid on top of the awful stuff


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 No.5700[Reply]

My 7 months of neetdom will end this september. Please help I'm scared, I don't want to go back.

 No.5701

I don’t really know what to say other than 7 months isn’t that long which is probably why you don’t want to go back.

 No.5708

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>>5700
You gotta work on slowly getting better, Anon. Go outside, talk with more people.
it gets easier.

 No.5709

>>5700
To be completely honest, it's better if you try to get out of NEETdom as soon as possible. I really think you should give it your best and face things now instead of several years down the line.
Either way, I wish you luck.

 No.5740

I'm wishing you the best. If you're in a position that allows you to live like you do now if you should fail, don't be too anxious. It may take some time to heal and get better before trying again.


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